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 DonJ77
Joined: 2/8/2013
Msg: 102
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I didn't read all the responses, but after what you described, that his desire for sex actually went down after the baby...

I would go to a therapist. Even if he doesn't have a high sex drive, there might be something wrong.
 cajuncooker
Joined: 3/3/2013
Msg: 103
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 4/16/2013 9:34:45 AM
Some men are just not big into physical attention and touch. To be honest I can see kind of where your boyfriend is comming from to a point. I am not big on sex and once a month or every six weeks is fine with me. It dosent mean that I love that person I am with any less. It just means maybe I am not built the same as her.
I find that sex for me is like a chore more then enjoyment. It a chore like mowing the lawn or changing the oil in the car or doing dishes. Its something to maintain a relationship. Thats all. I am the same way about holding hands and cuddleing and kissing.
Some people dont enjoy sex everyday or once a week.
 Schatzi2015
Joined: 3/3/2013
Msg: 104
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 4/20/2013 8:15:48 AM
Maybe, he cares for you, but isn't sexually attracted to you...
Its possible to care for someone without finding them attractive...
 cajuncooker
Joined: 3/3/2013
Msg: 105
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 4/20/2013 9:52:31 AM
According to therapists and doctors there can be stressors that cause a lot of people to lose sex drive;
- Job loss
- financhial problems
- Problems at work
- death or loss of a close freind, family memember or pet
- Stress about sexual performance
- too much pornography ( some people become so addicted they cannot perfom with out watching it)
- Medications and interactions of those medication
- mental/ physical/physcolgoical disorders
- lack of spicing it up
those are jsut some of the stressors, then also there are some religious reasons such as catholics only believe in sex to procreate
Muslims believe sex is a mans right and not the womans
other religious upbringing in some denominations say that sex even in marriage is dirty and evil.
there are also people that from a physical cleanliness point of view dont like it (it you are taking something that is urinated out of near something that is deficated out of and putting it in something that bleeds and is peed out of near something that is deficated out of) for example.
then there are some people that just do not like physical touch and are space consiecne. they have a bubble.
then there is the fact that they may be attracted but the touch does not feel as good as it could or there isnt a spark there.
 HelenBackAgain
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 106
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 4/20/2013 10:58:18 AM

This is just my own view, but if he has stopped being interested in sex, something is seriously wrong!

No, he hasn't stopped, he never did have much interest in it. It's just gone down even further is all. But right from the start, he wasn't big on it.

Some people just have a low libido. It doesn't mean they're unhealthy. It does make them a bad match for those whose sex drive is stronger.
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 107
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 4/20/2013 10:58:23 AM
you two have very different sex drives, but what i am trying to figure out is why you had a baby with this guy? shouldn't you have figured out that the two of you were not compatible before dragging a poor little innocent baby into the situation? you two don't belong together. you are not going to be satisfied sexually and emotionally by a man that only wants to have sex with you once a month. frivolous, vapid, clueless, and irresponsible are some of the adjectives that come to mind.
 aremeself
Joined: 12/31/2008
Msg: 108
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Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 4/21/2013 11:33:35 PM
well, it's you guyses problem, what to do.

reason number 248 to break up.
 Lava73
Joined: 3/23/2013
Msg: 109
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 4/25/2013 3:35:50 PM
Gotta love the forum folks who don't answer the question but rather judge you. You know who you are and nobody likes you except fellow forum judgers that think they're in a position to judge. Glass houses I assure you, been around online forums long enough to know.

Anyway to the OP- antidepressants, drugs, low testosterone or he doesn't like sex or just not with you. Many reasons but From a male perspective Something's not right.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 110
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 4/25/2013 6:31:02 PM

From a male perspective Something's not right


Why do you say that???? Are you assuming ALL men would phuck a hole in the wall if given the chance????? There are many men out there that don't "do" sex and not all reasons are mental or physical.

And here we are the "informed" and "intelligent" species.

I do have to agree though,OP, that your "relationship" with this guy is in big trouble,body fluid swapping or not.
 annywn
Joined: 4/17/2012
Msg: 111
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 4/26/2013 2:15:10 AM
Take the conversation away from the actuall topic of sex for a moment, and focus on what is causing the lack of intamac. After a babyI it is fairly common OP. If he won't go with you to therapy, start by yourself, and he may be more inclined to join you. It could be a million and one things, but your feelings need to be heard. Blessings
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