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 juliettes7
Joined: 11/4/2012
Msg: 22
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A dating coach said-

"There are two poles that women find attractive: The Marlboro Man and the Sensitive Artist. The Marlboro Man is traditional, doesn’t like to talk about his problems, doesn’t like to listen to yours, but he is a MAN. He’s a stoic, and if he has any emotional needs, you’ll never know it. Problem is that it’s hard to feel CONNECTED to a guy like this. Sharing information is what makes us close, and if you have a guy who really doesn’t roll like that, you’re going to constantly wonder where you stand and what he’s thinking.

Then there’s the Sensitive Artist, who is as much of an open book as your best girlfriend.

You share everything with him and he shares everything with you. You truly understand each other. Problem is, when a person shares everything with you, there will be times where he will seem weak and vulnerable. This doesn’t always inspire confidence like the Marlboro Man."
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I'm not sure if he's saying these are discrete categories or just opposing ends on a spectrum, or it applies to your question OP, but I find myself perplexed by the taciturn man who isn't seemingly introspective. Most of my exes were S.A. or we'd probably be rather unlikely to stick together. When I hang around the tongue tied, I can't understand it..sometimes I prod them with questions, which they answer briefly.
 abmccray
Joined: 8/3/2008
Msg: 23
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Opinion on personality differences....
Posted: 12/19/2013 12:19:12 PM
- It's often easier to talk on the first date because you have set subjects to talk about (you're just learning basics about the person). Once you already know those basics, you may find that there's less to actually talk about - especially if the person finds small talk/light conversation boring.

- Introvert doesn't mean shy. Not talking to someone that much doesn't mean someone is "shy," it can mean that they're just listening or drawing the situation in or enjoying themselves.

- Online dating has a larger proportion of introverts as compared to real life.
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 24
Opinion on personality differences....
Posted: 12/21/2013 3:57:22 PM
SngleNarlington- Amen! I think I'd rather have a root canal without anesthesia than find myself across from someone that is so quiet they can't even come up with lame, "how's the weather" convo. ;)
 TOaks91360
Joined: 11/22/2013
Msg: 25
Opinion on personality differences....
Posted: 12/21/2013 7:07:49 PM
Maybe you don't seem interested in them and they're unsure what to think? Just a thought.
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 26
Opinion on personality differences....
Posted: 12/21/2013 10:04:00 PM

Does anyone actually talk about the weather?


Snow skiers do.
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