If I really wanted to go out on a limb just a little bit, I would even say that it sounds like the whole thing was two lonely people grasping at each other and shouting "values and morals! values and morals!"
I'd like to join you on that limb, if I may-(hope that doesn't cause the limb to break and unceremoniously dump us on the ground!)
I also believe in the virtues of hard work and in not slapping tourists for sport, but that doesn't mean I want to date the first guy who shows up who feels the same way.
I agree with the main point of this statement, but hard work and not slapping tourists around are VIRTUES?
If there is a choice between being in a sh*tty relationship for the sake of it versus being on my own.....I know my choice is being alone.
Indeed, and I seem to have gotten pretty good at making this choice...but then I've always said(because I have solid experiental evidence for the statement) that a truly good relationship, while it DOES require work, it doesn't FEEL like work.
I'm sorry, OP, but I have to agree that your relationship with this lady was most likely something that you and she created out of mutual desperation to be pair-bonded with SOMEONE. Now you are unpartnered and that can be a mighty scary place when you aren't used to it.
But I don't think this relationship had much of anything going for it,and I would encourage you to fight that urge to panic over being unpartnered. It sounds as though this "relationship" may have itself been a product of panic and probably sustained by a type of panic.