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 DiezelPhoenix
Joined: 5/15/2013
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Culinary analist = Waiter
Byproduct procurement specialist = Garbage man
Treasury handler = Cashier
Detachment controller = Bus boy


I've actually heard Janitors refer to themselves as Maintenance Engineers.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 277
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Posted: 1/23/2014 1:44:07 PM
In 1917 jeweler Pierre Cartier bought his company's Fifth Avenue headquarters in New York with $100 in cash and a two-strand natural pearl necklace valued at $1 million. In 1957 the same necklace was auctioned for just $157,000.

I think the same thing is happening to diamonds now that synthetic gem quality diamonds can be made.


So back to the diamonds, it's not that she needs them, it's that it's nice to have. What is wrong with that?


Diamonds are pretty, I like the way they look. I like many gem stones.

But I can't tell a fake cubic zirconium diamond from a real diamond. And even experts can't always tell a synthetic diamonds from a naturally occurring diamond.

Since a good cubic zirconium diamond looks real, does that do it for you?

The question is, do you like diamonds because they are pretty, or because it represents a lot of money a man spent on you, or because of the envy of other women?


What some men do is take such a woman for granted because down to earth equals low maintenance to some, so no effort is made.


I think Mary Ann Summers in the old Gilligan's Island is a good proxy for down to earth girl.

Maybe there is a perception that a down to earth girl equals low maintenance, but I don't think that is true. A Ginger Grant could be low maintenance for man, give her enough money and you don't need to spend a lot of time with her. While a Mary Ann may want to go hiking 20 miles on weekends. I don't think down to earth always equals low maintenance.

BTW, I glady bought my wife a real diamond engagement ring. She wanted that and I am there was no sense in trying to fight city hall no matter what I think of the long term value of diamonds.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 278
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Posted: 1/23/2014 2:00:29 PM
I think Mary Ann Summers in the old Gilligan's Island is a good proxy for down to earth girl.

Sure, I agree...

Maybe there is a perception that a down to earth girl equals low maintenance, but I don't think that is true.

I do. She's going to be more or less low-maintenance -- in the sense of not having to coddle her all the time and tend to her, finance her, or do a lot of chores or 'work' to keep her happy. Because she doesn't need much maintenance to herself to be content -- she's down to earth.

A Ginger Grant could be low maintenance for man, give her enough money and you don't need to spend a lot of time with her.

Ginger's still not down to earth, just because to HIM, *he* doesn't have to apply much maintenance, as a fat wad of cash and/or jewelry will keep her happy -- because it's not difficult for Him to appease a high-maintenance person.

While a Mary Ann may want to go hiking 20 miles on weekends. I don't think down to earth always equals low maintenance.

If she's Expecting her guy to go hiking 20 miles every weekend dammit -- guess what? She's not low-maintenance if she's expecting stuff like that out of other people. :) I couldn't see Mary Ann requiring that to be happy. I actually see her and Ginger getting drunk on fermented coconut oil and getting ball-banged by the Professor. But that's just a whole other story - lol.

I think low-maintenance does vary somewhat -- it has room for subjectivity. It's somewhat relative, sure.

But in essence, it's not about how much maintenance necessarily on YOU, the other person. She could still be high-maintenance, but, luckily for you, You don't have to tend to her stuff. She could be asking it out of other people, or spend tons of time doing things for herself that's hoytee-toytee. That doesn't make her down-to-earth. Likewise, just because you may be lazy-as-hell, and "ugggh" it's a lot of "work" doing basic stuff that to a normal person isn't at all in reference to spending time with them -- doesn't make the girl high-maintenance or not down-to-earth.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 1/23/2014 2:23:17 PM

Maybe there is a perception that a down to earth girl equals low maintenance, but I don't think that is true.



do. She's going to be more or less low-maintenance -- in the sense of not having to coddle her all the time and tend to her, finance her, or do a lot of chores or 'work' to keep her happy.


IMO low maintenance Vs high maintenance has more to do with whether a woman is dependent / insecure / causes problems Vs independent / secure / problem solver.

It has little to do with down to earth Vs glamor girl.

Either type could be low or high maintenance.
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 280
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Posted: 1/23/2014 3:06:31 PM

In 1917 jeweler Pierre Cartier bought his company's Fifth Avenue headquarters in New York with $100 in cash and a two-strand natural pearl necklace valued at $1 million. In 1957 the same necklace was auctioned for just $157,000.

The f*ckery of life!

Rogaine originally costs $10, now it's upwards of $50
A regular four-door car is about 40K in the lot, but as soon as you drive it out the lot, it drops to 16K or less.

Many things depreciate or increase in value over time.


But I can't tell a fake cubic zirconium diamond from a real diamond. And even experts can't always tell a synthetic diamonds from a naturally occurring diamond.

Neither can I. I'm a bit turned off about owning things whose value I can't tell, because only an experts knows. But what really pisses me off is when people know where the piece comes from. I went into work one time, and a co-worker of mine was like "that's Tiffany & Company right?", ugh! haven't worn it in years now, it was a gift from my ex.

Since a good cubic zirconium diamond looks real, does that do it for you?

I never said I wanted diamonds, so practically anything does it for me (within reason). Get me a box of Baked by Melissa, Georgetown Cupcakes, or Crumbs and I'm good. Compared to the value of diamonds, my box of cupcakes is ridiculously cheap, but its also ridiculously delicious.

The question is, do you like diamonds because they are pretty, or because it represents a lot of money a man spent on you, or because of the envy of other women?


I thought we had established that I'm not a fan of diamonds. I'd be more than delighted if I were presented with a diamond though I'd never wear it. I'd take it as insurance, lol. If you f*ck up, I'm converting this into money I can use for something I really want.

I'm not really into real jewelry, but I'd rock the hell out of fantasy jewelry any day.

I think Mary Ann Summers in the old Gilligan's Island is a good proxy for down to earth girl.

And this is were our age gap becomes apparent, lol. I don't have a clue what that is, but I know it was something before my time. If you say Gumby, Popeye the Sailor man, looney toons, MTV (when it was about music), or VH1 (when it was music and music videos, and trivia), we might get somewhere. I have to google it, watch a few episodes and I'll get back to you on that.

This is one of those episodes...like when my ex described he used to watch Batman back when the punch and kicks showed as text bubbles saying "pow", "boom", etc, like comics. Like when batman carried shark repellent and the shark was nothing but some cardboard dressed in gray velour....I had to laugh.

A Ginger Grant could be low maintenance for man, give her enough money and you don't need to spend a lot of time with her.

Are we talking about Ginger from Casino? Did you forget she wanted him to f*ck her and all he would do is give her money and blow? What is a woman supposed to do with money and blow? rent a gigolo? lol

While a Mary Ann may want to go hiking 20 miles on weekends. I don't think down to earth always equals low maintenance.

She was a bad a$$ then. Let me guess...she was hot?

BTW, I glady bought my wife a real diamond engagement ring. She wanted that and I am there was no sense in trying to fight city hall no matter what I think of the long term value of diamonds.


That's right, give her what she wants. Smart man, pick your battles wisely, you're looking more delicious each day....errr....post, lol.
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 281
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Posted: 1/23/2014 3:33:12 PM
Ummm, doesn't maintenance relate to the amount of effort one has to put in to keep him/her satisfied? For example, Lamborghinis that have been converted to meet US emissions have been known to have difficulty continuing to run (at least in the old days of the Countach), and were as such high maintenance.
 ouija2013
Joined: 12/9/2012
Msg: 282
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Posted: 1/23/2014 4:06:44 PM
^^^ interesting, only heard that as " pricks and tires" before.
Only diamonds, not enhanced either. TIA
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 1/23/2014 4:58:31 PM

Culinary analist


Formal term for "tossing the salad".
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 10/12/2013
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Posted: 1/23/2014 5:08:38 PM

Joe, as they say, if it's got tits or tires, you're going to have trouble with it.



yeah, like a car purchased three weeks ago with four brand new tires that had an almost totally flat tire that had to be repaired in -15 degrees (and the other three totally filled)?

agree with the second half of that statement.
 Ladyinred4755
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 285
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Posted: 1/24/2014 1:27:22 AM
I always understood, my interpretation, " low/high maintenance", to mean the amount of money a women routinely spends on herself. "Personal upkeep". Hair cuts, styling, make-up, manicures/pedicures, facials, waxing, massages, etc, that sort of thing. (Whether or not she earned the money or a man provided the money is not relevant)
I actually have "low maintenance" in my profile. I get my hair cut and highlighted about 4 times a year, I wear very little make up, I never get my finger nails polished/manicures, etc, I do my own pedicures/polish. In other words I don't spend an arm and a leg for "personal upkeep".
When and where did all the other interpretations come from?
LOL, And just in case someone WANTS to make this an issue about who pays for what. (I doubt I'm alone here.) I have always been the one to earn the money and use my money for my own personal needs!
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 286
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Posted: 1/24/2014 5:56:14 AM
I just remembered (or was that reminded again ?) another one.

Whenever I read " I do not drink", all I can think of is "how silly is that?"
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Posted: 1/24/2014 9:43:45 AM
Well my profile states "I do not drink" but I think another option should be "I do not drink, but I'm ready to start."
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 1/24/2014 10:55:53 AM

Rogaine originally costs $10, now it's upwards of $50
A regular four-door car is about 40K in the lot, but as soon as you drive it out the lot, it drops to 16K or less.

Many things depreciate or increase in value over time.


True, but pearls are never going to back to the value they had in 1915. Because now we have cultured pearls that lowered the value. Most price changes are short term, some are long term. Buggy whips are never going to be back in high demand, the BDSM market is pretty narrow.


I thought we had established that I'm not a fan of diamonds


My bad, I had seen you weren't a fan but it seemed more like tepid liking.


And this is were our age gap becomes apparent, lol. I have to google it, watch a few episodes and I'll get back to you on that.


I know what you mean, I have to Google stuff from the forums a couple of times a day. Like MGTOW, PUA, SMV, some very weird sexual practices, etc. My wife keeps me up to date with music, example she like Marron 5 and Pittbull, never heard of them a couple of years ago. But their music is OK.

Part of Eazy-E's song Gimme that Nutt based was based on Gilman's Island Theme song, though Eazy-E maybe before your time as well.

I have seen repeats of the honeymooners, they were before my time but TV is forever. It could have been that you had seen it.

Just google the names and you can see what they looked like on the TV show, it's not worth the time to actually watch the show. IMO TV characters from the 1930-1960 were very one dimensional and thus represent pure stereotypes. Now days all the characters on TV are complex mixes.

My only point to all this is that down to earth or glamour women aren't necessry high or low maintenance women.

I liked online dating much more than IRL, because there is a greater range of choice. But truth is, I never tried to date from POF, so maybe I would have a different opinion if I had, hard to tell now.

BTW, high maintenance women, def from internet.

Has higher than normal expectations; has a greater requirement for affection or attention; has more needs and/or demands and therefore more difficult or challenging.

Doesn't equate to money or material possessions alone but may be needy in emotional attention and affection;picky, bratty, likes things her way, takes pride in her appearance, finicky. Usually very well put together and usually independent therefore requiring a lot out of aman to keep up with her.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=High%20Maintenance%20Women
 Midwest_Southwest2
Joined: 11/1/2013
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Posted: 1/24/2014 12:26:21 PM

Has higher than normal expectations; has a greater requirement for affection or attention; has more needs and/or demands and therefore more difficult or challenging.

Doesn't equate to money or material possessions alone but may be needy in emotional attention and affection; picky, bratty, likes things her way, takes pride in her appearance, finicky. Usually very well put together and usually independent therefore requiring a lot out of a man to keep up with her.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=High%20Maintenance%20Women


That last part doesn’t make sense. Her being picky, finicky, well put together and independent doesn’t require anything from a man. He doesn’t need to “keep up with her” unless he wants to or thinks he has to. Of course, I suppose even saying that makes me difficult or challenging, which in itself makes you think.
 Iteration77
Joined: 8/22/2013
Msg: 290
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Posted: 1/24/2014 1:29:25 PM
^^ Maybe consider the source (urbandictionary.com)

I used the equally suspect Yahoo Answers (yes, I understand the irony here) and THIS was rated the best answer about the credibility of urban dictionary...

"Urban Dictionary is basically the Wikipedia of definitions. A range of people describe a word and its meaning, and obviously a certain percentage of them aren't going to be very reliable."
 DiezelPhoenix
Joined: 5/15/2013
Msg: 291
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Posted: 1/24/2014 1:49:20 PM
It's on the internet, so it must be true!
Bon jouuuuur.
 ouija2013
Joined: 12/9/2012
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Posted: 1/24/2014 1:57:50 PM
actually some pearls are worth far more than they were in 1915. For example the COWDRAY Pearls.. last sold at auction for 3.3 million :/
I don't keep peeves as pets. Bugger to house train
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 293
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Posted: 1/24/2014 2:00:57 PM


That last part doesn’t make sense. Her being picky, finicky, well put together and independent doesn’t require anything from a man. He doesn’t need to “keep up with her” unless he wants to or thinks he has to. Of course, I suppose even saying that makes me difficult or challenging, which in itself makes you think.


You are right, the last part didn't really make sense to me. But I didn't want to cherry pick the quote.

It's a subject term, I don't think one can get a hard definition. In a previous post I said what high maintenance means to me.

IMO low maintenance Vs high maintenance has more to do with whether a woman is dependent / insecure / causes problems Vs independent / secure / problem solver.
 Midwest_Southwest2
Joined: 11/1/2013
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Posted: 1/24/2014 2:32:49 PM
Iteration, haha. Urban Dictionary deserves to be defined by Yahoo Answers. Perfect package.

Dragon, Ah, but “independent / secure / problem solver” can also be called cold, ball-buster, emasculator. Hahaha! You're right it's subjective. Bless the men who like low maintenance women, by your definition.

Gotta say I’m impressed by the number of words and terms men have come up with to describe women. It could kind of be flattering, all that thought and energy.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 295
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Posted: 1/24/2014 2:45:52 PM

Ummm, doesn't maintenance relate to the amount of effort one has to put in to keep him/her satisfied?

Yeah -- but that effort "one" has to put in isn't *necessarily* always the significant other.

When a gal's single, is she suddenly low-maintenance when she was high-maintenance when in one? No. :)

It's about her needing maintenance/work applied to to keep herself satisfied -- it's not necessarily the guy having to apply it to her directly -- but YES, you'll obviously often find that will be at least part of it!

You know when you're going to go out with some friends, but one guy's running late with his girl, because she "had" to spend 2 hours in the bathroom before going out? And people roll their eyes and chuckle and say (or even she says) she's "high maintenance"? Yeah. It doesn't mean her boyfriend/husband had to apply her makeup. :)

So you can't necessarily say "She's not high maintenance because she's not asking for too much maintenance out of her boyfriend directly." She can still be a high-maintenance girl, although, not a record-breaker.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 1/25/2014 8:14:53 AM

You know when you're going to go out with some friends, but one guy's running late with his girl, because she "had" to spend 2 hours in the bathroom before going out? And people roll their eyes and chuckle and say (or even she says) she's "high maintenance"? Yeah. It doesn't mean her boyfriend/husband had to apply her makeup. :)


The reason such a woman would be high maintenance has nothing to do with the amount of time she spent in the bathroom getting ready or how she applies makeup.

It has everything to do with her not respecting other people and likely she actually enjoys being late, because she likes the idea of knowing other people are waiting for them. It makes her feel important, especially if she herself says she is high mainteance. The whole way you describe this is a sure sign she isn't very secure.
 Ilovechristmas25
Joined: 1/21/2014
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Posted: 1/25/2014 8:30:35 AM
I've only been on here for a few days and kind of frustrated. I'm 49 in March and keep on getting emails from men in their 60s. My Mom is 69 in June. These guys look like my grandfather not a date. I know I've got wrinkles over the years and have aged but wow, men have let themself go like no ones business. I have also noticed men in the 60s lying about their age because the pic gives it away. It is nearly impossible to meet others as I am somewhat busy but I think it will have to be the old fashioned way and just keep my profile up for the forums.
 Ainen
Joined: 6/27/2013
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Posted: 1/25/2014 8:36:00 AM
Ginger is not terribly high maintenance. I'd choose her over Mary Ann. Mrs. Howell is the high maintenance one.

Any mention of "professional" is indeed negative. When women say they want / require a professional, it sounds like she's high maintenance, expensive tastes, a likely gold digger.

I recently found an otherwise good profile in which she had "professional" in her wish list. In the message I sent her, I asked what she meant by professional. "Someone who gets paid to do his job? Someone with a professional degree?"
 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
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Posted: 1/25/2014 10:52:19 AM
A regular 4 door car cost 40 thousand...! ?

I must be a lot smarter. My Toyota Corolla was 14 thousand...2 years ago. Zero issues. Comfy, dependable and like a good partner, retains its value.

I don't need a man with irrelevent bells and whistles...want him fit and steady like like a Toyota.

PetPeeve. When I was looking it was any negativity in a profile. Even a bit . It shows poor social skills in projecting oneself. Instant delete. This isn't to be confused with witty humor about oneself.
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
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Posted: 1/25/2014 11:12:50 AM

A regular 4 door car cost 40 thousand...! ?


We have a different definition of what is "regular", that's all.

About the pearls, it's not about the value of the pearls, I think I own only one that is "real", I bought it at Bloomingdales (big department store here in NYC) for an interview. The other pearl necklaces, bracelets, earrings, are "immitation". They are classic, chic, and elegant, even when not "real".

on topic,
pet peeve: When their first message is 3 paragraphs long, like they copied and pasted their profile or their life story. That's way too much for a first message and it's all about them.
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