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 SWEET_MAVERICK
Joined: 9/28/2013
Msg: 45
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OP, maybe the time has come for you to fish in a different pond.

I see so much immature, gamey behavior from both genders.

People value something they had to pay for than something they got for free.
 forumfella
Joined: 10/18/2013
Msg: 46
Not making a good first impression?
Posted: 10/24/2013 8:26:55 AM
Great topic!
Funny I've had a lot of this lately, one lady inparticular I messaged last year a few times, no replies, no acknowledgment at the time...fast forward a year after hitting the gym, eating in moderation, 40 pounds less and more confidence, this same lady checks out my profile, messages me to say " hello we seem to have a lot of the same interests" the smarta$$ in me wanted to reply, it's the exact same written profile I had a year ago, there's just 40 pounds less of me to love, ahhh life can be funny. :)
 SWEET_MAVERICK
Joined: 9/28/2013
Msg: 47
Not making a good first impression?
Posted: 10/24/2013 8:49:01 AM

fast forward a year after hitting the gym, eating in moderation, 40 pounds less and more confidence, this same lady checks out my profile, messages me to say " hello we seem to have a lot of the same interests" the smarta$$ in me wanted to reply, it's the exact same written profile I had a year ago, there's just 40 pounds less of me to love, ahhh life can be funny. :)

This happens to both genders & IMO no one should take it personally. Attraction is attraction, I don't mind a few xtra lbs or a "skinny" person, as long as it is not EXTREME.

Let's face it, dating is all about CHEMISTRY, INITIALLY, so if you cannot bring your "A-game"...
 forumfella
Joined: 10/18/2013
Msg: 48
Not making a good first impression?
Posted: 10/24/2013 9:44:53 AM
"IMO no one should take it personally!"
I agree, and I didn't. The first 3 criteria I look for in a profile before contact is attractive, location and no children under 12 years of age, after that sharing the same interests is just a bonus. After reading thread upon thread of how well written profiles matter more than pictures, it just struck me as funny.
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 49
Not making a good first impression?
Posted: 10/25/2013 7:24:57 PM

I get grossed out seeing the same dudes message me the same dumb messages every time I delete and open a new profile. They are still here, for years, with the same loser messages.


Yet you keep reinventing yourself and you've been here for years, too...... Pot-Kettle?


People value something they had to pay for than something they got for free.


So the $5,000.00 a night Escort is Valued more than the Date you spent little or nothing on, but hit it off, as if you're Soul-mates?
 pageforyou
Joined: 7/1/2011
Msg: 50
Not making a good first impression?
Posted: 10/27/2013 9:43:05 AM
There are $5,000 a night escorts? Never heard of such a high price. But, then ... never hired one at any price. :P

I have contacted the same guy who left a poor impression the first time around, changed his profile and improved his appearance. But, I knew it was him and said so.
 kissodeath
Joined: 9/20/2013
Msg: 51
Not making a good first impression?
Posted: 10/27/2013 3:29:05 PM

Yet you keep reinventing yourself and you've been here for years, too...... Pot-Kettle?

No. I don't send "how r u" and "i w f u" and "hey" and "hey sexy" messages to random dudes. I don't reinvent myself. I come on here when I feel like meeting someone and then I leave when I don't. Hey, you seem butthurt.
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