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 junjun11
Joined: 11/24/2013
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You probably turned them off in some way.
 Lexti
Joined: 3/14/2013
Msg: 52
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Posted: 12/12/2013 5:20:16 PM
^^^This kid with the whole "western woman" thing. SOOO wise in his late 20s he gave up on relationships many years ago. Lol. Still many years to go, kid, and yet still so much to learn. About women even.
 SngleNarlington
Joined: 6/8/2013
Msg: 53
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Posted: 12/12/2013 6:07:08 PM
I saw his post earlier this morning but didn't have the time to respond. I really wanted to but it's been deleted :(
 Hamilton12345
Joined: 3/29/2012
Msg: 54
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Posted: 12/12/2013 6:09:46 PM

I saw his post earlier this morning but didn't have the time to respond. I really wanted to but it's been deleted


Me too! and again I think we probably would have agreed. This is getting scary.
 SngleNarlington
Joined: 6/8/2013
Msg: 55
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Posted: 12/12/2013 7:55:07 PM
Hey, I always bring reason, logic and common sense to the conversation so how could you not agree. I think I'm rubbing off on you Hamilton ;) lol
 SmellyOne
Joined: 10/6/2009
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Posted: 12/22/2013 11:03:54 AM
Men generally take the brunt of wanting/requesting oral sex, or questioning why it has stopped.
In many cases, women love to say it's his fault. He stopped doing something. Compare to a woman with the same issue and, generally, it's still the male's fault. These message boards are rarely good for an unbiased answer.

That said, women are exceptionally guilty of stopping something they used to do regularly or frequently, and no amount of romance or helping around the house or even going above and beyond sexually for her ever brings her back to doing what she used to do. And, gentlemen, if I just described your situation, it's time to leave her, unless you like having a friend in your house who doesn't appreciate all the pleasure you give her, despite her not returning the favor.
 SmellyOne
Joined: 10/6/2009
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Posted: 12/22/2013 11:05:14 AM

No blowjob will be ok with me I will be happy just being with a woman.


This just reeks of desperation. I'm sorry.
 albinosquirlz
Joined: 3/28/2010
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Posted: 12/22/2013 6:05:29 PM
Women stop giving blow jobs around the time they stop wanting to pretend they ever liked giving them in the first place.

Women don't stop doing what they like to do. Don't believe me? You'll notice they never stop loving to buy shoes.
 Lexti
Joined: 3/14/2013
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Posted: 12/22/2013 7:00:52 PM

Women don't stop doing what they like to do. Don't believe me? You'll notice they never stop loving to buy shoes.


Ahhh...nice analogy. But if those shoes start causing pain, don't wear like they used to, aren't reliable anymore, well, heck, we stop wearing them and eventually get new shoes!
 albinosquirlz
Joined: 3/28/2010
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Posted: 12/22/2013 8:12:34 PM

But if those shoes start causing pain, don't wear like they used to, aren't reliable anymore, well, heck, we stop wearing them and eventually get new shoes!


Bullsh*t

D*cks don't change, and people who love sucking them don't just change their minds about it. Women who are truly into blow jobs (to please themselves) are rare enough that the law of averages say the gal you are with is probably not one of them.

Guys...if you really want to find a truly dedicated c*ck zucker, then your best bet is to start dating gay men. he he
 Lexti
Joined: 3/14/2013
Msg: 61
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Posted: 12/22/2013 8:58:24 PM
^^Bullshit back at you! If you ACT like a d*ck, then eventually, she will find another d*ck she enjoys sucking. It's been said here several times. A woman's emotional pleasure is tied to her physical pleasure. Just because she enjoys giving oral or having sex, doesn't mean she's going to enjoy it with someone she's no longer happy with.
 albinosquirlz
Joined: 3/28/2010
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Posted: 12/22/2013 9:40:57 PM

Just because she enjoys giving oral or having sex, doesn't mean she's going to enjoy it with someone she's no longer happy with.


Who said anything about her not being happy with him? The only unhappy person in this scenario is the guy complaining about getting the BJ rug pulled out from under him.

Even if that hypothetically was the issue, then if you aren't happy in your relationship, you don't suddenly give up the bits you really like and stick around pretending everything is hunky dory.


A woman's emotional pleasure is tied to her physical pleasure.


Yea...that's code for: I really don't like giving blowjobs.
 Lexti
Joined: 3/14/2013
Msg: 63
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Posted: 12/22/2013 10:47:50 PM
The thread is regarding cutting off sex and why, not blowjobs, but apparently you have an obsession with them and is a bit disgruntled by someone that stopped blowing you.


Even if that hypothetically was the issue, then if you aren't happy in your relationship, you don't suddenly give up the bits you really like and stick around pretending everything is hunky dory.

And STILL you don't get it...there are MANY reasons people stay in relationships they aren't happy in. The fact that they've stopped having sex or "blowing" you is a sign that something is off. It is mindsets like yours that act completely blindsided when the relationships actually end long after the sex and blowjobs have stopped.
 albinosquirlz
Joined: 3/28/2010
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Posted: 12/23/2013 12:21:07 PM

The thread is regarding cutting off sex and why, not blowjobs


I'm afraid it is you who have misinterpreted the OP. I mentioned blowjobs, because that is specifically what the OP mentioned. He did not say they stopped having sex, nor did he mention any other problem in the relationship.

He was specifically talking about how during the dating phase of their relationship, blowjobs were on the table, and once they got past that phase, they were no longer on the menu. The basic complaint here appears to be one of "false advertising".

It is you who went off on some irrelevant personal anecdotal rant.


apparently you have an obsession with them and is a bit disgruntled by someone that stopped blowing you.


Actually, I was really just putting a humorous spin on it, but that obviously went over your head. You might want to think twice about speculating on my personal life or personal attacks in general. Two can play at that game, and I guarantee you won't like it.

I'm not siding with the OP, as both parties do certain things to "woo" their partners while initially dating. And once you "have" them, there's little need to continue doing it...it has served its purpose. Men eventually stop plying you with compliments, flowers and dinners once you're past the dating phase as well. All's fair I guess.

But I guess I can see where the disappearing blowjobs might be a big disappointment for many men.

Which is why I stand by my original point....women stop giving blowjobs because they really never liked giving them in the first place.
 Lexti
Joined: 3/14/2013
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Posted: 12/23/2013 1:17:19 PM
Did I hit a nerve?? Oooh, I love threats made over the internet. Lol. Sooo scary. Really. Stand by your point, carve it in stone. When you start giving blowjobs, ENJOY giving blowjobs, then you can give women the reason they stop doing it with their partners.
 albinosquirlz
Joined: 3/28/2010
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Posted: 12/23/2013 3:49:27 PM

Did I hit a nerve??


No (like I said, I'm treating this as a humorous topic)...but I obviously did. (was it the the part where I destroyed your argument and made you feel stupid? ha ha). How else do you explain the straw men and hostile schoolyard retort?



When you start giving blowjobs, ENJOY giving blowjobs, then you can give women the reason they stop doing it with their partners.


Ok, so it looks like we are back on topic, but do YOU even know what that means?

There seems to be a pattern with you, and it is that you relate everything to your personal anecdotal experience, suggesting you lack a sense of empathy (let's not even open that Pandora's box). I am giving a somewhat empirical argument regarding human behaviour, so it isn't necessary for me to relate to it on a personal level.

But for the record, I was giving blowjobs while you were still in diapers. And I did it because I liked doing it (as in...it is a selfish act).
 albinosquirlz
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Posted: 12/23/2013 4:14:58 PM

You will never convince me that a man can't tell the difference between a woman that is giving head because she's trying to "catch you" and a woman that is giving head because she likes to....


The flaw in your logic is that the person receiving the blowjob isn't likely to see that as a distinction.
 albinosquirlz
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Posted: 12/24/2013 6:43:33 AM

Find a woman worth making happy, which is a difficult task in itself, and then go out of your way to keep her happy. If you can do that everyday you'll be forced to go commando everyday so as not to chafe your already sore twig and berries from all the vagina she tosses on it.


Except women who offer sex as a reward or treat it as an obligation AREN'T women worth finding in the first place (nor are the ones dumb enough to marry the man-child described above).

It goes without saying that you should treat your partner well in all respects. That's not the topic.
 deerdog1
Joined: 6/17/2013
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Posted: 12/24/2013 8:35:44 AM

So I started talking to and asking women why this was. I'm good at getting answers when I want to.


answers or alibis ? the guilty almost always blame the crime on someone else

Im sure there are guys who deserve to be cut off..and Im sure that there are women that used sex to get a man and once in a relationship would loose interest in sex with the most helpful and romantic guy in this universe ..face it there are guys who just use romance to get a woman and when they have said woman they stop being romantic ...and there are women that use sex as bait for a relationship ..who no longer feel they have to bait the hook once he is on the stringer

then there are those women who should have known exactly what they were getting but chose to ignore that he was a lazy slob ..who only liked to drink beer and watch football..and grab a quickie during half time .. but she was so interested in getting a relationship.. or thought that she could change him after the I do's

and then there are those guys who were so intrigued by chasing the good girl that took months before she would put
out ..that he may not have considered that she might just not be into sex ..and it took so much poring on the charm to get in her pants ..that he never considered that he would have to continue to work so hard for it ..every time he got it for the rest of his life ..after the I do's

and then there are the ones of either sex that will always think the sex is greener on the other side of the fence ..because in many instances if he aint romancing you he probably is someone else ..and if she aint shagging you she probably is doing someone else

Im really starting think that marriage license should expire every 4 years ..like drivers license .. get them renewed if you like or go try on another model.. but then how would divorce lawyers make a living

conclusion ;; men and women who are complaining about this situation will never agree both sides are usually at fault they are doomed to either fail at the relationship or to live in misery ..nothing short of a miracle will make them communicate again ..but miracles do happen just not often
 albinosquirlz
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Posted: 12/26/2013 11:30:55 AM
You make a woman happy, she's going to keep wanting to give it up.
That is the topic.


The OP doesn't state anything to suggest unhappiness on her part. It may be true...or not, but not really my point.

My point is that you give blowjobs (or whatever sexual act you'd like to suggest) either because you really like doing it (it pleases YOU)...or for some other reason (to please your partner, for money, you are really drunk, someone has a gun to your head).

What I'm saying, is that if it is the former, you don't just stop doing it. You don't deprive yourself of what YOU want because you are pissed at someone. When a man is in need of some vagina, the woman it's attached to could be the biggest b*tch on the planet...he's very unlikely to hold it against her vagina at that moment.

My advice is that if blowjobs are an important part of your sexual menu, make sure the girl you are dating isn't faking the part about liking doing it.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 12/26/2013 8:13:22 PM

My advice is that if blowjobs are an important part of your sexual menu, make sure the girl you are dating isn't faking the part about liking doing it.


actually...that was my point...
and you tried to pick it apart!!
 albinosquirlz
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Posted: 12/26/2013 9:22:35 PM
actually...that was my point...
and you tried to pick it apart!!


I didn't pick anything apart...I simply stated that it isn't something a man is overly concerned with while receiving the blowjob. It's like...who cares, I'm getting a blowjob. It isn't so much that we can't tell....it's more like we don't care.

Perhaps we should be paying more attention? Between women being good at faking, and men being good at not caring, it's no wonder people eventually end up disappointed.
 Gideon_70
Joined: 9/9/2005
Msg: 73
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Posted: 12/28/2013 12:15:10 PM
Met a lady over ten years ago. She was nice, the sex was fantastic, and then we decided to get married.

I do, but she didn't.

A week turned into a couple of weeks. A couple of weeks turned into a month. A couple of months turned into a divorce. When I asked her why, she simply shrugged. Seems like I said something to her she didn't like but she never told me what it was. She was punishing me for it, anyway.

Honestly, this kind of attitude by women is why I rarely date.
 SmellyOne
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Posted: 2/3/2014 3:35:22 PM
I agree with MsMicki as far as telling enthusiasm from a female. I've had blowjobs from women who were just doing it to do it (time watchers) vs. those who made me wait to cum because they were too busy enjoying the blowjob they were giving and didn't want it to end just yet.

I will NEVER again date a woman who kind of likes giving blowjobs. They will eventually stop or be so infrequent because she wants "them to be special" and not just something that happens too often (which is a bullshit excuse anyway).

And as the other guy pointed out (sorry, I can't remember his name), it is true that if you LIKE doing it, you continue doing it. Many guys on here and other sexual forums will talk about their selfish wives and their lack of willingness to do anything but, because the men LOVE eating **** (and their women still want the men doing it), they continue to eat the **** of selfish women. Point proven. Women who stop giving head as a result of *insert reason here* didn't LOVE doing it to begin with.
 3mustgetbeers
Joined: 12/27/2013
Msg: 75
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Posted: 2/6/2014 2:19:47 AM
Women reading Gideon_70's post might think that's an extreme case.It's only extreme because of the time span.Almost without exception,women will do this but it takes more like 1-3 years.The love chemicals in their brain can't last much longer than that,before they'e all expired.There is no longer any physical attraction to their partner and it doesn't matter how good he is.It's actually more likely to happen in a secure relationship.
It doesn't matter:
if he's handsome and good natured
if he's helpful,generous and thoughtful
if he's dedicated and hard working
if he's the hottest man there ever was in bed,and she never has less than 3 orgasms in a session.

He can be better at all these things than his wife ever was.Every day that his wife refuses his sexual advances she is telling him that:
*I am not attracted to you.
*I do not want to please you.
*I do not want you to please me.
When this becomes most days,it's time to leave because days become months and years with no physical show of affection.It also becomes obvious out of the bedroom.

On the other hand,a man can still be physically attracted to his wife 10,20,30 years after the wedding and even moreso than when he was first married.Get this girls:Most of you are physically and emotionally disfunctional,and you need to be traded in at about 3 years.

I have never in my life refused sex with a partner in any relationship.It didn't matter if :
*I had a headache
*I had a tooth ache
*I'd had a stressful day,or a stressful week
*I'd worked 20 hours that day
*I'd worked/played 90 or more hours with no sleep
*She had been unreasonable earlier that day.
There was never an excuse big enough to reject a partner and not find her attractive.
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