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 jessebunnies
Joined: 2/18/2013
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Women are you all kinda searching out guys a bit younger than you?

I only date younger guys. I think I've had one date with a guy my age. In real life I meet mostly younger guys as well though it depends on the venue I'm in. The places I frequent most, like the gym, sports stuff I do and the classes mostly have younger guys in them. Online I have my age restrictions set so it curtails who I attract a lot.


but I think what on earth would a 30 year old, even a 33 year old, want with a 36 year old when he can still attract the early 20s girls!!?

You have no idea what it's like to date a girl in her 20's do you! Ask some of the guys here you'll quickly find out why many guys in their 20's early 30's date older women. Not all but a lot of girls in their 20's are crazy, drama, wishy washy, white girl wasted every weekend and all they want to talk about is the Bad Girls Club. You'd be surprised how much guys value a women whose over that stuff, knows what she wants and can string two sentences together that don't include Gucci, Prada or Bad Girls Club. Plus a lot of women in their 20's are looking for older men.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
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Guys, do you find you attract younger women out than online?
Posted: 9/15/2013 6:31:35 PM

The odd thing I've been finding out though is all the really attractive women that I'm talking to are 40-44. I'm 38. The attractive women under 39 generally don't seem to have any interest in me, at least not online...

Online, age plays a bigger role in getting the ball rolling. Online has the focus of a stat sheet first. You don't go walking into a bar with one and exchange them and read it over, then decide to say hello and engage. :) They're going to be much more picky about a big age gap difference online because it's staring them in the face, unless they're specifically Looking For a guy who's 10+ years older.

When in you're aiming for girls ~10 years younger, IMO, IRL will more easily bring more (attractive) prospects in that arena.
 Deadliest_Snatch
Joined: 10/25/2012
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Guys, do you find you attract younger women out than online?
Posted: 9/16/2013 4:05:21 AM
bottleguy - Msg 4: For some reason only girls under 18 and women over 50 find me attractive. Or fat girls. Lots and lots of fat girls.


Maybe you should throw your t-shirt in a pot of boiling water and invite a gal over for home-made soup!
 Like2dance
Joined: 4/13/2013
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Guys, do you find you attract younger women out than online?
Posted: 9/16/2013 10:14:09 AM
On line has proven to be all but a total waste of time for me. I am 60 years of age and in the real world date attractive slender women at least 15 years younger than myself. Although I retain a profile on a couple of dating sites the only women who contact me in their profiles allege they are near my age although about 9 out of 10 of them are lying about their ages by from 3 to 10 or more years. Dating any of them would be out of the question.
 jdelegro
Joined: 8/17/2013
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Guys, do you find you attract younger women out than online?
Posted: 9/21/2013 2:03:13 PM
Yup, lots of fat girls and fat girls with tattoos....ugg
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
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Posted: 9/21/2013 2:53:35 PM
Not much difference. I have been contacted by as young as 19 online(she said I don't look a day over 27) and as old as 58 so it varies. Interestingly I get majority either 27-36 or 43-48, Not my own age as often.
 Ainen
Joined: 6/27/2013
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Guys, do you find you attract younger women out than online?
Posted: 9/22/2013 2:33:35 PM
In real life, it's not unusual for gals in their 20s to show interest and treat me like a fellow young person. Perhaps because I don't have kids and still have a youthful mentality.

This summer on a float trip, there were three young gals in kayaks stopped on shore. They waved me over to them and we clicked. They knew about music from before they were born. They asked me to guess their age (dangerous question!) and I passed by saying under 30. They said they wanted to see me again on the water. No, they hadn't been drinking. A bunch of other young adult gals (who may or not have been drinking) showed positive attention to me on the water.

Two years ago a 22 year old gal at work asked me my age, guessed 31, sounded sincere. She also viewed me as a fellow young person.

Lots of smiles and more from young looking gals on active outdoor trips: jogging trails, boating, dog parks, etc. I suspect young gals in bars and clubs would not respond as well (the opposite pattern of many people).

Online, 100% of the younger gals I've met in person, there are additional dates. 100% of the one and done meets / dates are with older women. Perhaps I look younger IRL and they want an older looking / behaving man. Or the older women want one night stands or FWB.

Gals who truly seek a long term relationship seem to go for a man older than herself. My longest relationship (2+ years) was with a gal 7+ years younger. My longest relationship from online was with a gal nearly 8 years younger.

The women my age who want LTR seem to prefer men in their 50s. The older ones who have my age within their mail restrictions seem to be looking for a good time, nothing serious. Older women remind me of the Groucho Marx line, not wanting someone who would have them.
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Posted: 9/22/2013 2:43:40 PM
^^^
Really? You need to forward me the name of the river.
 FloridaRes123
Joined: 5/11/2013
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Posted: 9/26/2013 2:25:08 AM
Thing is, with online in general, regardless of age difference, women are less likely to be responsive only because they have an inbox full of emails and plenty of options. Out and about in real life, it's an entirely different kind of atmosphere and "face-time" really matters. You also have body language, voice tones, etc that influences the attraction. In fact, I bet plenty of people turned down those online that the would not do out in public.
 sddude
Joined: 12/9/2007
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Posted: 10/31/2013 12:34:22 PM
Online ? I have been here like 6 years, I stopped sending e-mails years ago because out of 100's of good medium size well made e-mails, had no responses frm anyone interested that fit what I asked for in my profile.

I was bummed out in for a while but as soon as I got my mojo back, I do very well in person though I have not foune one who really wants a LTR and does not have serious baggage that I have to help them with...

Anyhow if one is active usually they do not have kids and work does not absorb their life are the ones that usually are free and I run into them alot. They are usually younger. In my environment is mostely beach , events Mexico trips, surfing sports maybe some fun casual bars.

Women who have kids and work alot to make ends meet are usually not present in these venues, always busy with kids and work and maybe have family issue/problems to resolve. If I meet a woman that has those issues and time constraints I shy away from them, I am lazy, it may be too much work and dedication to have anything that is on the table for me, usually they are women over 30 but I do not discard them I meet them date them until I find their situation a bit challenging.

I have never persued a woman I usually hang around as a friend /aquaintance and end up being important in some way while I gie them time and let them take action especially when they see me with other female friends ( cat fight have ensued before).

Well women younger than 29 or so susally have had me as their guy as a result ever since I widowed in 2003. I was a bit to shy to pop the question about having a relationship so they have done it, I am no longer shy but enjoy my time and life.

I do not discard women who are older or with children , it is just the accumated issues that come with the time they have experienced that makes me shy away.

I was dating at one time a 50 year old woman , she was very beautifuol fit and very interesting to talk with, but her family had issues, fights, ex husband problems and her 20 something daughter hit on me while she hid out of sight, I walked away i could hear crashing and screaming for a half a block ...

I just stay away from people issues.

If dating sites worked for me I would be dating 30 somethings and maybe women in their 4o's that did not have issues to deal with.

Right now I am dating a woman who is 24, damaged that i am fixing hahahaha, she does not beleive in family or marriage, if she does not come around then I will move on, she is interesting, funny and has alot in common with me but may be not the one. She is the one who persued me, I pushed her away alot but she always comes back harder.

That is me anyhow
 sweetpe4u
Joined: 11/4/2013
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Posted: 11/18/2013 2:18:14 PM
^^^^^^^Reminds me of an after-school special I saw once.
 arlo2
Joined: 5/30/2013
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Guys, do you find you attract younger women out than online?
Posted: 11/24/2013 7:37:44 PM
It really is “night and day”. Especially, when I venture outside of the southern California area. I can talk to women, in real life, that would not give me 5 seconds, online. I suspect some of them to be the same women. :)
 Like2dance
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Posted: 11/29/2013 2:21:24 PM
At age 60 I no longer waste time with on line dating although I retain a profile. Where I live I meet women of all ages almost daily. Some of the younger ones, in my case late thirties to mid forties, find me attractive and we date. It is no big deal and just seems to happen in the course of life.

A few minutes chatting IRL can frequently get me a date with a woman I find attractive whereas hours and even days on line probably will not.
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
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Posted: 11/30/2013 4:58:31 AM
Women do to.
The reason?
Its because we dont walk around with our age on a T shirt off line.
 BlasphemousBombshell
Joined: 11/19/2013
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Posted: 12/18/2013 7:08:47 PM
I think making a disclaimer that no fatties preferred could hurt some man over all because frankly: our current culture makes all women feel fat. My profile is listed at "extra pounds" because I personally think I'm bigger. (5,5 150, wear size 8 pants.) when I look around at the mall I'm average, but when I compare myself to Hollywood or porn I'm a freaking beast! Men have told me I do NOT qualify as "few extra pounds" and should write fir or average instead, but I FEEL fat because of this culture. Frankly, As a normal sized woman i would by pass any profile that said they aren't interested in fat chicks because I would be worried I'd get dumped on my ass if god forbid I got lazy once month and ate a cake... I don't think I'm alone in that either, so maybe that's why many guys leave out the disclaimer?
 drivetrain1
Joined: 12/26/2013
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Posted: 1/7/2014 9:53:07 AM
hey,

You asked a good question! I agree with your comments
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
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Posted: 1/8/2014 11:58:11 AM
There's been a variety depending on what I was looking for. I used to use telephone chat lines at one time,and there it was younger to much younger(more than 10 years) women that were usually contacting me. Online when I was seriously looking the interested women were approximately my age,and now that I'm just looking for chat friends they tend to be a few years older.
 soulsearching8empt
Joined: 8/16/2010
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Posted: 1/14/2014 11:14:26 PM
But then they would sound shallow because it's too vague to put in a profile. I'm thin but if someone wrote that in their profile, I'd be like.. uhh no. Because he never said he wasn't attracted to fat girls... he said lots of them were attracted to him. And most men, even if they're not into fat girls, would still consider dating one if she met all the other criteria.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
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Posted: 1/15/2014 7:29:55 AM

Hey Casey just say NO to the cougars. You young good looking dudes in your 30s (you trolling...lol) needs to goes after the the 20s & 30s and leave the 40s & 50s for us guyz. Don't make me chase a 30 year old around...


There's a discussion in some other forum about the horror of men going after much younger women. The reality is that online, it's the women the ones chasing younger guys.

Men chasing younger women has been around from the cave men to now. So this is the new phenomenon. Also, in 1900 the life expectancy of men was about 49 and women a bit younger. By now it's about 72 for men and about 79 for women. I am pulling these number out of my head, so you can go check them and see the plus or minus of a couple of years, so bear with me. If the life expectancy was about 49, that means that a middle age man was about mid thirties. Women lasted less than men particularly because of the amount of loses during child bearing. But now that has changed. Women live longer than men, primarily because of stress, and in the old days they did not smoked as much. But what that makes is a person that is in her fifties, in shape, good health, very active, look and feel like a 30 year old. So this makes sense.
 foodieguitarman
Joined: 12/17/2013
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Posted: 1/15/2014 9:40:02 AM
I attracted much younger women while I was in the Czech Republic !

However .... that was 12 years ago .... if I were to go there now .... probably not....but who knows ?

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
 foodieguitarman
Joined: 12/17/2013
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Posted: 1/15/2014 10:07:54 AM
American men are viewed as being highly attractive by most women outside of the US because there is a certain connotative "wealth/power halo effect" that we benefit from


Well , regardless of your views, when younger women would openly check me out while on a bus, in a bar, etc they would have had NO WAY of knowing where I was from since I could easily pass as a Czech with my looks and/or didn't wear a sign wherever I went announcing " I'M FROM CANADA " .

Just sayin
 foodieguitarman
Joined: 12/17/2013
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Posted: 1/15/2014 10:24:27 AM

Believe me, you have a huge, huge sign on saying "I'm not from here" everywhere in the world you go


No, not everywhere, like the Czech Republic , for example.

You can choose to take my word for it or not.
 Ozoner4Life
Joined: 12/1/2011
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Posted: 3/12/2014 3:22:18 PM
Most of the women who have contacted me on this site are older than I am. I have dated a couple of younger women from the site--in fact, the only two women from POF whom I dated steadily were both substantially younger than I am--but for every younger woman I hear from, I hear from 4 or 5 older ones (and by older, I mean more than just a year or two older). I want kids, so I don't respond to the older ones except to politely tell them "no thank you." (Even though it says right on my profile that I want at least two kids, I'm routinely contacted by women who are too old to have children. I suspect they're writing to tons of guys & hoping for a bite without bothering to read guys' profiles.) I'm sometimes approached by older women in the real world, too, but not nearly so often as on POF.
 KidInTheHall
Joined: 2/23/2014
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Posted: 3/13/2014 9:14:34 AM
Actually I seem to be attracting quite close to my age, between 28 and 35. The youngest was 25 which did surprise me.
 ryuoki
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Posted: 3/22/2014 4:12:53 PM
Out in the real world, women tend to have no trouble socializing with conversation with me. It is here that a desert is present. Online dating sucks major donkey balls for us less than average looking guys. It is just too easy for women to toss a profile aside and say "NEXT". But it is in fact their loss.
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