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Joined: 12/9/2012
Msg: 26
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^^^ pretty sweet.
Off topic but why only happy hour Dave? Spring for the full price drinks and I won't say cuddle or snuggle. I cut my finger and have an owie :)
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 27
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Posted: 4/17/2013 6:20:47 PM

"Is it just me, or...."

'Yes, it's just you.'

I guess that answers that question.

No, it's not something I obsess or freak out about. I was just curious.

Sure...but some might argue that a pet peeve is a pervasive, and therfore obsessive, attribute...
Anything else the audience of POF can help you with? :)
Joined: 8/28/2012
Msg: 28
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Posted: 4/17/2013 6:27:35 PM

It's just semantics & very petty at that. Your post is a red flag IMO of a CONTROL FREAK!

Wow, instant internet psychoanalysis.

Let me try... OP, what number are you thinking? Was it 3.7? No? Well, you must have been thinking the wrong number, so obviously you're a BAD person. How dare you think like that!?! Wear this red flag in shame, buddy.
Joined: 8/24/2012
Msg: 29
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Posted: 4/17/2013 6:34:10 PM
I don't think I care which word is used. Of course you could object to snuggle cause isn't that a fabric softener thing you put in the dryer/
Wolf-your "chicks" comment took me a littlw while to understand. I kept looking for the puppies...( I adore puppies).
Scottish boy-lolol funny and yet so right on the mark as usual..
Very interesting thread, but I just read the rules for this forum and don't understand what cuddles has to do with being over 45....Of course, I'm also still looking for the puppies, so what do I know.
Joined: 12/9/2012
Msg: 30
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Posted: 4/17/2013 7:44:12 PM
OP, I don't like the word "cuddle" either! I prefer "snuggle".

I also HATE that stupid expression "sleep with". What a lame, idiotic euphemism.

Joined: 6/30/2012
Msg: 31
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Posted: 4/17/2013 7:55:04 PM

And yes, we've had some pap topics on here; what to wear on a date, hair extensions (sorry Blonde), and other fluff topics. I call them "fluff" but to others it is not. It's a "just my opinion" thing. Nothing to get all torqued up about.
I got a chuckle out of this and it was a fun thread while it lasted. Someone did point out that the friend who said don't wear your hair that way was trying to sabotauge me & I had an aha moment1 sorry I digress...

The touch of another human being is a gift unto itself, how wonderful. I am a cuddler/snuggler/hugger, just a touchy-feely person.

yes, it seems silly to take issue with cuddle vs snuggle. There is so much more in life to pay attention to.

As a side note? I agree with Blonde in the pics of your little girls should be taken down from your profile. There are so very many not nice folks out there and we need to do all we can to protect our babies. jmho

its sounds a little like controlling behavior but it could be that you are just highly sensitive because someone you one dated or divorced did these thing? I dont know.. but on forums be prepared to get slammed, misinterpreted and verbally abused if you say something that strikes a nerve in another.

He objects to the word "cuddle" as it pertains to close human contact.
He needs to stipulate that in his profile so he can weed out the cuddlers.

I'd write more but my tummy hurts, gotta go to the potty.
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 32
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Posted: 4/17/2013 8:52:48 PM

Wolf-your "chicks" comment took me a littlw while to understand. I kept looking for the puppies...

OK, I realize that it was a bit unclear for those who don't know me (pretty much everybody), so let me clarify for those who are still puzzled. Msg 9 went with msg 2's PS. I said out loud what a pedophile may think after OP dismissed the exposure risk. Seeing kids and putting puppies in the van as a lure. I strongly advise against showing minors in pics, given that even adults run into creepy guys (see plenty of other threads).

I will refrain from explaining how salt, money shot and pink eye go together. lol

Ok, who wants to cuddle? I'll get the Vaseline...
(The only puppy here is this sick puppy (points at himself).)
Joined: 3/15/2010
Msg: 33
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Posted: 4/17/2013 8:59:55 PM
Getting back to cuddle vs. snuggle and a personal dislike for certain terms:

I've always preferred certain terms for the female anatomy over others, things like ***** instead of *****, and ***** instead of *****, but I'm especially fond of ***** instead of butt burp.

You keep that vaseline on the OTHER SIDE OF THE ***** ROOM *****.

(kiss this thread goodbye)
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 34
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Posted: 4/17/2013 9:42:12 PM
Either or, I never really noted a difference in those two words - until now.

My pet peeve is using the word "journey" for anything other than an 80s rock band, or anything that does not involve an extended and actual physical transport from point A to point B.

Like nails on a chalkboard for me.
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 35
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Posted: 4/18/2013 2:23:56 AM

Hmm. I use 'cuddle', 'snuggle' and 'have anal sex' interchangeably...

And “spooning” means you’ll include lube in the deal ? or is it just a "cuddle" in the kitchen ?


I don't know why you'd care much about the "cuddle"/"snuggle" "conundrum", generally it happens naturally without either word being used. On the other hand, if you share the term interchangeability as the poster referred to above, a woman would probably appreciate knowing the "ingredients" included in your definitions of the words.

Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 4/18/2013 3:46:42 AM
Well, OP, I can't sympathize with your particular sore point words, but I have my own experiences with inadvertent "trigger words" or phrases, so I can understand the frustration.

I would recommend that you do as I do when I run into such things, which is to realize first and foremost that it is ENTIRELY in your own head. You have a long-developed idea that one of those words is a good thing for humans to do, and the other is not, and only you can figure out how you came to have that association so strongly established. Once you do manage to recall why exactly it bugs you so much, you will very likely begin to be able to tolerate things better, and have a little more fun dealing with it.

The final straw for me in dealing with this sort of thing, came when I read a book called "The Professor and the Madman," which is a true telling of a significant element of the writing of the Oxford English Dictionary. Aside from the fascinating and bizarre tale at the heart of the book, more than anything else, I learned that the meaning of words is not determined by dictionaries or by English professors, or even by those who originally make them up. The meaning of a word is determined by what the majority of the people using it, think it means.

That means that we are all bound to run into word usages in our lives, which confuse us, or anger us, or cause us to "stutter step" every time we run across them in conversation. As I said, the best response in light of this, is for each of us to figure out why we think something of one word while others think another, and then work on ourselves to tolerate that a difference exists, in order to gain benefit FOR ourselves, by enabling us to enjoy the other persons in spite of this difference.

I can't think of any words such as you wrote this thread about, which bother me right now, but I can point to a speaking habit that bugs me. My ex does it all the time. She starts almost every conversation or explanation of something with the word "so." It causes me to "stutter step" mentally every time, because I am trained to think that "so" is a joining word, and that I therefore must have missed something she must have said just before that. This in turn is likely to make me miss the NEXT thing she says, as I back up mentally to look for the non-existent "missing" participle. Then I have to mentally run to catch up with her again.

It was mildly irritating to me throughout the marriage (though it had nothing to do with our dissolution). I have since run across several more "so-sayers." It's not a Red Flag to me by any means, but I do have to consciously decide with each one that I am going to switch on my "tolerate so" mechanism.
Joined: 10/22/2008
Msg: 37
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Posted: 4/18/2013 6:31:00 AM

starts almost every conversation or explanation of something with the word "so

A fellow I was dating for awhile did this same thing. I could almost here the ...(dot, dot, dot) of his brain before he said the word So...(more dots). That ,combined with the slow way he talked, drove my quick mind batty!

Another fellow had the verbal tick of adding 'Right, (insert my name)? after almost everything he said. Maybe he felt the need to get my attention, or something. IDK. That drove me batty, too!

Guess I'm just an old bat<
Joined: 6/22/2009
Msg: 38
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Posted: 4/18/2013 6:48:32 AM
I think we are back to the "Ick' topic.. snuggle cuddle, baby talk, whining.. oh the humanity!! I want to see the puppies too..
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 39
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Posted: 4/18/2013 7:50:08 AM
Cuddle/snuggle...The next Big's all so confusing. I've been in a quandary ever since someone started a thread a while back on "boyfriend/girlfriend' and which term to use when introducing. Still trying to figure out how to introduce the "new guy" in my life..............should that ever happen.

But for me, if the guy in my life says, "come cuddle with me"....I'm going to say, " I get to be in the front"
If he says, "come snuggle with me".....I'm bringing my special "Princess Leia Snuggie" with me. *grins*

Igor.... "So".... tell me, what other words or phrases seem to trouble you?"
Thank you for the early morning chuckle. Love your posts.

Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 40
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Posted: 4/19/2013 11:06:06 PM
If I can live with the term "blow job" instead of the more accurate and desirable "suck job"....then you shouldn't have any problems with the word "cuddle" least it doesn't give you the visual of your scrotum being inflated like a party balloon.
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 41
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Posted: 4/20/2013 7:16:47 AM
I don't mind the party balloon scrotum - it's the part when she makes the finishing knot that hurts.
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 42
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Posted: 4/20/2013 10:59:26 AM
^^^^^LMAO....I missed out on that thank God, I usually get released so they can watch me flubber around the room.
Joined: 6/14/2011
Msg: 43
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Posted: 4/20/2013 1:17:25 PM
Interchangeable words in my view.

How would you feel if your S/O asked if you wanted a snog? Would THAT put you off?

Noun 1. snogging - (British informal) cuddle and kiss
caressing, cuddling, fondling, hugging, kissing, petting, smooching, snuggling, necking - affectionate play (or foreplay without contact with the genital organs)

Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 44
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Posted: 4/20/2013 7:07:47 PM
^^^^Snog??...are you kidding me? Who makes up this terminology, and why do Bits allow them to go unpunished? So I guess the past tense of the word is "snogged" in I've been snogged. That sounds nasty. Actually it sounds like something that could only happen between a woman with a huge nose or nostrils and a guy with a tiny penis.LOL
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 45
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Posted: 4/21/2013 7:03:14 AM
I like snuggling most after sex, laying about together in bed.

But watching a movie together in the house, or sharing a gooey dessert in a restaurant with sofa like recliners are good places to snuggle. Having a fireplace makes it a natural place to snuggle up in front of.

No one has actually had to ask me to cuddle, snuggle, etc. It's something that just comes naturally, I put my arm around her, she moves closer, we share some popcorn or a dessert.
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 46
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Posted: 4/21/2013 7:07:48 AM

How would you feel if your S/O asked if you wanted a snog?

VERY appreciated? :)
Joined: 3/2/2007
Msg: 47
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Posted: 4/21/2013 10:18:05 AM
Well there are a few words and phrases that make me cringe at times, I have no preference between cuddle and snuggle, thou snuggle makes me think of the bear from the fabric softener commercial, I don't think it really matters once you get next to your partner what word you choose to use.
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 48
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Posted: 4/21/2013 2:46:26 PM
These are interchangeable in my mind, with a preference depending on your upbringing, background and history as it pertains to the action(s) of snuggling and cuddling......:)

It is much the same as hearing the terms......."blow job"........"sucking"........"giving head"........."going down"........."oral sex", etc. All have some connection with each other, and even thought the same way by many, but when used by some, and heard by others, it can be received, and accepted in totally different ways......go figure!!

Joined: 7/21/2012
Msg: 49
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Posted: 4/21/2013 7:03:32 PM
I have an aversion to beets.... That may be a totally different thread.

However, cuddle versus snuggle -makes no difference to me. I respond to both :)
Joined: 12/22/2011
Msg: 50
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Posted: 4/22/2013 8:16:53 AM
you have an aversion to the word "cuddle" and you noticed that a lot of women use that word. i'm sorry i guess we missed the memo. it's bloody annoying, isn't it?!? just look at all of us dropping the "c-bomb" and totally ruining your post-coitus visions with kittens and bunnies & potty talk. how dare us i mean really. women, stop doing that immediately!

snuggling up together and watching a movie on a rainy day or when the kids are in bed is a great joy in life. I just don't like the word 'cuddle'.

what other words are we supposed to not say to avoid a complete buzz-kill??? oh that's the only one?? phew what a relief.
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