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 smithwhitehawk1
Joined: 5/26/2007
Msg: 176
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Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetiePage 8 of 10    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)
Msg 162 asked the question why won't you answer why you use a label at all?
This is my answer, true story ,happened less than a yr. ago.

Was in a local Wal-mart parking lot. It was early evening and getting dark. I was putting bags in
the passenger seat and looked up to see a large man in his 20'''s approaching me from an adjacent
parking lot. He was walking fast toward me,Like a man on a mission, and he was dressed like a thug.
I close the car door and check behind me to see if he has friends coming up in my blind spot.
O K, looks like he's alone, but he's still coming.
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 smithwhitehawk1
Joined: 5/26/2007
Msg: 177
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Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 12/10/2013 7:22:53 PM
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I'm wearing an unbuttoned shirt over a t-shirt and I slide my right hand into the open shirt toward my left side.Stopping when my finger tips touch the grips of my browning semi auto holstered and tucked in tight under my left arm.
Did a quick threat check as he still approached ,Ok,I can see both hands,and not near waste band, good.

When the distance broke 21 ft. I raised my hand in a stop motion,and in a calm firm voice said' son what do you need?

He then noticed where my hand was and stopped dead in his tracks. He realized it's not a good ides to walk up on someone in the dark. After a moment he regained some composure and said , EXCUSE ..ME...SIR ...my battery is dead can you please give me a jump?I have cables.

Now I had fully expected to hear yo or hey dude or some such thing, but sir.
I thought for a second and because he addressed me proper I said sure son, go pop the hood. I pulled a jump starting devise
I have out of my trunk and get him started. He pulls off saying thank you sir.
This is why it's important, his proper address to me defused a tense situation. It is necessary as a lubricant to human interaction.
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 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
Msg: 178
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Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 12/10/2013 8:30:31 PM
Some people obviously have WAAAAAAAAAAAAAY too much time on their hands if they become offended at an expression that is meant to convey respect.
 LuvFishes
Joined: 7/1/2011
Msg: 179
Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 12/11/2013 1:05:03 PM
While I agree I don't care for the names ... and I usually will ask them 2 call me Lanezee (what my friends and coworkers call me)... many men are emailing and talking to multiple females and it's the easiest way to show their affection for you.

I just don't pay too much attention to an email or conversation with a man if that's the pet name he's using for me. Usually pet names come much later on into a real relationship. Call me old school LOL
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 180
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Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/11/2014 1:59:43 PM
It does not ruin my day or cause me trauma, however, I do not prefer for a (strange) female or co-worker to call me, "hun", "babe", or other generic 'pet' names.

I much prefer my birth name or even, "sir" if it's a retail sales person.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 181
Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/11/2014 3:09:39 PM
I prefer being called "Your Highness", but for some reason, it's not catching on.
 mdigitalman
Joined: 6/5/2013
Msg: 182
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Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/11/2014 3:14:44 PM
All what names?
 mdigitalman
Joined: 6/5/2013
Msg: 183
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Posted: 7/11/2014 3:18:14 PM
Sorry, I didn't see the actual name of the post which is "calling you sweetheart, hun or sweeties". I can see how this could be off putting. These turns suggest two things., 1) a relationship that has enough time invested it allows for such terms, and 2) A simple blowing off of the other person.
 Della D
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 184
Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/11/2014 4:11:09 PM
Aw, really a pet peeve of mine, being addressed with these belittling terms by a perfect stranger.......

It is not only inappropriate but disrespectful and utterly condescending addressing a woman who's not your s/o, a close friend or family member but in fact a perfect stranger with any of these "terms of endearment".

Receiving, here on POF, an initial email from a guy 15 years younger than myself addressing me as "baby girl" I addressed him in return with "baby boy" to which he actually took offense??????

Guys, grow up not just older!!!!
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 185
Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/11/2014 7:16:44 PM
I think the music industry is partly to blame. It seems like in the majority of songs, women are referred to as babe, baby. I never understood the association comparing women to infants, who aren't even toilet trained. Yet I never hear love songs with the lyrics: "Babe, babe, oh baby. It looks like you crapped yourself, so it's time to change your diaper."
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 186
Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/11/2014 7:25:41 PM
Elderly diner servers old enough to be my great-grandmother call me things like that when I'm there for breakfast.
I find it completely endearing, totally cute in a grandmotherly sort-of-way, and then I leave a ridiculously generous tip.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 8/11/2013
Msg: 187
Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/11/2014 11:55:19 PM

Am I the only one who really can't stand to be called all of these names?

Especially from people you barely know.

I love to be called sweetheart and sweetie. People I don't really know are the only ones who call me that.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 188
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Posted: 7/12/2014 9:51:15 AM
I think all these guys who are determined to use any title with a woman who is a complete stranger to him, particularly “ma’am,” should go right ahead and do it and find out what a big hit it will be.

Otoh, “ma’am” is how lowly subordinates address female military officers, so maybe it’s appropriate after all.

I never call a man “sir” and wouldn’t unless he was a judge or somebody who was gonna leave me money.


There is nothing wrong with calling a stranger ma'am or sir. 3 women that were strangers have called me sir within the past few weeks. One woman said it after I held the door open for her. A second woman said it when she asked me to get her an item on the top shelf. A third woman working at a restaurant said "Good afternoon sir" when I entered the building. These women were simply being polite.
 easterparadehat
Joined: 4/14/2014
Msg: 189
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Posted: 7/13/2014 7:07:06 AM
If this is your only problem in life is this issue, your life is pretty easy. So what if someone calls you these names?
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 5/3/2014
Msg: 190
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Posted: 7/13/2014 9:45:51 AM
I also just got called baby girl by a guy almost ten years younger, but he had swiped it from Criminal Minds; and when they used it it was two very good friends who were on the same page. He meant no disrespect; it was kind of funny.

Being called doll, on the other hand, I will admit to not being a total fan :)

Wow, I usually write novels; not used to being told my post is TOO short...
 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
Msg: 191
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Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/13/2014 10:04:28 PM
Call me Honey, sugar, sweetie,sweetheart...etc. love it.

Good grief, I just love spontaneous friendliness. It renews my faith in humans.

My man is French and his family hugs and kisses everyone. So, so, so very warm. wonderful. When we visit his home town it is like being the gal in the kissing booth at the county fair. I get a high off of the closeness of the people.
 epz33
Joined: 5/20/2014
Msg: 192
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Posted: 7/16/2014 11:15:52 AM
I guess Californian are not in to tender words. if we can called tender, or out of place?
 TOCL
Joined: 5/16/2014
Msg: 193
Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/19/2014 1:37:02 PM
Oh my I can't stand it when men call me those names especially after chatting perhaps once or twice

Dear is another one Baby girl........................barf


STOP IT MEN IT'S SUCH A TURN OFF.

If you have taken your chatting off line and are nurturing a relationship fine but not after to only two messages.
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 3/30/2014
Msg: 194
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Posted: 7/19/2014 1:41:52 PM
What a trip. Being called handsome or honey in a first message has not once offended me.

Please women, do NOT STOP complementing me.

Now sending me a honey do?

Houston, we got a problem.

If I had a preference? Hot Stuff:)
 drivingharmony2
Joined: 3/22/2014
Msg: 195
Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/19/2014 2:58:36 PM
Last weekend, went to a wine bar and the very young waiter said "Mam" OMG!!!! OUCH!!! MAM! WTF!!!!
I am 46 year old old.....no MAM! "Miss" is ok.....Now, granted it would be weird if the waiter called me sweetheart, hun or sweetie but MAM.....(insert emoticon vomiting) Ok, I am a little sensitive with the "mam" thing.....I'll get over it....



Oh boy.......what was he thinking!? UGH!
 slowitalldown
Joined: 1/25/2013
Msg: 196
Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/19/2014 3:34:16 PM
I call people by a lot of names! if I'm trying to get a strangers attention, I will a.ways use sir or ma'am.
"Excuse me sir, you dropped your wallet!"

I teach and see 450 elementary students weekly, and I haven't got a prayer of remembering all Of their names all of the time. They are quite used to being called sweetie and sugar. And a bunch of other names. Sometimes I just kind of forget and use it with strangers, no one has ever seemed angry about it.

If I like a guy I might call him handsome, as in, "hey handsome hows it going?" Not right off the bat. I know, cheesie.

If I don't like the term someone used, I'd either let them know if they were going to be important in my life, otherwise I'd ignore it and be glad they showed me right away who they are. Or ignore it because why would it matter what some stranger called me?
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 197
Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/19/2014 6:23:57 PM

.Now, granted it would be weird if the waiter called me sweetheart, hun or sweetie but MAM.....(insert emoticon vomiting) Ok, I am a little sensitive with the "mam" thing.....I'll get over it....


Would you get offended if you go to a doctor's appointment and the doctor said it's time for you to get a mammogram?
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 198
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Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/20/2014 6:22:20 AM
Doesn't bother me is she's hot.

Otherwise...

It would be worse being called azzhole, jackoff, asswipe, d!ckwad...

I hate being addressed as "sir". Makes me feel old.
 Kittyxoxoxo
Joined: 3/5/2013
Msg: 199
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Posted: 7/20/2014 2:19:22 PM
I don't like it when strangers (men that i'm not dating) call me that. It's usually said in a condescending way (it's pretty obvious too).
 TheVeryLastManOnEarth
Joined: 5/29/2014
Msg: 200
Calling you Sweetheart or hun or sweetie
Posted: 7/24/2014 10:14:27 PM
It amazes me how online dating has made people think that their self worth should be through the stratosphere. While having few if any redeemable qualities at all. Let alone bringing zero skills to the table.
Some op should be happy they're getting any attention at all. One day no boys will call you anything except mam. Life is short and many of you are not getting any younger. Talk about men being****?!?
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