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 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 24
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For those of us who actually like sex itself, taking a long time with it is heavenly. I've never managed several days of nothing other than intercourse, that would be a bit much. But with all the various ways that various forms of affection and sensation and involvement can take, I could be entirely enthralled in a woman's close company for that period, without complaint.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 25
Why Won’t He Finish?
Posted: 7/16/2014 7:56:06 AM

I've never managed several days of nothing other than intercourse


Been there, done that. And it's awesome. HOwever, it does have indeed a side effect. You are raw at the end of it. To the point that you can't even have sex for like four days afterwards. So do it sparingly. Not only is the sex and intimacy amazing, but in between the breaks, the conversations are deep, intimate and profound. The type of stuff that deepens the relationship.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 26
Why Won’t He Finish?
Posted: 7/16/2014 8:36:38 AM

Basically, I’m pretty sure that he’s into me. The problem is that this past weekend for the first time we were intimate and he has not finished.


Maybe he needs to get to know you for a longer period of time and then he will relax more. I would ask if this was common for him in a LTR?

If this is normal for the guy the OP is dating, then who knows why? I get that at some point I can tell I won't orgasm, but that isn't most of the time. Usually the first time it's easier to orgasm sooner, though I often get more excited the next couple of times as I get know her better. If something turned me off, I would lose an erection and not go on for a long time.


Too early, too late..... anymore, after 3 hours or so.... who cares if i come just the way she expected?

but the first time together might be different. Thats why it should take 3-4 days the first time...




Intercourse for several days, 3-4 days, all hyperbole. 3-4 days of being intimate is doable, which is likely what you meant?

You eat, sleep, drink and go to the bathroom, so when someone says this I am never sure what really went on. And I have never managed to pay attention to a clock, so I have no idea how long each "session" might go on.

Sometimes I don't have an orgasm, I would rather do so, but not that big a deal. I don't really think of it as not finishing. I don't want to go on for an hour in one position, for me that's too long, and an hour? Is that constant pumping away? Or moving from one position to the other? Details really do matter.


But when I am in that kind of sexual thrall, I don't have deep and profound conversations. The conversations are more like, do you want to eat in or go out? If we don't get out of bed soon we will miss lunch. Darn, now we missed lunch time, what snacks do we have?
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 27
Why Won’t He Finish?
Posted: 7/16/2014 9:17:44 AM

But when I am in that kind of sexual thrall, I don't have deep and profound conversations. The conversations are more like, do you want to eat in or go out? If we don't get out of bed soon we will miss lunch. Darn, now we missed lunch time, what snacks do we have?


The conversations are not during intercourse. That part is mostly non-verbal, unless we are using words to turn each other on, like saying "I like it when you spread me wide and ..."
The conversation that I am talking about is the one after one session and you are both exhausted, but want to slowly recharge. So it can start about anything, like something we like sexually, to something we saw or talked about, but it evolves into strange places that seem to be light, but in retrospect profound.


Sometimes I don't have an orgasm, I would rather do so, but not that big a deal. I don't really think of it as not finishing. I don't want to go on for an hour in one position,


If you go for an hour session, it usually involves changes of positions, intense bang all out periods, lasting 5 to 10 minutes, to then slow, slow penetration. I have had some, where I did not had a dry orgasm at all, yet it still felt intense, particularly if she had one orgasm. I find this sessions to be better when you do not have a wet orgasm because they allow you to recuperate quickly and go at it again. Then there's a particular stage where, both partners become extremely orgasmic and it doesn't simply peak, but it becomes a wave so intense, that one has to stop, and barely push to feel that intense sensation again. It is important to stop, to avoid peaking and ending in a wet orgasm.

I think this is an advantage of age. Not many younger guys can do this. And the only ones that I hear that can do it are older, more mature, more experienced, more aware of trying to please their woman, than simply getting their own rocks off.
 billingsmason
Joined: 2/3/2012
Msg: 28
Why Won’t He Finish?
Posted: 7/16/2014 8:11:00 PM
Like everybody doesn't lock the new lover in a hotel room for a short week or so....
Room service $
Liquids
Sweet and salty

Bath materials
Cotton drapes
Oil
 coyotefeller
Joined: 11/12/2011
Msg: 29
Why Won’t He Finish?
Posted: 7/17/2014 5:49:09 AM

No, I did not enjoy this experience one bit.

The question now is, does he get a second chance ?
You have put some time and effort in this relationship,
you could work together as a team and have him cum
all over the place or you can call it quits......
Which is it going to be ?!
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 30
Why Won’t He Finish?
Posted: 7/17/2014 9:24:41 PM
Have you tried pulling out the theatrics on him? (You know, like porn does). If you do that, and he still can't "finish", it may be a medical thing.

I've noticed that sometimes, the longer you go at it, the faster you get numbed. It's really difficult to come when you don't actually feel it. Keep the sessions shorter and get the first one out first, and then focus on you on the second round.
 LanaTownsend
Joined: 5/27/2014
Msg: 31
Why Won’t He Finish?
Posted: 7/17/2014 10:57:29 PM
he's secretly gay and won't climax unless he ****s you in the ass.

"American Me", anyone?

I had to, lol.
 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 32
Why Won’t He Finish?
Posted: 8/11/2014 5:03:30 AM
And why are you on here whining about it?....you both adults?....ask him!.....if its a committed relationship or going in that direction this isnt what you want to do....lol....honesty is the ticket....doubt if your bad in bed less you just lay there while he does all the work.....oh Ive been there.....TALK to him...good luck!
 the_biggavell
Joined: 6/6/2014
Msg: 33
Why Won’t He Finish?
Posted: 8/14/2014 12:37:40 PM
Op.. you are injecting way too much ego into this.. and its sparking insecurity.. the man gets you off... enjoy it.. be happy about it.. if he wasnt enjoying it, he could easily have just stopped, and most likely.. his dikk wouldnt be hard.

Just step up your bedroom game. hes warming up to you and hes probably trained himself to go longer in the bedroom so that you could enjoy yourself.

The man cares about your orgasm.
 _Domination_
Joined: 6/3/2014
Msg: 34
Why Won’t He Finish?
Posted: 9/1/2014 5:02:40 PM
I have been with my girl for almost 3 years and I maybe finished like 4 times tops.
don't look into it, it doesn't mean he's not attracted to you.

I can't feel Sh!t with a condom on...
and without i'm more concerned with not having an OOPS baby
and she refuses anal. (which is going to change after a KO whack to the back of the head with a frying pan)
 Shirley1215
Joined: 7/15/2014
Msg: 35
Why Won’t He Finish?
Posted: 9/11/2014 7:19:04 AM
OMG. I had one of these. Holy Cr*P, girl, just lay back and enjoy, if and when he wants it different, he'll let you know.
 TLC200
Joined: 7/26/2014
Msg: 36
Why Won’t He Finish?
Posted: 9/24/2014 7:37:35 PM
if he's using a condom and can't climax I understand why.

I never could finish with a condom as it just wasn't sensitive enough for me.

if anything I really didn't enjoy sex with a condom therefore I rarely used one.
 buckmaker
Joined: 4/20/2009
Msg: 37
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Why Won’t He Finish?
Posted: 10/1/2014 3:19:58 PM
Sounds like a bunch a hoo-ha. Maybe he compulsively beats it so by the time he sees you, he has no more jam.
But what a you care? You should be happy and ask him to marry you.
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