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 Latin0dawg2012
Joined: 1/18/2013
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They're not "midgets"... they're Dwarfs and they're so cute! (especially Koreans grls less than 4', I dance with one before, so adorable!) ^o^
 ItsMeMarcusBee
Joined: 9/18/2012
Msg: 36
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Posted: 2/19/2013 7:34:41 PM
I think porn is ****ing up guys in particular.

Nothing but guys with way bigger than normal**** ****ing the shit out of women for like 30 minutes straight. Watching that shit lowers guys self esteem subconsciously
 demux21
Joined: 1/7/2013
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Posted: 2/19/2013 8:29:28 PM
Yes it provides good ideasif you can execute them with class and style.
 MutedEnthusiasm
Joined: 7/8/2011
Msg: 39
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Posted: 2/19/2013 10:37:13 PM
I’d like to say porn gave me the wrong idea about sex and taught me a lot of kinky shit.

I really would.
 malefishforafemalefish
Joined: 2/10/2013
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Posted: 2/20/2013 2:37:12 AM
lmao to funny spankin and hair pullin in a coffee shop
 donrichardson
Joined: 9/14/2012
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Posted: 2/20/2013 7:01:20 PM
I would imagine that today's porn gives a lot of people unreasonable expectations in the real world. For example, it would appear that most women do and enjoy anal as much as vaginal sex. They make it appear that doing anal isn't much more than a question of which hole to put it in. The most disgusting part of today's porn to me is ass-to-mouth. Increasingly, there seems to be many porn actresses who are letting guys perform anal on them and then insert their penis in the woman's mouth. The worst part is that this action is often repeated many times in one scene. In 3-ways with fmf it is becoming quite common for a guy to pull out of one woman's ass and put it in another woman's mouth. The smell and taste of the excrement aside, why would anyone willing take bacteria from that part of the body into their mouth? Why would any guy who loves a woman want to subject her to such a degrading act?
 LathaMath
Joined: 1/2/2013
Msg: 42
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Posted: 2/20/2013 7:48:07 PM
There is qute a bit of misinformation in this thread. For the lowdown on who watches how much of what read "A Billion Wicked Thoughts" which describes a statistical analysis of Internet searches over one year, why, and it's relevance supported by other sex research. There is a copy in our public library.

I think OP is referring to Internet porn, since porn is as old as the human race (eg. collections of prehistoric pottery designs). We had books and 16mm homemovie porn when I was a teen and I found it helpful as we didn't have sex education in the schools back then and our parents were too embarassed to talk to us about it. It was either porn or pick it up "in the gutter" as we used to say. A guy I knew believed if you didn't kiss the girl she wouldn't get pregnant. I read about a big time lawyer who couldn't get his wife pregnant because he didn't know which hole to use. They had been doing anal since day one. Even when I was in university all we had was Kinsey and Grey's Anatomy (the book, not the TV show) which I was able to get out of the university library, and erotic black market litterature. Hell, even James Joyce was illegal. In the 80's there a Quebec film company which made nice soft core movies on government grants and investor tax writeoffs. Those helped educate a girlfriend about both the physical and social joy of sex. (I remember when The Joy of Sex was published.)

Internet porn is extensive. (The Internet has only been around since the early 90's and websites about ten years after that (see "dot com boom and bust" early 2000's). Every possible taste is addressed. Google "how to" about any aspect of sex and you'll find out how to do it. I think that's just grand.

If you're having problems with Internet porn addiciton you can switch to dialup Internet access with a modem. It's too slow to view or download video but fine for the PoF forums. I'm using a modem right now. No, I don't have a problem with Internet porn. :)
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 2/20/2013 8:23:03 PM

Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives


Yes, everytime I watch it....it effects me in a way that makes me want to have sex!
 pedaljumper
Joined: 10/8/2010
Msg: 45
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Posted: 2/21/2013 9:55:06 AM
I completely disagree with you saying it causes more cheating. I think internet dating sites are the cause of more cheating (if indeed there is more cheating). Sexual assaults have decreased since porn has become widespread. Good access to porn has reduced my number of casual sex relationships. I do find it disturbing that some women say a lot of men expect anal and facials now. Men should be able to recognize those are off limits to most and not ask for that. Yes, porn probably has made me kinkier, but most women I've been with like that.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
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Posted: 2/21/2013 3:11:16 PM
bonbonk,

That's a nice picture of you!!! I wonder if it gets you many dates (lol). Anyways on the topic of discussion, I wonder if many think it's reasonable for a man or woman to expect their sex partners to be willing to try some of the numerous positions you often see in porn? I don't think it's in any way unreasonable, but considering how some people are so lazy when it comes too sex and only wanting to do missionary or doggy all the time. As well, I think it's incredibly sexy and find it exciting if a woman want's a man to pull out of her then immediatley take it in her mouth for a good self taste mmmmm, lol. I think anal and some of this other shit you see now, is somewhat perverse.
 billingsmason
Joined: 2/3/2012
Msg: 48
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Posted: 2/21/2013 4:58:09 PM
I'm kinda shocked by all the little wieners in porn. Even the "stars" like R Jeremy aren't all he was hyped up to be....

The perverse is just normal to some folks, so who am I to say what's too kinky? I'm not into a lot of that stuff, but to each their own. They really just do what most regular adults do.... or maybe it is bringing about a change to what "regular" is. Certainly 7 minutes of missionary is not the norm anymore.

There are some that actually turn me off.... but most are just hohum... people fvcking. It's certainly not love making.
Most of it is just in out in out in out. Do most people do it that way?
No grinding, hips a swirlin', super slow in and out, talking, teasing or changing the angle, speed or depth until you hit the spot? For the most part- porn is pretty boring and resembles masturbation using a someone else's body.

I haven't seen a ton of it, and have no desire to watch it alone. It's like going to the strip club- who wants to pay to be teased like that?

The super kink is different. If that's what gets you off, power to you.
 Lexti
Joined: 3/14/2013
Msg: 49
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Posted: 7/13/2013 12:54:43 PM
I think the majority of porn is made simply to cater to mens' sexual desires and/or fantasies, and for the most part, gives inaccurate or unrealistic ideas as to how to pleasure a woman. I've been with more than a few whose sexual "skills" were based off of what they watched in porn movies and honestly believed they were doing something great in the bedroom.

When I finally had the pleasure to have sex with a man that REALLY knew what he was doing, I had to ask his source of enlightenment. His answer? "I didn't grow up watching porn."
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 7/13/2013 1:22:15 PM
I expect it's like everything else.

Each person needs to recognize, as soon as they can, that things like porn, movies, fairy tales, political speeches and "news broadcasts," are all calculated, tailored, edited, and artificially produced fantasies. Whether you get your sex and social interaction instruction from porn, from mainstream G through R rated films, "chick flicks," Disneyfied Folk Tales, or (possibly worst of all) self-help libraries, you are more likely to be led astray than anything else.

I have no idea how I would be judged as a sex partner by a given female. Almost no one gives expert analysis to anyone else, usually at most, someone says "that was wonderful do it again," or "I just remembered I have to take my car to the car wash, right away. Shoo!" I haven't been shooed, but that is pretty rare. I didn't learn anything from porn either. I also couldn't learn anything from sex education (too watered down), or from other movies, or from TV, or from books.

I do know one thing for certain: when I enjoy the woman herself, as a person, as well as finding her exciting sexually, we seem to have a good time. A fairly long good time, if I get to have my way. I expect that's pretty common for others as well.
 forums48380
Joined: 2/10/2013
Msg: 51
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Posted: 7/14/2013 6:01:30 AM
after my divorce, porn was sex. i watched it a lot and got used to it and yes, it desensitized me and caused issues when I started dating. Luckily, we are working through them and I won't watch it again. NO fvcken way. The thing is, I had no idea when I was watching it that it would affect me in the real world. It can and it does. Watch out.
 justlookingvt
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 52
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Posted: 7/14/2013 6:06:32 PM




Also many men now try & spank women & pull their hair on the first POF meet, while they're still in the coffee shop.


Damn... that must be good coffee... what place is this ? :-)

 sun_and_cinnamon
Joined: 12/12/2012
Msg: 53
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Posted: 7/14/2013 6:22:02 PM
Yes, it has in the past. In my case I was in a long term relationship with someone who developed an addiction. He always watched some which has never bothered me. It spiraled out of control to the point where he was happy just watching and no longer even desired the real deal. That relationship didn't last much longer, to say the least.
 JeremyD4789
Joined: 10/27/2012
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Posted: 7/14/2013 11:36:13 PM
I had sex while watching porn one time. I couldn't stop laughing. So yes, porn negatively effected my sex life. Never watching porn while trying to have sex again.

ok, I should never say never.
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 7/15/2013 4:42:24 AM

Damn... that must be good coffee... what place is this ? :-)


That's the Starbucks in Williston...:)
 Pinky127
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 56
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Posted: 7/17/2013 9:24:10 AM

Damn... that must be good coffee... what place is this ? :-)


That's the Starbucks in Williston...:)


I'll meet you TWO guys there Friday at 8pm,ok?
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 7/17/2013 12:32:46 PM
Awww...I have been banned from Starbucks since the "Double Joey" incident...

In my defense, it was dark, I was pretty hammered, and I really couldnt hear the difference between "text" and "sex"...sigh
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 58
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Posted: 7/17/2013 12:57:04 PM

Just wondering do you think Porn Sex has effected the real world Sex between couples ie do people get the wrong idea of what sex should be, mind I don't have an answer just felt like asking you.


Yes, my ex felt like porn sex was that sex was supposed to be like. I felt like I was putting on a show half the time, like I had to a, b, c, d, e, a little bit of F, g, h, some sprinkle of I, etc. I had too much sex. Although 90% was enjoyable, and it seemed like we were making porn 85% of the time, I can live off of memory if the next one can't even get it up, lol, it wouldn't matter to me. It's a bit overrated at this point in my life.

The wildest (scenes) had to take place in fantasy rooms or hotel rooms, as I wouldn't dare scream that loud in my house or his, I didn't want anyone looking at me as I exit either apartment, lol. Oh man, it was wild, but it was fun.

Just because you watch it, it doesn't mean that's how its supposed to be, but it sure teaches you a lot and gives you a lot of ideas. I remember reading about 17 books on oral sex alone, just to learn how to do it different ways, love makes you do crazy things.
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 7/17/2013 12:59:30 PM

I remember reading about 17 books on oral sex alone, just to learn how to do it different ways, love makes you do crazy things.


There is NOTHING wrong or crazy with wanting to please your lover and aquiring new skills.
Life is all about learning new things.
I applaud your efforts. :)
 you_needme
Joined: 6/30/2013
Msg: 60
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Posted: 7/17/2013 1:58:46 PM

Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives

Yes.
So have cars, coal, railroads, bathing, perfume, fashion, the decline of religion, fiat currency, contraceptives, and pretty much everything else.


Just wondering do you think Porn Sex has effected the real world Sex between couples ie do people get the wrong idea of what sex should be

Sex "should" be a pleasurable means of procreation creatures of free will and rational thought should be able to appropriately manage according to their access to resources.
Everything else is simply gratification of ego, or probably more accurate id, without any relevance to "should."
 Mrjohnson0827
Joined: 1/13/2013
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Posted: 7/18/2013 5:15:16 PM
I think it has a lot, this is just my opinion, but porn to be honest has destroyed sex lives in the sense on intimacy between someone and there partner. I feel sex is more about ppl sharing deep intimacy for each other. Porn has turned that into.. Something else to say the least. That's just me though.
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 62
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Posted: 7/19/2013 5:14:07 AM
I think porn has probably given younger men and/or inexperienced men a false impression of what women want in bed.

If you base your education on porn, you're going to believe that all women need no foreplay, they all want rough anal sex, they all squirt, you can bring a couple friends home with you and she'll be more than happy to service you all at the same time, and that all women magically climax simply from being mounted.
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