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 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 37
blackfoxPage 10 of 10    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)

if a girl does not put out within 2 weeks of knowing her I assume she is not interested and not physically attracted to me so I move on to the next girl.


Wow. I know that pof has whole barrels of fish, but you could get to the bottom of those proverbial barrels right quick that way. Might miss a few good ones, too, while you're moving on smartly.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 38
blackfox
Posted: 3/8/2011 7:11:07 PM
^^^^^^ So true! There are women who feel powerful enough to enjoy sex and women who feel powerful by denying sex or using it like a weapon or bargaining chip. The later are threatened by the former so they try and little them and throw words like SLUT around. It's sad.

Gotta agree with you here. Other than? It's not just women that throw that word around when intimidated, it's men, too. Now that's what sad to me ~ we're prudes if we don't, sluts if we do (to many, not ALL.)

The first type of women is happy and so are her men. The second type ARE miserable and so are their men....

I'm certain my ex-husband could tell horror stories about me and my dis-interest and prudish views on sex during our marriage. (Simply frightens me to know I was someone I'd simply shake my head at a mere 10 years later.) **hangs head in shame** So glad my evolution of self kicked in ~ I won't be doing that again in this lifetime. Whew!
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 39
blackfox
Posted: 3/8/2011 7:15:43 PM

Point is, if it's a good one you don't move on...


Yeah, k, but after a mazimum of two weeks, not just to get acquainted, but to share a bed? Lol Just struck me as hasty, that's all.


why do people say this and how do you know what is a good one for anyone else but yourself?. I know for me a good one is one that I am physically attracted too, can meet my emotional needs and is comfortable with meeting my sexual needs/preferences on my schedule and everyone else is a bad one and not right for me.


And this shot landed right off my port bow. Lol Bracketing incoming shells.
I was just observing that, while children can be open books, read in one sitting, adults are almost always a much longer read. And they don't always open easily. I wasn't trying to prescribe what might be a good match for anyone, not sure what the best match would be for myself, but I do know that a few meets or visits over a two-week period, even salted with some emails/phone calls, etc., falls well short of a solid justification for writing off another human forever.
Fishing takes patience. That much I learned at age 7.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 2/24/2012
Msg: 40
3rd date rule
Posted: 12/20/2012 11:30:47 PM
You mean there isn't a 3 date rule?

Damn! I have my 3rd date this weekend. :sobs:
 ozquofan
Joined: 4/12/2009
Msg: 42
3rd date rule
Posted: 12/21/2012 4:40:20 AM
i guess its up to the individual,when you are ready you are ready....be it first date,third date or tenth date.
 MAB54
Joined: 7/3/2009
Msg: 43
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Do guys still believe in the 3rd date rule???
Posted: 12/21/2012 6:18:00 AM
My rule of thumb is the first date and most of the dates I've had from POF confirm that rule.
 msright78
Joined: 12/11/2012
Msg: 44
Do guys still believe in the 3rd date rule???
Posted: 12/21/2012 12:31:13 PM
HAhahaah there's a rule? Well I definitely didn't know.

For me, I go with the flow of things.

If I'm really into a person physically, then it might be sooner than later.

My ex and I had sex on the 2nd date. Mmm not even sure if we even went out or just met up at his place and had sex. lol

But this one guy I'm interested in dating, I already told him he has to wait 3 months b4 we can have sex. ANd he said ok!

lol

I already know I won't last that long and will cave in sooner! And he told me he'll still wait it out just cuz! awwww shoo sweet of him!
 Greatcatch12345
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 45
Do guys still believe in the 3rd date rule???
Posted: 12/21/2012 1:28:39 PM
3-5 ...but its only an average..it all depends on length of time together..spacing between dates..communication..etc....and that all important 'chemistry'..
 natures_daughter
Joined: 5/31/2008
Msg: 46
Do guys still believe in the 3rd date rule???
Posted: 12/30/2012 10:31:52 AM
I love what you said. It's all true and I wish everyone thought this way as well...:(
 andrea52
Joined: 2/26/2008
Msg: 47
Do guys still believe in the 3rd date rule???
Posted: 12/30/2012 10:43:05 AM
Excellent post!
 natgoat227
Joined: 6/10/2012
Msg: 48
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Do guys still believe in the 3rd date rule???
Posted: 12/30/2012 12:52:55 PM
I never Did believe in it.
If two people can't generate enough attraction before the 3rd date...then you're probably just going to be 'Friends'!!
Maybe a 2nd date rule...IF...
The 1st date is out drinking and dancing...and you don't have a lot of socializing.
The 2nd date should be in a quieter setting...Dinner, a walk on the beach / park , stargazing...
where you can talk about everything under the sun and get to Really know each other!!
When she gets curious enough...
she'll ask
"Why....after all this time talking...haven't you brought up Sex...??"
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