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 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
Msg: 21
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Practice.

Hit on every woman with a pulse if you are that desperate for experience haha. If you want to graduate to the upper level to hit on the 10's you need to build your skills up. Hope this helps!
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 22
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 3/3/2013 10:38:15 AM
Oh good lord, grow a set, would you? Honestly, what do you have to lose? So what if you approach a woman and she rejects you? Eventually one will not reject you! Just put yourself out there, and fake it till you make it. You honestly have NOTHING to lose. Face the firing squad bravely and run the gauntlet of lovely women until you can pass through the trial by fire unscathed. Nothing is more attractive to a woman than bold confidence, so go fake some until you find some!
 baronobeefdip2
Joined: 7/17/2012
Msg: 23
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 3/3/2013 11:37:20 AM
approach is a gamble, people who try will end up with better chances of being a success, while those that don't will never get anything. Just remember that rejection is easier to put up with once you start doing this enough (for women not so much you reject them they go into a spiraling state of depression since the are move by affection mentally while us guys let our little friend in our pants make all the decisions for us, but at least the dumb ones do. Let your brain win the game of chess that he is challenging you junk at (Seinfeld reference of course lol)) Like I said rejection is much more drastic for them than us so that's a lot of episodes of Oprah she needs to watch to get over it. I will always bring my friends but in some cases don't let her know they are your friends. A great way to put it off is say really lout (This is hilarious) "Man if she didn't go for that line she's obviously a lesbian!!". Naturally she gets upset but ridicule is your best weapon against stereotypical observation and judgementalness. It has always worked for me since it makes them feel bad about what they have done just now I think it lowers their self esteem sometimes since this almost says that she is either worthless or has her standards too high and will likely end up dying alone.
 Doremi_Fasolatido
Joined: 2/14/2009
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Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 3/3/2013 12:14:29 PM
So, having a 9 or a 10 woman to be your girl is your aspiration? That's cool, we all have different goals in life.

Maybe some advice though. Not just me but others have noticed this too. While you work your way up the ladder of ladies to that elusive "10" you seek. Don't make babies with every 5 or 6 along the way, or flavor of the week. That just causes heartache and will ultimately empty your wallet.

Most "10" rated women probably expect you to pay for the date.
 James8330
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 25
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/3/2013 9:59:56 AM
One of the biggest lessons I had to learn in life and honestly I am still learning it is that nothing comes easy in life. In order to overcome your fears you have to face them. In order to be great at your craft it takes hard work and dedication. And in your journey to becoming great at your craft you have understand and except that you are going to make mistakes / fail along the way. But that's how you get better. Think about some of the great ones you have seen in their era..... ( Michael Jordan hand a hard time making the basketball team, he ended up being the best player of all time , even Bruce Lee lost his first fight ) . So don't worry about saying the wrong thing or getting turned down . That is how you get better and you will be able to talk to any women you see after that. You will be surprised that some of the most attractive women in the world are the easiest to talk too and keep in mind that they are no better than you. They bleed once a month like all the other women in the world.... Quote by Tupac
 Bluegold007
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 26
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/3/2013 10:10:17 AM
I always liked Cawkblawkers posts, too awesome. And O.P, you thought maybe, just maybe your not as good looking as you think you are? So many average guys on here over rate their hawtness, i just never understood it at all.
 Bluegold007
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 27
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/3/2013 11:01:31 AM
O.P, if you were that good looking, belive me, women would chase you, yes that means actually approach you in person. In reality, your an average guy. Most of us are. 60 percent of guys are average
 James8330
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 28
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/3/2013 11:39:25 AM
LMAO..... WOLFTXUSA 66 and NARDO 28 both are just jealous because CAWBLAWKER didn't tell them they were attractive. As far as DOLEMITE411 you have no confidence so of course you would think CAWBLAWKER is being sarcastic. That is a grown ass woman , I think she can find other ways to entertain herself other playing with your head. Life is hard enough as it is and people don't compliment each other like talkin about it in this world. Consider yourself lucky.
 lostinalostworld
Joined: 2/2/2013
Msg: 29
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/3/2013 12:59:23 PM
I think someone should alert Wikipedia to change their definition of good looking, based on the op.
 tooborednow
Joined: 1/13/2013
Msg: 30
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/3/2013 2:02:17 PM

But when I think in my mind to approach I freeze up..I feel like somehow and someway Ill be rejected and made to look like a fool..

IMO/IME this is common in things like job interviews.
You interview for the friar guy at McDonald's, no problem. You interview for the CEO, oh noes!
IMO/IME the problem is wanting something from the other person, the more valued it is the more you want it.
Ultimately objectifying them as a means to an end.
That puts them in a position of power over you.
They are a gatekeeper and you are insecure because you don't have the key to get past them.
You don't really want to talk to them, you don't value the exchange, you just want what you idealize about what they can give you.
You want something and you weren't handed something easy they want in order to get it from them, so your mind fills up with all sorts of things you want to try to dazzle them, give them smoke and mirrors, that they might value, in order to buy it from them.
It's not like your relationship with your mother where you've had years of practice to learn exactly what they want in order to give you what you want.


What do I do and where do i start to work on this issue of mines internally?

Two ways you can do it.
Starts with how you want to look at the problem.

Do you want to continue seeing other people as objects, a means to get your desire fulfilled, as a collection of traits that improve or represent your identity, as is pretty evident throughout this thread?
Or do you want to see them as actual human beings, flawed, and individual, equal to you?

The former is really easy to overcome.
The second is very difficult and could take years to never to overcome.

Toastmasters, get a job waiting tables, whatever, if you simply see people as objects those methods only help you build up your social facade, learn what other people want, and then become more adapt at getting them to believe what you offer is more than skin deep, and worth more than you are getting from them. The more proficient you become, the longer you can keep the facade up, but it will come down eventually, and guarantees failure of anything meaningful long term.
But by that time you might have gotten what you want from them.

If you want to see people as actual human beings, flawed, individual, equal to you, and pound for pound having absolutely nothing more to offer you than you have to offer them, ever, then IMO I think you need to build up the strength of your character beginning with lots of identifying your realistic strengths and weaknesses and realistically accepting those things that are "bad" about yourself. Then identifying the cause and effect of your own actions and motivators. Positive and negative. Then work on directly facing and mitigating the "bad" things you know are there and are simply not going to change.

All while being constantly vigilant about shirking responsibility, such as blaming your past, or coddling yourself, such as self rationalizing a weakness like "my weakness is I care too much," or avoiding the hard work of looking deeply.
That's simply how you start "to work on this issue of mines internally."
 that_ol_lady
Joined: 4/19/2013
Msg: 31
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/3/2013 2:57:56 PM

dolemite411

I honestly dont see how People could think Im looking for attention when this is a real issue of mines..Ive had kids with women who were SOOO infatuated with me and I settled for that..Because it made me feel good that a woman thought I was so Attractive and showing me off to their friends and family like "Look what Ive got" ..But of course I get bored with that..I be wanting the sexy lady I just passed in the store and I feel like I dont even have the guts to go get her ya kno..its all confusing to me sometimes but honestly the walking up and introducing myself part is theee..i would say 2nd to the hardest..the 1st hardest and most difficult thing for me is the conversation after my name..its like I have a million things to talk about racing in my mind and once Im there BAM ...total nervousness and a Loss for good topics to cover




dolemite411

Thanks for responding..whew Man you hit it on the nail..I try to keep in mind like they are just like me..just people and they have feelings too..But you kno how women are..especially those "unreachables" ..i like that..cause thats how I feel about em..unreachable..cant get the number..and a Date?!! forget it..its like I cancel myself out before they even get a chance to..and like i said..im just being honest..Alot of women think I have SOOO many females..and on my end..its like I dont have many or a few..or any at all if we really gonna be honest..the FWB dont count cause they really Dont wanna be in that category they wanna be in a relationship..and on my end..Im like well..Ive had women like them already..Had kids by em and everything..and its like..will i go the rest of my life with the 5's and 6's..or will I aim for the 9's or 10's because I never had one and If i find one and she is interested..Will I be able to have a long term relationship with such a woman..



Dam you gotta bigger ego then Kanye but atleast hes gettin paid for it..

so the 5 an 6 scale women are not good enough for you to date or marry but you continue to have kids with them an are still currently sleeping with them..ummm okie dokie

you want the 10 model vixens an just want to reach that all american dream? so you can be the 1 bragging to your boys about look at what i got now..umm okie dokie

so what happens when you reach your "dream" will she be baby mama number 5 or 6? an how many kids will that be added on to the list..will you get bored of her an move on to the next after the shine wears off..

wow you must be making your own toilet paper cause you the s hit..
 annywn
Joined: 4/17/2012
Msg: 32
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/3/2013 6:53:52 PM
Op, you shoul realize that you are the cats meow , cause the whole world does but you are ignoring us. Maybe get a tshirt made with a kittycat face or some big buttons, yes , buttons, and this way those that I are just to afraid to I worship your awesomeness , can safely crawl at your feet.
Take some pity on the rest of us as we will all be hard up for dates, men and women both, because who are we kidding we all want you, so just spare a few throwbacks you are done with to us peasants. I shall patiently await my turn to bask in the glow of your awesomess.
 GJBrown
Joined: 9/12/2011
Msg: 33
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/3/2013 8:15:16 PM
Try looking in the mirror and liking the person you see. When approaching a woman be polite and funny and have good eye contact

I'm shy but been trying to get out of it. But it seems every girl i approach says they have a boyfriend. In the past 3 months the 2 girls that did give me their number also claimed they had boyfriends after we started to talk or text.
last girl just gave me a wrong number!

My experience on here has made it even harder to approach women offline. Especially white women! ha
 fieryredhead77
Joined: 12/17/2012
Msg: 34
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/3/2013 9:06:58 PM
cawkblocker - you are awesome. I think he might have been trying to flirt with you or something. Maybe he doesn't want to live with you in the van by the river. (your profile is awesome too.)

Bold spark - omg - I laughed so hard at that mayo comment.

OP - Really - you mean you can't talk to beautiful people. Must be rough. So just date people on your level then. I personally try to only approach the really really beautiful people. For some reason regular folks are afaid of them and they are perceptive. Weird.
 bradster1979
Joined: 2/9/2013
Msg: 35
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/3/2013 9:19:44 PM
I think everyone has been there Dolemite,

After it’s all said and done, you relive that experience like you are now. You punish yourself long enough that you’d rather risk it all then live with yourself that night for failing. It takes time.

I used to be shy as hell. Mainly because the times I did ask I was always rejected, still am lol. The difference now is I don’t care.

It’s rare for me to ask these days, mainly due to the few options left. Last one I asked said yes. Sadly she wasn’t for me. However yes finds its way in there sooner or later.

Beat yourself up enough and you won’t let it happen again. Doesn’t happen overnight but you’ll get there. Your already half way there, you’ll see.
 monocryl
Joined: 3/4/2013
Msg: 36
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/3/2013 9:51:19 PM
Dolemite,
I had sympathy for you until I read this:

Ive had kids with women who were SOOO infatuated with me and I settled for that..Because it made me feel good that a woman thought I was so Attractive and showing me off to their friends and family like "Look what Ive got" ..But of course I get bored with that..

The "sexy lady" can smell this attitude a mile away.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 37
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/10/2013 12:34:37 PM
This is one of the funniest threads ever. What a hoot.
 SilentInk
Joined: 3/20/2010
Msg: 38
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/10/2013 1:23:55 PM

Ive had kids with women who were SOOO infatuated with me and I settled for that..Because it made me feel good that a woman thought I was so Attractive and showing me off to their friends and family like "Look what Ive got"


...Yet on your profile it states you don't have kids. Did you get bored of the women and your kids too? If you are looking for that "9 or a 10" woman I will tell you one thing is they like everyone else won't tolerate liars. So saying you have no kids when in reality you have what sounds like a couple from different women is a huge turn off to say the least.


..But of course I get bored with that


Lightly put, you got bored because there is nothing occupying your brain. You do realize looks are not everything when it comes to having a relationship. In your mind a hot girl is like a trophy that you will carry and everyone (again in your mind) will praise you and bow down and say "wow you are the man". In reality nobody gives a hoot whether you have a 1 or a 5 or a 15 hanging on your arm.

And this post was not a cry for help IMO, it was a cry for attention because judging by your half naked pic you are full of yourself (which by the way there is nothing wrong with being overly confident so long as you admit it).
 QT3.18
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 39
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/10/2013 3:34:05 PM
Who was it that said, "Youth is wasted on the young"?

Whoever it was, they were right. :)
 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
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Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/10/2013 4:58:58 PM
I was sincerely wanting to help the OP and was kinda agreeing with him on some things...but then ...well, not so much. I can see where this thread is going .... Not up to that kind of merry go round today, so think I will stay out of the line of fire. So, choose your weapons. Pistols? Excellent...Take 10 spaces, turn and fire...
 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
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Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/10/2013 5:54:38 PM
^^^^^smirk....snicker.....snort.....giggle......roflmfao....

I have a bottle of cinnamon whiskey I am getting ready to open...just sayin....
 Bearfish13
Joined: 11/3/2012
Msg: 42
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/11/2013 8:06:21 AM
Here is what i was told by a friend of mine

"Do whatever that makes you comfortable" if approaching isn't your thing then you shouldn't stress about it, some are better at other facets of meeting women than others, however if this something you want to change you are well within your power to do so, Good luck OP
 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
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Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/12/2013 11:09:23 AM
OT-no, no, no...the correct saying is life is wasted on the stupid...I really wish you'd get these things right.
 mickey_moose
Joined: 3/26/2013
Msg: 44
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/12/2013 8:30:56 PM
Op
there is no such thing as a 5 or 6 women , they're are all 10's...
Looks fade over time , it's what is inside that shines above all else .

Maybe by 26+ years of age , women aren't looking for a 15 year old gangster wanna be

Profile Review is in another section .
 lostnfoundluv
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 45
Im Good Looking and Women stare and smile left and right..But im too shy to approach with confidence
Posted: 5/18/2013 8:22:13 AM
learning english here sorry ! does good looking means also scary ????
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