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 justdeb1111
Joined: 8/12/2012
Msg: 516
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Maybe he was dazzled by a still married gal with a low fico score?

Solemn pause.
Duly noted, Clooney--you should be a relationship therapist.
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 517
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/1/2015 1:21:12 PM
Brrrrrrr.....

I avoid them marriage/family therapist profiles. They'd rip me a new a$$. Of course, they're divorced, so their credibility is about as good as a filthy car with a sign that says 'Auto Detailing'

Same with drug and alcohol abuse counselors, no thanks. Wine O'clock dammit!

This whole topic begs the 'men are more forgiving' thingy.

Some gals want to make sure this guy will end at the altar before any shagging happens, and they're not too dazzled by 3 ex's :)

So yeah, I tend to omit that little, itsy bitsy detail and duck and dodge as deftly as possible.

Ducking my head...
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 518
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/1/2015 1:24:36 PM

This whole topic begs the 'men are more forgiving' thingy.


...and then they show up as a demidar later on...lol
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 519
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/1/2015 1:27:50 PM

Who really lies about their age by a year or two?


16 year olds and 17 year olds who want to join the military during wartime and can't wait.

19 year olds and 20 year olds who want to drink alcohol in a bar.

19 year olds and 20 year olds who want to gamble in a casino.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 520
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/1/2015 1:46:19 PM

16 year olds and 17 year olds who want to join the military during wartime and can't wait.

19 year olds and 20 year olds who want to drink alcohol in a bar.

19 year olds and 20 year olds who want to gamble in a casino.


Well, color me bad. I thought we were talking about on here...dating profiles...and why adults
might lie.

Mr. Clooney...I can see where 3 exs might be a squinty eye sort of moment...but do women really
run when you tell them?
I admit, it sort of surprised me when I first heard...but now I see you as one of the good guys.
You omit this fact when first meeting so the women have a chance to get to know you first?
I don't see how this can be construed as lying. I think it takes a long time to get to know
EVERYTHING about someone. There are things about me that no one knows...and honestly
never will.
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 521
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/1/2015 1:55:06 PM
aha!! boo wears hats to hide the horns!! I knew there was more to them than just being pretty!
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 522
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Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/1/2015 2:03:35 PM

Who really lies about their age by a year or two?

^^^^^^^^^
Many do.
48/49 sounds better than 50.57 sounds better than 60 etc

Its like lying about weight/height on a dr lic or to your friends.
No one wants to be 5 ft 6 .3 They round it up to 5'7

Its just rounding down
No one wants to weigh 118 or 119 so they put 115 or 120, whatever.Round up or down depending.
People are number obsessed.
They dont make 142,650k a year either, its 150K

I dont care much anymore like iIused to and if its just a couple of years .pfft? No one would ever ask your age, weight, height in person. You are attracted and ask them out or you dont.

If you look like its a big diff, Ill say something.
But it can bite you in the azz.
I dated a guy whos BF dated this gal who said she was 32 ( I was about 40 at the time). If she was 32 I was 22. I swear she looked 50.
ROUGH as hell in the face.Lines and bags like crazy.
She tanned a lot, had bad genetics and wast a very healthy person.
I had her show me her license and she was NOT lying.
Talk about embarrassed.But I still thought she must have forged something..LORDY.
 justdeb1111
Joined: 8/12/2012
Msg: 523
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/1/2015 2:07:47 PM

Some gals want to make sure this guy will end at the altar before any shagging happens, and they're not too dazzled by 3 ex's :)


Clooneys, dear, between my mom, grandmom and myself we sat down once and figured out we had 13 ex's between us.

I believe it's a genetic problem--we have inherited crappy attention spans :)

boo said you are one of the nice guys, I concur--you were probably marrying them to be honorable. Don't sell yourself short, cupcakes, you are a hot catch.
 ThePig0fYourDreams
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 524
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/1/2015 2:10:23 PM
I am 45, but I just round it off to 25.
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 525
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/1/2015 2:11:38 PM
I wouldn't say they run Boo, but yeah, I get that squinty eyed look often.

Somehow, after we've imbibed some truth serum, the gals have this uncanny ability to extract these sexy details about me.

Less truth serum perhaps might help making the omissions easier.

See, that's the thing. If a gal was married multiple times? My only concern would be that her ex's are still alive.

I've encountered a few women that admittedly ran background checks on their previous dates to inquire into his job history. Whether or not they did this to provoke honest answers? Don't know, but not very attractive.

Telling me on the phone that she had her private investigator friend run a background check on her 3rd date with him, does not get you a first date with me.
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 6/22/2012
Msg: 526
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/1/2015 2:16:09 PM

Used vehicles always have a myriad of things 'wrong' with them, but if a dealer advertised it as a 2007 model instead of 2005, how significant is that compared to the true condition of the car?



Hey, who am I to argue if you will buy a vehicle that's listed as a 2007 but you later find out it's actually a 2005 and you are paying the added price both at the beginning and during the time you own the vehicle because of the deception. I wouldn't continue owning a vehicle under those conditions. It's called truth in advertising, and isn't revealing your age when looking for a relationship the same thing? If you have no problem with it, all the power to you, but don't complain about the problems that arise because it started out as no big deal to you.


When it comes to relationship euphemisms, 'Buying' the car is putting the cart ahead of the horse. Anyone worth their salt is going to track the VIN number and do one of those CarFax Accident reports and make sure they have the facts straight before 'Buying' the car.

In relationship terms, that's what 'dating' is about. It's the test drive - it's kicking the tires - it's running the A/C at full blast to see if it overheats - it's the traveling out to the lot to see the vehicle - it's checking with past owners and mechanics and other people who have driven similar cars to understand what they are all about. Sometimes the make and model don't even matter if the type of vehicle works well for your lifestyle and it's in good condition.

'BUYING' happens when you decide to commit to a relationship.

What people are doing here - in online dating - is substituting an internet ad for the ENTIRE shopping and testing experience. Without making any effort to shop or test anything - they want a guarantee this car is everything that was EXACTLY as advertised, and more, and wont break down when they show up at the lot sight unseen and buy the car outright. If you are still insisting you will leave because of a number being off on the website ad - then I say you never really wanted that type of vehicle anyway.

I'm not going to 'Buy' into a relationship without my due shopping diligence. Even taking it home overnight doesn't mean it's going to work with me well or consistently. I know stuff may leak or it may squeak or some bulbs may be burned out - THAT I can fix - but if I can't get enough years of reliability without a total breakdown, THEN I know it's not worth the effort.
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 527
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/1/2015 2:19:55 PM
So you'll take her home for awhile until you find out she's not long term compatible.

Hmmm......
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 528
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/1/2015 2:41:03 PM
Well, again, danimal, whatever floats your own personal boat. I'm six years older than my guy and didn't feel the need to round down by even a couple of years in order to elicit interest, nor did he feel the need to round up. My own personal choice is to use clues of honesty in small things as a barometer for what I would likely encounter for bigger issues. It seems to work for me because I haven't gone through strings of men by overlooking what, to me, is a sign of potential future conflict in the area of honesty when it comes to fabricated age or anything else that gives me pause when determining an individual's integrity.
 newoldgirl
Joined: 4/16/2015
Msg: 529
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/1/2015 3:15:44 PM

Us guys are used to having fib about their age, especially to knock it down to avoid a 0 or a 5.


Oh you HAVE to lie? Oh, sorry, FIB. It must be so hard for you, to not have a mind of your own. I mean, it's like the only way to get around a woman's specifically chosen and STATED age preferences is to lie, in order to assert YOUR will and YOUR choice over hers.


You are back to the "amount' of the lie again. It doesn't matter, because AGE is objective.
....................................................................................................................................................
Even about age there's an Amount, objective or even if it were subjective ("old, young, kinda old, kinda young, college-age-ish", etc VS numbers).


Okay, at this point I begin to seriously question your ability to understand the English language. You see, the question "how old are you?" has a specific meaning. It has do with a birth date (day/month/year). That is all. It has no subjective meaning. It is an objective question with one true, accurate answer. All other answers are lies, and in the instance of lying about it in the context of a dating website it has the specific intention of duping someone.

I'm done explaining this to you. You are not rational on this topic.


A friend of mine did when he turned 40 so he could fit into a lot of women's age limit of whatever to 39... and then again when he turned 41.
I doubt he was the only one to ever do this.


So true. I mean what right do women (or men) have to have some sort of ridiculous age preference? Who they **** do they think they are making their own choices like that? I agree; they should have NO choice in matter. They probably don't even mean it, and even if they did mean it, surely they would make an exception for YOUR FRIEND because he's such an awesome and wonderful individual. I mean, apart from the LYING.
 spot4username
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 530
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/5/2015 4:28:11 PM
There is a man in my area that has a profile here, on Match, and on the OK site. Same photos give or take one or two (depending on the limits of the site) and same username or very close to it on all sites. His profiles are all basically the same. His age is different on all three profiles. On the one here he says he is 51 and women must be younger than 50 to message him (according to the bottom of his profile where he has set the parameters). Clearly this guy is just a straight up liar. I would never have any interest in meeting him for a date or really ever even being his friend. I have no interest in anyone who has a character flaw that tells them lying is something that is acceptable.
 LuvFishes
Joined: 7/1/2011
Msg: 531
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/25/2015 3:00:53 PM
In my profile I have Deal breakers: one of them is lying about your age. It goes to character, if you can't be honest about that what else is being omitted, not accurate. YMMV...

I will also tell you one of my long 4 going on 5 yrs cyber pals lies about his age for so called security issues. It took me 4 or 5 mins to find out his real age... but to this day his profiles have the wrong date of birth including month and day.
 HalftimeDad
Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 532
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/26/2015 7:56:06 AM
I hate, hate, hate astrology. If I were to make a profile today, I would put in a random birthday.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 533
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/26/2015 12:59:36 PM

I hate, hate, hate astrology. If I were to make a profile today, I would put in a random birthday.

That's a lot of energy around it - to go out of your way to 'falsify' your profile to avoid the auto-astrology field (if you were to make another profile - which, given the state of deletions here that could be any day)? Think I've heard it all now.

I'd rather just ignore/not respond to an astrology-believer who makes contact. But that's just me.
 clamdigger50
Joined: 12/17/2015
Msg: 534
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/26/2015 5:48:35 PM
Ignore the astrology believers? I'd probably do that too if I was asked "what's your sign?" I also don't want to date anyone who thinks someone who lies about their age by a year or two is somehow on par with a serial murderer or will automatically lie about EVERYTHING as I think they would tend to be melodramatic or a little less likely to make rational life decisions. JMO. Have you ever asked a potential suitor their age...in real life? Do you meet Susie or Sam at a few cation and they ask you out for a drink no...do you automatically ask "oh, how old are you?" I can guarantee that if weight was required on here, 95% of women would lie.
 Swimalittlecloser
Joined: 9/9/2015
Msg: 535
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/26/2015 8:27:00 PM
"Does it matter if he lies about his age."

You can only answer that question.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 536
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/27/2015 12:15:30 AM
This may surprise you, but you should never list your birth-date or age on a dating site - that's personal information which could be used against you by unscrupulous people. You do realize that there are firms out there trying to build folders of everyone's personal information, don't you? Google information brokers if you don't believe me. Safety first.

So, every single one of you who have suggested being truthful in a profile on this matter are putting yourselves at risk.

That said, it's not the best idea to pretend you are 20 or even 10 years younger than you really are. While it's not a sin, it's not ideal either, and will probably create more problems for you in the long run when it comes to finding a match (trust issues, reality, etc.).
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 537
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/27/2015 4:44:08 AM

This may surprise you, but you should never list your birth-date or age on a dating site - that's personal information which could be used against you by unscrupulous people.


That reminds me of a former (maybe still current) poster who was deeply into astrology, who not only wanted a person's birth date listed in their first message to her, but also wanted the guy's exact time and location of birth-also in the first introductory message. She would do her astrology magic and use the information to determine if they're a match, which would determine if there's any point to messaging and eventually meeting to get to know one another. Or maybe it's all a big act to get personal information on strangers for whatever reason.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 538
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/27/2015 7:30:06 PM

That reminds me of a former (maybe still current) poster who was deeply into astrology, who not only wanted a person's birth date listed in their first message to her, but also wanted the guy's exact time and location of birth-also in the first introductory message. She would do her astrology magic and use the information to determine if they're a match, which would determine if there's any point to messaging and eventually meeting to get to know one another. Or maybe it's all a big act to get personal information on strangers for whatever reason.


Act or not, if a prospective date brought up Astrology, it was an instant deal-breaker. I didn't consider that person to be intelligent enough to date.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/27/2015 7:56:29 PM

clamdigger50
Ignore the astrology believers? I'd probably do that too if I was asked "what's your sign?" I also don't want to date anyone who thinks someone who lies about their age by a year or two is somehow on par with a serial murderer or will automatically lie about EVERYTHING as I think they would tend to be melodramatic or a little less likely to make rational life decisions. JMO. Have you ever asked a potential suitor their age...in real life? Do you meet Susie or Sam at a few cation and they ask you out for a drink no...do you automatically ask "oh, how old are you?" I can guarantee that if weight was required on here, 95% of women would lie.

I do not lie about my age, or height. I keep hearing stories about people doing that, and I absolutely cannot fathom why. It is going to be obvious when you meet. I would hate, absolutely, positively hate, to meet some woman and see a look of disappointment or disbelief on her face. That would devastate me.

I have been in the position, several times, where I was the one with the look of disappointment. I tried to hide it, and be polite for 20 or 30 minutes. But I’m sure they saw it on my face …

And yes, you are absolutely correct about not asking age when you meet in real life. I have dated women for weeks, or even months, before I happened to find out exactly how old they are. Gentlemen in my age bracket were brought up to believe that you never ask a lady her age. You may ask her (discreetly, of course) about the possibility of some ohh-la-la, but never her age!
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 12/28/2015 12:25:43 AM
why not meet him and see how warm he really is and how he looks? It cant hurt. People lying about their age is hardly a crime in my book. If he confesses to his true age early on and you like him, then all good.
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