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 USMC777
Joined: 12/12/2012
Msg: 101
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It's quite amazing that how many women cant achieve an orgasm here. Actually, i think its a lot of bs, if your man is the problem, seek professional help, on the other hand, it could be the woman, so in any case, seek help. I personally, never have been with any woman that had this problem, hence the reason, that its difficult to believe. For those who only get off masturbating, or by oral sex, there is definitely a problem. Perhaps you have formed an dependency on self induced orgasms. All the clitoral or g spot gel stimulants wont matter here. Look within...
 Fiesher
Joined: 3/2/2013
Msg: 102
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/7/2013 4:41:38 PM
I don't think you have a real problem at all and you are very much normal. Sounds like you have both a psychological and technique thing going on here. To get over the the psychological part, you just have to realize that many women don't cum from penetration alone. A vagina is a wonderful thing and is designed to do miracles but orgasm is not one of those miracles. It's not designed in that manner even though some women can cum from penetration alone. So, you are in the company of many women, nothing to be really concerned about.

Once you realize and accept this fact, you're on the way to cumming with your partner. I think you perhaps thought that you were supposed to cum by penetration and because you weren't able to do that, there was something wrong with you and it mentally blocked your partner giving you an orgasm. Sex is 95% brain, 5% other stuff, give or take. Giving yourself an orgasm takes away that mental block temporarily.

So once you get the psychological part corrected, you and he will have to figure out a way to ensure your clit is stimulated along with the penetration....then you're going to start exploding. And after you get this working fluently, don't be surprised one day you do cum from penetration, just don't look for it though. It'll have to sneak up on you.

Enjoy!
 *Dr_Hugnkiss*
Joined: 8/6/2009
Msg: 103
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I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/7/2013 4:47:31 PM
Something I learnt today; it is possible to reach orgasm through being tickled...so that's number 12 ;o)
 Fiesher
Joined: 3/2/2013
Msg: 104
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/7/2013 4:56:18 PM
Hearton64


I hate to tell you,but without clitoral stimulation DURING sex,masterbation or not,75% of women don't orgasm from penetration alone.There's no point in "de-programming" ourselves when it's ANATOMICAL,not psychological.


I'm going to second what you say here.....only because you're right and it is also normal!

I happen to think many men who think all the women they've been with are getting an orgasm by penetration have probably been duped at times.
 kara41
Joined: 6/14/2010
Msg: 105
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/7/2013 5:04:35 PM

They are also a wonderful place for women to whine and moan about how bad men are, how they are selfish lovers. [/qoute]

Really? If that is what women think, then there is something seriously wrong. Many studies have proved that one of a guys biggest turn ons is turning on his partner. It's women who are selfish in the sack.

Women need to get into a guys mindset, and start focusing on HIS pleasure. Nothing makes me feel hotter than seeing a guy lose control under my touch. THAT will make you achieve orgasm, OP.
 *Dr_Hugnkiss*
Joined: 8/6/2009
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I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/7/2013 5:35:18 PM
/\/\/\/\/\ Amen to that!
 NYCmasterplumber
Joined: 8/17/2006
Msg: 107
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/7/2013 6:45:29 PM
Try having a relationship with another lady as no one knows more about your body then another female

THEN invite a guy into the picture after you and your GF are comfortable with each other

In the 3 years I was in the navy I had relations with over 87 women all but three were married and I had 8 or 9 three somes always 2 women and me

I think the best climax a woman can have is lots of fore play then right after intercourse the male does oral as your clitoris is still tingly and very senitive and you should be able to quite easily have multi climaxs
 Cowboy2455
Joined: 5/21/2012
Msg: 108
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/8/2013 7:16:47 AM
Hi Kitten, There is a chance you could be disconnecting... I have a very sexy 58 year old lady friend... Sometimes her and I make love... She wasn't able to cum with me... One night, I noticed her crying, and I asked her what was wrong... Well we had a long talk and I found out a lot of stuff, I didn't know about her... One thing she told me was that every time she got close to cumming she would get scared...

Some women have all the physical signs of being about to reach an orgasm, but all of a sudden they reach a flat moment. The key to overcoming the flat moment is to keep at it. The problem is a fairly common occurrence but only a momentary thing. If the stimulation keeps up, then a woman will go back upward on the arousal curve and have her orgasm. Found this and thought you might enjoy reading it I did... http://www.dummies.com

Please, I am not calling you a dummy...
 Tango211
Joined: 3/4/2013
Msg: 109
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/8/2013 10:06:37 AM
im sorry i never had any women not cum when she with me
 kara41
Joined: 6/14/2010
Msg: 110
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/8/2013 9:20:55 PM
Tango, what a lucky one you are that ALL the ladies you've been with gave you the courtesy of a fake O. Your post should have read, "I THINK I've never been with a woman that didn't orgasm."

Can't stop laughing at how naive you are. I'm d*mn near positive that loosing your virginity was not as wonderful for your partner.
 Be_enchanted
Joined: 1/23/2013
Msg: 111
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/8/2013 9:33:05 PM
What a shame you can't come with a guy; I feel so sad for you. Once you've experienced the big 'O' you'll want it several times each romantic encounter. Fortunately, they're several ways to go about it so one may work better than the other.
 *Dr_Hugnkiss*
Joined: 8/6/2009
Msg: 112
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Posted: 3/9/2013 1:32:45 AM
Kara don't be a hater please.

I thought the abruptness of his comment was mis-calibrated/glib if I'm honest, too.

But I have had the same experience tbh (I was gonna keep my light under the proverbial bushel though).

Because I focus on her pleasure and i find it a turn on, I have always made/had/helped a partner orgasm...
and not only that they all have through penetration alone, too. I don't know why or how, maybe I'm just lucky but that is fact.

All have been in relationships where it's happened many times, we communicate and there would be no need/use/sense in fibbing about it.

I'm aware that lots of women don't and I'm also aware that lots of men are selfish...If I could lay my hands on the answer I'd probably be rich/famous/a guru...or all the previous lol
 titanup77
Joined: 2/5/2013
Msg: 113
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/9/2013 4:35:07 AM
I Had a girl Friend had the same problems so I want to make sure I could do the job what I did was experiment with her by using my fingers to find out her spots ever girl is different YUP and some are far away and some girls spots are close depends on the girl Right so Yes I had lots of oral play at first and then when it was time I was on top had a pillow under her to arch her back because her spot was far inside my fingers could just hit it lol I’m not small guy so Yeah I could hit it and then I worked that for ½ hr Yeah but she final cum and had orgasm She said it felt so different ! YUP Before she would always get close but no Orgasm but I final figure it out But I’m a trooper lol and I’m not a small guy which yes it does matter in this case lol You have to be long enough to reach her spot. So now I can give a Orgasm not ever time but she can have them once and a while with me inside of her She Loved it. When we where dating not any more lol ( I’m here now looking lol)But I was the only one she ever had one with she was same age as me and never married so HUM Not to brag but YUP who’s the Man lol JK haaahaa. Hey I worked hard to figure it out.
 drewsbu
Joined: 12/16/2012
Msg: 114
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/10/2013 4:46:00 AM
Can't cum with regular sex? Even when you are on top and in control of the motion?
 YKNON
Joined: 3/4/2013
Msg: 115
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I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/14/2013 3:56:06 PM
I thought something was wrong with me. There are two ways I can cum. Masturbation and oral sex. As soon as I cum I got to get the d--k. Man I love sex.
 venusenvy777
Joined: 11/19/2008
Msg: 116
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/14/2013 3:58:54 PM
Try women... lol
 Rapunzel1964
Joined: 10/25/2012
Msg: 117
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/15/2013 12:28:39 AM

I don't think you have a real problem at all and you are very much normal. Sounds like you have both a psychological and technique thing going on here. To get over the the psychological part, you just have to realize that many women don't cum from penetration alone. A vagina is a wonderful thing and is designed to do miracles but orgasm is not one of those miracles. It's not designed in that manner even though some women can cum from penetration alone. So, you are in the company of many women, nothing to be really concerned about.

Once you realize and accept this fact, you're on the way to cumming with your partner. I think you perhaps thought that you were supposed to cum by penetration and because you weren't able to do that, there was something wrong with you and it mentally blocked your partner giving you an orgasm. Sex is 95% brain, 5% other stuff, give or take. Giving yourself an orgasm takes away that mental block temporarily.

So once you get the psychological part corrected, you and he will have to figure out a way to ensure your clit is stimulated along with the penetration....then you're going to start exploding. And after you get this working fluently, don't be surprised one day you do cum from penetration, just don't look for it though. It'll have to sneak up on you.


^^^^ One of the few posts in this thread which is thoughtfully, and intelligently written, and which is actually accurate.
 Dukers123d
Joined: 8/30/2012
Msg: 118
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/15/2013 7:32:10 AM
Wow have you been with the wrong men! you need a real man, one who takes his time, and works you up to that orgasm. Must men are one pump chumps who dont how to just pleasure a lady, without getting them selves off!! Sad, wish I could have a couple hours with you, you would change your tune quickly ;) Good luck!
 NotWhatYouExpectt
Joined: 2/11/2013
Msg: 119
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/15/2013 9:05:27 AM
If you can achieve orgasm on your own and it can't be replicated with a partner (Either with hand / tongue / penis) Then one of two things is happening.

a) Psychological block when with a partner
b) You haven't met someone who can do it right
 bsmiles22
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 120
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/15/2013 12:43:54 PM
youre a guy of course you can cum everytime
 Christianmz87
Joined: 3/11/2013
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I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/15/2013 2:31:33 PM
I can't cum with a guy either.
 ZombiezRock
Joined: 10/17/2012
Msg: 122
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/15/2013 2:41:42 PM
haha wink your a douche....

A good lover, a really good lover can change everything for a woman that is for sure!
 G-Patrick
Joined: 1/23/2012
Msg: 123
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/15/2013 5:37:30 PM
Hi Kitten
I know it's different with each woman but I find that if I start off slow and pick it up as we go that it helps. I do know that women who ware more sexually active seem much harder to get off than women who are less so. I would say just relax and put yourself in the frame of mind that makes you feel most aroused before hand get your excitement up for yourself a bit before hand. If you go into it with a negative attitude it can't help. But then again you need a partner that is good at stimulating your mind and body. If your mind is in the right place and your partner has at least a little bit of experience. things will workout. I had a friend ask me if I had ever been with a squirter, Because he got freaked out when he was going down on is a woman he thought she had urinated. lol I replied that I thought all women are sqirters.
 GuinnessGurl2003
Joined: 7/9/2006
Msg: 124
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/16/2013 8:03:24 PM
I cant have an orgasm either through intercourse. But I think just like someone else here said that its pointless to chase something that is impossible to have. Honestly there was only one time that I orgasmed from sex but it was only because I was under the influence and it never happened again.
 poynetteguy65
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 125
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/16/2013 8:31:43 PM
i think your trying too hard to orgasm and not concentrating on whats important. relax and enjoy the whole act and orgasm will come naturally
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