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 GJBrown
Joined: 9/12/2011
Msg: 91
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Porn has probably gotten alot of people to try Anal.
but anyway I'm sure movies in general have effected people's sex lives
 bigby_wolff
Joined: 11/20/2013
Msg: 92
Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives
Posted: 1/11/2014 4:17:21 AM
Yes watch Don Jon the movie
 that_ol_lady
Joined: 4/19/2013
Msg: 95
Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives
Posted: 1/11/2014 4:15:32 PM
@whachuc

well im sure that might be true for some just like for some older men they may have gotten by being totally the selfish lover expecting her to do everything that the porno woman does no questions asked no words talked back know ur place type thing..

but aside from that the amount of "guys" rapping about killing the p ussy an beating it up you really cant be surprised that some may not know the meaning of "slow roll it" she taught me to stroke with emotion' which is a song lol..

but ya im sure if some where to meet the right woman an I do mean woman not girl maybe a few may slow that pace down an learn that there is more to killing it in 2mins...
 meoww207
Joined: 12/29/2013
Msg: 96
Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives
Posted: 1/13/2014 7:52:01 AM
This is embarrassing... but I think watching *some* porn has made me better in the bedroom. My college roommate and I (yes, we're both female!) used to watch it sometimes together just as a learning tool (nothing sexual). Obviously you can't expect to do things like a pornstar, but just seeing different techniques and positions and how to utilize them I think can make you better. When I finally gave my first BJ, the guy literally would NOT stay away from me! Lol.

But obviously there are some negative aspects. I think when men watch porn they become very self conscious seeing all the 10"+ penises and that the pornstars who can last for "hours." I feel like men (before I slept/hooked up with them) would build themselves up unrealistically: "It's like 8 inches... I've slept with xxx amount of girls... I've never had any complaints... etc" but then when you finally sleep together its like 4 inches and they last for less than 2 minutes.

So yeah, like most situations there are positives and negatives.
 that_ol_lady
Joined: 4/19/2013
Msg: 97
Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives
Posted: 1/13/2014 9:27:58 AM

meoww207



But obviously there are some negative aspects. I think when men watch porn they become very self conscious seeing all the 10"+ penises and that the pornstars who can last for "hours." I feel like men (before I slept/hooked up with them) would build themselves up unrealistically: "It's like 8 inches... I've slept with xxx amount of girls... I've never had any complaints... etc" but then when you finally sleep together its like 4 inches and they last for less than 2 minutes.



LMFAO!!! ^^^^ HA don't start me to preaching on the ones who suddenly can last all day an all nite no stopping or they promise they will have you screaming their name,an yes my d ick is so big no girl can take it.. an then your like uhh this is awkward what do you mean your done an cant get it back up you barely put it in an then came,,uhhh that doesn't look like 9 inches who pic did you send to me cause it wasn't your penis...

the car sales men type always are trying to sell you a car with no engine in it..lol
 wolvesatthedoor
Joined: 5/8/2013
Msg: 98
Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives
Posted: 1/13/2014 12:30:04 PM
Men are visual creatures and eventually the al kee hol wears off.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 99
Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives
Posted: 1/13/2014 1:31:48 PM
I am sure porn does affect many people, but not sure how and if it's net good or bad.

Internet porn has very little affect on me.

Old style written porn affected my sex life, which was in the late 1960s. Stories like “the way of a man with a maid” and “story of O. They were much more involved than modern porn, as there was a whole book and story line.

They gave me a much more active imagination. No doubt this influence my sex life in the late 1960/1970s. I don't expect everyone likes this, nor do I like a lot of stuff they did. For instance, I have no desire to brand someone as they did in the Story of O.

I feel modern internet porn may stifle imagination and make people think stuff like facials are actually fun. They do facials because it's video and they want to prove it's real.

But IRL, I never felt the urge to do a facial, it's too much like masturbation. This is the same problem with a lot of video porn, the positions are maximized for the camera, not for pleasure.

One porn position I tried because I was curious what it felt like, oral sex with the woman laying flat on her back with her head hanging over the bed. It's OK, but I don't like having to stand while climaxing.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 3/23/2014 2:55:02 PM
It's probably been an education for some and given them ideas and permission that they might not have had. And for others, it has probably led to unrealistic expectations or given them ideas that maybe they'd be better off without.

In The Brain That Rewires Itself, Doidge describes a modern problem that's come about with internet porn: met who can't orgasm from sex with a woman because they have become so habituated to masturbating to porn. I have noticed a lot of men who aren't that old having ED and I never used to encounter this before. I wonder if it has to do with either that or being on antidepressants or Adderall? Neurons that fire together wire together so when someone habitually masturbates to particular images, it can get to where they can't orgasm without them.

I'm not opposed to porn, but if it begins to interfere in normal relations, then it's a problem.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 101
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Posted: 3/24/2014 7:47:07 AM

about with internet porn: met who can't orgasm from sex with a woman because they have become so habituated to masturbating to porn.


I read an article about this where they describe a completely new problem. In old porn, you either bought a video, or DVD and had "your collection." With internet porn, individuals click from money shot to money shot, not staying with one visual or scene any more than about 15 to 30 seconds, then clicking to the next ready to explode scene. The article indicated that people become so desensitized and in a way bored with reality that they end up with ED.
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 102
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Posted: 3/24/2014 11:26:17 AM
I hear you Outmind and Arwen...

When I met my current GF, I discovered that I had DE ( Delayed ejaculation...I'm talking hours...very exasperating).
At first I thought it might be the porn thing, mentioned it to my Doc and he switched one of my blood pressure meds. Didnt have a partner since I moved onto it....never knew.
Problem solved.

When I was working in the prison system this was one of the things that I would mention to married guys before they returned home. 5 years dating nobody but your palm can lead to a lot of bedroom confusion because they were habituated to a different sensations. I can tell you I had a few handfulls seek me out afterthey went home because their wife thought they switched teams in the pen.

I have read that the immediacy of internet porn can have the same effect , except quicker and more effectively.
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 103
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Posted: 3/24/2014 12:25:25 PM
Anything done for a long period of time can have effects. I'm gonna leave it at that, lol.
 Bentheredunthat
Joined: 1/9/2014
Msg: 104
Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives
Posted: 3/25/2014 10:37:16 AM
If one simply watches porn without applying common sense, yes - it can cause problems. In porn, every guy has a big**** every woman is shaved bare, and every woman does anal - with midgets....

Porn should be viewed like any other source of entertainment - with moderation and an understanding that it is idealized sexuality. I cheer every time I actually see a woman with a pimple on her ass.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
Msg: 105
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Posted: 3/25/2014 6:52:41 PM
Yes the ease of access to porn over all media,( I am including books too, women) has led to really unrealistic expectations, especially by the younger generations who are flooded the stuff as soon as they see their first crotch on the interwebz. Hell, half the advise I see on some sites says that to get a woman all you got to do is whip it out in front of her... Lol, teenagers. On the other hand, it does have some beneficial qualities. It does add spice to some couple's lives who grow bored with the same ol routine. Also, it does help satisfy urges in people so they can focus on more important things.
 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 106
Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives
Posted: 3/26/2014 6:08:39 AM
Well....if the movies are what you gage sex by then yes.....but if its an entertainment only then no...pretty simple....movies as in any entertainments usually blown out if proprtioned to sell.....like the erotic magazines....thiose woman in most cases are do overs....air brushed....soos to not show imperfections....oh there are some that dont need it but thats few....lol
 dwmitch
Joined: 12/31/2009
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Posted: 3/26/2014 11:27:15 AM
First one I saw was one my first girlfriend showed me. Last one I saw was the last one my first girlfriend had me watch with her. And those movies did have an impact. She wanted to try every position she saw, both in the ones we watched together and the ones she watched alone, and we both thought I was incompetent because those positions ranged from uncomfortable to painful for her, sometimes both of us.

About a year or two ago I came across a youtube video of some actresses telling men not to try what they see in porn for one simple reason. The positions used are strictly for the benefit of the camera and are often uncomfortable or painful to the woman (and while they just covered the female perspective, I can say from experience that a lot of them are awkward for men, too, if they're not the size of the typical porn actor).

I'm sure it has its uses for some people. Those videos were the only way my girlfriend could get interested in sex. In fact, it got so bad that if I just wanted to stop by after work, take her out to dinner, and wrap up the evening sitting in her front yard talking I had to hide her videos the night before or she'd watch them while waiting for me and start throwing a fit if I didn't go along with it.

I suppose it's a double edged sword in some cases. Without it we might not have had a sex life, but she watched them so often that until I started hiding them so we could get out of her apartment and have a real relationship we hit a stretch where the relationship was nothing but sex, and that will strain a relationship just as much as too little sex.
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
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Posted: 3/26/2014 6:30:03 PM
Personally, I think porn is laughable at best, and completely idiotic at worst. I don't have time for such nonsense.
 SpittyKitty
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 109
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Posted: 5/4/2014 7:11:47 PM
Personally , porn has affected me by being there when there is no man in my life.
It gets lonely. So between searching for someone special, I can use porn to get some excitement and "people"
in my non-existent sex life. I'd hate to just become a serial one night stander just to have someone while trying to find that special one. And touching myself is even more exciting when having accompaniment. So porn lets me breathe a little, and keep my panties on when swimming in open waters.
Thank you porn.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 110
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Posted: 5/4/2014 9:57:58 PM
There are some incredible women in real life that enjoy sex, and crave it often enough, hard enough that your desire for porn goes out the window. Why waste a hard on or masturbation on nothing when, soon enough...

Best part is. "Have you ever tried this?"
"Hmm. Interesting, let do that."

The sad reality of porn is that within 7 minutes you would have jerked off and done.
The real thing can last all night, with at least 20 minutes intervals between sessions.
 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
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Posted: 5/23/2014 12:15:38 AM
I think porn makes guys jerk off too much and they have nothing left to share with a real woman. Also porn is not about a romantic loving caring relationship, which is what most of us want.
 goodquestion
Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 112
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Posted: 5/23/2014 10:06:27 AM
I think porn makes guys jerk off too much and they have nothing left to share with a real woman.

This simply is not true I am glad that you just think that and have no facts to back it up, as I have read that in many relationships this is normal once in a while and that once in a relationship it still goes on, I am talking with out porn though. However if a man is going to be away for a couple weeks or maybe months because they are serving this country to think they are going to stop looking at porn and carrying on by them self's is out of this world. It is far better than cheating unless you are the type that would consider that cheating but that is a whole norther topic.

Also porn is not about a romantic loving caring relationship, which is what most of us want.

This is true and I think everyone knows this as porn does not demonstrate any type of romance ,but that is not to say that once in a while sex can't be just sex with out romance as long as you are a couple. I am not talking about sleeping with everyone.
 oneday57
Joined: 10/17/2015
Msg: 113
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Posted: 11/25/2015 12:51:01 PM
yeah if ya wanna act like them....very few can act like a porn star and besides...ever heard of 'CUT'.....thats when the scenes over and theres enough time to recoup and move on to the next scene....soooo...whos thinking real sex is like that?.....lol
 Iredurbio2
Joined: 4/18/2013
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Posted: 12/5/2015 11:14:50 AM
It's helped a lot of women,especially older gals.The MILF and mature for younger
genre's have the young 'uns knocking their doors down.
 MisterEd0950
Joined: 4/19/2006
Msg: 115
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Posted: 12/16/2015 2:58:27 AM
I always hear how the guys in porn have huge****. I have been watching porn off and on for years and have only seen one black guy that is bigger than me. Most of the guys I've seen are not big at all.
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 9/9/2015
Msg: 116
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Posted: 12/16/2015 4:59:45 AM

It's helped a lot of women,especially older gals.The MILF and mature for younger
genre's have the young 'uns knocking their doors down.


uh, I would beg to differ on this. Yes the fantasy is alive and well apparently... but when a person not only approaches because of porn, fantasizes becauase of porn, but tries to REENACT porn?

massive turnoff. I avoid the young guys that obviously are gunning for a porn like experience... when i was on for real, when someone approached who happened to be younger who talked to me like anyone else, I'd be more than happy to talk back. I don't care about age. But if someone was hey, you're hot, do you like younger guys?

I ran like the plague. The couple times i started to date for real a guy who was into porn? Where we were exclusive and at the point of physical? Younger or older? turns out he wanted to talk like a porn star, wanted ME to talk liek a porn star... wanted to reenact the porn experience and i bailed on the relationship. So in my case, porn has ended relationships; because while fantasy can be nice and all that... if someone HAD to have you constantly talking about how worshipful their uh, package was... need you to scream or they felt gypped, and assumed if you are a built older woman you WANTED every tom****and harry 20 years younger to approach you for a quickie... and honestly expected you to be flattered?

guy's incessant use of porn has made things somewhat difficult. So dunno who exactly it's really helped, but in my case, it's been pretty strong turnoff. And don't even get me started on those who are so used to masturbating to porn that they prefer masturbating to a mental or real pic of you. MASSIVE turnoff. they would give you a play by play of what they did to themselves while looking at a pic of you and always assumed you'd be flattered and grateful. always felt slimy. DON'T want to hear a person's masturbation play by play of their experience while they were thinking of or looking at me. I don't want to hear it. Ever.
 caballerosiempre
Joined: 12/5/2015
Msg: 117
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Posted: 12/16/2015 11:18:19 AM
I am quite sure some women watch too, especially the ones that get really hard into tahe fake/porn screaming OH MY GOD OH MY GOD; OH F##K ME BABAY OH GOD!! about 1000 x..LOUD
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