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 AnEvilGenius1
Joined: 6/5/2012
Msg: 21
Hard to let go... how do you do it? Page 2 of 2    (1, 2)
I've lost myself in others before and was left feeling the same way.
It was because I felt validated, accepted in ways I did not or could not validate or accept myself completely. For years I felt alone, even when I was around people that cared for me, and when I was alone I couldn't stand it.

So I invested in myself, I found myself and learned to love everything that I am and willing to work on the things I didn't like in myself. The most amazing thing I discovered was that I was complete all along, I just didn't realize it.

Now I do not look for people to complete me or to be my other half. Now it's about people enjoying who I am as much as I enjoy who they are. People that complement my life or share it.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 22
Hard to let go... how do you do it?
Posted: 12/8/2013 6:22:05 AM

....pseudo love type FWB situation... I am ready to face the truth...


The truth about what? Why do you feel you must meet his family? Do you want to be introduced to his family as being his fck friend? Like another poster said, another typical case of a FWB situation where one of the participants wants to change the situation and rules and expects the other to be a mind reader and be on the same page moving at the same pace. Here's a novel idea: If you want to move it beyond a FWB situation, why not talk to him about it and let him know exactly what you want from him? Obviously, your strategy of constantly dumping him because he isn't a mind reader and running back every time isn't working.
 usmale6
Joined: 9/14/2013
Msg: 23
Hard to let go... how do you do it?
Posted: 12/8/2013 6:50:08 AM
There is no way to reject someone nicely, because by definition, you are going against their freewill. To get them to go away without hurting their feelings, it has to be their own idea.

So tell them the worst things you have ever done, pull all your skeletons out of the closet. Depending on your morals, you can tell them you have Aids, 20 kids by 6 different fathers, and were not born a woman!
 Staygold-92
Joined: 4/12/2013
Msg: 25
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Hard to let go... how do you do it?
Posted: 12/10/2013 10:55:11 PM
Accept reality
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