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 MeMeMeatlast
Joined: 1/26/2015
Msg: 70
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In the final analysis I got to get my what ifs answered, plus as an added bonus I got to finally sleep with her.


lol - this reminds me of what happened to me last year :

A girl I went to high school with back in the late 70's found me on FB Dec/13.

We got together , didn't work out and like you was left thinking " at least I got to sleep with her " , lol.

Actually, what I miss most now is kissing her .... mmmmmmmmmm , lordy I do love a woman who knows how to kiss !!!!
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
Msg: 71
Do you ever think of long lost loves?
Posted: 2/3/2015 8:24:54 AM
[Actually, what I miss most now is kissing her ]


It's strange.
I don't think of lost loves.
I have rarely reminisced about a person but rather an intimate aspect such as what Meme pointed out.
The way one person's chest felt as I laid my head on it.
The way another man's arm felt as I put mine around as we strolled for a walk
A kiss of another
Cuddle
One person' hair
eyes
even a voice
and so forth
but to long for that person as a whole? No
They are exes for reason

Now... if I could take bits and pieces of each of them together, I wouldn't be here
I'd be too busy :)
 MeMeMeatlast
Joined: 1/26/2015
Msg: 72
Do you ever think of long lost loves?
Posted: 2/3/2015 11:03:34 AM
^^^^^I know right ?
Take all the best parts of exes to make one ultra partner !

Someone hurry up and invent a machine that can make that happen dammit!
 CarefreeBeauty
Joined: 5/30/2014
Msg: 73
Do you ever think of long lost loves?
Posted: 2/3/2015 4:26:19 PM
Of late been having dreams of tall men. Some known (in that carnal way), some just 'known' and wished I knew more, some 'known' in another way but will never 'know'---lost loves all---not sure about the 'long'< haha
 mike11091
Joined: 8/25/2013
Msg: 74
Do you ever think of long lost loves?
Posted: 2/3/2015 5:18:54 PM

Everyday, I think of them. Every single one of them. 2-3 times a day each. Sometimes it makes me want to cry in fustration, that I am so absolutely stupid. I think of the things I wish I could have said or done. Hindsight is always 20/20 like that. Now I am alone with no hope of ever finding someone again. It just feels like my time has passed and now I am just waiting to die.


I went through this. Hell, sometimes I still do. It's not about loneliness for me, I have a GF, it's just that sometimes life feels empty. I work, visit my GF, eat, shower, sleep and repeat.

It's not depression. I'm not sad about it. Conflicted would be more accurate.

For most of my life I've aspired to achieve the "dream". House, wife, job. But why? Having someone to share interests is all fine and good, but to what end? Is that what children are supposed to do for people? Give meaning to otherwise meaninglessness?


OT: I'm not quite sure how to look at this. I don't have any regrets. Mistakes abound, but zero regrets. I do, however, find myself randomly remembering some of my ex's. I've come to realize that my GF shares qualities with many of them and she often makes me remember things I could otherwise do without. Feelings really don't come into play, but the memories will always be there.
 Eternityboresme
Joined: 8/20/2014
Msg: 75
Do you ever think of long lost loves?
Posted: 3/4/2015 10:32:52 AM
I have memories; but I never carried torches for past ex-lovers/husband. They're in the past for a reason and they stay there.

It's easier for me to do this because none of them had passed. Had any passed away at the time I knew them -- or even years after that -- it'd trouble me; but not because of past feelings (and I would be very sad), but because I'd wonder about the families and friends who've to survive their passing.
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 12/26/2014
Msg: 76
Do you ever think of long lost loves?
Posted: 3/6/2015 9:00:52 AM

There is only one that I think about all the time. Not exactly long ago, we broke up October 2013, and have not seen each other since. He has pretty much cut me out of his life, blocked me on FB, and moved overseas. So it's pretty obvious he's done with me and wants nothing to do with me. Still, deep down I hope that one day we'll be at least on friendly terms again.


I posted this in December, msg 90, and I'm still so absolutely elated that we are on friendly terms again, just as I had hoped for the last year and a half. No one I've met since him has made me feel like he has. It still feels surreal that he not only initiated contact with me again after all this time and after all that was said and done (very harsh words were exchanged), but that I'm actually going to see him again this summer, and that he has been thinking about me as he told me. When it ended between us, it almost felt like he was trying to escape from me, to get as far away from me as possible. However, if you have a real connection with someone, time and distance doesn't matter, it's not just going away. At this point, no telling what will happen with us down the line, but things are different now. When we first met, it was passionate and fast and chaotic, and things were bound to go up in smoke and flames. Now, things are much more slow-paced, cautious, and focusing on the friendship part. The passion is still there, at least for me, but I'm keeping it bottled up and won't reveal it to him until we know what's going to happen.
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 77
Do you ever think of long lost loves?
Posted: 3/6/2015 2:57:27 PM
YES.

Recently saw the same surname on a door...... brought back lots of memories.
Smells.... certain aftershave fragrances bring back very powerful memories.


This morning waking up in my solo bed dreaming of waking up beside someone wonderful so let my memory and imagination run.
 StarClassic
Joined: 9/29/2014
Msg: 78
Do you ever think of long lost loves?
Posted: 3/8/2015 3:53:11 AM

Eternity: it'd trouble me; but not because of past feelings (and I would be very sad), but because I'd wonder about the families and friends who've to survive their passing.


I can say from experience they would appreciate your kind thoughts.
Her mother and I exchange Christmas cards and called on birthdays until she too passed four years ago.
 tgif111
Joined: 10/24/2014
Msg: 79
Do you ever think of long lost loves?
Posted: 3/8/2015 6:00:51 PM
I think of the love of my life, especially when Casablanca comes on.

but I do not long for HER.

it's the feeling of LOVE that I miss, being so deeply in love I was drowning in it.

I was on top of a mountain, in the upper atmosphere, in outer space, on the moon and among the stars.

I was so much in love I felt sorry for people who I thought believed they knew what love was.

I loved her on a level that most people do not know even exists.

I miss that love, not her.
 Joegl209
Joined: 10/13/2014
Msg: 80
Do you ever think of long lost loves?
Posted: 5/12/2015 9:55:13 AM
I don't sit and think of my ex girlfriends and wonder if they think of me . I just realize that the women from my past are with new boyfriends/husbands or lovers and they're definitely not thinking about me or else they'd get in contact. Time to move on, Bud.
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