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Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 23
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The problem is doing that in person, and I don't think I'd want to fraternize with an old over the net, the fact that they know how to use computers that efficiently is a turn off.

Then that may be a problem. We are the ones that started using computers that help set up the net. I started using computers when I was 17.

At 61 I am a little young for you, but those that created the computers I used were 20-30 years older than me. Most of those that created the first IBM System/360 are probably in their 80-90s by now. Gene Amdahl is 91.

Even my mother who is 85 uses a computer and has facebook.

Still not sure what you mean by being taken seriously? I guess you mean that you would seriously like to get naked with them?
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 24
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Posted: 4/4/2014 3:19:22 PM
Not likely..esp if he has kids and grand-kids
I have seen just 15-20 years cause issues and families to fight like the Hatfields and McCoys over "dating" younger women/men.

A twenty-something person who said they wanted to pick my brain and touch my body would probably make me think "serial killer" first, "financial scammer" second, "self-deluded child" third, and "a person who is both sincere and self-aware," a distant fifth or sixth, at best. For someone such as you claim to be, to succeed in having me take you seriously, you would have to have tremendous patience, and be aware of my trepidation about being a target, and be willing to work step by step to prove yourself as genuine. That is part of what I mean by ACTUALLY seeing things from my perspective.

Even then, I would think it would take 2-3 years. I would think along the lines of blackmail, thief, other numerous agendas too.
Gawd..and good grief.

I personally find your questions and comments ODD as hell in your threads.
I would have ab- so- lute- lee puked at the thought of a man even 15 years older at your age.
Is there something you aren't sharing here?
We need to pick YOUR brain..Do tell us, WHY?
Whats this urge REALLY about? Just curious? Need to feel in control?Social experiment/sexual experiment?

If you want to know history or learn about the 40's, then READ or be a volunteer at an old folks home/senior center.
But sex? I wouldn't want to see that on you tube myself.
Joined: 1/12/2012
Msg: 25
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Posted: 4/4/2014 7:48:40 PM
OMG ... a 21 y/o female who is sexually attracted to 75 y/o men? Really????? Have you been watching Harold and Maude recently, by any chance? #ROFL big time .....

Not that 75 y/o men don't want, need, and deserve love ... don't get me wrong. But ... from a 21 y/o??? Let me explain a bit of math ... a man that age COULD actually be your great-grandfather ... easy (as you say older than that is a no-no as it'd remind you of your great-grandparents.)

Well ... you've certainly livened up these forums which have (sadly) grown quite boring over time. But if you're really intent on meeting gentlemen 65+ , I suggest you start frequenting retirement communities, perhaps as a volunteer. Then, when you see a likely candidate ... don't be shy! Print this thread out and hand it to him with your number, so that he gets how serious you are on the matter ... :-)
Joined: 6/7/2013
Msg: 26
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Posted: 4/5/2014 10:37:54 AM

How would I let a guy over 60 know that I am interested in him, I'm 21, if I meet a 67 year old how am I supposed to get him to take me seriously?

Oh and crackers!
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 27
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Posted: 4/5/2014 11:28:53 AM
Well......I don't know if a 65-75 yr old man will take you seriously......but I am willing to bet your direct approach of "I want to have sex tonight" (even when said oh so timidly)....will probably produce a much more desired effect than it did with your boyfriend!

So just go find one and tell him what you want! I would target areas that attract your desired age about the elks, moose and vfw clubs?

Don't try the bingo halls'll be out numbered......and don't let the sweet smiles of those blue-haired ladies fool you......they can be vicious.....and.....they always carry weapons.....canes, walkers, umbrellas and big purses! Same goes for the nursing homes......

Good luck!
Joined: 5/26/2013
Msg: 28
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Posted: 4/5/2014 1:14:03 PM
I don't know, but this sort of sounds like a fetish to me. Is there not a fetish topic on here where this could get more knowledgeable answers?

I'm curious about this boyfriend and both the OP's posts that I have read. You're having a hard time communicating your desire to have sex at any given moment with your boyfriend and yet you have no problems sharing each of your desires (and from the way I read it, actually looking for such hook-ups) to have sex with older people. I just can't fathom it.

But who am I to judge. There are weirder things in this exciting world of ours.
Joined: 3/20/2014
Msg: 29
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Posted: 4/7/2014 7:22:07 PM

Again... so what wasn't around, except an older model/form, back in the 50s & 60s? What stories do you long to hear? I'm sure some men here wouldn't mind meeting you and telling you stories but you are vague in areas where they might not wish to reach out and get rejected.

You don't want cyber sex, okay, but you do want sex while hearing stories of their childhood. While 65-67 is pretty specific, what went on in that age groups' youth that you like hearing? I could be wrong again LOL but I'm betting some of these men are unsure enough to not contact you because you aren't making yourself clear.

I'm just trying to help, as I'm sure I'm not the only one a bit confused. I'm not judging or trying to call you out.

I don't know if you are implying that life in the 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s and even 2000s was no different than now or what, but I can't even indulge that. My grandmother is 70 and she tells me about how they had air raids during school and were so afraid of the Russians, and her opinion of Elvis Presley is the most colloquial I've ever heard. My mother, 48, recalls dancing the night away to Come On Eileen at a place called Star Palace, and recounts step by step how she made her hair as big as possible every morning before high school. Even I remember things kids these days have never known. When I would need a phone number, AND a pager number to reach someone effectively, sleeping in front of my computer waiting for my shitty dial-up to load. I like nostalgia. It exists. What are you saying?

None of the men here can contact me (POF age rules), and again, that's not my aim here.

Who wants cyber sex?? What even IS that??
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 30
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Posted: 4/8/2014 7:26:23 AM
I would say if you really are interested in some one that much older , you have to be very persistent , most likely to get your intent across .Especially if he is not taking you serious .
Joined: 12/7/2013
Msg: 31
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Posted: 4/15/2014 7:04:32 PM
Honey, every 67 year old wants a 21 year old. Let it go.
Joined: 5/17/2014
Msg: 32
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Posted: 6/6/2014 3:00:12 PM
[What are you gonna do, marry him for his pension?]

LMAO !!!!!!
that was too funny
Joined: 10/3/2015
Msg: 33
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Posted: 6/15/2018 10:21:48 AM
How can you tell an older woman is in to you sexually and wants you just as bad. Besides her just saying so and what would you do to see if she is
Joined: 2/16/2018
Msg: 34
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Posted: 6/15/2018 9:05:52 PM
the easiest, and best, way is for her to show that interest in you. In this time of MeToo and public accusations, you can't misread an obvious signal. But if she doesn't make it plain, then you have to take a risk and ask her. Sometimes, she may take it the wrong way even if you ask nicely. Most times, however, she will have had enough guys hit on her, that you are just one more, and if you do it politely, she'll let you know.

the best definition I can use to explain what is pervy and what isn't is, consider how you'd want someone to talk about your money. a general joke or tease may not offend you, but someone who talks about how you can use your hard earned money, to please them, feels really uncomfortable, right? Feels too personal? too presumptious of them?
Joined: 5/11/2018
Msg: 35
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Posted: 6/16/2018 2:07:39 AM

women don't date men who are over twice their age. :)

I sure as hell never did in my younger years. In approaching forty faster than I want it to go, my option for somebody that considerably older is already romping in a better place.

No amount of money ever convinced me that somebody that much older could possibly satisfy me. When a man can only go 2x a day with viagra and felt the need to use a woman like me as his trophy, what prospect did I have for a loving relationship based on care and love? Both sets of greed cancel each other out.
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 36
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Posted: 6/17/2018 9:32:46 AM
I can’t seem to follow your logic here.

You’ve got a very long run-on sentence here, and the two parts don’t seem to really interconnect.

When a man can only go 2x a day with viagra and felt the need to use a woman like me as his trophy, what prospect did I have for a loving relationship based on care and love?

Part 1, on older man would have to take Viagra in order to “get it on” twice a day, I’m with you so far.

Part 2, “loving relationship based on care and love” – what exactly does that have to do with sex twice a day?

Mind you, I am not opposed to either part of your equation. I’m just not sure how you connect the two disparate things?

On edit: I suspect very few men in your age range (approaching 40) are really going to be up for “twice a day” over the long haul. Certainly in the initial honeymoon phase, and then perhaps if you only see each other on weekends. But day in and day out? That sounds more like a teenage thing, not something to realistically expect from any man in his 30’s or 40’s.
Joined: 4/27/2018
Msg: 37
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Posted: 6/20/2018 1:01:50 PM

That sounds more like a teenage thing, not something to realistically expect from any man in his 30’s or 40’s.

There are many healthy, fit, virile men 40+ even 50+ that can easily go 4-5-6 x a day w/o Viagra

They eat right & go to the gym, do not smoke & rarely drink

Flowers appears to be very pretty so she would attract very virile, fit men, not old dilapidated Viagra Vapers.
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 38
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Posted: 6/20/2018 4:58:50 PM

There are many healthy, fit, virile men 40+ even 50+ that can easily go 4-5-6 x a day w/o Viagra

Item 1, I wasn’t talking about maximum capability, I was talking about realistic expectations, an entirely different thing.

A recent study from the Kinsey Institute for research in Sex, Reproduction and Gender suggests that it's this variable (age) which can predict how often we have sex.

For example, people between 18 and 29 are having the most sex, with an average of 112 sex sessions per year, or twice a week.

30 to 39 year olds have sex 86 times per year, which averages out at 1.6 times per week.

Things go slightly downhill from here. Those in the 40 to 49 age group manage to have sex only 69 times per year.

To rebut your statemen, I was trying to find some real, scientific data about men’s capabilities by age group, but couldn’t find very much. I will say this: When I was 16, 6 times in one night was easily possible. Even into my mid 20s, on rare occasions, yes. By the time I was 30, maybe 4, if it was a good night with a very stimulating partner (or partners!!!)

The numbers do go down with age. That is a fact. I think very few men in their 40s or 50s can “get it on” 5 or 6 times in one night. Exceptions? Yes, of course, there are always outliers. But rare, why they are called outliers.

And – more to the point, all of the above has absolutely nothing to do with my question to flowersinthelake – how do you see the two parts of your statement connecting?

I don’t see how “loving relationship based on care and love” is connected to “go 2x a day”.
Joined: 6/7/2016
Msg: 39
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Posted: 6/21/2018 10:37:49 AM
I’m wondering how many older working women in their 40s+ realistically even want sex x2+ daily.
Like Henry says, maybe initially.....but day in and out? christ it starts sounding like a chore :)
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 40
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Posted: 6/21/2018 10:51:02 AM

I’m wondering how many older working women in their 40s+ realistically even want sex x2+ daily.
Like Henry says, maybe initially.....but day in and out? christ it starts sounding like a chore :)

I was thinking that.

I know I'm old, but the thought of having sex more than twice a day (seriously 4, 5 or more times?) EVERYDAY,
sounds exhausting. People who do that must be unemployed and have nothing else to do I'm guessing.

But brag on.
I guess it's just important for us to know you can.
Or whatever.

Joined: 4/14/2018
Msg: 41
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Posted: 6/21/2018 5:22:43 PM

There are many healthy, fit, virile men 40+ even 50+ that can easily go 4-5-6 x a day w/o Viagra

Really? Are you currently experiencing this or just making shit up?
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