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Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 48
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Would you look for one?

Yes as in my opinion looks tend to be the only thing most guys have to offer.

Would you be happy if you had one?

I'd be happier as I'm already happy.

What percentage does attractiveness play in your decision for datability?


Does love change this and how?

No love does not change this.
Joined: 3/4/2013
Msg: 49
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Posted: 4/19/2013 7:16:38 PM

Female perspective? Would you look for one? Would you be happy if you had one? What percentage does attractiveness play in your decision for datability?

Attractiveness plays a huge part, how can it not?
I think what you're asking is if I'd want to "show him off" to my friends. No, because at least in the beginning I'm very secretive and private about the men I date, not because they're unpresentable. I'm a scientist who's not above being afraid of the jinx :-)
Joined: 4/3/2013
Msg: 50
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Posted: 4/19/2013 8:20:28 PM

What percentage does attractiveness play in your decision for datability?

Depending on which formula I use, it's either 50% or 33 and1/3%.

First formula:

50% physical attractiveness, 50% mental attractiveness.
Physical attractiveness without mental attractiveness will not last long.
Mental attractiveness without physical attractiveness equals friendship only.

Second formula:

1/3 physical attractiveness, 1/3 personality, 1/3 intelligence.

That being said, my concept of attractiveness is much broader than that of most people. Physical attractiveness is the easiest trait to find.
Joined: 11/10/2012
Msg: 51
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Posted: 4/19/2013 8:24:53 PM
Arm candy: something you use instead of your own arm when you need to chew it off in the morning after the beer goggles are gone.
Joined: 3/5/2009
Msg: 52
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Posted: 4/19/2013 10:04:26 PM
Ah, shoot, I feel so stupid
I was thinking about that time at the county fair, all hot and sticky, ya know, and my then young son got his stick of cotton candy all over me.

Yeah, there I was with, literally, arm candy.

Joined: 1/4/2013
Msg: 53
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Posted: 4/19/2013 10:23:41 PM
Hmmmmm........ Went and did Karaoke tonight. And what do I see? "Arm Candy". Two of them. And whose arms are they on? Men, old enough to be their fathers, and you can't even see their belts because of the flab hanging over them, bald, unshaven, and clothes that look like they are going home to clean the garage. And to think I can't even get a woman to give me the time of day, I must REALLY be repulsive.
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 54
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Posted: 4/20/2013 12:02:16 AM

Hmmmmm........ Went and did Karaoke tonight. And what do I see? "Arm Candy". Two of them. And whose arms are they on? Men, old enough to be their fathers, and you can't even see their belts because of the flab hanging over them, bald, unshaven, and clothes that look like they are going home to clean the garage. And to think I can't even get a woman to give me the time of day, I must REALLY be repulsive.

Doubtful likely it's your criteria or the gals you're attracted to. Most times when I hear guys complain 'he can't get a gal' it tends to mean 'can't get a gal he wants'. If that's not the case for you if you're willing to pay you can get a gal to give you the time of day they're called escorts and prostitutes.
Joined: 1/4/2013
Msg: 55
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Posted: 4/20/2013 12:04:00 AM
^^^^ Yes, I have already gone that route. Paid an escort to celebrate my birthday with me.^^^^
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 56
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Posted: 4/20/2013 12:27:57 AM
Ive never been anyones' arm candy and vice versa and im completely happy with that

Ive always been attracted to someone's personality and character waaay ahead of whatever they looked like.
Ive only ever gone out with ONE guy id consider "eye candy" but he was 2-steps behind in any conversation i tried to have with him and i was immediately turned off coz he had nothing whatsoever to contribute.
If i cant talk to someone,im not interested,no matter what they look like.
Im glad im just average
Joined: 3/21/2013
Msg: 57
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Posted: 4/20/2013 2:29:36 AM
What one person perceives as attractive isn't necessarily what the next person thinks. Attractiveness is subjective and doesn't apply to everyone. Now, with that said, I can't say I intentionally look for someone to adorn my arm, but at first glance it is someone's outwardly appearance that attracts. Doesn't necessarily have to be of what society deems as attractive. Though in the past I have been attracted to someones personality long before I actually saw them physically. So, I can't say its a huge factor for me. I would say the ratio is 70% personality 30% appearance.

Does love change your perspective?
Maybe, but the likelihood is not probable considering you can't really build intimacy and closeness that love requires with someone if there isn't a single factor that draws you to them in the first place.
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 58
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Posted: 4/20/2013 2:34:18 AM
I don't really understand the point, to be honest.

I like someone because I find who they are to be attractive, in both a physical and emotional sense. Obviously they have to be attractive in *my* eyes, but attractive is a relative term. I prefer earthy, natural women who present themselves as they are. Other men prefer tomboys, or busty blondes, or any other number of things.

I don't really feel the need to validate myself to others through the presence of an attractive person in my company though. I'd prefer their personality spoke for them, not their looks.

I personally consider myself below average on the looks scale. My hope is that someone will care about me enough to respect me and cherish my personality enough that they don't feel my presence will reduce their worth in other people's eye. Books, cover, judgement, all that shebang.
Joined: 7/21/2010
Msg: 59
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Posted: 4/20/2013 9:03:15 AM
Personality can make or break a person. Make a beautiful person, ugly. Make a ugly person beautiful.
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 60
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Posted: 5/3/2013 4:27:17 PM
Arm candy gets more arm candy, I have had arm candy and presently have a few in line they usually persue me for other reasons, not for a real relationship or sex. Women who sees a man with arm candy tend to think there may be something special or important about the man so they also seem interested. Gives me an ego boost. I rather have one MaryAnne than several Gingers though, still cannot find that MaryAnne, I think she is real eye candy for me.
Joined: 11/10/2012
Msg: 61
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Posted: 5/4/2013 7:28:52 AM

I rather have one MaryAnne than several Gingers though, still cannot find that MaryAnne, I think she is real eye candy for me.

Mary Ann is the ideal daily nutritional requirement. Ginger is the candy. Lovey Howell is plain tofu.
Joined: 4/5/2013
Msg: 62
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Posted: 5/4/2013 8:02:50 AM
I've had arm candy . oddly, have found it creates interest from other women.
wth.?.. do women perceive me as more desirable if I have arm candy ?? strange

To me, this would be an indication that you're unavailable and attached. I'd have looked the other way...out of respect.

To the OP: I would not treat anybody so disrespectfully, in that manner. People should be treated as the wonderful people that they are; not used for the sake of compensating for less attractive traits.
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 63
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Posted: 5/4/2013 9:36:58 AM
[QUOTE]'Arm candy,' IMO, is a term for how attractive other people find the person you are with[/QUOTE]


Arm candy as a concept, isn't about how attracted the pair is to each other. It's about the benefits they expect to gain from been seen together BY others. The guy who says that he believes that more women will see him as attractive, if he appears before them with an attractive woman at his side, is talking about the same thing.

And he's right, to the extent that when any of us see anything that looks anomalous to us, such as an ugly person apparently romantically involved with a beautiful one, it is our natural response to try to figure out why. From that, can come the old "he/she must be after his/her money," or "he must have a really big thingy," or "his/her beauty must only be skin deep," and so on.

In the same way, it is not uncommon for people to decide that it you are NOT with someone they find attractive, that there must be something wrong with you. There are several threads with variations of that here, including things like "if someone has never been married, is that a red flag?" or "if someone has been alone for x amount of time, does that mean they are social misfits?" and so on.

Finally, there is the direct economic version of eye candy. Some people who are working to promote themselves, and trying to get ahead in the world financially or otherwise, will often want "eye candy" people next to them, in order to gain prestige, and to appear more powerful to others. This is the classic reason for most applications of "eye candy."

Therefore, with that as the definition, I do very much want a very sexy lady to be with. But I don't give a damn who sees us together, so I would never say that "arm candy" applies to my desires. As I said early on here, it is my primary sex organs which need to be pleased: especially that big one, just above my neck.
Joined: 12/29/2012
Msg: 64
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Posted: 5/4/2013 1:08:37 PM
A friend of mine explained to me that rich men go for "arm candy" type of women and I just laugh. Thankful this girl doesn't value material possessions. Men get themselves into trouble when they go for arm candy women! It's the personality, connection and chemistry that equal a relationship. Women also get into trouble by putting up being a man's arm candy.
Shallow and this shouldn't even be presented.
Joined: 3/21/2013
Msg: 65
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Posted: 5/4/2013 4:21:22 PM

Anybody I'm in love with looks like arm candy to me.

That and I'm attracted to what is known as the "plain-Jane" type where makeup only enhances what is already beautiful without. Which is all a bonus to a great personality and mind.
Joined: 12/1/2010
Msg: 66
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Posted: 5/4/2013 9:06:28 PM
Arm candy for all intents and purposes is a synonym for "human eye candy". Given that, I put it in this perspective:

Friend of mine is also a model railroader. Very picky about how his models look, wants scale size air hoses connecting cars (For looks only), brake rods that can move like a real one (moved by hand though), everything looking real and good to the most minute detail. You know what? He spends maybe $200-$300 per car like this. Locomotives, no clue how much he spends, don't want to know either.

Went over to his house, nothing ran properly. Could move one locomotive only on straight track, his model railroad was just a static display diorama way he had it. I asked why nothing runs, he said he doesn't want to risk any details breaking on the models.

So he has models that look good, heck, look fantastic, but they sit there and are otherwise worthless. And in the end he gets a little down because his railroad doesn't run, mine does, and so does the railroad of every other hobbyist we know.

So one day I had him over, and had a train on the line for him. Most of one anyway. The locomotive was just frame, motor, and gearbox. Cars had nothing above the center frame beam. But the train ran. It ran very well. Told him for all his obsessing over the most minute detail and ending up feeling bad because it won't run, this half-a-train he was running brought him more joy.

Arm candy is about like his exact-detailed models. Looks good, but is expensive, and most of the time, doesn't satisfy your needs. But it looks good. For some this may be OK, others, it is a hollow pursuit. Besides, I can imagine the women who are willing to be expensive arm candy, being just as finicky and hard to please as trying to run some of my friends trains on his layout. Even if you can do it, it's just not worth it.
Joined: 1/24/2011
Msg: 68
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Posted: 5/5/2013 6:33:45 AM
Arm Candy and she might just shoot your thingies off.
Joined: 7/14/2012
Msg: 69
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Posted: 5/5/2013 11:18:26 PM
I have a friend that I go out with to shows, plays, and events whenever he's in town.
I think arm candy has such a stilted view now a days.
I like the term beard best.
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 70
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Posted: 5/8/2013 1:24:39 AM
So...a girlfriend that is hot? Yes please.

Beauty being the only quality that she has going for her? Obviously not.

Seems like too many posters are hung up on the term itself. A hot, smart, sane, compatible partner is still arm candy if you ask me.
Joined: 4/17/2012
Msg: 71
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Posted: 5/8/2013 1:39:20 AM
Arm candy, hmmm is that something like skittles pox?
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 73
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Posted: 5/8/2013 4:10:06 PM
Arm candy is in the eye of the arm-owner.

As long as he thinks a few other things about me, as well, I have no problem being considered arm candy.
Joined: 3/20/2010
Msg: 75
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Posted: 5/8/2013 6:21:52 PM
sigungq wrote:

Is this why you're here "Actively seeking a relationship"?

Do you just stalk people's profiles to see what they are up to. I swear every time I see your name in any thread you are calling someone our for being in a relationship yet "actively looking for a relationship".

If memory serves me correctly you called me out on it too. Well dear sigungq for people that are here for the forums only (like myself) it is mighty hard to choose the right option because we are basically forced to choose from A, B or C which is looking for hook up, is looking for a relationship or looking for marriage. But if your detective skills were a tad bit better you would just scroll down a bit and see the actual status of a person (by the way mine says not looking for anything even though the top portion is misguiding and states I am).
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