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Joined: 2/28/2013
Msg: 91
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I would probably try to get to know someone new. No one wants to be the consolation prize. He may be open to friendship, but as far as dating, I wouldn't approach him about that. Try being his friend, if he's open to it, sometimes friendship can blossom into something - if it's meant to. Good luck.
Joined: 8/31/2007
Msg: 92
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I Chose The Wrong Guy
Posted: 3/31/2013 4:03:47 PM
If a woman had picked another over me it would take time for me to get over it to the point I may consider going out with her. I would not be interested in hearing from her no matter how much she told me she was sorry that she made a mistake. I may give her a chance and go out with her after a good long while had past like about a year. So give it some time then contact him. Don't call him a month after picking someone else over him. Give him time to heal his ego...
Joined: 3/12/2013
Msg: 93
I Chose The Wrong Guy
Posted: 3/31/2013 5:06:51 PM
That is good advice BrownEyes ... and that is pretty much what I've done ... he's not been receptive and that's just fine ... at least I know I tried !

And Wine ... I totally get that ... and understand and would not blame a guy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 94
I Chose The Wrong Guy
Posted: 9/21/2016 11:57:58 AM

From the male perspective, how would you feel if you were contacted out of the blue by a girl who rejected you in the past to pursue someone else ?

I would advise her to take a long walk on a short pier.
Joined: 9/18/2016
Msg: 95
I Chose The Wrong Guy
Posted: 9/21/2016 1:58:25 PM

Like many of us, I chose one guy over another. In the end, I made a mistake.

I actually had this happen to me . . .and when she realized she made a mistake and tried to come back . . . I basically told her to get lost (not in words but by my actions). But at that point she no longer mattered to me, not in the least.

If she had been a long lost love.... that might have been a different story. They hold a special place in the universe but they are very, very few and far between.
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 96
I Chose The Wrong Post
Posted: 9/21/2016 5:25:12 PM
As a fellow who hasn't had a date in a decade, I can say...I've passed up a few chances to be in second place. Sometimes you might look back, years from now, and realize the standard was too high. Of course, if you have other alternatives, then go for them. And considering how old the original post is, that's probably what's happened.
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