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 Bachelorette.Number1
Joined: 4/18/2013
Msg: 22
Overcoming contempt Page 2 of 2    (1, 2)
Almost everyone in this world has feelings of contempt. For someone or another.

Contempt is where you feel superior to someone else for whatever reason. There's hundreds of reasons.
More general examples of contempt are, for homeless people or alcoholics or people of another religion.
One finds there viewpoint, lifestyle, physical being contemptible.
Rolling of the eyes, a tilt of the head accompanied by a smirk, a deep exasperated sigh, "oh brother, not again"........

When it enters a relationship, they say it's one of the more destructive behaviors and most likely, left unchecked will destroy it.
Again, this is all about communication and letting someone else have the opinion they do.
The million dollar question would be why is someone else's opinion bothering you so much?
What fear is under there?

Finding any kind of common ground is usually a good start to lessening contempt.
Appreciating the differences and varied experiences in all of us is respectful. The opposite of contempt.
Respect is earned when it's given.
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