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 altosong
Joined: 2/5/2011
Msg: 48
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Men who are addicted to porn have trouble with relationships......Its like visiting a prostitute...it has its consequences....You are better off...His short attention span.and his obsessions.are the problem..Sexual addictions...are hard to fathom...nobody is happy....There's no love in it..
Find someone who loves you...Altosong
 five-marie
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 2/27/2013 4:02:03 AM
"Lose weight or hit the road. If it was a man who gained a massive amount of weight and came on here whining that his woman denied him sex because of his weight gain, the POFers would eviscerate him by calling him names like "lazy insensitive slob."
She;s already said she's thinner than she's ever been right now.Look at her pics, shes hardly carrying a massive amount of extra weight.
No sex, if he's not cheating, probably means the relationship is over for him. Maybe he's staying for the child. You need to do whats best for you now. He can still be a great father if you two are not together.
 eattoplease55
Joined: 10/22/2012
Msg: 50
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 2/27/2013 4:13:33 AM
Not saying anything cept dump him and move on.....your to young to brude over some kid that wont give his girl the love she wants .......if your esteems that bad maybe a bit of talk with a professional would help also.....young as you are dont think you want to be in those abused situations!.....good luck and be safe!
 benjameson68
Joined: 9/7/2012
Msg: 51
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 2/27/2013 6:24:43 AM
he is making excuses! he must be bored sexually! try new things with him and if he still doesnt want to have sex with you, move on to another man. There are alot of men out there that would be willing to have sex with you every night
 Xafrpb
Joined: 1/22/2012
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Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 2/27/2013 6:56:59 AM
Hola como estas. me gustaria conocerte, quieres?:modhammer:
 wink558
Joined: 1/8/2013
Msg: 53
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 2/27/2013 7:10:29 AM
There are 2 sides to every story, why would this dude change his whole attitude towards you after 2 years? The thinking here is your better off to seek the answers to this at the source rather than on some moronic forum. Have you read any of these threads?? They are full of hideous, bitter women that hate men and loser men that couldnt get a woman if they were alone with one on a desserted island. The only thing they have in common is all they do is bash men for every little thing on these threads. So if your goal is to end up alone in life as a single mom, be 40 and chasing men around bars to give blowjobs in the back alley, then go ahead and listen to these mickey mouse forum shrinks.
Listen, men are men, we havent changed much in the last 1000 years or so. We are not hard to figure out. Without knowing the whole story, it sounds as if the dude has lost interest in you for some reason. Maybe he has outgrown you, maybe having the baby destroyed your vag..i dunno. He could be hanging around for the kid's sake or because its comfortable. Who knows, all im saying is its up to you to search for the answer and I have news for ya, it aint on POF forums.
 abbeydave
Joined: 9/8/2009
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Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 2/27/2013 6:08:29 PM
As many before me have said, you need to get away from this idiot.
But the first thing you gotta do is fix yourself up with somewhere else to live.
Go and see the Housing department of your Local Authority and - well - just ask for help!
Most people in that department are women, so they will almost certainly be very sympathetic.
And Social Services will help with the move, and will organise it to get you away while he's at work.
Best of luck with this and in future relationships - you WILL have them!
 KatherineZoe
Joined: 11/27/2011
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Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 2/27/2013 9:46:54 PM
There is a forum I belong to called Marriedmansexlife.com that I have found useful. Monogamy seems to offer many challenges for couples to work through and pornography often destroys a mans sexual interest in his partner.

I joined the forum to learn about what to expect if I ever get the courage to marry. So many of my girlfriends who are married are unhappy because they are not wanted sexually any longer.
 Albvs
Joined: 2/14/2013
Msg: 56
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 2/28/2013 4:02:12 PM

Monogamy seems to offer many challenges for couples to work through and pornography often destroys a mans sexual interest in his partner.

Is it pornography that's destroying his sexual interest or was the dwindling sexual interest (from other causes) the reason why he chose to view some porn in his married life?

It might be better to ask married men why they stop having sex with their wives. I doubt if even one man would suggest that they preferred masturbation over the sex they had earlier in the marriage or before they got married. Obviously, something changed. There was a time when everything was good and then it wasn't.
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 57
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 2/28/2013 5:03:01 PM

I joined the forum to learn about what to expect if I ever get the courage to marry. So many of my girlfriends who are married are unhappy because they are not wanted sexually any longer.

There is hope, that is not saying I am it, but there are many men with my beliefs or attitude. I was married for 15 yrs before I lost my wife to cancer, and hat was 12 yrs ago,, my late wife was always beautiful and sexually attractive to me.

Now at present, my girl friend, my god she is just as beautiful and attractive. I thought I would never look at a woman again and adore her as I have my late wife. I am so lucky to experience such amazing love, and I am not comparing, because both our loves are unique in there own way.
 SPArwell
Joined: 8/25/2012
Msg: 58
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 2/28/2013 5:44:15 PM
Forget him. Find yourself a man who will appreciate you.
 DontAskMe2CarryUrPurse
Joined: 1/22/2013
Msg: 59
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/1/2013 6:26:01 AM
Eat lots of lentils and brown rice, they have substances to help lift your mood (and they're inexpensive). When you cut back on eating, you cause your brain chemistry to get out of whack and it will make you feel even worse.
 wink558
Joined: 1/8/2013
Msg: 60
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/1/2013 7:13:55 AM
I have been there girlfriend! Break up and move on... ever heard of child support? He HAS to support you and your son and you will find someone else...


That statement right there is why most men will never trust women again, it has literally changed the way relationships are handled today as compared to 50 years ago. I personally look at relationships like a business now as opposed to a life long love affair and i guarantee you I am not alone in this train of thought.
Women used to stay and try to make it work for the family. Now a days they know they can leave very easily and have no financial worries as they can stick it to the guy while they sit on their asses and troll for single guys on POF. As if that isnt bad enough, the women also force the rest of the country to support them and their child all because they are ignorant and irresponsible. So essentially, a woman makes a decision to leave and faces no finacial barricades at all, you see this all the time in the US. Look around, you have minorities humping like rabbits and pumping out kids like an assembly line with no means to support them, so good ole Joe public supports them, like the Govt can afford that!!!
The one saving grace of all this is when the kid grows up and leaves to become his/her own drain on society, the single mom is now in her 40's, uneducated and inexperienced in the work force, is left to dwindle out her days living in low income ghettos and working her job as a shelf stocker at Walmart while the guy who paid for her all those years finally realizes a semblance of finacial freedom.
You think life is bad because the dude wont plow you every night, imagine life in the scenario i just painted for you, as its real. At least the dude is willing to stick around and pay the bills and be a father to the kid. Dont be so damn selfish !!!!
 Latin0dawg2012
Joined: 1/18/2013
Msg: 61
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/1/2013 8:37:00 AM
He's emotionally abusing you and your taking it. If you're not married to such a poor excuse of a man but still love him for "what who he is", seperate. Maybe he'll chase you/ maybe he won't but you'll see his true colors.


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You have to give him a chance whether he deserve it or not but in the long run, a man who doesn't make a woman happy probably isn't happy himself. Take action and let him go!
 4latinas
Joined: 10/24/2007
Msg: 62
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/1/2013 11:39:40 PM
I tend to agree with most of the posts here..with a lil realness attached.It is over if one partner is no longer physically attracted to the other (ive been there)..I learned not to think I can whip someone into shape simply because I work out..Men tend to be Physical..Women emotional..This is why at times you see a knock out woman with an average or definitely not her level guy..Leave and get your self esteem back,but ladies in general need to keepthemselves up as the rel goes on..Its not cool when you let yourselves go because your in love with your partner,physicality IS the first thing you see when initially attracted..good luck..
 bobbert24
Joined: 2/24/2013
Msg: 63
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/2/2013 6:32:10 PM
stand in front of him in a pair of tight jeans with your favorite thong, then slowly bend over and pull your jeans down. thatll spark some interest. your average but even i couldnt resist that
 PUNISHERKING
Joined: 12/27/2011
Msg: 64
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/2/2013 10:06:30 PM
your a cute girl. if he doesnt want sex from you then he is cheating i bet. i'd be glad to help you out lmao sorry had to say it lol
 angelbluenl
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 65
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/3/2013 5:46:50 AM
You are far too young to even be worrying about this. You are a beautiful girl and you will meet someone who wants to be with YOU!
 TenderKisses546
Joined: 1/13/2013
Msg: 66
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/3/2013 6:25:30 AM
hey, I can't help but feel bad for you. You are ridiculously beautiful and by looking at your profile you sound like your the bomb! Honeslty if he isn't givign you the attention you need then it may be time to split. Understandably it is difficult to end a relationship but if it means finding someone that is a better match for you and you will be happier.
You are very pretty and I bet you have tons of guys hitting on you on this site. In any case I hope you find happiness.
 FatBottomGirI
Joined: 6/28/2011
Msg: 67
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/3/2013 10:24:39 AM
I am puzzled as to why any woman would tolerate a boyfriend/husband that puts her down. There are large women every where with healthy sex lives. Drop that jerk and find a better one.
 Kevin1492
Joined: 2/27/2013
Msg: 68
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/3/2013 1:20:05 PM
DUMP HIM. He doesn't know what a prize he has got. Toss him to the curb and move on the glorious new horizons!!!!
 Anomalyxgirl
Joined: 3/28/2011
Msg: 69
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/9/2013 2:27:59 AM
Wink I really think you need to find something better to do with your time. You sound like a sad person who just has a lot of anger built up. To be honest you do not know the whole story actually. My main issue was my intimacy I have been nothing but honest. I am not perfect but I am far from what you make me out to be in your posts. I really do love him and I feel like you are making me out to be some man basher here, and I never bashed him, or any man. I love him a lot, and I care about him a lot. I wanted to make things work so I looked for some advice. If this makes me a bad person, or someone who is selfish, or bashing men to you you should re-evaluate your thoughts on it, and really ponder deeply about the situation, and the words you are saying. They are not only immature, but highly sexist. I did not come on here to have pitty, or to bash my boyfriend, I simply wanted some advice. Take your hostility elsewhere. I barely come onto POF to be honest, and if you look at my profile it states I am not looking for a relationship. I do not flirt with other men, and I have never cheated. I love him way to much to do that to him. I came on here looking for friends actually, girls and guys. So please do not assume I was on here being unfaithful. It seems some of you enjoy to jump to conclusions on things you have no idea about. You do not know me, and you do not see the whole situation, so why point it to the worst? Please lighten up, not every girl is bad. I am assuming you have some hostility against women because you were hurt by one, or one left you? Either way, bashing women on forums and categorizing them all into one group due to resentment from occurrences that happened to you is not the way to find another women who will love you. Have a good day.
 DeeLorenz
Joined: 1/28/2013
Msg: 70
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/9/2013 7:51:26 AM
Move on. You shouldn't have to compromise yourself for anybody. What he's doing is wrong and he obviously doesn't respect you or your feelings. No one deserves to be spoken to that way,especially by their significant other.
 HarleyB.Davidson
Joined: 2/6/2013
Msg: 71
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/9/2013 8:23:31 AM
Don't want to sound crewl here, but he is an ass! You are a very beautiful woman and curvy is a good thing! I like curvy women. And as far as sex goes! Let him have his porn! Leave him and move on to someone that will appreciate you for who and what you are and not what they think you should be!
 Johnsdoinstuff
Joined: 2/24/2013
Msg: 72
Boyfriend of 3 years wont have sex with me anymore
Posted: 3/9/2013 1:12:20 PM
I disagree with the part about him not wanting to have sex AUTOMATICALLY means that he is cheating. I dated a girl for a few years until recently. She was very physically attractive, but towards the end, I did not want to have sex with her at all. She had become sooo moody and ****y towards the end that I was just not attracted to her sexually at all. I wasn't cheating, had no inclination to do so either. I just was so frustrated with the relationship that I couldn't bring myself to bang her. Needless to say, we ended up breaking up after a couple months of that.
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