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 kj521
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 20
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Curt2.0

"if there is one thing I've learned from being on POF for the past two months it's that all you ladies deserve perfection..."

Really?

If that is the case.....I am certainly thankful that life does not always give what one deserves! Lol If hypothetically, perfection existed.....can you imagine the standards one would be forced to live up too? I am just looking for one who is imperfectly perfect for me.......


Op:

Greater intimacy can created by being able to talk openly about turn ons and offs. Just do it in a tackful manner.
 Curt2.0
Joined: 1/22/2013
Msg: 21
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/25/2013 7:30:09 AM
I was being facetious. Mostly. There are lots of people on here with unrealistic expectations though, I'm pleased to hear you don't count yourself among them.
 Belluvthebawl
Joined: 2/19/2013
Msg: 22
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/25/2013 7:30:20 AM
So tell him to cut off the sound effects!!!
 lookingformr.honest
Joined: 1/18/2013
Msg: 23
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/25/2013 8:11:42 AM
When he starts to moan, why not pull away and ask him if you did something to hurt him? Of course he'll say no, but when he starts to moan again, you could very nicely say, please don't...i keep thinking i'm hurting you. Hopefully it would work and neither of you would be embarrassed. Good luck!
 tnt144
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 24
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/25/2013 9:20:56 AM
LOL at this thread.

There is an old song - the line goes like this: "It's in his kiss" - It really is. Oh - by the way - it's in her kiss too.

It's one of the biggest moves you will ever make in the formation of a relationship. If the kiss is poor, it's a bad omen.

If you aren't kissing, you are just wishing!

Edit: more - that song above should be a woman's theme song... along with "Respect", by Aretha - and "Girls Just Want to Have fun", by Cyndy Lauper! I know what girls want.
 LiterateHiker
Joined: 11/30/2012
Msg: 25
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/25/2013 2:17:48 PM

When he starts to moan, why not pull away and ask him if you did something to hurt him? Of course he'll say no, but when he starts to moan again, you could very nicely say, please don't...i keep thinking i'm hurting you. Hopefully it would work and neither of you would be embarrassed.

Great idea! This is a light and tactful way to respond to his moans.

The worst was the guy who shoved his tongue down my throat, keeping it motionless like a wet log. Gagging. Or the man who zoomed in with his tongue already out. What an image. I shudder to think of it.

Note to guys: MIX IT UP. Soft, light kisses, face, neck and ears, French kissing, passionate kisses... the variety is enticing. Ooh la la.
 Albvs
Joined: 2/14/2013
Msg: 26
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/25/2013 3:16:34 PM

I found a really great catch on here everything seems perfect except for the fact that he is a horrible kisser...moans when he kisses..thats a turn off for me and he whines like a baby... If he was to change these things he would be perfect! i really can not compromise on this and do not know how to tell him this ! Any real advice please I know its going to be painful but if we can get past this we might make it!

Unfortunately people don't wear signs that say...

"definitely like moaning while kissing" or
"definitely creeped out if you moan while kissing".

Honestly, this won't be the only thing you'll want to change about him. If we could fast-forward into the future you'll have an entire laundry list of things that you would want to change. Either accept him with all his quirks or lose him. When you're into someone you'd think that the noises he makes are cute.

Throw him back. Try again.
 Lamour_noir
Joined: 1/22/2013
Msg: 27
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/25/2013 3:25:51 PM
lol that was the worse part the moaning!
 Lamour_noir
Joined: 1/22/2013
Msg: 28
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/25/2013 3:26:11 PM
thats a good one!
 Lamour_noir
Joined: 1/22/2013
Msg: 29
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/25/2013 3:28:24 PM
noone is "blasting" him I said all great things about him im trying to make it work actually!
 DontAskMe2CarryUrPurse
Joined: 1/22/2013
Msg: 30
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/25/2013 3:52:08 PM
Everybody has to learn how to kiss from someone. Just ask him to do whatever you do, let him follow your lead until his technique improves. There, problem solved.
 Insanity_Inc
Joined: 2/9/2013
Msg: 31
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/25/2013 5:02:35 PM
Stop kissing him.
Look him in the eye.
Put your finger to your lips and say "Shhhhhh".
Continue kissing.

Simple :)
 melissa0607
Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 32
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HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/25/2013 6:08:09 PM
For me. kissing is so important. I love to kiss and it is definitely a huge turn on when the kissing is great.

My last few years, the ones that come to mind...

Very affectionate guy, wanted to kiss with no tongue? still friends but no way I could do that.
Great kisser, very romantic guy, but surprisingly bad in bed
Great kisser, good in bed, but a liar and a cheater...
Great kisser, great in bed, turned out to be an addict/alcoholic/liar
Great kisser (like top 5 great), never slept with him, still curious
Great kisser, wimpy guy, just ok in bed, made noises like you describe in bed that toally turned me off
So-so kisser, not a fan of kissing, left me for ex gf, think he would've been good in bed excpet for kissing problem
So-so kisser, too aggressive, loves to kiss but is not as good as it as he thought... I almost forgot, this one, at one point I told him to sit back and let me kiss him. It worked a little. Had we dated longer I would've tried harder but he himself wasn't worth it. lol

Saturday night I was out with someone I have known from my gym and have been flirting with for years, we finally ended up alone at the end of the night and he kissed me. Wow, just wow.We ended up coming back here and kissing for 3 hours. It was freaking fantastic! People definitely underestimate the power of good kissing. Although judging from my history, great kissing does not always equate to great sex. Only you can decide how important it is for you and see if you can get him to be more in tune with you. I'll be curious to see how this goes.
 _FishingForAMermaid_
Joined: 1/4/2009
Msg: 34
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/26/2013 9:31:29 AM
In the movie Pretty Woman, Julia Roberts got her guy without kissing. You might not want to worry about "kissing".

Have you checked his wallet yet?
 wolftxusa66
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 35
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/26/2013 9:57:53 AM

We ended up coming back here and kissing for 3 hours.

Nice! It's important to warm up the motor, and I miss long make-out sessions. Most women want to have sex and rush me at that point. I have a squeegee in my car because the wipers only work on the outside.
(If you don't get the squeegee part, you may be a bad kisser. lol)
 melissa0607
Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 36
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HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/26/2013 2:29:22 PM

Nice! It's important to warm up the motor, and I miss long make-out sessions. Most women want to have sex and rush me at that point. I have a squeegee in my car because the wipers only work on the outside.


I love nights like this. I can understand the desire to rush into sex at that point but it really takes away from the pleasure and the art of kissing. I prefer to wait a while before getting into the sexual stuff, no need to rush it, it will happen when the time is right. The kissing was so amazing I could have stayed here for days kissing him. Seeing him again Friday night. Hoping for round 2. :) Impromptu squeegee needed nights are the best!
 afitdancer
Joined: 8/30/2012
Msg: 37
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/26/2013 3:05:12 PM
Ditto.

Maybe your kiss to him is so amazing he can't help but respond vocally?
 escape-reality
Joined: 12/4/2012
Msg: 38
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 3/27/2013 9:25:06 AM
Did you even tell him yet? Tell him already...

Fear of loss prevents us from getting what we want because we are afraid that the person won't ACCEPT us.

When I adopted the mindset of "You know what? I'm just going to be completely REAL with every woman I meet about everything about me. Take it or leave it baby..."

Everything changed because now I am living in a more Powerful way where I stopped caring about being accepted and accepted myself.

I tell women with complete clarity what I want, how I want it, and it is up to them if they like it or not. I'll give any woman a chance to win me over and give them all the secrets that will win me over.

-Brian
 sunsunsun4
Joined: 1/19/2013
Msg: 39
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 6/3/2013 3:52:09 AM

moans when he kisses..thats a turn off for me and he whines like a baby


Oh for the luvva God. I work with animals for a living. It's bad enough when a dog behaves this way. It's usually quite a problem, and difficult to solve. Just imagine how he'll behave when you have sex...
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 40
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 6/3/2013 8:09:03 AM
When he starts moaning, knee him in the groin and say to him: "Now you have a real reason to moan."
 phoenix_55
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 41
HE CANT KISS!!! for the love of God.HELP!
Posted: 6/3/2013 8:32:31 AM
Ewww ... just ewww. I'm pretty sure I met this guy's brother. Not only did he moan, but I needed a towel after he kissed me to wipe off the goo. And I think he was making some lame attempt at talking dirty, but it just sounded like he was mumbling. Very annoying and not a turn-on at all. In my experience, guys who are bad kissers are equally bad in bed.
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 42
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Posted: 6/3/2013 11:44:28 AM
This behavior may also go away on it's own, but I sort of doubt it.
When I was a young man, I was schooled well in kissing. I had to teach only one of my girlfriends and that was easy.
I swear this girl could tounge my uvula....I just told her "this is how I want to be loved." and then we experimented...
Anything for Science!

Another thing you could do is purchase a book on kissing and ask him if he wouldnt mind readiing through it with you and letting you practice on him.
Example http://www.amazon.com/The-Kissing-Book-Questions-Answers/dp/0312198302

This one isnt highly rated, but Im sure there is one out there.

The "Am I hurting you?" thing is a great idea too, but I prefer to empower.
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