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 Coma_White
Joined: 9/15/2013
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Ummm..no its not. It's not different. I was made fun of most of my childhood cause I stopped growing. Even girls that were an inch taller than me gave me hell about it. They would call me a midget, and felt they were better than me cause of that lousy inch. Apparently I have short legs and a long torso so I look like a midget. Thats the words coming out of her mouth. Men that are short, are usually still average of height. Quit griping at being 5'7. At least you aren't 4'10. The only reason men gripe about it is because they feel being short doesn't make them feel masculine.


It's completely different. Men don't pass up women because they are shorter than them. It might be the same when it comes to people teasing you, but it's not the same when it comes to dating.
 BigBadNIrish
Joined: 1/31/2011
Msg: 156
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Posted: 11/30/2013 4:15:50 PM
In fact, you have a bigger pond to fish in than the super tall women


But a super tall and incredibly smart woman has a taller and incredibly smart (handsome too ;) man interested in her...some men prefer tall women :)
 BigBadNIrish
Joined: 1/31/2011
Msg: 157
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Posted: 12/3/2013 8:00:10 AM
I want to find a woman, I find attractive, to grow old, gray, and wrinklie together with, fighting over the last "Depends."

Tall dark attractive Irishman, hung like a church-mouse (The Bishop)-looking for a woman who doesn't expect "too much"
 rosewood_girl
Joined: 10/30/2013
Msg: 158
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Posted: 12/3/2013 10:06:40 PM

It's completely different. Men don't pass up women because they are shorter than them. It might be the same when it comes to people teasing you, but it's not the same when it comes to dating.


I have seen short men pass up taller women cause of their height. It goes both ways. And some tall men probably wouldn't date me cause of the height difference, though thats not ever happened to me personally, but I'm sure it happens.
 sun_and_cinnamon
Joined: 12/3/2013
Msg: 159
Loves Me But Not Sexually Attracted To Me
Posted: 12/7/2013 2:50:25 PM
I am a little boggled that he told OP if she lost weight she'd be "perfect" yet she still went out with him? or not quite sure if he said so after the meet...either way why torture yourself? He's straight up not attracted.
 SpanishEyes123
Joined: 11/30/2013
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Posted: 12/8/2013 12:52:00 AM
I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. The best advice I can give you is never be ashamed of yourself or try to change for anybody but yourself. If you are going to lose weight do it for YOURSELF and your HEALTH. You should never torture yourself with trying to reach ideals to please anybody or because you want to be attractive to someone else, because in the long run there are no guarantees that that person will find you attractive in the end. When someone truly finds you attractive and sexy, they take into account your personality, mind, manner of expressing yourself and the way you present yourself. He does not base things solely on looks and accepts you as you are. I know men like this are hard to find but they are worth searching for. As a woman I could never be with a man who did not appreciate me for who I am and ALL I have to offer. Sex Appeal is a state of mind, attitude and display of self confidence. You will know when you have great sexual chemistry with someone when he can make you feel sexy even in the most ridiculous of circumstances. Stop wasting your time with someone who does not appreciate you and keeps making excuses for his sexual inadequacies. Life is too short to spend it feeling miserable over someone who is not worth the effort.
 kathy1008
Joined: 11/16/2013
Msg: 161
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Posted: 12/8/2013 6:45:34 AM
You don't have to lose weight unless YOU want to! I am a larger woman. If they don't like larger women, tough nookies! LOTS of men DO like larger women and are not intimidated by weight. I would be willing to BET he is not capable of holding an erection at all. It's his fault, not yours. He is not willing to look at his problem and is smokescreening by putting it on you. Sorry, Charlie! I would tell him you aren't interested in him anymore and go your separate ways because... like I said, LOTS of men aren't intimidated by a larger woman.
 lookinfouryoutoo
Joined: 7/31/2012
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Posted: 12/8/2013 9:27:09 PM

LOTS of men aren't intimidated by a larger woman.


I don't know why so many women like to say men are intimidated by whatever traits they possess that we don't like. I've never turned down a fat girl because I was intimidated, I turn them down because I don't find them attractive. Intimidated....heh.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 163
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Posted: 12/8/2013 9:56:23 PM

I am a little boggled that he told OP if she lost weight she'd be "perfect" yet she still went out with him? or not quite sure if he said so after the meet...either way why torture yourself?

It's usually girls who would be the ones willing/wanting to continue to go out with someone when they don't have attraction. It's called attention. Guys will do that on lack of attraction when there's either sex involved, or as a temporary thing to meet some of her cute friends.

But in this story, I really don't think that's the case. He's not sexually attracted enough, but he has sexual problems and blaming it on her. But if she was so ugly he couldn't get it up -- he wouldn't actually want to go out with her. But he does. He was just probably buying time until he could jump start his lawn mower and was frustrated that She was making him look bad (because if she was Hot, his problem would lessen).
 BabblingBrookes
Joined: 2/14/2013
Msg: 164
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Posted: 12/9/2013 3:50:34 AM

I don't know why so many women like to say men are intimidated by whatever traits they possess that we don't like.


Same reason why men call us picky when we don't like what they have to offer. It feels better when the other person is the flawed one.
 lookinfouryoutoo
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Posted: 12/9/2013 9:30:24 AM

Same reason why men call us picky when we don't like what they have to offer. It feels better when the other person is the flawed one.


Maybe so. I call some of my male friends picky too. If someone is single because they can't seem to find anyone they like, I'd call them picky, regardless of gender.
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 12/25/2013 7:15:42 AM
The OP may be long gone, but in reality, I think he did her a favor, because pretty much everyone else will lie to her, and I hear it all the time. The most obvious ones are the married guys, telling hugely obese women that 'Well, I'd certainly go out with you, but I can't because I'm already married' when truthfully, they admit that they'd never date anyone that fat, but they won't say that TO HER because they don't want to hurt her feelings. So she lives on and on, never knowing what an obstacle her appearance is. And what's worse, is other women act the same way, they all support her by saying how rotten some men are that we won't date overweight women. Sure, you can call us all 'shallow', but the facts are, we don't get to choose what turns us on, and what turns us off. If there's something about someone that's physically repulsive, well, sure you can still be friends, but lovers? Probably not.
And just to add; virtually every woman has a checklist about what they want in a man too, and very often, THAT isn't negotiable and if she finds fault with us in some way, of course she feels it is perfectly justified, but feels that men aren't entitled to the same.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 167
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Posted: 12/25/2013 8:49:13 AM
I'd abandon ship on this one. He's not attracted to you and you want someone that is attracted to you. You deserve better.
 cujo1947
Joined: 11/23/2012
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Posted: 12/25/2013 4:59:15 PM
Then he is not worth worrying about !!
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