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 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
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I don't worry about it anymore. I've been alone my whole life. I've gotten used to it. If I happen to find someone, then I will definitely play the lottery, because it will be like being struck by lightening. The end of it is, if you accept that you will grow old alone, then if you do, you won't be disappointed. If you do find someone, you'll be pleasantly surprised.
 434handyman
Joined: 1/21/2013
Msg: 127
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Posted: 2/24/2013 6:59:16 PM
I've been divorced 15 years and love my life as is. I date, have sex FWBs, no drama, no one telling me what to do, etc. Life is good, why screw it up? That's me-doesn't work for everyone else.
 awesomecatch2
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 128
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Posted: 3/3/2013 4:58:29 AM
One thing I was wondering with everyone is if you would settle in order to NOT grow old alone???
 army3
Joined: 1/13/2013
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Posted: 3/3/2013 10:48:26 AM
I worry about being alone- yeah- but that's only cuz one of my life goals is to create my own family.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 130
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Posted: 3/3/2013 12:03:43 PM
(Almost) everyone knows in order to find a suitable mate, there has to be physical attraction immediately when meeting. Nobody dates someone they can't imagine being intimate with. The fear with growing old single is trying to find a mate within the "Best Before" expiry date. Physical attraction fades quickly in the twilight years. People want to find someone who will tell them they are sexy when they are 80 years old and hooked up to an oxygen tank and has one foot in the grave.
 downtera76
Joined: 2/9/2009
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Posted: 3/3/2013 2:07:29 PM
I do. Especially since I have no luck with this site and has vowed that I would quit by the time I'm 40. I feel there would be no point anymore and by then, I'm gonna have to go for older single women which I feel would be deplorable to the fact that I had to wait this long for my soul mate.
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
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Posted: 3/3/2013 3:38:22 PM
ImNOTyour prince~

Since you are, in your own words, "really good looking," I am sure you will not want for a partner. That being said, I'd have to wonder about the depth of such a bond, considering that you are the quintessential Him-bo.

Some university? Come on, dude. 4 kids and single? Wow.
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
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Posted: 3/3/2013 7:43:43 PM
awesomecatch2 wrote:


One thing I was wondering with everyone is if you would settle in order to NOT grow old alone???


No!
 Zephyr2553
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 134
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Posted: 3/3/2013 7:53:50 PM
I'm never alone even when I'm by myself. I'm a Christian and as such I always feel the presence of Christ who fills my heart and mind with joy and hope. Having said that, I am content to just be 'me', yet it would be wonderful if I were to meet someone who I completely jive with and who I could discuss topics for hours and never tire of their companionship, someone who is sexy and enjoys intimacy, friendship and challenges me to stretch beyone my comfort zone to be an even better version of myself and I would do the same for them.
I'm not afraid of 'growing old' period. For me I wake up every day to a "new" day full of opportunities, things to explore and adventures, I'm excited about life whether I'm with someone or not.
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
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Posted: 3/3/2013 7:59:25 PM

One thing I was wondering with everyone is if you would settle in order to NOT grow old alone???


I think growing old alone is derived from one's fear of death.
When our time comes we have to experience it alone.

I don't think knowing that I'm leaving a widow, would be of any comfort to me.
but maybe the memories of our time sharing life together, would be enough
to get them thru
 SBM2012
Joined: 10/31/2011
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Posted: 3/3/2013 9:51:20 PM
Yes I do because everybody needs somebody
 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
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Posted: 3/4/2013 3:44:57 AM
Old sucks,alone or otherwise....rotting on the vine.
 Fit4life55
Joined: 6/26/2012
Msg: 138
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Posted: 3/4/2013 8:39:12 AM
I'm not worried about growing old alone...meaning without a significant other. Divorced now after 29 years of marriage and 3 grown children and now living alone with my dog. I'm happy in my single life. I was lonely in my marriage. I have my children, friends & family so I'm never alone. I'm only alone when I choose to be.
 Petraeus
Joined: 7/8/2009
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Posted: 3/4/2013 11:19:56 AM
lol no .. i dont

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 mspunk
Joined: 2/19/2013
Msg: 140
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Posted: 3/4/2013 2:30:20 PM
Well said, Zephyr!
 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
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Posted: 3/4/2013 4:26:47 PM
I figured out a long time ago, that there are worse things in life that being alone by yourself. Being alone even though you are with someone strikes me as worse. There are no guarantees in life or in death. You could marry your "soul mate" and he could die the next year. You could die tomorrow. There really is no way to stack the cards in your favor. There are worse things than death. One of those would be not living your life while you have a life to live. There is a woman in the alzheimer unit where my father was. She is the sweetest woman. Her husband comes everyday and they cuddle and hold hands like teenagers. I loved watching them, but it was also sad to me because I've seen so few relationships like that. Certainly, mine wasn't. But I'm not going to waste the life I have left worrying that I won't have what they have. Tomorrow is not promised to anyone. Live the life you have.
 awesomecatch2
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 142
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Posted: 3/4/2013 5:02:58 PM
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone. Live the life you have.

So absolutely perfectly said!!!
 IonaM
Joined: 2/25/2013
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Posted: 3/5/2013 11:11:34 AM
Sometimes - but then I've spent most of my adult life married so in some ways the prospect of being alone now seems like a relief.

I do worry about loneliness but you can feel that just as easily with a 'partner' as without :( - as some have already mentioned that's actually worse.
 LCDizme12
Joined: 2/26/2012
Msg: 144
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Posted: 3/5/2013 1:50:17 PM
I am not concerned with dying alone - just would love to spend at least a few years in a happy relationship! Then, when I am alone, I can relive some great memories.
 Chica4Uonly
Joined: 12/1/2012
Msg: 145
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Posted: 3/5/2013 8:41:41 PM
My aunt and uncle were married 65 years. She was my dad's sister and he was my mom's brother. They had all the wedding anniversary celebrations. I recalled asking him Uncle how do you both do it being married so long., he replied people need to realize it's a life time commitment. Of course he was very humorous and said your aunt better realize this will be our last wedding. And it was. Now that was love. Why is it so hard now a day to find that?
 Rapunzel1964
Joined: 10/25/2012
Msg: 146
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Posted: 3/5/2013 9:25:54 PM
OP,
Having worked in the health care field for over twenty years, I have seen quite a number of people grow old, and ill, alone. No matter what anyone says about their religion, their outlook, pets or whatever, old and alone is not a good place to be.

I do worry about it- especially because I do not have children.

I have a very close gay, male friend. We have agreed that if neither of us ever find The One, we will marry each other to avoid being old and alone.
 awesomecatch2
Joined: 9/20/2011
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Posted: 3/7/2013 5:40:24 AM
Rapunzel: OP,
Having worked in the health care field for over twenty years, I have seen quite a number of people grow old, and ill, alone. No matter what anyone says about their religion, their outlook, pets or whatever, old and alone is not a good place to be.


Im glad you can understand where I was coming from. It is very saddening and very realistic when you deal with it on an everyday basis. People keep saying they have this family and pets-sadly they rarely seem to want to come around as the years go on. People start out all gung ho to be there, then they get busy in their lives and it becomes easier and easier to slowly not visit.
 gogogo66
Joined: 2/4/2013
Msg: 148
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Posted: 3/7/2013 6:39:19 AM
Am old,am alone,doesn't worry me,as know there are choices.
 gogogo66
Joined: 2/4/2013
Msg: 149
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Posted: 3/7/2013 6:47:23 AM
I work aged care,and 80 plus ppl,they have been alone since their husbands died be it 30 years previous or ten,or 2,they are happy enough and live fruitfull lives.
So don't say ever you can't live alone and we all need a partner,memories are enough for them,and support of family and care workers when sick ,they live alone in their own houses.
 Proteaus
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 150
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Posted: 3/7/2013 7:11:41 AM
I was off the single scene for 3 years and became active a couple months ago .Hard to believe how much has changed the 3 years I was off the scene .After being back for a couple months , thinking its time to throw the towel in . Online dating has become some one's idea of a bad joke . There were game players before , but nothing like there are now .All this is now is a game .
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