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 dcbighead
Joined: 3/16/2013
Msg: 132
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I'm not reading all theses other posts. Orgasm is very Mental and NOT physical. You need a guy to do some mental stimulating. I would suggest more foreplay, teasing, touching, talking, exploring before the actual intercourse. You and you partner should really take time to know your body and what takes you there. there is something there mentally there when you fly solo verses with a partner.
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 133
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/20/2013 4:10:31 AM
"About 75 percent of all women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone -- that is without the extra help of sex toys, hands or tongue. And 10 to 15 percent never climax under any circumstances."


I find it so interesting that some of the men in this thread just can't comprehend this reality.
Almost as if it's too insulting to thier ego's or something to admit that it's not just in our heads.

Again...........men,could I get you off rubbing your balls alone? HELL NO!

It wouldn't matter HOW turned on you were during foreplay if we never touched your D*CK!

You would not orgasm.

Our CLITS are akin to your D*CKS.What's not to get about that? And in my specific case,I feel NOTHING but some pressure,not even any G-spot stimulation, during penetration and there isn't an angle that doesn't HURT when your pelvis is grinding near my clit that get's me there.Without my hand,your hand or your tongue...I ain't comin'.Period.

So don't insinuate that if you are pumping away and not hitting a single nerve during penetration that if we just "relax" it will spontaneously happen.


Orgasm is very Mental and NOT physical.


BULLSH*T!

If that was true,women could just stand there looking sexy and you'd spontaneously come without ANY stimulation to your d*ck.


You and you partner should really take time to know your body and what takes you there.


That statement comes across as presumptuous in that we don't somehow already know our bodies if we can't come via penetration alone.After many sex partners,a 24 year marriage,and a 4 year relationship,not a single man has gotten me off via penetration alone.

WE DO KNOW OUR BODIES and that's how we can be assured that we can NOT come via penetration alone.
 *Dr_Hugnkiss*
Joined: 8/6/2009
Msg: 134
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I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/20/2013 5:37:42 AM
@hearton You may know your own body but everyone (men, women...and other women) is different.

Orgasms are mental (both men and women have wet dreams with no other stimulation, men have premature ejaculation too)

People should communicate and share their own feelings and bodies imo.

Some men share fantastic orgasms with women through penetration alone. These people are more likely to post on a thread to help other people don't you think?

Do a search for 11 kinds of female orgasm for more on this.

Sometimes there is more in the world than you have already experienced...a mind is like a parachute...works best when open ;o)
 andy1961
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 135
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Posted: 3/20/2013 5:48:49 AM

Again...........men,could I get you off rubbing your balls alone? HELL NO!


Silly generalisation and absolute nonsense.


WE DO KNOW OUR BODIES and that's how we can be assured that we can NOT come via penetration alone.


Now THAT REALLY IS complete and utter nonsense.
 house_full_of_bullets
Joined: 8/22/2011
Msg: 136
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/20/2013 5:59:34 AM
After reading this thread, I've discovered I'm the only man on POF who can't guarantee an orgasm for any female, and that makes me sad. I've been with women who are easily orgasmic and others who can't have one without the use of a vibrator - and I'm good with that. It doesn't mean sex wasn't enjoyable for them - they just needed a little help getting home.

But then again, I don't let my ego get in the way of sex.
 *Dr_Hugnkiss*
Joined: 8/6/2009
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Posted: 3/20/2013 8:19:20 AM
@house

The information is here so use it for your...and her benefit. Aspire to be the best you can be ;o)
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 138
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/20/2013 10:09:19 AM
Andy....go rub your balls and see if it's utter nonsense that you can't come!
 Sublime_Kisses
Joined: 4/27/2007
Msg: 139
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/20/2013 4:13:34 PM
Oral Sex as foreplay will almost always lead to a greater experience for both a man and a woman. Personally, I love to bring my lady to one or 2 orgasms before we unite and I love it when she stimulates me with her mouth and tongue. And yes, every once in a while, if she wants to complete me orally, I will usually have an intense and deeply satisfying orgasm. Surprise BJ's are nice, too! Of course, good hygiene is a must for both, don't you think?
 Rapunzel1964
Joined: 10/25/2012
Msg: 140
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/20/2013 11:35:50 PM
Aren't some of the guys on this thread sooo fortunate that every woman they have ever been with is one of the 5% who can climax by intercourse alone?

"It's perfectly normal for women not to have orgasms during intercourse. Most women need direct clitoral stimulation to experience orgasm. They don't get it during intercourse because the clitoris is located outside the vagina and a few inches above it under the top junction of the vaginal lips. Intercourse simply does not provide enough direct clitoral stimulation to allow most women to become aroused enough to have orgasms. "

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/200903/the-most-important-sexual-statistic


http://www.nbcnews.com/id/38006774/ns/health-sexual_health/t/sorry-guys-percent-women-admit-faking-it/
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 141
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/21/2013 3:11:57 AM

Aren't some of the guys on this thread sooo fortunate that every woman they have ever been with is one of the 5% who can climax by intercourse alone?


That's just because they have "magic dycks"! lol

Those men are why I started another thread.But thank you for your validation.It's bad enough to not be able to orgasm via penetration alone,but all the worse to read this sort of judgement about our truths and be compared to other women as though there is something wrong with "us".
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 142
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/21/2013 4:56:48 AM

But, also not ashamed that I can't cum from thrusting alone...


No shame needed for something that's allegedly normal for most women!

Hey 3ffervescent,

Being that penetration doesn't do it for us because of our C-V distance,('m sure some women's clit/vagina distances are closer anatomically speaking)
I wonder why we can't at least get off solely via our G-spots.
I literally feel nothing nerve related during intercourse if I don't use my own hand.

I get arm pump at times and it would just be SO damn nice to lay back and just have someone ELSE get me off.
Also,I wonder if having a tilted uterus plays a role in the difficulties I have had coming vaginally.


*with a little added manual stimulation, no problem ---
but, anatomically, it isn't going to happen for me from thrusting alone...



Same for me,and at least we CAN come some way....I feel for the women who have yet to come even on thier own!
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 143
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I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/21/2013 7:56:44 AM

Also,I wonder if having a tilted uterus plays a role in the difficulties I have had coming vaginally.


I also have a tilted uterus....so I don't think that's the issue, because I can orgasm with penetration.
 Fits469
Joined: 3/2/2012
Msg: 144
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/21/2013 4:44:42 PM
6Kitten, you said it ( I usually go into sex assuming I won't cum so I don't get too bummed out.) It's all in your mind, you have find the right guy that make you wet before he even touch you, try to let your self go during sex, sounds like you holding back, or maybe you had some bad sex experience when you were younger.
 Fits469
Joined: 3/2/2012
Msg: 145
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/21/2013 4:49:59 PM
6Kitten, you said it ( I usually go into sex assuming I won't cum so I don't get too bummed out.) It's all in your mind, you have find the right guy that make you wet before he even touch you, try to let your self go during sex, sounds like you holding back, or maybe you had some bad sex experience when you were younger.
 jpro18
Joined: 1/28/2013
Msg: 146
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/21/2013 10:01:51 PM
If you have only been with guys who do it just to do it.. who lack passion, who doesn't focus on you, and dislike to experiment with different things... Then that might be the problem. You can definately try bringing a toy to bed, stimulate yourself while having sex would help. But if the guy does not know how to read your body language and doesn't care to.. then your problem is most likely that you just haven't found a good lover lol.
 dtaysw1
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 147
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/28/2013 2:30:22 AM
u aint with the right guy lol. but if u want to coach him .like lick it there a little lighter , hard to the left, now suck it ect.....
 dtaysw1
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 148
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/28/2013 2:41:02 AM
u need somebody with a hook dick
 JessicaStephen
Joined: 2/16/2013
Msg: 149
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 3/28/2013 9:59:21 PM
I'm sorry that sucks really. But maybe you should stop playing with your clit and clear your mind during sex and enjoy it I'm 23 n I have multiple orgasms everytme my man of 4 years and I have sex. Maybe upgrade ur man or open up and talk to Him how will he know if you don't comunicare we talk about our sex and what we like before after and during sex while we watch shows with sexual content. Open up in your relationship and life
 BOBY-14
Joined: 4/11/2012
Msg: 150
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 4/1/2013 12:16:35 PM
The answer is easy in some cases almost partisipar tine marturbarte alone or in front of your partner reaches orgasm but not allowed to come let hem help u
 Imstillinthe80s
Joined: 3/27/2013
Msg: 151
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 4/1/2013 2:29:19 PM
He just hasn't licked the right area.
 drewsbu
Joined: 12/16/2012
Msg: 152
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 4/1/2013 2:41:15 PM
@MsMicki, my ex wife had what you have and she could climax during penetration also. Reverse cow girl always did the trick.
 fun_real
Joined: 11/21/2010
Msg: 153
I can't cum with a guy
Posted: 4/1/2013 9:52:59 PM
There is 2 ways to get if off... Clitoral or Vaginal orgaasm, and the later is very difficult as we are not wired to fit right and especially after child birth..... Only certain positions like the famous G-drive can get a vaginal orgasm to happen, most of the time.... A clitoral orgasm is difficult with normal sex when the vagina is stretched and/or the clitoris is moved up from the entry of the vaginal cavity... I spent many years with a larger girl and the only thing that worked was closed legged sex.... She had to have her legs closed to get the clitoris in a good position for stimulation... And then engage in slow stimulationg thrusts out of centre, sort of circular.... Usually what feels good for him will also feel good for you.
Doing that for a few days in a row with your partner he will find it and learn how to please you, but its best to have regular sex too, as sometimes muscle memory is short, only a few days and then there is the issue of overstimulation of the male if sex happens weekly or monthly you havent got a chance....... Its a bit of a learning curve and if you say with it you can have some pretty awsome sex.... For both.... The closed legs will give him more stimulation too....
Cheers...
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
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Posted: 4/2/2013 6:41:32 AM

Also,I wonder if having a tilted uterus plays a role in the difficulties I have had coming vaginally.


Interesting concept... 2 women I have known were also with retroverted uterus and had much difficulty with orgasm and their g-spot would swell... but they reported little or no sensation on stimulation.... they also had burning sensations... not infection or lubrication or stimulation related at all..... the solution was to use aloe vera gel 100% with lidocaine internally pre-penetration to eliminate pain and allow the pleasure sensors to react more so... not a fix but a help
 HUMHUMA
Joined: 1/14/2018
Msg: 155
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Posted: 3/14/2018 3:07:57 AM
have had woman do the same ...ever tried helping him a bit.....nothing wrong with doing that....yep you can therapy your ass off but it might just be that simple....I like nothing more than to feel a woman assist some times....and no I have never had a woman not climax doing what I like.....teasing to the hilt and me ending up with my head between her soft thighs tasting her fruits....it's my forte and I love it!
 SiennaBear2
Joined: 12/2/2017
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Posted: 3/18/2018 1:26:45 AM
On my own I can multiple times but as soon as a guy is in the picture I can't once it seems like.
Perhaps it is because I didn't know them that well and hadn't been dating for that long. Otherwise I'm unsure.
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