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 _Meta_Man_
Joined: 7/2/2012
Msg: 70
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You know this man could be an insecure idiot for certain ... and a lot of things people say in this thread could be the truth.

But it's also possible he's the one that's pined for you all the time he was trying with this other woman. I have had that happen. At some point you have to make a decision and give someone a chance. However, like many have said I maintained good relationships with other people I was communicating with...so that is a big difference. I think we have a tendency to play games with ourselves with the "what if's" as a mechanism of fear of the "what we have's".

That being said, if you have your act together you are not going to react. And I would suggest the people with the judgmental reactions had better look at themselves because quite often what you think it is actually isn't. You need to understand and have healthy boundaries for yourself ... and then you go forward exercising what is right for you and being you without a lot of thought about the part that is others. It's really their responsibility for their boundaries and then healthy communication. That is the part where this man has failed...he just has not mastered the communication piece yet.

So you worry about you and communicate with him. Tell him you respect his having to make choices but he's made you feel like the "back burner girl" with his approach and you certainly are no back burner girl. I also hope you would consider the necessity to not be with someone jumping from one relationship to another...this is a more important issue in this case for him not that he's stupid. All men are stupid. If women can't accept us despite our stupidity then you don't deserve to be accepted for your craziness...what do you really want out of life anyway?
 _Meta_Man_
Joined: 7/2/2012
Msg: 71
Calling 3 months after first date?
Posted: 2/8/2013 6:28:06 AM

You'll never have the "upper hand" if you agree to see him again. He'll think you've been pining for him since your first and only date three months ago and that is not sexy at all.

If a guy called me back and told me what he told you ( and yes, it's happened) I'd tell him "Talk's cheap, money buys whisky and with you I'd die of thirst. Don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya.

Personally, I think you need to date "for4rums_loner_here" and "prime ribb".



So you like to play control games to have the "upper hand"? Sounds as sick as what he is doing ...
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