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Joined: 12/22/2011
Msg: 20
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Are we sometimes attracted to someone merely because they are attracted to us?
But having someone you have interest in that thinks you are the poo of all poo is VERY attractive.

^^^^^ i cracked up

i agree that "merely" doesn't do a thing for me. i'd be like, oh you like me?? so what. go away now.

chances, i'd agree with the underlying gist of your post that people are attracted to each other based on subconscious forces. but how that happens is as variable as the human mind itself.

The first time I ever noticed my ex-wife was when she said out loud "There's my future husband".

oh you're EASY. obviously, she should have said "There's my future ex-husband."
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 21
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Posted: 5/1/2013 1:34:36 PM
Um…….you told a woman you’ve only known professionally that you had a dream about her? If a man said that to me I would assume he was hitting on me. Men don’t casually say that to women, at least not to me. Why would you do that in the first place? What did you think would happen?

Personally I’ve never suddenly been attracted to a man simply because he expressed an attraction to me.

Since it’s happened to you repeatedly maybe you’re just more open to it, or have difficulty making a real first move and go along with whoever starts it? You sound a bit placid and sort of easily influenced by others, to be honest. Also….a bit naïve. You keep going around telling women you’re dreaming about them, you just might get slapped.
Joined: 10/22/2008
Msg: 22
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Posted: 5/1/2013 2:24:32 PM

: Here's what I've learned for real.

When you find someone who makes you feel thrilled just to be yourself, don't over think it.

The right person will eliminate all the angsty BS and just make you feel like you are exactly where you're supposed to be.

If you don't feel thrilled to be you, in this place, right now, then keep looking.

Iconoclast< That is profound. Thank you.
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 5/1/2013 2:37:08 PM
Long ago, far away (and no links) saw a passel of studies claiming that if peeps were lead to think strangers somehow liked them, they rated those pictures higher (more attractive) than those with no "claimed" background. Stands to reason: we certainly like babies of all species because(?) we know they're going to like us. We also think they're alpha cute.
Joined: 1/4/2013
Msg: 24
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The Attraction Attraction
Posted: 5/1/2013 3:50:08 PM
How much a woman is attracted me, is the number 1 turn on and attraction factor for me personally.
Joined: 3/4/2013
Msg: 25
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Posted: 5/1/2013 7:34:19 PM

Human emotion doesn't spread like a flu bug.

Yes and no. Indifference is contagious. It's not true at all that someone's cold shoulder makes them more attractive or desirable - well, maybe true of 16 year-olds or people who watch too many chick flicks.
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