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 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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freud, at our age, 50 is young.

Mixed post there, young and married, or don't have the experience?

And what sort of experience were you looking for these younger women lacked? Want to talk about old episodes of howdy doody time? They need to know how to drive a tractor?

When I was talking about maturity, I wondered if those that are 60 are all that more mature than 45, and if so, when we get to 80, will we look back thinking we were immature at 60?

Line dancing, must be something to it, went to a singles thing in previous decade and some met at a place that does line dancing, several women not from that group wanted to help me learn. At the time, I also didn't really want to get all that involved, but I was surprised.

Cologne, why didn't I think of that before???

There is no reason to date if you don't really want to. Maybe you really have mixed feelings about it. I didn't feel like dating from 2002 – 2008, I was busy with many other things and really didn't even think about it. It was really only serendipity that got me back to serious dating.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 52
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Posted: 3/14/2013 1:24:12 PM
And here I thought it was my cologne and rugged good looks......lmao


Well that too hehe....
But speaking of cologne..... that's another plus. One gets to snuggle up and enjoy the smell of a man's cologne. But be careful guys, don't overdue it. Nothing is worse than to be trapped in a man's arms trying not to breathe through your nose...lol


...mae
 Jennywillwin
Joined: 12/27/2011
Msg: 53
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Posted: 3/14/2013 1:43:13 PM
That was a great story you shared Freudian :)

There is this bar I go to once in a while. A friend of a friend was there, his name is George. George likes to dance, he was fun to hang out with. The owner of the place also likes to dance, he is quite a character (in a good way). I danced with him for one dance, I'm sure I wasn't good compared to the others who actually know how to salsa,etc., but so what, it was fun!!

There was this lone guy sitting by himself at the bar, I felt kinda bad for him. It was the closing song of the night and we all danced in one big circle (Greek style). I rushed closer to the bar and gave a "Come On, dance with us, it's the last dance." It didn't come but I danced, it capped off a great night.

As we exited and were walking, I noticed that non-dancer guy walking with us. It was only then that I found out he was a friend of George's!! We introduced ourselves and days later he contacted me, needless to say, we did not ever go out.

Who do you want in your life? The guy who dances or the guy who won't dance? I want the one who dances !!
 Freudian
Joined: 3/15/2010
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Posted: 3/14/2013 2:16:55 PM
Mixed post there, young and married, or don't have the experience?

Yes, I did a mess with the pronoun references there didn't I? What I meant was all the young ones, even the 40 somethings. Think about it, they're 20 years younger than me, I have a kid that old, and it would just be weird; early 50s is the bottom boundary, and I'm a tiny bit uncomfortable with that. And, any woman of any age that is married. I absolutely refuse to be part of messing up or with a family. Separated, waiting for the papers to arrive in the mail, maybe, but I'd have to think long and hard about that.

When I was talking about maturity, I wondered if those that are 60 are all that more mature than 45, and if so, when we get to 80, will we look back thinking we were immature at 60?

In my (albeit small) experience, they need years and years of life in order for me to feel comfortable. I watched the first moon landing live on television for crying out loud, sniffled when Kennedy was killed and yes I thought Princess Summerfallwinterspring was hot.

There is no reason to date if you don't really want to. Maybe you really have mixed feelings about it.

Ain't no mixed feeling here. All they have to do is be single, age appropriate, not stop a clock when they walk by, not be a whiny little 'poor me', and not go "POOF" when I ask for a meeting, and I'll take them for a really good Cajun dinner, a trip around the dance floor of a really fun place, and escort them home with no goodnight kiss expected. Then the next date will be a cooperative effort in my (freakin' huge and well equipped) kitchen of cooking dinner and something from the Red Box. Once again, with exactly zero expectations. However, the expectations start from that point on.

But, ... subject of another thread.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 55
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Posted: 3/14/2013 2:48:24 PM

Think about it, they're 20 years younger than me,


Are you talking to me?


I have a kid that old, and it would just be weird; early 50s is the bottom boundary, and I'm a tiny bit uncomfortable with that.


If something feels weird, it surely wouldn't work, I have often posted that most will want to stay within their age range. Forum wisdom is an oxymoron.


And, any woman of any age that is married. I absolutely refuse to be part of messing up or with a family.


Neither of us suggest an affair with a married woman, we were talking about dancing. I am sure you can control yourself regardless of the provocation. I have consorted with many married women, they aren't looking to have an affair. At least not the vast majority of them aren't.


In my (albeit small) experience, they need years and years of life in order for me to feel comfortable. I watched the first moon landing live on television for crying out loud, sniffled when Kennedy was killed and yes I thought Princess Summerfallwinterspring was hot.


It get it, they didn't watch the same TV programs, like I said, howdy doody time. I don't myself feel that is significant, I do think sharing the same feelings and values about family, health, travel, adventure, work ethics, sexual desires, honesty, financial health are more important than reminiscing about the death of Kennedy.


Ain't no mixed feeling here. All they have to do is be single, age appropriate, not stop a clock when they walk by, not be a whiny little 'poor me', and not go "POOF" when I ask for a meeting, and I'll take them for a really good Cajun dinner, a trip around the dance floor of a really fun place, and escort them home with no goodnight kiss expected. Then the next date will be a cooperative effort in my (freakin' huge and well equipped) kitchen of cooking dinner and something from the Red Box. Once again, with exactly zero expectations. However, the expectations start from that point on.


Way to go, get charged up about having a little fun.
 Freudian
Joined: 3/15/2010
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Posted: 3/14/2013 3:36:02 PM
Think about it, they're 20 years younger than me,

Are you talking to me?

Heh, one has to be careful doesn't one? No, I was talking about me. I gotta work on my communication skills a little bit more.

But frankly, you caught a hottie and the only emotion it generates in me is jealousy.

It get it, they didn't watch the same TV programs

I know you meant more than just that, but for the kids that sometimes come here for a laugh: It's the shared experiences over time that I miss when talking to the young. They don't remember Kennedy, they read about it. They don't remember the end of the Vietnam war, they don't even know about it. Disco is a misspelled word. They can't usually conjugate 'to be'. There's a divide in attitude that comes from experience that I need to be comfortable long term. And there's only so much Gangnam Style music I can stand before puking.

Neither of us suggest an affair with a married woman,

Once again, I didn't put enough words in there to communicate properly. It's me again, I might be attracted to them and behave inappropriately. Couple of drinks, loud music, good lookin' woman, bad boy.

Darn, talking is hard.
 JS3344
Joined: 2/12/2013
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Posted: 3/14/2013 3:40:20 PM
Lets round out the conversation here a bit, not to be negative, but to be realistic. First of all, if you think you're going to learn to dance just to meet women, you better prepare to be serious about it, or forget it. Many of the women in dance classes are married, they're bored, and their husbands, like most guys refuse to dance.
Then there are the fanatics who dance 5 days a week, and will drag you to every dance convention within 200 miles, at this point your man card has been revoked....if they enroll you into salsa classes on sunday, its time to shoot yourself. (unless you really like this shit)
Then there is the male cawkblocker, this guy probably lives with his mom and couldn't get a date if his life depended on it....but all the women will want to dance with him because he's so good, he will even interfere with your action, and there's nothing you can do about it, because you have to be on best behavior with the dance crowd.
Then there are the dance snobs......they only dance with the upper echelon of dancers, they may only dance with one partner......they may never dance with you if you're not good enough.
Dating people from dance classes is sometimes a no no with some folks, they are serious about dancing, and breakups prevent one of the two from returning, I've seen quite a few go m.i.a. due to this.
Having said all that, I found myself at home doing country two step, I know about 20 line dances and its a freekin blast. I've dated several women from the club, made cool regular friends, and what can i say, its fun to drink and slide in your boots! Yes, women ask me to dance, and sometimes, I just grab their hand and pull them on the floor, they dig it. I also teach newbies on the spot, and show how easy it is, its all fun, great way to meet women......and all kinds of things happen.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 58
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Posted: 3/14/2013 3:50:16 PM

I might be attracted to them and behave inappropriately. Couple of drinks, loud music, good lookin' woman, bad boy.


Gangnam Style, who would have ever thought it possible ?

Must leave forum, must leave forum, must leave forum.

But I have to say first, basically you don't trust your own self control.

You really do need to get a steady GF.
 Freudian
Joined: 3/15/2010
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Posted: 3/14/2013 4:42:45 PM

You really do need to get a steady GF.

Yep.

And every thing Red Jello said is totally true. This is not to validate, just to reinforce. Women who are really into ballroom are a special breed, as are the jerks, er, uh, men that are at that level.
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
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Posted: 3/14/2013 7:16:33 PM
@ red jello.....great advise ..!
 Hogtownboy
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 61
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Posted: 3/15/2013 4:49:36 AM
It is interesting how the beginning of this forums has moved. It was aimed at women nad has turned to what men should do.

as for line dancing well if you can stomach C&W music go for it.
 Hogtownboy
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 62
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Posted: 3/15/2013 5:01:16 AM
@ dragon bits; regarding group exercise classes.

A story, in my real non POF life I do marketing, I do marketing for a number of GYM chains, They were wondering why their male memberships had fallen off so badly.

I asked them when they had install the new sound system. They said about a year ago. I pointed out that now every part of club had music. This was fine but the music was always being switched back to dance music by the female staff.

I pointed out it was a gym and at 9 in the morning most men don't want to exercise to a beat.

They instituted a 3 hour sound off period, advertised this on local radio and saw an increase in male membership of 125% of the original membership goal while the women brought their ipods.

I guess sometimes silence is golden.
 sweetsmilesjust4you
Joined: 1/14/2013
Msg: 63
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Posted: 3/15/2013 6:54:38 AM
Dancing is one of my most favorite things to do. If I hear music, I just have to dance and it doesn't matter where I am. lol

I have dated guys that said they couldn't dance and that never bothered me. I always say that's ok ...you can watch...hahaha As long as they don't mind if I do, it's all good. I don't worry about what people think or who is watching, I am one of those people that will be the first one on the dance floor and I don't care if anyone else is dancing or not. It just feels so good! I need to do it as much as I need to breath...lol

I think some people worry to much about making a fool of themselves, instead of just letting go and having fun. It doesn't matter if your the best dancer or not, the important thing is to enjoy yourself. For those who feel uncomfortable...just put on your favorite music at home, don't think about making certain moves or steps, just let your body feel the beat and move to that. After a while, you won't even think about your doing, you will just do it
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 64
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Posted: 3/15/2013 7:16:41 AM

They instituted a 3 hour sound off period, advertised this on local radio and saw an increase in male membership of 125% of the original membership goal while the women brought their ipods.


There was a very large increase in members in LA Fitness over the last month, all mostly pretty chubby. Not sure why, spring coming, promotion, company incentive? The club is 100% full at times.

Your increase in males maybe due mostly to a promotion that seemed to target them and not the music. They play music in my club, but I don't pay much attention as I have an iPod. It has over 10,000 songs, so I can never hear a repeat.

My wife didn't want to dance in Thailand, I danced with my friends fiance, my friend has bad knees and didn't want to put too much stress on her knees. It looks a little odd in a pic for me to be dancing with this tall Thai man, but it is fairly common in that country, they aren't very rigid about genders.

I thought my getting out on the dance floor would encourage my wife, even my 85 year old mother got out and danced.
 enigoM
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 65
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Posted: 3/15/2013 8:08:18 AM
Dancing is great..only problem is the number of women who require/ prefer a man that can dance who are terrible dancers themselves
..I grew up break dancing and dancing hip hop...I taught Ball roon for several years...I say to the women out there before you put dancing as a requisite make sure you know how to dance
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 jaqi
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Posted: 3/15/2013 8:57:09 AM
To Victorianist

Well done for your advice to your sons.... I often say the same thing to young lads especially those who I have to work with in Prison .... learn how to dance and you will never be without a woman on your arm... women do love a good dancer.

I list dancing as an interest as it is an important part of my life but updated that I no longer needed a man who can as I already have a great dancing partner. All it leaves now is to find a non jealous type who will feel secure with me dancing with another man all the time hahahah..... hmmmm well I can but dream! :)
 JS3344
Joined: 2/12/2013
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Posted: 3/15/2013 9:20:55 AM

I no longer needed a man who can as I already have a great dancing partner. All it leaves now is to find a non jealous type who will feel secure with me dancing with another man all the time
- your honor, I rest my case! Jury applauds........
 LdyJay
Joined: 8/11/2012
Msg: 68
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Posted: 3/15/2013 9:39:51 AM
I do not agree that if a man is a good dancer he would not be here. Being a good dancer does not automatically mean women would find you an attractive man to date. I don't require that as a part of my dating criteria.

While it is a plus, I would actually have to brush up on my dancing skills if I were to meet a man who likes to dance.
It's been so long since I've met one like that! Would be fun to get back into dancing. However, there are other activities that are higher up on my list.
 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
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Posted: 3/15/2013 12:58:22 PM
Some people cannot dance, i am one of them and look like a damn fool doing it, i have done enough of other things to make a fool out of myself for a woman...dancing is where I draw the line.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 70
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Posted: 3/15/2013 2:10:49 PM
Would someone participating in the Harlem Shake or the bird dance be classified as a dancer?
 Technoartisan
Joined: 3/12/2012
Msg: 71
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Posted: 3/15/2013 4:26:13 PM
Personally, I'm am just curious as to *why* so many women like to dance. What is so appealing about it?

I cannot do it. I never could and don't have any strong desire to learn. (That alone probably keeps me in the "cannot do it" category.) However, I have watched people that could dance and on some occasions felt mildly envious. For the record, most people on the dance floor that I have watched cannot dance, either. They think they can and enjoy themselves, which is all that matters, but they really aren't dancing. They wobble. Sometimes someone gets wild and moves foot completely off of the floor and places back down in time with the music. :) Oh... And I really love the ones that claim it is good exercise but they don't really move much; just wobble.

To the few people that said us non-dancers probably just don't want to look like fools, you are correct. To the couple of people that said no one is watching, you are wrong. Yes... People in the crowd are watching the woman thinking, "she's really enjoying herself". Those same people are also thinking, "what's with the buffoon in front of her who cannot keep time?" I know this because that's what goes through my mind and those are the types of comments I hear other say.

One thing that I always hear is because I am involved in martial arts, I can dance. Not true. Martial arts does require coordinated movement of the body. That does not, however, translate to dancing. If that were true, then the inverse would as well. Any way, someone mentioned that dance classes may be great places for men to meet women and get dates but was horrible for women due to the man to woman ratio. Well... If you women want to flip the odds to a 20:1 ratio in your favor, I suggest taking a martial arts class. Grappling/jui-jitsu/submission would be an excellent way to find potential suitors. Heck, you might even learn a life saving skill in the process! :) Guys would climbing over each other for the chance to work with you for the same reasons so many women seem to flock to dancing men. You might even literally see guys fighting over you. :)
 deere_rancher
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Posted: 3/15/2013 4:41:46 PM

Some people cannot dance, i am one of them and look like a damn fool doing it


As a former college linebacker, I"ve been fortunate to mostly keep my shape .

Guys like me, seldom look graceful on a dance floor. I once made a backward step and took
down 3 people.

I look more natural, in a tee, standing by the door
 mjinict
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Posted: 3/15/2013 7:05:06 PM
Some people cannot dance, i am one of them and look like a damn fool doing it, i have done enough of other things to make a fool out of myself for a woman...dancing is where I draw the line.
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Is there a reason you cannot learn? I bet it's just your perception of yourself looking like a fool. As one poster said, nobody's really paying attention to you in a crowded bar.

And so what if not many are great at it, most of them have a smile on their face.
 Hogtownboy
Joined: 2/2/2008
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Posted: 3/16/2013 5:04:59 AM
[ I don't require that as a part of my dating criteria]

LdyJay YOu didn't read my OP this is suppose to be why so many list it as a requirement on their profile and its effect on men replying
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 75
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Posted: 3/16/2013 8:30:17 AM

Oh... And I really love the ones that claim it is good exercise but they don't really move much; just wobble.


One of the reasons is because women wear the worst possible clothes for dancing-high heels, tight fitting dresses and skirts, make-up that will run down their face when they sweat. Proper clothing for dancing would be the same clothes they would wear working out at a gym and wear no make-up, but most women use the excuse that going out dancing gives them a reason to get all dolled up.
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