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 GreenThumbz18
Joined: 4/25/2012
Msg: 15
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^^^^^^
"Utah has the highest online porn subscription rate per thousand. Just something to think about."

Maybe so, but California boasts a much higher percentage of tech-savvy residents.
Bottom line: We don't subscribe, we hack :)

As for the hapless OP, her talents as a "massage technician" are no doubt being wasted.
With no boyfriend, who is getting all those happy endings?
 mamasboy069
Joined: 11/6/2012
Msg: 16
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Posted: 3/21/2013 9:10:30 AM
this is a Single Site fer crissake .....does anyone eva autually date on here?





hows that hope an change workinout 4 u
ur only as good as ur worst employee
 JS3344
Joined: 2/12/2013
Msg: 17
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Posted: 3/21/2013 9:44:55 AM
Say hello to a woman passing by, or open the door for her at a local Starbucks and you get a frown or they look down at their cell phone.
- this reminds of a few years ago, I was on my way to a restaurant and it was pouring rain, I had no umbrella, but I held the door for a few women and got freakin soaked, of course no acknowledgment, no nothing, felt like a chump....and they wonder where attitudes come from....you never forget things like that.
 mamasboy069
Joined: 11/6/2012
Msg: 18
Sick of the singles scene out here in
Posted: 3/21/2013 9:58:23 AM
steveie ur funny hahahah

fiery blonde....stick to ur guns ya dont have to date outta ur race an i dont blame u 1 bit.....remember ur in ca..... a state that sold the farm to mexico an illegals,,dont listen to ca folks.oh i might ad they also voted to Raise there own taxes,omg?






watchen the train wreck has always been fun though?
hows that hope an change workinout 4 u?
hey good looken goin my way?
it jus gets betta everyday?
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
Msg: 19
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Posted: 3/21/2013 10:56:43 AM
Re: #15 -
Utah has the highest online porn subscription rate per thousand.


1) Most of that porn is made here in California. There's a reason for that.

2) How does Jenny know this about Utah? Hmmmm.... ;-) (just teasing)

Re: #18 - Or get slapped with a restraining order for just saying, "Hi!" Approaching someone in Southern California is taken as a sign that one is a mental case. People in San Francisco or New York are much friendlier in this respect.

Re: #23 - That's where the term "free porn" originated! A California invention.

Re: #24 - I noted that too, but chose to remain silent. Alot of people end up in professions that have nothing to do with their education.

Re: #25 -
this is a Single Site fer crissake .....does anyone eva autually date on here?
Thank you for saying that. That's why I'm calling this site "Plenty of Flakes." No one seems to want to follow through except scammers, but that's just my experience with this site.
 jc91607
Joined: 1/21/2013
Msg: 20
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Posted: 3/21/2013 6:13:31 PM
The problem with the OP is that she is acting like a teenager trying to lure men who are no longer teenagers. You might have been able to kill a sparrow in your backyard with a bee bee gun when you were a kid, but you are not going to bring down a mighty lion in the jungle with that bee bee gun.

When I was in college and a lot dumber than I am now, I probably would have considered it a privilege to have the OP treat me like a subhuman piece of trash. Now I am a bit older and wiser and can spot women like the OP a mile away. Am I some sort of relationship genius? No! Far from it! And most men well over 30 are going to look at you and think "She is high maintenance and if I am going to put up with that stuff, I might as well get somebody half her age!"

Things are not hopeless for you, but you need to change your approach and attitude. Put away that bee bee gun. You are no longer an 18 year old girl chasing after 18 year old boys who will do anything a non-obese female tells them to do. You are going after smart men who have something to offer and expect something in return.

Do not fool yourself into thinking that something is just sex. If a guy just wanted sex he would go to a prostitute because even an expensive prostitute is a heck of a lot cheaper and can does not entail nearly as many headaches as a girlfriend. He needs moral support, he needs somebody that will help him out with the things he is not good at, he needs someone that can hold a conversation, and he needs somebody that will represent him well. He also does not want any nagging or negativity. He needs somebody who makes him feel like he is the king of his castle.

So my advice is go out with the guys that are less than perfect and practice these skills. You do not have to sleep with them, but practice talking with them and making them feel good. Who knows, maybe you will be able to turn some frog into a prince.
 fiery_blonde
Joined: 1/19/2013
Msg: 21
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Posted: 3/21/2013 9:58:13 PM
Here we go with the age shit again. I don't treat people like shit. You don't know me. I may be high maintenance, but I give a lot in return. I love have you assume that every guy over 30 wants a 20 year old piece of ass and that we're all prostitutes that can be bought and sold. Typical southern Cali. male. You know what, stick to your corner of pretentious snobs that think that women are as good as their appearance and that's it. No wonder you are single.
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 22
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Posted: 3/21/2013 11:19:50 PM
^^^WHAT!!! Men approaching you during March Madness...I hope you told them you were watching the games and to stop bugging you.
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 23
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Posted: 3/22/2013 7:04:17 AM
^^^I think it was Rabbitman copping a look see, wait maybe it was me, gosh I love the Yardhouse...BTW lose those damn glasses, just get a guy to read the menu fur ya or the Mag app for your phone...an kidding, I love women in reading glasses, that is when I can see them.

BTW how were the hot wings?
 jc91607
Joined: 1/21/2013
Msg: 24
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Posted: 3/22/2013 8:40:25 AM

Here we go with the age shit again. I don't treat people like shit. You don't know me. I may be high maintenance, but I give a lot in return. I love have you assume that every guy over 30 wants a 20 year old piece of ass and that we're all prostitutes that can be bought and sold. Typical southern Cali. male. You know what, stick to your corner of pretentious snobs that think that women are as good as their appearance and that's it. No wonder you are single.


FB, you are an outstanding internet troll and I salute your great work...or you are one messed up person.

1. You say you are high maintenance but "give a lot in return." Well you have to ask yourself exactly what you give. Do you cook and clean? A guy can hire a maid to do that. Sex? A guy can hire a hooker.

2. Not every guy over 30 wants a 20 year old piece of ass, to the contrary. Most of them avoid 20 year olds because they think and sound like you. Some will go for 20 year olds, but that is because unlike you, the 20 year olds have youth to compensate for their under developed personality and immaturity.

3. The problems you are facing with the "typical southern Cali. male" that judges women on their appearances may stem from the way you hold yourself out.

If you open up a restaurant and put a sign out front that reads "FB'S FRIED CHICKEN" people will judge that restaurant primarily on the fried chicken. They may not like the restaurant if the fried chicken is mediocre, even if the restaurant has outstanding hamburgers, sandwiches, and salads. If you put a sign that reads "FB'S DINER" people will judge the restaurant as a whole. People will flock to the restaurant if it has outstanding burgers, sandwiches, and salads even if the fried chicken is mediocre.

The sign outside your restaurant seems to read "hot chick." That may have suited you well 20 years ago. Unfortunately, your fried chicken is no longer amazing. It is time to develop other items on your menu and sell yourself as something more than just a "hot chick."
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
Msg: 25
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Posted: 3/22/2013 11:49:32 AM
Re: #42 -
I think it was Rabbitman copping a look see....
Huh? I'm just standing back watching "fiery blonde" start catfights all around the forums. In another discussion, she ****-slapped the westside brit babe, and over here OCR stepped up to slap back.... Sometimes, it's better for a man to just watch the women go after each other, especially since the current catfight is by OC residents.

It wasn't me. I don't normally travel to the other side of the Orange Curtin. I wonder what I shall be accused of doing next!
 fiery_blonde
Joined: 1/19/2013
Msg: 26
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Posted: 3/22/2013 11:50:41 AM
JC, you are really funny. Geez, when I was in my 20s, I was told that I'm too young to find anyone successful. Then, in my 30s, I'm told that I'm divorced and no one would want me and now I'm told that I'm too old at 40 (if you consider that old??) So which is it, too old, too young or just undesirable. Can you idiots make up your mind or are you just finding any excuse to tell someone that they can't get what they want because you can't? I don't just sell myself as a hot chick. Are you delusional? Did you even look at my profile? No, do me a favor, don't. I don't need a critical, miserable person in my life comparing me to chicken.

But yeah, you're right, when I was in my early 20s, every once in awhile, you'd have a 30 something trying to hit on you. We used to call them perverts after we were done laughing at them.
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 27
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Posted: 3/22/2013 11:54:35 AM

No, do me a favor, don't. I don't need a critical, miserable person in my life comparing me to chicken.


Credit where credit is due...that was funny chit, I'm still lol...
 jc91607
Joined: 1/21/2013
Msg: 28
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Posted: 3/22/2013 1:45:22 PM

JC, you are really funny. Geez, when I was in my 20s, I was told that I'm too young to find anyone successful. Then, in my 30s, I'm told that I'm divorced and no one would want me and now I'm told that I'm too old at 40 (if you consider that old??) So which is it, too old, too young or just undesirable. Can you idiots make up your mind or are you just finding any excuse to tell someone that they can't get what they want because you can't? I don't just sell myself as a hot chick. Are you delusional? Did you even look at my profile? No, do me a favor, don't. I don't need a critical, miserable person in my life comparing me to chicken.


I am sorry if I sounded mean. The fried chicken discussion is a metaphor and for the record I did not compare you to chicken, I compared you to a restaurant that serves fried chicken. If it makes you feel any better, you can substitute the word "fried chicken" with sushi, filet mignon, chitlins, or any food. The metaphor operates the same.

I wish you the best of luck and you do have the potential to find a great guy, its just that you have to adjust your attitude and approach. Take OCR as an example. She is the sweet heart on this page. Does she beat you in the looks department? Maybe, maybe not. Is she beating you in the personality department? Resoundingly yes. Maybe you should call a truce with OCR and ask her for pointers.

I hate to sound preachy and I do not want to come across as the poster boy of political correctness, because I am not. You should also try to rethink some of your attitudes to anybody who is not "American" enough for you. I get it that you may not be attracted to certain ethnic or racial groups and that is okay. We all have our preferences. However, it seems to me based on some of your posts you have issues with immigrants and other people who are not like you.

Believe it or not, many of those successful white guys you are trying to attract have friends and business contacts that are Asian, Indian, and even Hispanic. I do not know if you are aware of today's current business climate, but there are a lot of people from Europe, China, India, and Latin America who are a big deal in the American business world. Are you going to insist on cooking beef for his Indian boss? Can he trust you to entertain his best friend's Chinese-American wife?
 mamasboy069
Joined: 11/6/2012
Msg: 29
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Posted: 3/22/2013 4:58:47 PM
I think so cal women r cornfused they cant tell realmen from wimps these days,can we rewind back to realmen?










outta here likea thief on the run
the proofs in the choc cream pie
u look betta than $$ in the bank,,,yep
 pseriouslyt44
Joined: 3/6/2013
Msg: 30
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Posted: 4/3/2013 1:37:03 PM
If you don't like minorities, may I suggest you google the KKK or the like, find out where they live and migrate there - perhaps you'll be in more of your "realm" of people.

PS - not sure who your friends are, but my single female friends don't want/date just a white guy.

Haha dang that is so funny, she got a point there Fiery-blonde. Maybe you are looking too damn hard in the wrong State, you know SoCal is a mixture of many ethnicity and yes including the minorities. If you are looking for a white dude, perhaps you luck will change if you move upstate. Yes Utah is of them, Mormon white folks I am sure there are plently of them around to chose from. So good luck! :)
 gentlebear22
Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 31
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Posted: 4/3/2013 1:56:31 PM
This last post is way out of line. Just because somebody has a preference does not qualify them for
membership in the KKK or the Mormon Church. Just because somebody dates in there own race or ethnic type
does not mean they do not like minorities as people. People have the right to date whoever they choose period!

:modhammer:
 pseriouslyt44
Joined: 3/6/2013
Msg: 32
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Posted: 4/3/2013 2:20:39 PM
Gentlebear22, in no part of my comment did I mention her getting affiliated with the KKK or the Mormon, I was merely making a point about the geograhical location shes at. She has the right to date whoever she chose even if it means with her ethnicity group. I am cool with that and pls I am not a racist so dont make it sound like I am becuase I am certainly not that type of person. I have plently of white folk friends around so pls spare me the burden.
 pseriouslyt44
Joined: 3/6/2013
Msg: 33
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Posted: 4/3/2013 9:41:43 PM
OC, thanks for rescuing me hun..and if you must know girls like you should be a sweetheart in anyone's eyes. You already are in mine..with your permission Ill add you to my favorite and eventually you will be the first. It is partly my fault because I should have highlighted what you said in my first comment but I did not because I do not know how to do that on here, at least not yet for now.
 North_of_Polaris
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 34
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Posted: 4/3/2013 9:53:58 PM
Yeah girl, all these damn immigants snatchin up all the good white bois,,, is why I ain't ever find nothing
 jc91607
Joined: 1/21/2013
Msg: 37
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Posted: 4/6/2013 4:11:52 PM
The grass seems greener on the other side of the hill. A lot of people in this thread act as if places outside of California are filled with magical people who will put up with all of their baggage and flaws.

I have lived in various parts of California. I found the SF Bay area to be more demanding for a guy just because there was this widespread perception that good looking women were in short supply and successful men were a dime a dozen. (I am not saying that is true about the SF Bay area, just a perception.) Many average looking women felt they could and should have men roll over for them and men seemed to go along with it because of the perception. But then again I had a friend in the SF Bay Area that by all objective measures was a complete loser that had tons of hot girlfriends. He was too busy chasing pretty girls to listen to us whine about how there were no pretty girls around.

LA believe it or not is full of beautiful women that are really down to Earth and have great personalities. My theory is that a lot of beautiful women out here are aspiring actresses who go to cattle call auditions and get rejected for parts on a regular basis. These rejections may give them empathy or perspective on things. It is almost as being a beautiful aspiring actress in LA is like being an ugly guy anywhere else on the planet. Looks alone is not going to open doors for you so you have to start developing your character and personality.
 VolcanoKing
Joined: 8/6/2012
Msg: 38
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Posted: 4/7/2013 8:23:16 AM
Message 74 really nails it. I live in Los Angeles where people have a more intense relationship with their celphones than with other people.
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
Msg: 39
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Posted: 4/7/2013 11:11:32 AM
RE: ^ - Just try walking up to someone and they think you're crazy. They probably walk around with a TRO in their purse and all they need is a guy's name to put on it.
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