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 Hamilton12345
Joined: 3/29/2012
Msg: 93
Woman who sucks at sex!!!!Page 5 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)

Who were these guys that were telling her she was the best ever?


So she wasn't very good, yet...


Anyway, in the end I didn't end up getting off from her bj and she started to get really insecure about it. I told her it was great and I really enjoyed it but that I don't always get off from oral. I think I ruined her confidence


You told her exactly the same thing. Why did you not tell her what didn't work for you and what did. Wouldn't that have made more sense then some guy yet again telling her she was awesome when she really wasn't.
 Older_N_Wiser
Joined: 8/10/2008
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Posted: 5/26/2013 5:58:54 AM
If a woman sucks in bed it's because she's not enjoying herself. If she's not enjoying herself it's because
1. She's not into you
2. She's never experienced a great g-spot orgasm
3. She's never been taught what to do
4. You suck!
 Genuine_Gentleman_For_You
Joined: 4/22/2009
Msg: 95
Woman who sucks at sex!!!!
Posted: 5/26/2013 11:36:42 AM
It's all about compatibility. A man may find a particular woman as being great in bed, while another man might consider that same woman as not good in bed.
 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 96
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Posted: 1/31/2014 8:37:02 AM
Well...I can attest to that....she was a taker and didnt give .......and didnt even try....after 4 yrs and a ton of frustration....I hadda say goodbye......tried to drop hints and the whole nine.....pretty much got used....in every aspect too!Feel pretty stupid in the end!
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 97
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Posted: 2/1/2014 6:38:10 AM


If a woman sucks in bed it's because she's not enjoying herself. If she's not enjoying herself it's because
1. She's not into you
2. She's never experienced a great g-spot orgasm
3. She's never been taught what to do
4. You suck!


A common thought from many women, it's all the man's fault. Also means those types of women don't have to think about changing how they behave in bed.



take it from a woman that's a little older and has been around the block, if you want hot sex......find out what gets her motor running and once she's revved, she'll probably knock your socks off. Skip this part and she'll be counting the spots on the ceiling. If she's a little shy and intimidated.....well.........why not explore and learn together and that will bring you even closer and more intimate. Being great in the sack can be intimidating so being loving and accepting and non-judgmental will go a long way to helping her come our of her shell.


Most men and women like sex. But you might be surprised to learn many women aren't into hot sex no matter what the circumstances. Others use sex as some sort of manipulative mechanism, they go through all the porn experiences, on the surface they seem wild, but without any passion or emotion behind it. They are like some kind of emotionally void vampires.


Of course there are women who are not interested in sex, so they dont care if they are good at it. Its usually a hormonal thing from a young age, some women just dont care about sex unless they want to have a baby, then it is a necessary thing to do. I hear this from some of my older clientele that confide that they just dont see what all the fuss is about. I think it is also that the only man they were ever with was really bad, to small, etc.


I was with you until the last sentence blaming men.

Truth is some women don't have much empathy, aren't really interested in sex much, think it's demeaning or unmoral to please a man in bed.

Sometimes it's early childhood experiences that causes this, sometimes it's just the way they are, sometimes it's religious upbringing. A senstive and caring man can't really change people, you can bring out something that is there, but not create something out of nothing.

Anyone can learn the mechanics of sex if they want to (many don't want to at all), but that doesn't change one's basic personality.

IMO there are likely as many men as women that make poor sex partners. Since I only have first hand experience with women, I will assume it's the same for men.
 Alphacuck
Joined: 11/18/2013
Msg: 98
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Posted: 2/3/2014 1:05:21 PM
Yeah, it's always the mans fault crowd can go take a long walk...


Fact is there are sexually lazy women out there. They think just because a guy still cums that they must be good. Not true!

Then there are the inhibited women, sure you can pull them out of their shell and teach them, but do you REALLY want to go through all of that work each time?
FWIW about 95% of women that actually give blow jobs don't really know what they're doing and get upset at direction. THAT's why they don't learn. Again they think because the guy cums they must be good.

Part of the problem is that too many guys are just happy to be getting something to say anything. That's also why some of you experience the hit-it-and-quit-it guys. They might have actually been interested but you were a lousy lay and it's not usually worth the effort to teach you anything because"

You'll blame the man anyway.
Say: "Fine! I just won't do that anymore!"
Try to insult his skills right back.

You see, for supposedly being the better communicators most of you really stink at COMMUNICATING! You talk, talk talk, but rarely communicate.
 tatersprout
Joined: 8/23/2013
Msg: 99
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Posted: 2/3/2014 3:30:51 PM

95% of women that actually give blow jobs don't really know what they're doing and get upset at direction.
I'd like to see the data on this. do you have the source?
 SmellyOne
Joined: 10/6/2009
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Posted: 2/3/2014 3:50:32 PM

Part of the problem is that too many guys are just happy to be getting something to say anything. That's also why some of you experience the hit-it-and-quit-it guys. They might have actually been interested but you were a lousy lay and it's not usually worth the effort to teach you anything because"

You'll blame the man anyway.
Say: "Fine! I just won't do that anymore!"
Try to insult his skills right back.


This, too, is interesting. I agree with this to a point. Many women do espouse the benefits of communicating, but should you suggest what they could do better (and do it in nice, constructive way), many will get defensive (probably opting for choice number 2 above in bold).

It's not 100% true, however, as I have someone now where we can tell each other likes, dislikes, "do it this way," etc. and there are no problems. In fact, she is the best head I've had to date because she knows what I likes and actually DOES WHAT I LIKE, rather than thinking I should "be grateful her mouth is there at all."
 Alphacuck
Joined: 11/18/2013
Msg: 101
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Posted: 2/4/2014 11:46:56 AM

I'd like to see the data on this. do you have the source?

I'm still compiling the data...care to make your contribution? LOL


It's not 100% true,

You DO understand that the word "many" was used and not the word "all," don't you?
You see MANY is subjective and ALL would indicate 100%.
 nyceguy85
Joined: 1/11/2013
Msg: 102
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Posted: 2/4/2014 1:18:29 PM
It has to be said. Women are allowed to suck in the bedroom. (No pun intended). The pressure is on the guy to perform, just as the pressure was on the guy to approach her, gain her interest, take out on dates to classy restaurants such as Ruby Tuesdays and avoid saying something foolish. Because women know most men will jump through hoops and hurdles for intimacy, many do not make an effort to learn any new tricks or skills. They stay in the same 2-3 positions and roll over when the man is done.
 abmccray
Joined: 8/3/2008
Msg: 103
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Posted: 2/4/2014 1:44:52 PM
This thread is kind of funny. The funniest part are women responding thinking that bad = not doing actions/just laying there. Women thinking -that's- the only way to be "bad at sex" shows why so many women are bad at sex.

But, like others said, when a good percentage of men are so happy to actually be with a woman that they orgasm no matter what - it all starts to make sense. I have had women say "you're the first person I've never made orgasm," which makes me wonder how she possibly turned guys on with her lack of coordination/etc.

The key to sex on both sides is basically communication with both parties, and a willingness to work with the other partner. But because so many people are afraid to/of criticism, that doesn't happen, a lot.
 Alphacuck
Joined: 11/18/2013
Msg: 104
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Posted: 2/5/2014 8:00:25 AM
^^^^ Well said!


FWIW, women are VERY quick to place blame on guys for everything from bad sex to getting used...they rarely accept their role in anything negative. Even when they do admit fault it still usually is somehow the man's fault ultimately!
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 105
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Posted: 2/5/2014 8:48:39 AM
FOR ME...the strongest indicator that a woman will be lousy in bed is a notable sense of "entitlement".

If I get a whiff of this, I usually excuse myself from the relationship.
 usmale6
Joined: 9/14/2013
Msg: 106
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Posted: 2/5/2014 9:27:34 AM
Woman who sucks at sex? Pardon me, but I thought sucking in the bedroom was supposed to be a good thing?!

But seriously folks, how can a woman suck at sex? I figure if they show up for the date in the first place, I'm doing pretty well!

And ask some guys who have been married for awhile... I'm pretty sure many of them would happy if their wife would just roll over and let them do what they want for five minutes!
 Alphacuck
Joined: 11/18/2013
Msg: 107
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Posted: 2/6/2014 5:14:00 AM
^^^ A perfect example that was previously stated.

Guys whom are just happy to be there take away all of their motivation to improve....even worse is they are the same ones that spend gobs of money trying to impress the girl just so they can get bad sex.

...And then they wonder why so many average and below average women act entitled. It's because there are too many schmucks out there willing to entitle them. ...Sad!
 abmccray
Joined: 8/3/2008
Msg: 108
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Posted: 2/6/2014 9:17:24 AM

But seriously folks, how can a woman suck at sex? I figure if they show up for the date in the first place, I'm doing pretty well!


- Can't keep a rhythm/throws off your rhythm
- Maneuvers herself at angles that don't stimulate the right part of the shaft
- Doesn't go along with hints and you trying to maneuver her for max stimulation
- Bad vaginal shape that makes it hard to work with in certain angles
- Too tight (making the startup too long) or loose (no friction)
- Won't have sex without condoms even when both people are tested in a long-term relationship
- Does or says things that throw you out of the mood mid act
- Insists on sexual positions that don't stimulate the man as much, complains when maneuvered into any other positions besides the ones she wants
- Orgasms too quickly then quits after (yes, this happens)
- etc. etc. etc.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 109
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Posted: 2/6/2014 10:09:56 AM
Alright... enough of this BS..




But seriously folks, how can a woman suck at sex? I figure if they show up for the date in the first place, I'm doing pretty well!


- Can't keep a rhythm/throws off your rhythm
- Maneuvers herself at angles that don't stimulate the right part of the shaft
- Doesn't go along with hints and you trying to maneuver her for max stimulation
- Bad vaginal shape that makes it hard to work with in certain angles
- Too tight (making the startup too long) or loose (no friction)
- Won't have sex without condoms even when both people are tested in a long-term relationship
- Does or says things that throw you out of the mood mid act
- Insists on sexual positions that don't stimulate the man as much, complains when maneuvered into any other positions besides the ones she wants
- Orgasms too quickly then quits after (yes, this happens)
- etc. etc. etc.

Men are just as likely to make these same errors as women.

- Can't keep a rhythm/throws off your rhythm (bottom line is what works for one, might not work so well for the other)
- Maneuvers himself at angles that don't stimulate the right part of the vagina (he's going for his pleasure, not focusing on hers/theirs)
- Doesn't go along with hints and you trying to maneuver him for max stimulation (see previous notation)
- Bad penis shape that makes it hard to work with in certain angles (uhhuh.. I went there)
- Too big (making the startup too long) or too small (no friction) (yup, I went there too)
- Won't have sex without condoms even when both people are tested in a long-term relationship (Um.. BIRTHCONTROL... condoms aren't just for disease prevention, not to mention some women have allergies to semen and not using a condom can cause some serious issues for them)
- Does or says things that throw you out of the mood mid act ("my ex would have come by now.. what's taking so long?"... said after performing less than 5 minutes of oral on me by a former partner... I'm convinced his ex faked her orgasms)
- Insists on sexual positions that don't stimulate the woman as much, complains when maneuvered into any other positions besides the ones he wants (yup.. had a few partners like that)
- Orgasms too quickly then quits after (yes, this happens) (I have NEVER heard a man complain about a woman orgasming too soon... I have had more than a few complain I took too long.. but then they were messing with the rhythm, pressure, stimulation I needed to get off..)
- etc. etc. etc.

Honestly, with a list like yours, it would generally put you into the category of someone that doesn't care too much about your partner's pleasure. I've had partners like you in the past. They don't last long in my bed.

My partner makes a point of pleasing me because doing so pleases him, and ultimately I will do what is needed to make sure he's as happy as I am.
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 110
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Posted: 2/6/2014 10:29:32 AM

- Can't keep a rhythm/throws off your rhythm

Yeah, that's annoying especially when you're about to pop.

- Maneuvers herself at angles that don't stimulate the right part of the shaft

Perhaps that's where she is stimulated? You can always "maneuver" to where it feels good for both.

- Doesn't go along with hints and you trying to maneuver her for max stimulation

Why hints? just say it. Max stimulation for whom?

- Bad vaginal shape that makes it hard to work with in certain angles

How many vaginal shapes exists? Not all angles work for everyone.

- Too tight (making the startup too long) or loose (no friction)

Yeah, that's annoying, it kinda s*cks, lol.

- Won't have sex without condoms even when both people are tested in a long-term relationship

There are women who don't trust men, or women who withhold such pleasure because she doesn't want him to come inside (not even by accident). Not everyone is up to dealing with come sliding down her leg even 3 hours later, like she's on her period. And lets not even talk about the smell of incubated sperm, lol.

You know, of the best benefit of using condoms, is that it mimics nothing having happened. Your juices remain in the condom, and her juices remain on herself. So when it's all done and over, you can dart out the door and not worry about smelling down there, and nothing drips, wooo hoooo.

- Does or says things that throw you out of the mood mid act

lol, sounds like she really didn't want to do it from a very beginning.

- Insists on sexual positions that don't stimulate the man as much, complains when maneuvered into any other positions besides the ones she wants

It's no secret that it's easier for a man to orgasm than for a woman, so why can't you do as she asks and then you can finish off by doing what you want.

- Orgasms too quickly then quits after (yes, this happens)

Sometimes it is so intense (I've gotten migraines, cramps on either leg), that it makes no sense to continue, no good will come from continuing at that point. It rarely happens on the first orgasm but if you've been teasing it long enough, the explosion can be sort of a detriment. Would you be ok if she finished you off with a blow job instead?
 wvwaterfall
Joined: 1/17/2007
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Posted: 2/6/2014 10:31:39 AM

My partner makes a point of pleasing me because doing so pleases him, and ultimately I will do what is needed to make sure he's as happy as I am.


And that same attitude in a woman is what makes her a great sex partner. The extent to which that's lacking determines how desirable she may or may not be, to me anyway. It's not hard to tell the difference between a woman who is eager to please, one that's merely willing to please, and one who is just willing to allow.

Sometimes two people just don't match up well, without one being "better" or "worse". Some women really like it rough, want to be slammed hard for long periods at a time. My back just can't maintain that indefinitely, and I'm more into sensual delights than becoming little more than a piston for 20 minutes straight. Doesn't make her bad at sex, just not a good match for what I have to offer. Now if much longer stretches of tongue, touches, combined with intercourse are your cup of tea....
 abmccray
Joined: 8/3/2008
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Posted: 2/6/2014 11:27:17 AM

Men are just as likely to make these same errors as women.

- Can't keep a rhythm/throws off your rhythm (bottom line is what works for one, might not work so well for the other)
- Maneuvers himself at angles that don't stimulate the right part of the vagina (he's going for his pleasure, not focusing on hers/theirs)
- Doesn't go along with hints and you trying to maneuver him for max stimulation (see previous notation)
- Bad penis shape that makes it hard to work with in certain angles (uhhuh.. I went there)
- Too big (making the startup too long) or too small (no friction) (yup, I went there too)
- Won't have sex without condoms even when both people are tested in a long-term relationship (Um.. BIRTHCONTROL... condoms aren't just for disease prevention, not to mention some women have allergies to semen and not using a condom can cause some serious issues for them)
- Does or says things that throw you out of the mood mid act ("my ex would have come by now.. what's taking so long?"... said after performing less than 5 minutes of oral on me by a former partner... I'm convinced his ex faked her orgasms)
- Insists on sexual positions that don't stimulate the woman as much, complains when maneuvered into any other positions besides the ones he wants (yup.. had a few partners like that)
- Orgasms too quickly then quits after (yes, this happens) (I have NEVER heard a man complain about a woman orgasming too soon... I have had more than a few complain I took too long.. but then they were messing with the rhythm, pressure, stimulation I needed to get off..)
- etc. etc. etc.

Honestly, with a list like yours, it would generally put you into the category of someone that doesn't care too much about your partner's pleasure. I've had partners like you in the past. They don't last long in my bed.

My partner makes a point of pleasing me because doing so pleases him, and ultimately I will do what is needed to make sure he's as happy as I am.


So, wait, you quote a post that is literally a response to "I don't know how women can be bad in bed," that lists possible ways in which the sex could be unsatisfying on the male end - by trying to turn it back on men , and then says making a list like that means that I don't care about my partner's pleasure.

What. In. The. World.

edit: I mean...what does your response have to do with anything? Why bring "men can be bad too" into the equation, as it's a useless response in a topic that is 'women can be bad too.'

It's like there's a topic that says "girls can like sports too," and someone comes in and responds, "so can men!" What?

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It's no secret that it's easier for a man to orgasm than for a woman,


Not true. Only when talking about averages. Which is irrelevant when it comes to the individual.
 HUMHUMA
Joined: 1/14/2018
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Posted: 3/16/2018 4:18:23 AM
LOL....when woman complain about the male gender in the sack I would say the same for woman also....50/50 to be exact...and while I have always put them first with their satisfaction have been left without.....I don't like directing woman and in this day and age find it weird that they would rather lay there and be that cold fish....lol
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 3/18/2018 9:23:46 PM
honestly I dont know any women who want to be slammed hard for long periods of time. They would have to be masochistic and enjoy the inevitable discomfort and soreness that would ensue.
 feirene
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Posted: 3/20/2018 8:09:47 AM
we suck at sex because your d1ck is small and not very exciting.
 CBGB77
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Posted: 3/20/2018 9:20:13 AM

Posted By: feirene on 3/20/2018 10:09:47 AM
Subject: Woman who sucks at sex!!!!
Message: we suck at sex because your d1ck is small and not very exciting.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W0nqZii2RjI
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Posted: 3/20/2018 11:12:03 AM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W0nqZii2RjI
hehehe. it's true.

i was gonna do a more serious reply and go on about how women have been sexually repressed by society and so aren't up for experimentation as easily as men are plus we aren't f*ck puppets for men but being silly gets more entertaining results.
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