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Joined: 5/26/2013
Msg: 90
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I'm certain that your interpretation of intelligence and mine are subjective. While a man who is well educated might have a lot of knowledge, a man who has grown up by the seat of his pants might have more smarts when it comes to day to day life. When you say "the same level as you" you DO come across as an intellectual snob. Sorry. Just my take.
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 91
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Posted: 7/9/2013 11:19:25 AM
Wow, everyone gets so up in arms on the forums! :) I don't understand why some people here have to be so judgemental (or perhaps defensive). Just like individuals have different tastes in looks or personality etc. everyone has a different idea of what type of intelligence is important to them. Whether it's intellectual/educational type intelligence or emotional intelligence or whatever. We all have our own preferences and it's not really cool to attack people for sounding "arrogant" because they prefer a certain type of person.

I'm of the intellectual/educational type intelligence school. I am well educated and a real geek with a love of knowledge and science etc. I would like somebody I can share that with in a similar way. That probably means someone university educated with a bit of a science background like mine if possible. Can I possibly find that in a non science or non university educated person? Perhaps and I'm open to investigating that. But just from experience, I know that's who I might mesh with best. Your mileage may vary.
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 92
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Posted: 7/10/2013 4:04:30 PM
Since when do intelligence and dating go together anyway?

To some, very much so. To much of the population it's about the lack of a lack of intelligence (lol) that's most important when it comes to dating -- where personality compatibility is most important, not how-intelligent specifically. One who is a self-described "intellect" may want that more as that becomes much OF personality compatibility. Intelligence comes in different directions. Someone with a "rapist wit" comes across as intelligent and is at least of average intelligence or more, but the much smarter guy who doesn't have that quick wit & persona isn't going to land as many Interested dates (all other things being equal).

Nobody ever ends up at that first date table based purely on their intelligence. Would anyone care to say otherwise while hooked up to a lie detector?

Well, among a small minority of people, they very well may -- for a first date while not being interested in them. People will go out on a 1st date because of "on paper" attributes they feel they should give them a shot (rarely works out).

And "intelligence" is such a broad term. It's like saying someone who's a "strong" person. Okay, in what ways? In what ways strikes a chord with you for appeal, vs in other ways may turn you off or be benign?

But all in all, yes, with most people Looks is a Big Deal. It doesn't mean it's everything of course. Especially for those who can get a really great looking person much easier than most around them.
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 97
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Posted: 7/17/2013 9:07:10 PM

I shy away from being an internet grammar nazi, but I believe you mean a 'rapier wit'.

Oh no, I meant to say "rapist wit". :)

It's from Dumb & Dumber! Kind of an on-the-side way of being "whhhitty" ;)
Joined: 6/22/2012
Msg: 100
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Posted: 10/24/2013 8:34:48 PM
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Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 102
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Posted: 10/25/2013 5:02:23 AM
The last "genius" I actually talked to on the phone and WAS going to meet talked slang and used a lot of vulgar words.
Every other word was Sh!t and Fyck.

He had a PHD and is a university professor. He sent links to show off /prove his position at the university ect.

I canceled our plans.

I prefer above average intelligence, but wit and curiosity along with a big heart wins out with me over those letters behind the name.

I know brilliant people with below "MENSA material" IQ's.
Many forms of brilliance out there.
Joined: 12/28/2012
Msg: 103
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Posted: 10/26/2013 9:10:29 AM
The word "intelligent" can mean a lot of things and being intelligent can be a great thing and it can be a very boring thing. Depends on the individual. I know people who have social skills and are intelligent at the same time. Those are people I enjoy. Then there are people who may very well be intelligent in a certain field or fields but social skills and actually real life living is lacking a lot!
Joined: 6/27/2013
Msg: 105
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Posted: 11/15/2013 8:50:07 AM
The OP didn't sound intelligent at all. Typical. The ones who boast the most about being intelligent, smarter, intellectual, etc, tend to be the least intelligent.

Earlier this year on another site, I saw one of the most repulsive profiles ever. She began by claiming "I am smarter than you", ending with an order not to message her unless your IQ is at least 130.

As to which site has smarter people, the other site seems to have more users who say they have a PhD or master's degree, and a higher % on this site have just a high school diploma, therefore I'd say the people on here are smarter.
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