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 scorpioinOregon
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 201
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I wish I could get off that way. I certainly would be having way more orgasms.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 202
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Posted: 6/23/2015 10:48:11 AM

Couldn't you have used another comparison? Why did you have to pick salmon?!??!?! I may never eat it again...


Raw oysters? Ummm nah.
Sashimi? nah.
Carpaccio? Well maybe.
Puttanesca sauce? Not quite.
Salmon? Closer.
Norwegian Lox? Yeah baby!!!!

Let me add some cream cheese to that and some capers.
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 203
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Posted: 6/23/2015 3:29:29 PM
"Couldn't you have used another comparison?
Why did you have to pick salmon?!??!?!
I may never eat it again..."

Hahaha!

I actually wanted to upset *you*personally
with that analogy and visual.

Seemed fitting being that it's pink!

Had some tonight...too bad it wasn't a chick!

Hippy chick?

Maybe he's not doing what YOU NEED so much
as enjoying himself without the skills it takes to get you off.

Do you mastubate using your hand?
I do. When I realized at 16-51 that penetration
did nothing for me I masturbated whist a man
was inside me and came that way. But it had to be
in a specific position with a longish dyck.

Btw vibrators can desensitize your clit so steer clear.

I never had anyone go down on me for years, least
of all my ex hubby of 24 years,so I didn't think I could
so I didn't bother to ask. And he showed no interest.

Then someone came along and took me as a challenge.

I was wrong! I could!!! I just needed someone who WANTED TO!

So now my guy works my gspot with his fingers
And goes down on me at the same time until I come!

It's intense! I cry tears of joy.
You might try getting yourself close with your hand
in the midst of it and then shoving his face in it
Right as you're about to come like I sometimes do!

The second and third orgasms come a lot easier now!

And the best part?

He's happy and proud of himself and so am I!

He overCAME!

And so am I!
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 204
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Posted: 6/24/2015 9:13:23 AM

I actually wanted to upset *you*personally
with that analogy and visual.

The only image I walked away with was your guy going down on a poxy infected p*ssy. Which is gross. Supremely gross.

As for the rest of your post, I can only imagine that was aimed at someone other than me.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 205
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Posted: 6/24/2015 11:15:55 AM

The only image I walked away with was your guy going down on a poxy infected p*ssy. Which is gross. Supremely gross.


Okay.... BUT It had the opposite effect on me. I imagined this awesome new dish of Salmon cooked Thai style with a red curry sauce and coconut milk.

Hehehehe
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 206
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Posted: 6/24/2015 1:17:33 PM
Poxy infected pussy!??

Yep that's what I was aiming for...

I was joking baby!

Of course it wasn't meant to upset you.

The rest of it was aimed at hippy chick.
Which I stated.

And thanks IG! Thankfully you get me!
That's what I was shooting for!

Again just a play on words and images not meant
to upset anyone!

Sheesh! Remind me not to joke around in THIS forum!

Either way.... It's nice to have anyway to get off
besides with my own hand as I did my ENTIRE 24
year marriage!

I lost all interest in sex and just gave obligatory
Blow jobs for the last leg until we finally divorced.
 scorpioinOregon
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 207
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Posted: 6/26/2015 8:48:02 PM
Thanks Heart!

Yeah, I do use my hand but what pi$$es me off is that he knows nipple stimulation works wonders for me, but he'd rather go down on me whether that is my thing or not.
 Cowboybt5
Joined: 7/13/2008
Msg: 208
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Posted: 6/27/2015 8:23:45 AM
Scorpio, it sounds like some men are truly missing out on a wonderful opportunity. Knowing the things that send a lover into a state of ecstasy is something that should be taken advantage of to the greatest extent.
Although I'm a total fan of going down, knowing that nipples are begging for attention insists on me, being the gentleman I am, giving them all the attention they desire. lol
 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 209
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Posted: 6/28/2015 4:21:53 AM
lol...Im not one of YOU guys as I have a penis but do know its not usual fora woman to climax during intercourse...oh Ive had it happen but with woman who know what they are doing as in their position during the act...etc. My forte is oral and those Ive been with have enjoyed what I like to do thus recieving what I like to call toe curling orgasms....tons of foreplay,touching and teasing which isnt what most guys do only because it takes time...something they dont like....lol
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 210
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Posted: 6/30/2015 3:56:21 AM

Thanks Heart!

Yeah, I do use my hand but what pi$$es me off is
that he knows nipple stimulation works wonders for me,
but he'd rather go down on me whether that is my thing or not.


Eek! That sounds really selfish of him.
I'd venture to say if someone ignores your
needs so blatantly they aren't worthy of being in your bed!
Let alone between your legs!

My nipples are completely desensitized due to 27 months
All toll of breast feeding so any nipple play is all for his benefit.

Communication is key but when someone ignores you
well,maybe if you are insistent he'll listen!
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 211
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Posted: 6/30/2015 4:14:37 AM

lol...Im not one of YOU guys as I have a penis


No you aren't one of us. So you really can't imagine how it
feels to not orgasm during PIV penetration EVER.


but do know its not usual for a woman to climax
during intercourse...oh Ive had it happen but with
woman who know what they are doing as in their
position during the act...etc.


Maybe it's not unusual in your experience( or maybe some of them fake it)
But it IS unusual for a lot more than you'd think!

It seems you're saying it's our fault because we don't know what we are doing?
I've been phucking consentually since I was 16,since I was 8 non consensually and
I'm 51 years old now,and I can assure you I've tried every single position and NOT ONE
of them hits either my gspot or my clit so it just feels like
nothing but pressure.No nerves are EVER stimulated unless it's fingers inside
me that bend up or rubbing my clit manually.

And I am FAR from alone as stats say 75% of women don't orgasm from penetration alone.


My forte is oral and those Ive been with have enjoyed what
I like to do thus recieving what I like to call toe curling
orgasms....tons of foreplay,touching and teasing which
isnt what most guys do only because it takes time...something they dont like....lol


How do you know "most guys" don't spend the time going down?
Toot toot! Your own horn?

My guy is ACES when it cums to oral sex
so it's all good that I don't
Come via penetration alone.

All women need some form of stimulation on one bundle
if nerves or another to get off!

Finding out what does it for each individual woman
is the gentlemanly thing to do!

Not assuming or blaming them for not coming
the way YOU think they should or how most do!
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 212
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Posted: 6/30/2015 9:41:56 PM
I think that poster meant that it isn't USUAL, for women to come from penetration alone Hearton....all due respect...

That's why he was saying that he goes down on them...also , there ARE some women who DO know how and are capable of getting off from penetration alone, maybe because they know their bodies better than other women, or maybe they are with a man whose penis reaches all of the right places, etc.

At least that's what I understood from his post....

As far as orgasming from penetration alone, well, it never happened for me, except with ONE man, who just happened to 'fit' me properly, and I realized that WAS the problem over the years....

It also helped me to understand that my body had changed and that now I am more able to cum from penetration alone than I was before...although clitoral stimulation is ALWAYS the easier route....

I still think the majority of women don't though, but that could also be from a lack of experimentation ie. different positions etc., or that it's simply not their 'button'....Some women I know have never felt any real stimulation from the G-spot at all, but have no problems having an orgasm from clitoral stimulation....

There's nothing abnormal or wrong with that, and nothing to say that women who are unable to orgasm from penetration are 'deficient' in ANY way....

That kind of thinking goes back to the days of Freud when a vaginal orgasm was considered to be the more 'mature' way of achieving orgasm...which we NOW know is absolute horse sh!t....
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 213
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Posted: 7/2/2015 4:49:18 AM

but do know its not usual for a woman to climax during intercourse...

oh Ive had it happen but with woman who know what they are doing
as in their position during the act...etc.


It's the "but" in this that insinuates "deficiency"and what
I responded to.

And you have to admit he was broadcasting
his oral skilzzzzz and claiming "other men" don't want to spend
the time going down.

Either way I know I'm far from alone and just happy my guy
understands his dyck isn't all it takes!

http://www.yourtango.com/20072009/can-you-orgasm-from-intercourse-alone

"80% of women can't orgasm from penetration alone."

Whether they know their body or are in the right position or not.

It really comes down to a man listening to what a woman
Wants/needs and not expecting us all to function the same way,
Let alone make us feel abnormal or inexperienced
or not knowing our bodies enough to come via penetration alone.

Because we could blame them just as easily if we wanted to
Make them feel deficient and inexperienced in getting women off.
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 214
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Posted: 7/2/2015 7:44:03 AM
Well...not dissing your personal experience or perspective....

I have met MANY women who have been with men that DON'T like to go down on women, although never had that problem myself, and also I DO know from personal experience, as I mentioned that it took my whole Life, as well, as the 'right' kind of penis, for me to experience a vaginal orgasm from only penetration, and frankly, I probably never would have, if I hadn't met that particular man...

As far as stats as to how many women can orgasm that way...Ummm, again, never disputed that....

If you are with someone who actually CARES about you and your pleasure as much as his own, I have to assume that not only has he encountered this before, but will not try and shame you because you need more than penis-in-the-vagina stimulation to have an orgasm....

Although we have examples, right in this thread alone, where women are saying that their partners KNOW what pleases, them and STILL won't do it.....

As for the other posters comment, again, just a different pov, I just assumed that by 'they knew what they were doing', that he was referring to the fact that they knew their own bodies well enough to KNOW that not only COULD they orgasm that way, but HOW to go about it....

That DOESN'T mean that other women just don't know their bodies, nor that they 'don't know what they're doing'.....
Just that in MY personal experience I thought I was in the 80%, not that it bothered me in any way, and discovered that it WAS possible, after all....
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 215
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Posted: 7/2/2015 8:27:54 AM
If you found out you can, do you attribute it to a man
with a bigger dyck or who's just better in bed than the rest!?

Believe me!

I went most of my life running into men too selfish
to give oral but more than happy to recieve it!

That includes my recent guy of 6 years!

Took him at least 4-5 years to come around and try and
get over his muff diving aversion!

And I'm sure those 80% stats have to be high!!

I used to assume I was alone in my plight.

Broken.

Iade this thread 2 years ago to assure those out there
reading that they aren't alone.

I'm fine with how I get off.

But sometime it would be nice to experience an orgasm
from penetration alone.

My number is relatively big and not one did it for me so....

I've given up waiting and hoping.

Happy for you tho!

Git it girl!
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 7/2/2015 8:43:39 AM
Nope, not a man who was better in bed or with a bigger d!ck....just someone who 'fit' me, personally, better...

I also should mention that I haven't experienced that since then either....

I think where the misunderstanding is coming in here is that you DO believe somewhere that a woman IS 'broken' if she can't orgasm from penetration alone? Or maybe you feel like that's the 'message' that women, in general are getting?

Because for me, it's really nothing to do with that....

There IS no 'plight' imo...just different women with different bodies and NO one way or another should be considered the 'right' way....

Again, when you're with a partner who is interested in pleasing you, there is no room for trying to 'blame' the woman for NOT being able to orgasm that way alone...the goal should be that they want to ensure that you are ALSO enjoying the sexual experience as much as THEY are.....and having the willingness to ensure that they do whatever will bring that about....

Anyone in this day and age who tries to imply that there's something wrong with a woman who can't orgasm from penetration alone is just plain ignorant of women's bodies, or doesn't give a flying fvck about their partner, imo....
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 217
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Posted: 7/2/2015 11:14:08 AM
"Nope, not a man who was better in bed or with a bigger d!ck....just someone who 'fit' me, personally, better...
I also should mention that I haven't experienced that since then either...."

Fits you better...hmm.ok. Well I'd be tempted to NEVER let him
Escape my dungeon if I found one who could! : )

"I think where the misunderstanding is coming in here is that you DO believe
somewhere that a woman IS 'broken' if she can't orgasm from penetration alone?
Or maybe you feel like that's the 'message' that women, in general are getting?

Oh hell yes it's a message woman are getting and me specifically.
And really the way the media portrays sex as though a woman gets off as
fast as a man can during intercourse! Puleaase!

Not to mention guys like the one above saying what they do about the women who know how to
opposed to the ones who don't. As though it's not a biological issue,but one
of lacking something attainable if only they knew more.

That can typically be the consensus until someone like me stands up
and days unmm no! Not all of us come like that! And I truly only found out I was the norm a few years ago
So for at least 30 years it was somehow my fault and problem alone!


Being that I was broken in vaginally by a rapist as a little girl made me feel different
from the get go. But when I started having consentual sex with young males in my teens
I thought I was supposed to orgasm via intercourse (I must have seen women in porn all faking it
But I got that idea very young)and they came as fast as lightening
And I never did as they only cared about getting a nut,
I began to see sex as ONLY enjoyable for men.

I also had started masturbating young so I knew how to get off
alone. Some have told me that's why I can't orgasm via penetration.

My entire 24 year marriage was about one sided orgasms I gave him.
I had to get my own however I could. He helped reinforce the idea that I was broken.

So yeah I got the message and I'm here to say the message was Wrong!!


"Because for me, it's really nothing to do with that....
There IS no 'plight' imo...just different women with different bodies and NO one way or another should be considered the 'right' way....
Again, when you're with a partner who is interested in pleasing you, there is no room for trying to 'blame' the woman for NOT being able to orgasm that way alone...the goal should be that they want to ensure that you are ALSO enjoying the sexual experience as much as THEY are.....and having the willingness to ensure that they do whatever will bring that about....
Anyone in this day and age who tries to imply that there's something wrong with a woman who can't orgasm from penetration alone is just plain ignorant of women's bodies, or doesn't give a flying fvck about their partner, imo...."


And that's what I'm here to say now that I know the truth!!!!!!!!


So take that "but" and shove it!

There is no "but" !!

There's "and" as in women can come this way and that way
so figure out what way works for her first!
Then get your damn nut!
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 218
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Posted: 7/2/2015 11:30:59 AM

Hi Lauren
I am 33 years old and I’ve never had an orgasm
during intercourse. What do I need to do to have one?
Do I have a disability down there?

Maria


http://www.marsvenus.com/blog/lauren-gray/3-sure-fire-ways-to-orgasm-during-sex

Believe me, had I known this decades ago, my sex life
could have been 100% better!
 8inscrew
Joined: 11/17/2014
Msg: 219
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Posted: 7/2/2015 9:23:50 PM
Wow


You guys do more than sound like z broken record.
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 220
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Posted: 7/3/2015 3:33:48 PM
hearton64- I can't stand it when anyone tells another person that they are defective if they don't enjoy what they THINK you should enjoy.
All of us are individuals, why would anyone think it's different with sex?
I can come with penetration alone, but the orgasms are not as hard or as long.
Ideally, a lover is equally invested in the experience being good for the other person too.
For many women, this means foreplay.
Good foreplay can lead to orgasm by just penetration, because you are already stimulated.
Hallelujah and thank the good lord for men that embrace foreplay.
Since you have already said nothing is TMI, I'm going to take your word for that and suggest a position that offers both penetration and clitoral stimulation.
There might be another correct name for it, but I call it modified missionary.
The man is on top and you are face to face with each other, now he moves slightly higher to where he is a little above you, rather than going inward, at an angle, his penis is now going directly up and down while he's going in and out.
The position takes practice to get it right, but when you do, trust me, you'll know.
I have faked orgasms, but not often, I am very open with what I want and if I find myself in bed with a man who won't listen, or doesn't care, then I fake it, but the relationship is usually doomed.
People who are selfish in bed tend to be selfish in general.
Never apologize for asking for what you want and never let anyone make you think you are defective for what that is, or isn't.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 221
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Posted: 7/4/2015 1:14:50 PM

Since you have already said nothing is TMI, I'm going to take your word for that and suggest a position that offers both penetration and clitoral stimulation.
There might be another correct name for it, but I call it modified missionary.
The man is on top and you are face to face with each other, now he moves slightly higher to where he is a little above you, rather than going inward, at an angle, his penis is now going directly up and down while he's going in and out.
The position takes practice to get it right, but when you do, trust me, you'll know.

It's called C.A.T., coital alignment technique. It doesn't work with everyone, and men who have a shorter than average penis might find this a difficult position to attempt.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 222
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Posted: 7/7/2015 8:46:08 AM

It's called C.A.T., coital alignment technique.


So when you go for a CAT scan, this is what it really, really is taking place?
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 223
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Posted: 7/16/2015 12:16:47 PM
Thanks Bamagirl.

Yeah, I'm far from shy or inhibited.
Thanks your the suggestion.
I can say that a mans pelvis grinding away
at my clit sounds painful compared to my own hand.

And yeah he's shorter(but thicker) than average so I can imagine
it falling out and not being possible.

As for foreplay I'm sure that helps.

I'm losing my sex drive the older I get and
Sex and orgasms are losing their appeal.

It's ok at this point if he's getting his and I'm not.

Feeling depressed lately.

Probably has a lot to do with my apathy towards life.

Ho hum.....
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 224
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Posted: 7/16/2015 12:57:13 PM

Probably has a lot to do with my apathy towards life.


Are you feeling depress my friend?

Sometimes what we all need is a sense of meaning with a goal. Something that challenges us and gives us purpose.

I read a story yesterday that moved me immensely about the guy whose wife died of pancreatic cancer a few years back, and since he didn't feel he could get over, decided to walk 675 miles to Comic-com in San Diego in full Storm Trooper gear. Wow. That was awesome.

In my case. While I have a job that pays the bills, it gives me tremendous editorial license, it still leaves me incomplete. So I decided to write a new novel about Illegal immigrants.

So what you may need to do is discover something hairy and difficult to do, yet that will fill you with joy. And then pursue it. And like Bruce Lee said, in the end if you do not complete the task is not what matters but that journey of discovery.

Namaste
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 225
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Posted: 7/17/2015 4:51:29 AM
You're absolutely right.

I have zero passion or goals I'm trying to attain.

I'm existing in a vacuum with no social interaction with the world
Around me.

I've been living this way for at least a decade.

On top of which I'm verging on the dreaded
empty nest syndrome and having only been
an undervalued parent/homemaker my whole life
find myself feeling obsolete.

I invested all I am into my kids only to be left
wondering if I wasted my life now that it's become
apparent I'm virtually unneeded.

This thread is moot to me now as I don't even care
about orgasms via penetration!!!

I simply want to find a way to feel alive and be rid of
This nearly constant feeling of failure.

Just writing this has me in tears!

I wrote a thread to explain a huge reason why
I feel the way I do but it was so long and so personal
I decided not to embarrass myself by posting it for
fear I'd be judged and reamed and made to feel worse!

Suffices to say,I'm not doing so well.

But thanks for the advice.

Funny thing about depression.

It's hard to get past it enough to even care
or try To find a goal that inspires me.



Heart.....off
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