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 clamdigger50
Joined: 12/17/2015
Msg: 534
Does it matter if he lies about his agePage 21 of 23    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23)
Ignore the astrology believers? I'd probably do that too if I was asked "what's your sign?" I also don't want to date anyone who thinks someone who lies about their age by a year or two is somehow on par with a serial murderer or will automatically lie about EVERYTHING as I think they would tend to be melodramatic or a little less likely to make rational life decisions. JMO. Have you ever asked a potential suitor their age...in real life? Do you meet Susie or Sam at a few cation and they ask you out for a drink no...do you automatically ask "oh, how old are you?" I can guarantee that if weight was required on here, 95% of women would lie.
 Swimalittlecloser
Joined: 9/9/2015
Msg: 535
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/26/2015 8:27:00 PM
"Does it matter if he lies about his age."

You can only answer that question.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 536
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/27/2015 12:15:30 AM
This may surprise you, but you should never list your birth-date or age on a dating site - that's personal information which could be used against you by unscrupulous people. You do realize that there are firms out there trying to build folders of everyone's personal information, don't you? Google information brokers if you don't believe me. Safety first.

So, every single one of you who have suggested being truthful in a profile on this matter are putting yourselves at risk.

That said, it's not the best idea to pretend you are 20 or even 10 years younger than you really are. While it's not a sin, it's not ideal either, and will probably create more problems for you in the long run when it comes to finding a match (trust issues, reality, etc.).
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 537
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/27/2015 4:44:08 AM

This may surprise you, but you should never list your birth-date or age on a dating site - that's personal information which could be used against you by unscrupulous people.


That reminds me of a former (maybe still current) poster who was deeply into astrology, who not only wanted a person's birth date listed in their first message to her, but also wanted the guy's exact time and location of birth-also in the first introductory message. She would do her astrology magic and use the information to determine if they're a match, which would determine if there's any point to messaging and eventually meeting to get to know one another. Or maybe it's all a big act to get personal information on strangers for whatever reason.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 538
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/27/2015 7:30:06 PM

That reminds me of a former (maybe still current) poster who was deeply into astrology, who not only wanted a person's birth date listed in their first message to her, but also wanted the guy's exact time and location of birth-also in the first introductory message. She would do her astrology magic and use the information to determine if they're a match, which would determine if there's any point to messaging and eventually meeting to get to know one another. Or maybe it's all a big act to get personal information on strangers for whatever reason.


Act or not, if a prospective date brought up Astrology, it was an instant deal-breaker. I didn't consider that person to be intelligent enough to date.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 539
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Posted: 12/27/2015 7:56:29 PM

clamdigger50
Ignore the astrology believers? I'd probably do that too if I was asked "what's your sign?" I also don't want to date anyone who thinks someone who lies about their age by a year or two is somehow on par with a serial murderer or will automatically lie about EVERYTHING as I think they would tend to be melodramatic or a little less likely to make rational life decisions. JMO. Have you ever asked a potential suitor their age...in real life? Do you meet Susie or Sam at a few cation and they ask you out for a drink no...do you automatically ask "oh, how old are you?" I can guarantee that if weight was required on here, 95% of women would lie.

I do not lie about my age, or height. I keep hearing stories about people doing that, and I absolutely cannot fathom why. It is going to be obvious when you meet. I would hate, absolutely, positively hate, to meet some woman and see a look of disappointment or disbelief on her face. That would devastate me.

I have been in the position, several times, where I was the one with the look of disappointment. I tried to hide it, and be polite for 20 or 30 minutes. But I’m sure they saw it on my face …

And yes, you are absolutely correct about not asking age when you meet in real life. I have dated women for weeks, or even months, before I happened to find out exactly how old they are. Gentlemen in my age bracket were brought up to believe that you never ask a lady her age. You may ask her (discreetly, of course) about the possibility of some ohh-la-la, but never her age!
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 12/28/2015 12:25:43 AM
why not meet him and see how warm he really is and how he looks? It cant hurt. People lying about their age is hardly a crime in my book. If he confesses to his true age early on and you like him, then all good.
 Anand_scientist
Joined: 11/27/2015
Msg: 541
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/28/2015 2:12:48 AM

I do not lie about my age, or height. I keep hearing stories about people doing that, and I absolutely cannot fathom why. It is going to be obvious when you meet. I would hate, absolutely, positively hate, to meet some woman and see a look of disappointment or disbelief on her face. That would devastate me.


That's how I feel, too.

Who wants a relationship based on lies?

I would never do that to any to any woman. I would never do that to the lady I love.
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 10/31/2015
Msg: 542
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Posted: 12/28/2015 7:17:33 AM

I do not lie about my age, or height. I keep hearing stories about people doing that, and I absolutely cannot fathom why. It is going to be obvious when you meet. I would hate, absolutely, positively hate, to meet some woman and see a look of disappointment or disbelief on her face. That would devastate me.


Guess what? It STILL happens. I don't have anything dishonest in my profile, and yet, the last two dates I had got that, "Who farted?" look on their face the first time we made eye contact. People get stupid notions in their head of what a person is SUPPOSED to be like all the time, and it really doesn't matter what people say or put in their profiles if they decide their fantasy is better than the real thing.

It's sad when you see someone that you don't even recognize from the internet - but it happens. People change outfits, hair colors and styles, lose weight and gain weight - face it, we are always changing, evolving every single day. Our profiles do not -or at least not as often as we do. I added the Christmas photo for the holiday to my profile, which clearly has a date code of '2011' on it. A few of the other pics are from THIS summer. Can you tell the difference? I really don't see any, and I still look like those pics, so I use them. If you want to crucify me for 'lying' about current truth in advertising, then let Ye Who Is Without Sin drive in the first nail.

People who believe everything on the internet should be perfect and honest are lying. They are lying to themselves. A little bit of skepticism is a good thing. I little bit of objectivity in realizing how two people communicate is NOT a perfect art - is practically a requirement.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 8/14/2015
Msg: 543
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/28/2015 2:03:14 PM
^^^^I see what you are typing...and I get it.
But I have to say, your main profile picture doesn't look like
your other pictures.

But you can't go by me. I hardly ever recognize people when
they show me their license when writing a check. Could be a
stolen license for all I know.
 BeckyHT
Joined: 1/1/2013
Msg: 544
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Posted: 12/28/2015 2:20:14 PM


This may surprise you, but you should never list your birth-date or age on a dating site - that's personal information which could be used against you by unscrupulous people. You do realize that there are firms out there trying to build folders of everyone's personal information, don't you? Google information brokers if you don't believe me. Safety first.

So, every single one of you who have suggested being truthful in a profile on this matter are putting yourselves at risk.

That said, it's not the best idea to pretend you are 20 or even 10 years younger than you really are. While it's not a sin, it's not ideal either, and will probably create more problems for you in the long run when it comes to finding a match (trust issues, reality, etc.).


I agree with hemingway here.

Never use your real age.
Never use any part of your real name.
Never use your real occupation.

A worthwhile partner candidate will understand that you seek privacy and protection first.
 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 545
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 12/28/2015 3:37:26 PM
Does it matter if she/he lists themselves as a few extra pounds when clearly their pics show differently????????

I can see 5 pounds or even 10 pounds...

But what easily looks like at least 20 if not 40 or 50 or...

A lie or just fudging the facts?

Or perhaps folks utilizing pics that might be from the 90's?

I have seen plenty of ladies profiles where they list their TRUE age somewhere within their profile. I certiny have no issue with it if they can "pull off" the age they list.
 ICEMAN850
Joined: 12/22/2014
Msg: 546
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Posted: 1/7/2016 11:37:35 AM

I have been speaking to a lovely, warm person on POF. I was ready to take the next step and meet him but his last message to me seems to indicate that he has been less then honest about his age. His age does not matter but can I trust him or shall I call it a day.


So let me get this straight.... Women wear fake hair, nails, lashes and contacts to change the color of their eyes.....Buy fake b00bs, lips and butts....get botox......but want a real man?!?!?!?

All Righty then!!!!
 deetristate
Joined: 12/4/2014
Msg: 547
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 1/7/2016 11:56:35 AM
Many men prefer the fake. Or so it seems, particularly the front and rear.LOL.

Anyway, age is so insignificant. What if he said that he had kids who were great and one was in jail and one a druggies?

All just excuses , it seems. How high and mighty the people who fudge on their sleep around habits . Ha! A

No. Would not matter.

Well, unless I was a man and she told me that she is 25 when she is actually 13,
 SunshineGirl__
Joined: 10/7/2014
Msg: 548
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 1/7/2016 12:04:42 PM
^^^ gawd that’s weak. Msg. 548

Do “real men” use Viagra? IMO that trumps any enhancements a woman would use.

Let’s see….fake fingernails v. limp noodle……yeah no.
 kandykane111
Joined: 12/3/2015
Msg: 549
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 1/7/2016 12:12:23 PM
I don't have a problem with some man that has to use viagra. At least he is interested and willing and with the help of a pill, able. What the hell, many women fake it in bed, its much harder for a man to just lay there and go "oh god,oh god". I'm wondering why you ^^^ even mentioned Viagra.

I get the fake boobs, fake nails, fake hair, etc. - it is no different than fudging 5 years or 10 pounds. Its not the end of the world.
 ICEMAN850
Joined: 12/22/2014
Msg: 550
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Posted: 1/7/2016 12:16:17 PM

^^^ gawd that’s weak. Msg. 548

Do “real men” use Viagra? IMO that trumps any enhancements a woman would use.

Let’s see….fake fingernails v. limp noodle……yeah no.


Lets see one is a medical condition the other is brought on by vanity.

Touchy aren't we? I was merely pointing out the hypocrisy of the OP.

Although your response was what I was expecting from some here. Most can take it for what it was a humorous jab at the topic.
 RedRockRascal5
Joined: 12/11/2013
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Posted: 1/7/2016 3:50:08 PM
I’m not going to read the whole 2 years worth of posts here so I don’t know if this has been mentioned so here is one aspect of the age question: Given that all websites are prone to being hacked giving out personal ID info seems to be not the smartest thing to do. In fact if someone doesn’t adjust their age I now wonder how smart they may be.

When I meet women for the first time I show them my DL and tell them why my age is offset a bit. All have gotten it and had no problem with it.
 atlast250
Joined: 12/18/2015
Msg: 552
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 1/7/2016 4:06:05 PM

Lets see one is a medical condition the other is brought on by vanity.

Touchy aren't we? I was merely pointing out the hypocrisy of the OP.

Although your response was what I was expecting from some here. Most can take it for what it was a humorous jab at the topic.


Touchy? Shyt she can't wait for a male poster. That's her motivation to come back every day, another chance to post some gender bashing. Absolutely thrives on it.
 PerseidsShootingStar
Joined: 1/3/2016
Msg: 554
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 1/23/2016 12:36:50 PM
I like your attitude - it was only an hour of your time and you learned something from it.

I personally wince when I read comments like "people say I look younger" or similar. I think each person could pretty much be their own jugde on whether you do or don't look like. Sometimes it is sheer ego. Your date obviously was perhaps such a case proving it by embelishment and wanting a partner who looked around the age he thought he looked? Still not the same, no matter what color crayon you use - 10 years is 10 years.
 2ufo
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 555
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 1/23/2016 1:09:28 PM


^^^ gawd that’s weak. Msg. 548

Do “real men” use Viagra? IMO that trumps any enhancements a woman would use.

Let’s see….fake fingernails v. limp noodle……yeah no.


Lets see one is a medical condition the other is brought on by vanity.


Vanity, indeed.
Obviously you haven't been to the 'using Viagra to have sex with unattractive girls for practice' thread.

It's a hoot.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 12/24/2015
Msg: 556
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 1/23/2016 1:51:53 PM
Wow. Not sure who made the emasculating statement quoted above about Viagra, but that sounds like some pretty serious man hating. Somebody must have been hurt bad, I reckon. (Or maybe just pissed 'cause a guy couldn't get it up?)
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 557
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Posted: 1/23/2016 2:01:43 PM
What happened to the OP ?

Her last post was almost 3 years ago ..... she's still single according to her profile....
 SunshineGirl__
Joined: 10/7/2014
Msg: 558
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Posted: 1/23/2016 2:09:15 PM
Ha ha….yes, everyone knows men aren’t vain (or insecure) about their penises and the only men using Viagra are elderly and/or sick.
 2ufo
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 559
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 1/23/2016 2:33:44 PM

Wow. Not sure who made the emasculating statement quoted above about Viagra, but that sounds like some pretty serious man hating. Somebody must have been hurt bad, I reckon. (Or maybe just pissed 'cause a guy couldn't get it up?)


I don't have fake fingernails or eyelash extensions so, no 'emasculation intended but one guy in the 'having sex with ugly girls for practice' said that's what he did.
At least, that's how I read his convolutions.
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