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 denialism
Joined: 9/26/2015
Msg: 157
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Life is ridiculous, we're all completely ridiculous, and we become better people for understanding this. I mean, the actual odds of us existing in the first place are so confoundingly impossible, never question your motives unless you intend to hurt yourself or another person. Be yourself at all costs. Love who you want, hate who you want, just don't be indifferent or allow materialism to bash you from any angle.
 baconflavoredbacon
Joined: 9/12/2015
Msg: 158
Why is it so wrong to not want to date a person with kids in your 30's?
Posted: 10/4/2015 11:34:38 AM
I'm in my thirties, and I won't date any man with children.

Since I don't care if they think I'm being unfair by not pairing with them, I'll continue to do as I wish.

I'd wager that if I was unappealing to them and they reject my profile. they'd consider it a human right.

It goes both ways.
 denialism
Joined: 9/26/2015
Msg: 159
Why is it so wrong to not want to date a person with kids in your 30's?
Posted: 10/5/2015 10:45:23 AM
No one's obligated to date anyone. A monster, apart from mythology, is a person who finds relief in causing others to suffer. I'll date some freaking Martians if Earthlings don't satisfy me, so what. I'll get legally married to a piece of amethyst by someone ordained as a minister on the Internet, so what, none of your business, we live in modern times.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 160
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Why is it so wrong to not want to date a person with kids in your 30's?
Posted: 10/6/2015 5:06:15 PM
It is NOT wrong.

However, unless you're upper middle class to downright, affluent (the crowd that announces their weddings in the Sunday NY Times), and are dating in that same socio-economic class, you will catch hell trying to find any quantity of "regular" people in their 30's with no children. Obviously, they exist, but they're few and far between.

While I would prefer to date a woman without children (and who does NOT want any), those are very few and far between in the 35 and up age group. And, the bad news is..........................my coworkers tell me, that the women are even more obnoxious as grandmothers than they were as mothers. Women in their 50's & 60's who now want to pick up and move halfway across the country......................so they can be closer to Lil Johnny.

Hell, nowadays depending on your demographic, it's damned difficult to find if you're over 25.

Back in my 20's, I was adamant about not dating women with children. It was DAMNED hard to find them even then, but I was extremely fortunate.

C'mon, the reasons are quite obvious and plentiful. Mainly, I didn't need the drama of some guy who was giving his 'baby momma' $100/week (if that), in MY life. He breaks her off with some chump change and thinks he has say so.

Secondly, if I decided I wanted to go somewhere or do something on the spur of the moment (with her), that was pretty much out of the question, unless she had really liberal parents.

Thirdly, I just did not want to hear about, "Baby daddy did, or did NOT do such and such." and/or "Lil Johnny is a genius because he drew a circle in his 9th grade class."

Sounds harsh, but I just did not care, and at that time, I had many more options than I do now.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 161
Why is it so wrong to not want to date a person with kids in your 30's?
Posted: 10/6/2015 9:11:59 PM
On one part I would not agree with you.. There are plenty of women with no kids at list here in LA area.
I'm in the same boat as you are and will not date a women with kids no matter how old the kids are. Its in the same category as I wont date a smoker or a drug user. I done it once before and learned from it. Never do it again and advice all my friends not to date a single parent. Here in LA there are so many single never married women that there is plenty to go around.
 1_35M
Joined: 11/9/2014
Msg: 162
Why is it so wrong to not want to date a person with kids in your 30's?
Posted: 10/18/2015 11:14:38 AM
I came across the same issue. I was very polite about it and got a person ready to fight me sending hate messages. Having a kid is one of the biggest decisions of your life. It seems everybody is trying to force that decision on us. :(
 revoskeepnus
Joined: 8/4/2015
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Why is it so wrong to not want to date a person with kids in your 30's?
Posted: 10/18/2015 7:35:12 PM
i have been a single parent for like 9 years now and never dated a man with kids either. Kids scare the hell out of me as well.
 UnKnownNYMale
Joined: 6/24/2014
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Posted: 11/24/2015 1:01:59 PM
I don't understand. I too have seen posts from women saying they don't want to date a man with kids, even if they are adult and on their own.

I can certainly see, and agree myself, about not wanting to date someone with young school age children living at home, since I am past that phase now...not something I would want to do either, but if they are adults and on their own?

I don't get it. Is this for selfish reasons?.....because they might want to spend some time with their adult children once-in-a-while? What about someone with siblings, or parents? Are they out too? ...."Undatable!!!!"
 GoodVibes7
Joined: 7/3/2010
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Why is PoF preventing me from logging in ??
It notified my email (goodvibes1378@yahoo.com) that I had mail, but when I try to log in, the screen just stays the same but with my password dots erased. I changed my password, & the same keeps happening. Don't know why PoF is letting me write here, but not letting me view my mail.
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