You'll never have the "upper hand" if you agree to see him again. He'll think you've been pining for him since your first and only date three months ago and that is not sexy at all.
If a guy called me back and told me what he told you ( and yes, it's happened) I'd tell him "Talk's cheap, money buys whisky and with you I'd die of thirst. Don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya.
Personally, I think you need to date "for4rums_loner_here" and "prime ribb".
So you like to play control games to have the "upper hand"? Sounds as sick as what he is doing ...