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 Irish Eyez
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 31
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I dated a guy whom had the silicone beads under his penis skin. He never told me.

The room was dark and initially touching his penis I felt the beads and thought, " WTF is THAT!?" I withdrew my hand immediately! I thought it was some kind of disease or something.

Wish he told me before hand what they were before my mind exploded thinking of all kind of diseases!!
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 32
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Posted: 5/1/2013 6:25:03 AM

My piercer updates a file on there giving the exact location of the implants, methods of insertion and any problems we encountered during the procedure.


I don't understand allowing a person who is not in the medical field inserting solid objects into the body-especially in the genital area, which is a super-sensitive area for guys. Then there's the risk of infection, and having an infected penis would be the pits. And it would be hard doing anything with infected fingers. I always had the belief that tattoos are dumb and immature, but tattoos plus foreign objects inserted into the body takes the cake.
 justlookingvt
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 33
Extreme body mods
Posted: 5/1/2013 7:40:17 AM


Does anybody have opinions on when is the most appropriate time to bring up the subject?


You could bring up the subject in a “subtle” kind of way. For instance, you could mention that air travel is somewhat of a challenge. At the airport’s security checkpoints you have to unzip and put the genital jewelry in a little tray in order to make it to the airplane. She may have additional questions if she is still there after learning about your “carry-on baggage”.
 phoenix_55
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 34
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Posted: 5/1/2013 8:06:48 AM
What's wrong with leaving your body just as God intended?

I realize that could be construed as a bit hypocritical since my ears are pierced, but that's the extent of any body modification I'll ever do.
 HelenBackAgain
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 35
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Posted: 5/1/2013 8:36:08 AM
A more accurate question would probably be something like "if you were dating someone that had similar work as myself, they would have to tell you about it at some point. At what point would you feel deceived/cheated that they hadn't told you sooner?"

Not deceived or cheated, that's too strong, but that my time - and his - had been wasted: Anytime after initially meeting. Thus my earlier answer.

It isn't a dull subject - I've done research on it in the past out of sheer idle curiosity, and I'm delighted if I get to ask someone about their experiences with this and they don't mind. But, while it certainly wouldn't stop me from being friends with anyone, if anything I enjoy having friends who are different from me, I have no desire to date a person with modifications. So if there's any romantic interest on either side, I'd rather know right off on first meeting. It'll put that spark right out before it grows into any sort of real emotion, which is when you want it to go out in an instance where nothing is ever going to come of it.

For those of us who don't find mods appealing physically, I'd think this'd be pretty much universal. I doubt anyone's going to take your head off for not raising the subject right away, because you're smart and interesting and evidently very sociable, so you probably make a really fun date. But she'd likely rather know sooner than later, and that benefits you as well for the same reasons.

Similarly, those who do find this appealing will be delighted and consider it a plus. So it's hard for me to see a downside in just, you don't need to reveal everything, but how about simply steering the conversation toward it as an interest of yours sometime during your first chat. That should give you an idea how it'll go over later when you're more comfortable getting more personal, if there is a later.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 36
Extreme body mods
Posted: 5/1/2013 9:02:16 AM

Similarly, those who do find this appealing will be delighted and consider it a plus. So it's hard for me to see a downside in just, you don't need to reveal everything, but how about simply steering the conversation toward it as an interest of yours sometime during your first chat.


Bingo!

You are only going to attract people that are into the same type of thing you are into. To them it will be super cool. To people that are not into it, it will be weird. Since this is your lifestyle, wear it with pride.
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
Msg: 37
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Posted: 5/1/2013 11:11:41 AM
I think it is the kind of thing that should be addressed within a date or two, some women will be incredibly turned on and the others just won't be your type. Body modification certainly has its fans.

Going forward, I will be constantly wondering if the grandmotherly HR lady at my job is a closet freak.
 peaceful_garden
Joined: 4/10/2013
Msg: 39
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Posted: 5/1/2013 11:41:26 AM

Direct clitoral stimulation - same idea as a woman getting a VCH piercing. Feels pretty good for me as well.


Are you sure the silicon beads aren't for multiple G-spot stimulation? Women have G-spot and clitoral orgasms, hopefully at the same time, lol. The clitoral is on the outside and requires a different type of stimulation as in giving head.
 ImReadyForUnow
Joined: 11/11/2012
Msg: 40
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Posted: 5/1/2013 11:41:57 AM
I have a suggestion.

I would think that most girls who are viewing your profiles will not be familiar with body alterations past tattoos.
I think using the abbreviation term of 'mods' on your profile is a term used by people in the know but as you are hoping to broaden your horizons to include girls who are unfamiliar with this term you have a great opportunity to enlighten and educate.
I suggest using a term like "body implant modification." And then she has the option to google the information and ask you questions. If POF allows it on a profile maybe a link to a site that provides written information (not pictures) on the subject would be helpful.
The information is then out there and the curious will have questions.

I personally think it is something I would want to know 'before' meeting someone in person, so that I am not blind sided with it.
 Stubidooo
Joined: 12/30/2012
Msg: 41
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Posted: 5/1/2013 11:51:16 AM

I personally think it is something I would want to know 'before' meeting someone in person, so that I am not blind sided with it.

I agree.. anything out of the "ordinary" should be disclosed right away.
 that_ol_lady
Joined: 4/19/2013
Msg: 42
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Posted: 5/1/2013 12:05:43 PM
I see nothing wrong with a few tats an ears an nose pierceing..but i myself draw th line at certain things..

magnent in your finger? seems pointless an
pierced penis you want a ring on it its called a c ock ring
an beads put inside your d ick YUCK..

if you wanna feel vibrations in your hands hold a spinning dildo at high speed..

why put another hole in your penis isnt 1 enough?

an if you wanted to have a bumpy d ick just keep on f ucking everything out here without a rubber problem solved..
 Irish Eyez
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 43
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Posted: 5/1/2013 2:37:08 PM
Tall: he was, in fact, 4 years older than myself! ( the 'incident' occurred 4 years ago )

The beading didn't appeal to me at all and frankly, threw off my mojo very quickly.
 ouija2013
Joined: 12/9/2012
Msg: 45
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Posted: 5/1/2013 5:57:46 PM
My/My. Lots of judging. I asked someone who's a bit of a deviant, he claims you have the magnets for something else. I covered my ears :) I reckon you'll meet who you need to :P
 Madailein
Joined: 6/9/2012
Msg: 47
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Posted: 5/1/2013 6:11:09 PM

I dated a guy whom had the silicone beads under his penis skin. He never told me.
The room was dark and initially touching his penis I felt the beads and thought, " WTF is THAT!?" I withdrew my hand immediately! I thought it was some kind of disease or something.~irish eyes


Lol, guess what he thought was soo sensual backfired.



The suggestion that you see a psychiatrist is a good one. Self-mutilation is recognized as a psychiatric disorder and may also be a reflection of self-hate. (Source: WebMD)~Literate Hiker

I have heard this as well; I agree to a certain extent. One or two piercing or tattoos obtained when very young is OK but the extent of self-mutilation the OP has is problematic, imo.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 49
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Posted: 5/1/2013 7:11:29 PM
It's too bad there is no crystal ball to see how you will look when you're in your late 40's or 50's . How sexy will all of the pieces of metal in your body and tattoos be then? I have never seen an older person look cool with tattoos and tons of body piercings. The few I have seen in public actually look grotesque and freakish.
 ouija2013
Joined: 12/9/2012
Msg: 50
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Posted: 5/1/2013 7:23:56 PM
He said the magnets were to remove balls. He also told me more about things than I needed to know over toast and coffee his morning ( altho the other tables seemed rapt) But the time he was telling me what some damn penis sleepers thingy was called I was like " ENOUGH" He's my best friend. According to him your altered member makes you like some tickle thing. Honestly charmed convo for 8;30am. And he knew you had a tat artist do it.

I need to get out more :/ Don't let the haters get you down
 ReadBeforeWriting
Joined: 9/30/2012
Msg: 51
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Posted: 5/2/2013 8:38:51 AM
The need/compulsion to be "so extreme and unique" (even though there are plenty of others doing the same thing so hardly unique) is *to my thinking* merely a desperate attempt to compensate for some area of lack, either physical or more likely psychological. The more extreme the modifications, (and yes I am including breast implants/facelifts and other surgeries done by an MD in this category) the more dissatisfied and inadequate the person must feel.
 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
Msg: 52
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Posted: 5/2/2013 8:55:45 AM
While I understand the concern some are echoing in this thread at the end of the day many things can effect your body (diet, how much sunlight you are exposed to, etc).

I personally don't see there being any psychological issue with people that choose to have tattoos or bodmods. To me they choose to express themselves in this way. I on the other hand choose to express myself by painting on a canvass or a piece of paper drawing. Different strokes for different folks.

The question is can you find a woman that isn't part of the bodmod community? While I am skeptical I think if you find a woman that is into the arts that is a possibility but I agree with others just be upfront and honest. It doesn't have to be on the first date, but within the first few dates it should be brought up at the very least.
 lostinalostworld
Joined: 2/2/2013
Msg: 53
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Posted: 5/2/2013 1:34:22 PM
Didn't Barnum and Bailey make a living off of people that did this? So interest in you = side show?
 Cbegs88
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 54
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Posted: 5/3/2013 12:53:42 AM

I can't help you with your problem, but all the body modification makes me kinda nauseous. Not judging, just stating a fact. I'm curious why you have a magnet in your finger? Is it so your fingers won't slip off your penis while you're whackin off? lol

Seriously. I want to know.


Omg. I seriously lol'd at this reply. No offense to the OP but this was the funniest thing I've read all week.
 annywn
Joined: 4/17/2012
Msg: 55
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Posted: 5/3/2013 1:15:45 AM
Well that would be like never for me. Sounds like a good convo to have over coffee, or tequelia.
 phoenix_55
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 56
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Posted: 5/3/2013 7:37:15 AM
"It's too bad there is no crystal ball to see how you will look when you're in your late 40's or 50's . How sexy will all of the pieces of metal in your body and tattoos be then? I have never seen an older person look cool with tattoos and tons of body piercings. The few I have seen in public actually look grotesque and freakish."

Hahaha maleman, this made me laugh because it's so true. An aquaintance has a huge tattoo of the Harley-Davidson wings across her upper chest which she got many years ago. It's starting to look like a deflated raven ...... lmao
 SilentInk
Joined: 3/20/2010
Msg: 62
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Posted: 5/10/2013 8:19:16 AM
I want to hear nothing about your penis until we are actually going to be intimate.

I remember one time I went out with this complete idiot who decided on our first date out of the blue to whisper in my ear "I have a c*ck piercing". I almost threw up and to say the least never saw him again.
 ouija2013
Joined: 12/9/2012
Msg: 64
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Posted: 5/12/2013 1:06:36 PM
I'm curious - it this it then do you plan to quit or continue?
My Brits friends seem to be much more casual about bod mods.. I've only known ppl who have been branded.
 Damselffish
Joined: 10/15/2011
Msg: 65
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Posted: 5/12/2013 10:14:43 PM
Is anybody else tired of hearing about penis,es that are huge beyond redundancy
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