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 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 151
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............pineapple juice diet 3 days before the hot date?


LOL Douche?
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 152
It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/29/2016 7:45:45 AM
I heard that diet matters... For men and their semen taste as well.


Re. below: true, some stds such as trich cause a foul smell. Lots of ppl walk around with undiagnosed stds.
 Perspektiv
Joined: 4/24/2016
Msg: 153
It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/29/2016 7:48:32 AM
I don't think pineapple juice will help much, if the woman not only smells off, but smells putrid even post shower.

That would be like spraying on some cologne, on a guy who reeks of fermented urine, onions, and booty. You're kidding yourself, if you feel that will eliminate the stench.

There's a certain point where even Febreeze can't fix it. You need to disinfect (or just throw out and/or burn the clothing), or in the case of a vagina, find out if there isn't some kind of infection going on.

The guys I mentioned in my prior post, would sleep with anything that walks. So for them to pull away from going down on a woman--her smell has to be rather serious.

Its not about showering or dieting, to balance vaginal PH levels for some women. Some women, are just that dirty. Shower or not.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 154
It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/29/2016 9:24:52 AM
" just that dirty?"
All women have a scent - as others mentioned perhaps an STD the cause.
Although generally I have found Men who say crap like " she stank" simply do not want to perform :/
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 155
It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/29/2016 9:29:37 AM
Then there is just the plain ol' garden variety of a yeast infection. Has nothing to do with an STD. Can happen at any time to any female. Then there is the monthly cycle. ALL play a factor. If'n you don't like the smell? LOL Don't go there!
 Perspektiv
Joined: 4/24/2016
Msg: 156
It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/29/2016 11:18:17 AM

All women have a scent


Yes, but there's a different between a healthy "musky" scent that's normal, to something that is more of a putrid, rotting fragrance, clearly showcasing something is wrong.

Reality, is some guys just don't like going down on a girl. If a woman feels that's something worthy of breaking up over, even though her guy otherwise is great, to me that's rather sad.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 157
It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/29/2016 1:03:35 PM
^^^ so if the woman was great and you never had any sex with her you'd hang around? Nah.. I think not :/
 TheRebelYell
Joined: 5/10/2016
Msg: 158
It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/29/2016 1:40:21 PM
I think there is a big difference between "never had any sex" and " won't do oral". Some people don't like oral in that they may enjoy giving and not receiving or vice versa. And not everyone is good at giving; some are damn horrible at giving (usually ththe on s that brag about being great aren't, IME). IF oral is important to you, I guess it's worth finding another partner who likes giving. My first priority is what we have 23 hours a day and then the 1 hour we spend sexually. If everything is fabulous except oral, I can live with that.

Another reason to have sex before you have a committed relationship. I can't imagine being a 30 year old virgin, finally get married and we aren't remotely compatible in bed.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 159
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It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/29/2016 1:46:48 PM

Then there is just the plain ol' garden variety of a yeast infection. Has nothing to do with an STD.

Well, a yeast infection is sexually transmittable. So it is an STI.

IF oral is important to you, I guess it's worth finding another partner who likes giving.

I think for a lot of people it is. And it's not purely that it's about not getting oral sex when it comes to one who hates it / refuses it... it just takes the wind out of the sails of sexual experiences. It's a pretty basic staple. Analogy: Someone who refuses to have sex with her turned around in any fashion. Refusing, tho? Yikes. Takes the wind out of the sails. No thanks. Mood killer.
 TheRebelYell
Joined: 5/10/2016
Msg: 160
It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/29/2016 2:23:10 PM
^^^. Maybe you should take a poll NG and see - of all of those divorced on here or are no longer in a long term live in relationship - how many of you split up because your partner wouldn't give you oral sex?

My money is on - under 5%. And I'm thinking that sometimes early on, some are willing to try damn near anything to please a partner or experiment. Some will,later on decide they don't like something as much as they used to or they find it boring or distasteful ..whatever reason. We change, we all do.

And what is the "norm"? For my parents, oral sex was semi taboo. My age, not so much. Now teens are doing anal and oral so they can say they are a virgin...I never heard of anal until I was way older. IMO, if you've had something up your butt or sucked a penis, you're not a virgin.
 Perspektiv
Joined: 4/24/2016
Msg: 161
It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/29/2016 4:08:26 PM

so if the woman was great and you never had any sex with her you'd hang around? Nah.. I think not :/


To dump a great woman, just because she won't go down on me, does seem silly (if we're comparing apples to apples).
So, if we're keeping the story line the same--yes, I'd stick around.

Some people don't like performing oral sex. There are other ways to get a partner to climax.

Relationships are about compromise.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 162
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It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/29/2016 4:28:34 PM

^^^. Maybe you should take a poll NG and see - of all of those divorced on here or are no longer in a long term live in relationship - how many of you split up because your partner wouldn't give you oral sex?

It'd not be people who are established couples or married (they obviously adjusted to it already where it wouldn't be a make-or-break factor). It'd be when you're starting to date and you get in the sheets, and they Refuse to Ever be involved in oral sex -- EVER -- how many would turn away when that person isn't some overly special person that otherwise rarely comes around (like someone way out of your league, your teenage dream crush)? I'm guess it's going to be pretty high. Much higher than 5%.

You could go to wholesome places like Utah and the % would be lower. You could go to big cities and the % would be higher. It would not be anything to sneeze at.

And I'm thinking that sometimes early on, some are willing to try damn near anything to please a partner or experiment.

Yes, exactly. Which would make someone who cut-n-dry Refuses to Ever do so be a turn-off to many. Even raise an eyebrow to one who doesn't delve into foreplay as much as the next guy. It's the concept of them being rigid like that, in and of itself.

And what is the "norm"? For my parents, oral sex was semi taboo.

Did they talk about their sex life with ya? :) No, I understand oral sex way way back in the day for "normal folks" was a kind of taboo thing. But I do believe it happened much more often that people believed. Quite taboo to talk about it.

Now teens are doing anal and oral so they can say they are a virgin...I never heard of anal until I was way older.

You never Heard of anal until way older? Yikes. The 70s was a very very sexual decade. Crazy sh!t was going down.

IMO, if you've had something up your butt or sucked a penis, you're not a virgin.

If you sucked a penis and that's all ya did -- you are clearly a virgin. Per the movie Clerks, if you "sucked 37 d!cks" -- you can still be a virgin, but you're not a wholesome virgin. We just wouldn't believe she really was a virgin if she did all that, that much. :)

If you go to bed with a woman and she says "Oh no, I'm not a virgin, not by a longshot," and then after several dates you hit the sheets -- and you're going to put it in and she goes "Whoah! No! I said have sex, not put that thing in me! I've never done that before, ever!" -- she obviously talking a different language. There's a reason why oral sex is going to be 3rd base, and sex (=sexual intercourse) is home plate.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 163
It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/29/2016 6:05:48 PM
FYI.
It is possible for a woman to transmit a yeast infection to a male sex partner, even though yeast infection is not considered to be a true sexually-transmitted disease (STD) because it can occur in women who are not sexually active.

Copied from a Medical dictionary.

Do your homework!
 TheRebelYell
Joined: 5/10/2016
Msg: 164
It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/29/2016 9:37:00 PM
You can get a yeast faction from taking antibiotics..and be a virgin, a real virgin. So no, not necessarily a STD. It CAN be "given" to someone. But, you don't have to be sexually active to get it.

NG, I'm thinking you haven't had much in the long term relationship department or been married. Or had much of any sort of relationship. Just kind of make it up as you go along.

And reading about the 70s doesn't mean you lived it by the book. And you're guessing, or just making it up. Some of us lived it.

And no, people don't divorce over oral sex...u less you're getting it from the neighbour. Now your talking Utah and cities and rural, WTF. "wholesome places"? Is that like church girls are chaste and non church girls aren't. Or city girls are loose and country girls aren't? We both know that's a crock.

And you can have your opinion, mine is...if you've have a penis in your mouth or up your butt, you're not a virgin, IMO.

And again, don't suck the marrow from the bone on a topic.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 165
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It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 5/30/2016 12:18:15 AM

It is possible for a woman to transmit a yeast infection to a male sex partner

Which is *The* definition, but go on...

even though yeast infection is not considered to be a true sexually-transmitted disease (STD) because it can occur in women who are not sexually active.

A certain percentage of women who are (in even in the extreme definition of) virgins have genital warts. It's not defined by Requiring sexual interludes to get it. Otherwise genital warts wouldn't be. It's still an STD. Sorry. A yeast infection isn't *generally* considered an STI because of the social negativity on shame. But it *Literally* Is. Which sheds light on the concept itself to ward people away from sexual activity. But it's Clearly an infection. It's Clearly sexually transmittable. It's not rare. It's an STI.

You can get a yeast faction from taking antibiotics..and be a virgin, a real virgin. So no, not necessarily a STD.

Great. Gential warts aren't either then. Sexually Transmittable Infection (STI). If it's sexually transmittable, it's an STI. That's all that it means, that's all that it says. Case closed. Done. Drop mic. Game over. :)
 chinook1111
Joined: 4/1/2016
Msg: 166
It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 6/1/2016 9:12:55 AM
I always associated yeast infections with loadz
 tbicon32
Joined: 5/12/2016
Msg: 167
Lol last 2 pages are a riot
Posted: 6/1/2016 9:48:38 AM
@post 159
How was he being an f-ing ahole? I don't get it. Suing him for what? He was clarifying that he has a small pee-pee and thus had to learn the ropes all around better than your average bear, to please a lady. I don't find that offensive. I think it'd be rude if he was saying that about another member, but not himself.


Are you serious? Read this guy's history. No normal guy publicly humiliates himself over and over again. One hundred to one the photo is of somebody this poster as an agenda against...there are losers all over this world, in case you never noticed, and this poster is one of them, and not because of the size of his d*ck but because he is a d*ck. Sueing him for defamation of course and intentional public humiliation. A jury would kill this guy if there was evidence that he was doing this to hurt some other guy he has an agenda against.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 168
Lol last 2 pages are a riot
Posted: 6/1/2016 10:15:32 AM
^ Not positive, but the only thing I can think of that could be a crime here would be defamation libel. Which only applies if something is untrue. So the jury would have to see the penis of the guy who is being defamed. And if juries are being used on defamation libel cases, you guys are spending your tax dollars on some really weird shit.
 tbicon32
Joined: 5/12/2016
Msg: 169
Lol last 2 pages are a riot
Posted: 6/1/2016 10:43:55 AM
Incorrect . . . this would be considered defamation-per-se. You can be sued, for example, proclaiming somebody has a loathsome disease regardless of whether the statement is true or not. Accuse somebody of having HIV publicly, when it is a private matter not open to public disclosure, and let me know how the defense of truth goes.

And what do you think Juries are for if not also for "defamation libel cases"?

Face it, no guy will come on here and constantly, on a dating board, whine about having a small ****. So there are only two possibilities. He is mentally deficient and is having fun constantly whining about his purported limitations . . . or he is trying to hurt somebody else, but who would have fun using a real photo of themselves that might identify who he is . . .which leads me to believe he is using some other person's photo as some sort of cruel hoax.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 170
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Lol last 2 pages are a riot
Posted: 6/1/2016 11:51:49 AM

No normal guy publicly humiliates himself over and over again.

Well, this is POF... how high is the % of normal guys? ;) I say that seriously and also in a tongue-in-cheek way.

Are you serious? Read this guy's history.

I did. He makes reference to having a small one in other posts, so I see where you're coming from if it's repeated. He doesn't mention it in his profile. His profile isn't a bash fest upon himself, but does mention his missing front tooth and complications for an implant. But then again, if you're going to have a missing front tooth, with nothing to fill it in with, and have landed a date and have had a gal walk out because of it -- I can see putting it in the profile as he did. I wouldn't recommend putting it in the headline -- that's WTF part. And you don't need an implant to at least have something covering it up, but maybe he's too poor for that, I dunno. But his profile would be a poor example of some obvious bash campaign. That would be a WTF too, if that were the goal of someone behind it -- as that's the only thing that was self-inflicting on it, and everything else seems legit and lengthy.

And I don't see the reference to the small penis clearly bashing himself in this thread. He's making the point that he's skilled "down there". Many will say that "it's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean", in which the latter he's complimenting himself on.

One hundred to one the photo is of somebody this poster as an agenda against...

If it was 100:1 odds, that would mean my payout would be great if I bet that that wasn't true. Honestly. I'd throw $100 down on that without even thinking about it, as I'd win $10,000, while I believe it's not posing-as-someone-else-with-agenda anyway. I would more say 10:1 odds that he isn't faking a profile against someone. If that IS the case, then yeah, I can see someone suing. He's obviously not using Stock photo-clipart. Many photos there.

Face it, no guy will come on here and constantly, on a dating board, whine about having a small ****

He wasn't whining about it on this thread -- he was more accepting of it and promoted being good at going down on a lady. And him writing on the boards isn't going to affect his dating chances. This isn't the dating site -- POF is, and POF doesn't even have a link to it, but it requires an account to use this unadvertised-connected-portion.

There's lots of posts people will have in Broken Hearts, pining over an ex and such -- that's really bad for dating chances if conveniently linked to their POF account for other regular POF users to see when on the main POF site. Or many things said in the Sex session, too. But, thankfully, one would have to use Google to find POF Forums, not via POF itself.
 tbicon32
Joined: 5/12/2016
Msg: 171
Lol last 2 pages are a riot
Posted: 6/1/2016 12:34:24 PM
^^^ lets simply say I disagree with you. And let me clarify. I think it is bad enough that people with public photos go on the sex thread and publicly tell the most personal details of their sexcapades. It is unimaginable to me that a man would divulge the most private and embarrassing secrets on a board like this, about himself, public photo and all . . . because who knows who will recognize him.

Whether size is important or not . . . . and it IS . . . a guy can be too small OR too big, that is simply a fact of life . . although the great majority of guys are perfectly fine in that area . . it is one of the most personal aspects a man has about himself and no rational, sane human being would whine about his attributes over and over on a public dating board like this guy has unless he was having fun at somebody elses expense, . or there was something very wrong with him.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 172
Lol last 2 pages are a riot
Posted: 6/1/2016 12:47:50 PM
^^^^^^ I just went thru his history.... he doesn't seem to whine about it but he is inconsistent. In one post he says he doesn't mind if women giggle about it but in another he said he ran home in tears.


He's probably just bored and lonely and this is his way of coping.

Who cares ?
 tbicon32
Joined: 5/12/2016
Msg: 173
Lol last 2 pages are a riot
Posted: 6/1/2016 12:59:16 PM

Who cares ?


Anybody who reads his posts or responds about them like I have? Who cares about anything said on here. People are here for one of two reasons: (1) They use this board as a behicle for expressing opinions and for communications and/or (2) they use this board as a dating site.

We know (2) could not be applicable to the guy because no woman in her right mind would be interested in him given his posting history so obviously talking about his small **** is something he cares very much to talk about . . . for whatever reason.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 174
Lol last 2 pages are a riot
Posted: 6/1/2016 1:02:44 PM
^^^^^ Have you read his profile ?

As NG said, there's no mention of a small weenie and it seems legit.

My conclusion is he uses the Forum for entertainment and assumes MOST women don't even read the Forums.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 175
Lol last 2 pages are a riot
Posted: 6/1/2016 1:20:34 PM
But a simple google search of a Users name will show posts.. even if ppl aren't aware of the forums.
Be interesting to know how many people read the forums but don't participate
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