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 59thShadeofGrey
Joined: 9/25/2012
Msg: 25
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There's no rejection with a prostitute and they don't care how you preform,


Actually, they care a lot about how you perform. Nothing pisses off a Pro more than you taking an hour to get off, even though you paid for an hour.
;-)
 bottleguy
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 26
Performance anxiety
Posted: 2/6/2013 2:09:23 PM
Well, I will try viagra simply because it may cause me to be more confident in my ability to perform. But medical sites DID say that it is not designed to solve my problem. And sex therapy probably is what I need, I just can't afford it. Thanks for the advice. And BTW I am for real. I just have no candor whatsoever, so I have no fear about saying pretty much anything.
 1WishList
Joined: 11/22/2012
Msg: 27
Performance anxiety
Posted: 2/6/2013 11:11:58 PM
Is it a control thing?
With the females you're not that in to.
You have total control over the situation, and you have total control over how emotionally attached you'll ever become, and so maybe those feed the excitement for you, allowing the blood to continue flowing. ???
Just a Stab :)
 Lucky...13
Joined: 12/28/2012
Msg: 28
Performance anxiety
Posted: 2/6/2013 11:19:01 PM

I have extreme performance anxiety that doesn't allow me to have sex with anyone other than prostitutes.
OP...I suggest that you go to Mc D's on a date and Supersize the order. I mean splurge on her by buying her a hot apple pie for desert and a hot fudge sunday to go. After you've spent the equivalent to what you would normally spend on a prostitute........ go to the parking lot and you'll make some good use for that hot fudge Sunday.
 Luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 29
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Performance anxiety
Posted: 2/7/2013 3:01:10 AM
Talk to a professional.

That's the only way you're going to find out an answer to this.
 passion2pleaseaz
Joined: 8/23/2012
Msg: 30
Performance anxiety
Posted: 2/8/2013 5:47:36 AM
its sounds to me like you have performance issues when your not with a money grabbing skank.do you like women who respect money but not themselves or anyone else.maybe you feel like your not good enough to be with someone who has respect for themselves and / or morals.

if you can beat off and screw hookers theres got to be something there that is an issue that needs to be addressed and the blue pill will only temporally fix the problem.
 bottleguy
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 31
Performance anxiety
Posted: 2/8/2013 6:51:52 AM
Actually I'm very real about it. I have been to church with these women, met their parents and their friends. But at the end of the day it's all about money. And when you are 36 (as I was at the time I started going to the professionals) and you've tried several times to have sex and have been unable to do so, then you begin to get desperate. These women do exactly what I know I like and it works. If you are hung up on the morality of it you should probably be posting in a different forum.
 geawar
Joined: 3/8/2006
Msg: 32
Performance anxiety
Posted: 2/8/2013 7:28:23 AM
go to your urologist and tell him you want some trimix.
 Seraphial1
Joined: 12/19/2012
Msg: 33
Performance anxiety
Posted: 2/11/2013 8:15:13 AM
Very true, I used to watch a lot of porn over many years being a bachelor with heavy work study and caring responsibilities. I simply had no time for girlfriends and no inclination to pay for it with a prostitute, simply respected myself way too much for that.
A girlfriend I had a few years back cured me of me porn addiction to a large extent. She was a social worker and had a speciality in men's health. It took me a while to achieve penetration with her, 3 months exactly, but after that I had a large errection for her every time.
It is truly all in the mind ...
 HUMHUMA
Joined: 1/14/2018
Msg: 34
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Posted: 12/25/2018 5:34:32 AM
EVERYONE has performance anxieties.....did when I was younger and do now....not sure bout your plight and never been with a prostitute....little worried bout what they pass around I guess...I'm at this point dating a woman who I thought at first was maybe raped because she's very introverted sexually but after talk she said no....but she doesn't take the reigns so-to speak and it's hard to relate on a sexual level even after over a year.....not sure any more and in saying this I have had some issues myself which I never had....could be age but when I'm by myself I have no problem and of course know my body.....weird....I would say talk to someone....compare notes and see what you come up with!
 Natey2
Joined: 7/4/2011
Msg: 35
Performance anxiety
Posted: 12/25/2018 11:59:39 AM
Msg: 11

The other time her..ummm..lips down there were just enormous!! Again I went limp.

Most of the women I've been with have small labia. Some women are insecure about large labia and undergo cosmetic labiaplasty.

Wikipedia has before and after pics for those who are unfamiliar with various labia and want to overcome the fear/anxiety of large labia.
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