Hoo, boy. Talking 'bout bad luck stalking you. you keep leaving and avoiding, and no use, a new peril rears its hideous rear. I have no idea what you just said and since this thread is not about me I really don’t care to know but I noticed you avoided putting up a picture of yourself. Hiding much? Hit a nerve there?
-but, she misses out on seeing the band that she wanted to see prior to knowing that he "may" be there...Well... that’s why I said “You taking care of yourself by avoiding your ex does not have an impact on anyone's life except yours alone.” At the end of the day she is responsible for the decisions she makes or would you rather take on that responsibility for her?
Not running in to him or even the chance of running into him was more important to her than seeing the band. Her decision impacts her. Not me or anyone in this thread. If anyone would like to know how it has impacted her they can ask OP and maybe she will share.
Why does that mean she should miss out on having fun? Well, my wild guess is that she would not have much fun being around him. If she could enjoy the band with him being there don’t you think she would? She is entitled to feeling whatever she feels whenever where ever and for whatever reason.
Missing out on something you want to do because you may run into someone you dated for awhile is juvenile. A grownup would continue on with life. Why miss out on living because of something so silly? Judging and a ridiculing a complete stranger without knowing any details about her, him and the relationship is extremely mature. Nice. Some people move on by cutting all ties. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to see your ex. She is not hurting anyone or has not stopped living her life.