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 LuvADKs
Joined: 8/31/2011
Msg: 30
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I don't mind being arm candy, as long as you're buying dinner..
(Oops - was that just one of my multiple personalities making an appearance? How embarrassing!)
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 31
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Posted: 4/7/2013 6:48:34 PM

hope that the inner beauty will be appreciated as much as the outer beauty used to be


....Rarely is it
BTW I have a house for sale in Joplin lol.
 HappySingleSpirit
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 33
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Posted: 4/7/2013 7:11:30 PM

Not too familiar with this term, I'm assuming it means "eye candy" or something similar. In which way, no I don't care much about looks. I'm only here for friends so I'll write to anybody. Sadly all the women in my area are very much superficial.
OMG, why do you have pictures of your chest posted? What has friendship have anything to do with your chest? LOL.
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 34
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Posted: 4/7/2013 7:17:06 PM
^^^^ yes it survived untouched, its actually west joplin just across the line
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 35
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Posted: 4/7/2013 8:56:18 PM
I think everyone with a generally normal self esteem would like someone who would be perceived by many as "arm candy". Or shall I say, very physically attractive. If they are a 'wow' to you, trust me, they're going to a 'wow' to varying degrees to mall watchers too. Arm candy doesn't mean too-much-makeup with huge fake breasts and a skirt so short and tight they walk bold-legged. It just means a solid head-turner. It can be that girl-next-door-look that wows you (and many others) where should could easily land an actress job on TV and have many guys digging her look.

When someone's more attractive than what we can feasibly get normally, we (men AND women) tend to lower our standards about other things. What would be a mild turn-off can be 'kinda cute' with the hot one. The hotness, in a good way being hot, along with a decent personality, will lower the pet-peeve sensitivity and raise the content level on things they don't like so much when it comes to "men" and "women". Sometimes that can be a GOOD thing... sometimes of course, it can be bad, too.
 marilynh77
Joined: 12/29/2012
Msg: 36
Arm candy
Posted: 4/7/2013 9:50:24 PM
That is dumb! No I don't want one or like the idea of being one, shallowed!
Men who need to have an "arm candy" are shallowed and have insecurity issue because a woman who they love should not be used as someone that they have as a trophy girlfriend/wife to impress their coworkers, other people or to enhance their status.
A person should be looked upon from the inside as well as the outside.
 chrisknew
Joined: 1/27/2013
Msg: 37
Arm candy
Posted: 4/7/2013 10:13:31 PM
I don't want "eye candy"... I want someone who is gonna look at me, let me rephrase that, someone who will look at ALL of me. Looks is unimportant.. its only superficial. To me personality, communication, and integrity is more important. So NO not all woman are focus on "eye candy".. I say "NEXT"
 dishearteneddave
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 38
Arm candy
Posted: 4/8/2013 3:03:12 AM

(Msg #1. Justababe.2013) Male perspective? Female perspective? Would you look for one? Would you be happy if you had one? What percentage does attractiveness play in your decision for datability? Does love change this and how?


Datability? Sure, if I was looking for a temporary thing.

Confident-Realist’s post (Msg. #40) reminded me of a gal I dated many years ago.
If they are a 'wow' to you, trust me, they're going to be a 'wow' to varying degrees to mall watchers too.


One Sunday morning she suggested we have some fun at the mall. Being tall and slim with red/blond hair she donned the suede skirt and we arrived at the mall just before lunch. She told me to take notice of the guys as we walked by. When we came to the end of one section she asked if I noticed the guys looking as we passed them.

“I sure did”, I exclaimed. “I felt like I was on parade. I never realized there were so many gay guys here on Sunday mornings!” :) 

I recall the comment on another thread made by an especially attractive poster. The topic was cheating and she said she told her boyfriend, “If you cheat on me I assure you I will win at that game.”

But in the end it all comes down to love/lust/attraction. If it clicks I don’t think many people would deliberately refuse to date arm candy even though they may not actively seek it. As they say it’s not the people looking at your date one has to worry about. It’s when your date looks back.

However, we must remember the wise words of Jimmy Soul.

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

A pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall
As soon as he marries her then she starts
To do the things that will break his heart

But if you make an ugly woman your wife
you'll be happy for the rest of your life
An ugly woman cooks meals on time
And she'll always give you peace of mind

Don't let your friends say you have no taste
Go ahead and marry anyway
Though her face is ugly, her eyes don't match
Take it from me, she's a better catch
 mrcs84
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 39
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Posted: 4/8/2013 3:50:40 AM
I like the idea of having arm candy. Being with a hot partner is [more] motivation for me to improve myself simply because I want to give her incentive to stay with me. Living in the very health/fitness conscious community that is the military, I certainly see the effects of one partner being in shape while the other one is not. There is a considerable amount of "I need to look good for my [wo]man" talk.
 nubeginnings64
Joined: 4/8/2012
Msg: 40
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Posted: 4/8/2013 6:30:20 AM
Datability when younger was based on looks but they're a dime a dozen nowadays at my age & that seems to be their sole asset. To capture my attention now arm candy's not a necessity beyond mutual attraction. A woman of substance with a strong sense of character is higher on my must have list.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 41
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Posted: 4/8/2013 6:55:14 AM

"Arm candy" implies that looks are all this person brings to the table, so that's the definition I'm going to roll with here.


I've know the type. I've dated the type. Did not last long because if the woman bores the crap out of me. I don't care about the rest.
 CDMer
Joined: 9/15/2012
Msg: 42
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Posted: 4/8/2013 6:59:16 AM
Although looks are the first of my criteria a woman's personality, her priorities in life and her values come next. If I am not feeling any chemistry she goes to the friend zone.
 Whisky_River
Joined: 9/12/2010
Msg: 44
Arm candy
Posted: 4/8/2013 7:05:53 AM
First off...what is "arm candy"...I never would use that definition ever...
I only date men that make me "feel" good about myself....or why bother.
My past men have varied in the overall looks department...but they all...were men that were proud to be with me and vise versa....
Their looks had nothing to do with their character(which is more important)...
 whippedboi
Joined: 3/12/2013
Msg: 45
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Posted: 4/8/2013 1:50:26 PM



That is dumb! No I don't want one or like the idea of being one, shallowed!
Men who need to have an "arm candy" are shallowed and have insecurity issue because a woman who they love should not be used as someone that they have as a trophy girlfriend/wife to impress their coworkers, other people or to enhance their status.
A person should be looked upon from the inside as well as the outside.


true --I hear they are now bringing out fashion models, movie starlets, TV news announcers, and porn stars, all selected based on their "inner qualities" of personality and brains, regardless of looks


wonder if these will be top sellers &/or get high Nielsen ratings ?
 fieryredhead77
Joined: 12/17/2012
Msg: 46
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Posted: 4/8/2013 2:11:33 PM
Having an attractive partner is nice to a point. I think it is fun to hit on the most attractive person in the room, then have a little laugh to myself when all the people around me are surprised when the person is receptive. People think that only a certain type should hit on the attractive people and given that I am not supermodel material, the 'hot' girls who are waiting for some poor schmuck to buy them a drink are jealous.
HOWEVER, If the person isn't any fun to be around what is the point. I prefer having a good time over what other people are saying about me and my date.
 Schatzi2015
Joined: 3/3/2013
Msg: 47
Arm candy
Posted: 4/8/2013 7:03:45 PM
I hate to admit it... Looks really matter to me 70%. I don't want a butt ugly guy. I want someone average looking or better.
My thoughts are that you have to potentially lay in bed beside this person at some point and you want to see someone sexy in your eyes besides you. Intelligence can make someone odd look kinda good, but they still will be odd in bed beside you.
Charm can only go so far too. I am a realist. I need to be chemically and physically aroused. I have dated really hot looking european men, when I lived abroad that were smart and sexy off the Richter scale. They were the best of both worlds...
As long, as he can speak english, has a good job, charming and HOT to me. I am happy.

Sex and love is always better with someone you are physically attracted to. I don't think its really arm candy... you just want someone you desire.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
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Posted: 4/19/2013 6:57:49 PM

Would you look for one?

Yes as in my opinion looks tend to be the only thing most guys have to offer.


Would you be happy if you had one?

I'd be happier as I'm already happy.


What percentage does attractiveness play in your decision for datability?

100%


Does love change this and how?

No love does not change this.
 monocryl
Joined: 3/4/2013
Msg: 49
Arm candy
Posted: 4/19/2013 7:16:38 PM

Female perspective? Would you look for one? Would you be happy if you had one? What percentage does attractiveness play in your decision for datability?


Attractiveness plays a huge part, how can it not?
I think what you're asking is if I'd want to "show him off" to my friends. No, because at least in the beginning I'm very secretive and private about the men I date, not because they're unpresentable. I'm a scientist who's not above being afraid of the jinx :-)
 theanswerguy2
Joined: 4/3/2013
Msg: 50
Arm candy
Posted: 4/19/2013 8:20:28 PM

What percentage does attractiveness play in your decision for datability?


Depending on which formula I use, it's either 50% or 33 and1/3%.

First formula:

50% physical attractiveness, 50% mental attractiveness.
Physical attractiveness without mental attractiveness will not last long.
Mental attractiveness without physical attractiveness equals friendship only.

Second formula:

1/3 physical attractiveness, 1/3 personality, 1/3 intelligence.

That being said, my concept of attractiveness is much broader than that of most people. Physical attractiveness is the easiest trait to find.
 CaptainTeebs
Joined: 11/10/2012
Msg: 51
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Posted: 4/19/2013 8:24:53 PM
Arm candy: something you use instead of your own arm when you need to chew it off in the morning after the beer goggles are gone.
 Tarnished_Knight
Joined: 3/5/2009
Msg: 52
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Posted: 4/19/2013 10:04:26 PM
Ah, shoot, I feel so stupid
I was thinking about that time at the county fair, all hot and sticky, ya know, and my then young son got his stick of cotton candy all over me.

Yeah, there I was with, literally, arm candy.

TK
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
Msg: 53
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Posted: 4/19/2013 10:23:41 PM
Hmmmmm........ Went and did Karaoke tonight. And what do I see? "Arm Candy". Two of them. And whose arms are they on? Men, old enough to be their fathers, and you can't even see their belts because of the flab hanging over them, bald, unshaven, and clothes that look like they are going home to clean the garage. And to think I can't even get a woman to give me the time of day, I must REALLY be repulsive.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
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Posted: 4/20/2013 12:02:16 AM

Hmmmmm........ Went and did Karaoke tonight. And what do I see? "Arm Candy". Two of them. And whose arms are they on? Men, old enough to be their fathers, and you can't even see their belts because of the flab hanging over them, bald, unshaven, and clothes that look like they are going home to clean the garage. And to think I can't even get a woman to give me the time of day, I must REALLY be repulsive.

Doubtful likely it's your criteria or the gals you're attracted to. Most times when I hear guys complain 'he can't get a gal' it tends to mean 'can't get a gal he wants'. If that's not the case for you if you're willing to pay you can get a gal to give you the time of day they're called escorts and prostitutes.
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
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Posted: 4/20/2013 12:04:00 AM
^^^^ Yes, I have already gone that route. Paid an escort to celebrate my birthday with me.^^^^
 Pinky127
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 56
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Posted: 4/20/2013 12:27:57 AM
Ive never been anyones' arm candy and vice versa and im completely happy with that

Ive always been attracted to someone's personality and character waaay ahead of whatever they looked like.
Ive only ever gone out with ONE guy id consider "eye candy" but he was 2-steps behind in any conversation i tried to have with him and i was immediately turned off coz he had nothing whatsoever to contribute.
If i cant talk to someone,im not interested,no matter what they look like.
Im glad im just average
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