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 Coma_White
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If the girl(s) are obviously young, yes it is weird, but if they look that much older, no...I think we need some HONEST men to come in here & post...so far it's been mainly middle aged women...


I think it would be pretty annoying to date anyone that was constantly following and liking sexy pictures that people are posting, regardless of their age. Of course men are naturally attracted to healthy, young women. That's basic biology. It doesn't sound like all of the pictures he liked are of underage girls though. She said some are 18 and hinted that some of them may be older. I would worry if the guy was hanging out at local pools to look at underage girls in bathing suits.
 VolcanoKing
Joined: 8/6/2012
Msg: 30
Creepy behavior or normal in world of social media?
Posted: 7/8/2014 3:40:06 PM
This is the interesting thing, is that the online world has *become* a virtual "hanging out at the pool" session.
 Coma_White
Joined: 9/15/2013
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Posted: 7/8/2014 4:52:03 PM

This is the interesting thing, is that the online world has *become* a virtual "hanging out at the pool" session.


In a sense, yes it has. However, there's a difference between this guy liking a picture of an 18 year old girl in a tank top and looking up pictures of 8 year olds in swim suits. The bottom line is that he's totally unaware of how his actions are turning off his girlfriend.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 7/8/2014 5:42:45 PM
I’m going to have to agree with BlondeAngel and InnerGorilla. It is not at all unusual for men to look at young women, to enjoy looking at young women, and / or pictures of young women.

I don’t follow anyone, on Instagram or Twitter or anywhere else. But I have always enjoyed looking at beautiful women, of all ages, and I would not condemn anyone else for doing the same. Acting on it, that’s a different matter entirely.

Traci Lords was thrown up as an example of a 15 year old who was fully mature (at least in appearance and sexuality). Would I? Not if I knew she was 15, but I did see her in videos back in the day, and she sure as hell looked and acted mature.

And how many now remember Roman Polanski and the 13 year old? I saw pictures of her from that period, and she was damned sure mature. It turns out Roman wasn’t even her first adult man. Like I said, I wouldn’t do it IF I KNEW. Or even suspected.

I think we don’t know enough to pass judgment here. And I will not condemn anyone for looking at pictures of women who LOOK adult.
 kj521
Joined: 8/8/2012
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Posted: 7/8/2014 6:02:33 PM
"I’m going to have to agree with BlondeAngel and InnerGorilla. It is not at all unusual for men to look at young women, to enjoy looking at young women, and / or pictures of young women. "


Just make sure those "young women" aren't minors and those aren't naked pictures.......cause no matter how "natural" you think it is.....it's against the law here in America to have possession of them....just sayin' :)
 drivingharmony2
Joined: 3/22/2014
Msg: 34
Creepy behavior or normal in world of social media?
Posted: 7/8/2014 6:11:08 PM

This is instagram......he sees their age and CHOOSES to follow them......not just liking a picture.


I don't have an Instagram account but my kids do. My understanding is you have to accept someone who invites you to follow him/her, right? Kind of like the FaceBook thing. So, if this "guy" is following girls between the ages of 14-18.....
they must have accepted him as a follower. Double UGH!

Personally, I just think it's silly for a grown man (32) to be following young females (14-18) on anything......unless they are relatives, close friends, etc.....but total strangers....yuck!

Whatever happened to magazines.....?
 kj521
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 35
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Posted: 7/8/2014 6:17:47 PM
"So, if this "guy" is following girls between the ages of 14-18.....they must have accepted him as a follower. Double UGH!"

 

Sadly.....you are right about that......but that is a whole different set of issues. But the fact remains....they are still minors and not the adult in the situation.


And this goes to heart of the philosophy I try to live by.......just because you can do something......does it mean you should?

Just because you CAN look at 14, 15, and 16 yr old girls in suggestive and provocative pics online.....SHOULD you?
 HondoGal
Joined: 5/30/2014
Msg: 36
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Posted: 7/8/2014 11:50:04 PM
Goodness, where to even begin.

Here:

A 32 year old man checking out pics of 14 year old girls. Creeper, pedophile, pervert, pick one and run. I can't believe you would even second guess yourself.~ rftv1020

+1

Sensual, sexually well-functioning 32 year old males are not attracted to adolescent girls. By this age this guy has friends, co-workers or family members who have daughters that age; should they be wary of him? They would be if they knew his proclivity for teenage girls.

Also, to compare gaping at teens who post innocently on an internet site to women, who get paid very well, to pose for Playboy and Penthouse is ludicrous. Hugh loves young women…BUT, NOT TEENAGERS.

And possibly the worst observation:

He is not hiding it, so in his mind he doesn't see himself doing anything wrong. ~ InnerGorilla


You do not know what is in his mind. Secondly, NAMBLA adult males also insist that little boys love sex too; [in their twisted minds]. Just because a pervert, or criminal, does not, “See himself doing anything wrong” does not make his actions wholesome or even legal.

OP, you knew the answer to your dilemma before you posed your question; follow your instincts. You know this guy is “bent” and not worth your time, let alone your company. You cannot fix him and you already know this.
 drivingharmony2
Joined: 3/22/2014
Msg: 38
Creepy behavior or normal in world of social media?
Posted: 7/9/2014 2:11:59 AM

I really don't know about his intentions. Is he just trying to get some followers himself, just being very social or is he interested in these girls...

Should this bother me?


OP: Have you tried talking to him about your concerns? I would think he would not want you to open up an Instagram account and follow a bunch of guys???


I have a problem with a man activily following, liking and comenting on woman/ girls trying to get her attention.


Clearly, this bothers you. It would bother me. And, I think at this point, you need to discuss it with your boyfriend. Maybe, just maybe, he will see how this bothers you and close the Instagram account altogether? Like I noted before, I just think it's silly for a grown man to do this.....but that's just me.
 Bebedeleau
Joined: 2/25/2013
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Posted: 7/9/2014 7:06:57 AM
I vote for creepy.

I'm totally disgusted by any man looking at any female who is young enough to be his daughter with lust.

What you are referring to is much worse than that, they are children. He had no business at all clicking on children's profiles, adding them to his friend's list, and 'liking' the photos. There are ages on profiles, right?

My daughter was taller and curvier than me last year at age 13. I saw young men (I'm talking low to mid 20's) checking her out when they didn't see her face, then the look of shock or even revulsion when they saw she was a child ... diverting their eyes quickly. That is the natural reaction, or should be. What your man is doing here is NOT normal if he's purposely made online connections with underage girls and I'd be very concerned for any children he's in contact with.




Just make sure those "young women" aren't minors and those aren't naked pictures.......cause no matter how "natural" you think it is.....it's against the law here in America to have possession of them....just sayin' :)


Yep. A 16 year old boy in our town was arrested and put in jail when he was found to have semi nude / suggestive photos of some teen girls he dated on his phone.
 NoBuddies_Fool
Joined: 6/10/2014
Msg: 41
Creepy behavior or normal in world of social media?
Posted: 7/9/2014 7:43:54 AM
I'm totally disgusted by any man looking at any female who is young enough to be his daughter with lust

^^^^^Yes....even worse if they are old enough to be their grandfather...triple ewww.
I could not date someone that I had to watch around my grand daughter...
I think as someone mentioned...it's natural for a man to ogle younger bodies.....sure...look but to desire or lust after...creepy!!!!
In this circumstance...He knows their age!!
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 42
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Posted: 7/9/2014 7:44:44 AM
creepy behavior existed before the Internet made it easier. I'm not sure the word is "normal", so much as, "accepted". Certainly, society has "prefered" the younger look since the Kennedys took office. If the photos were semi-nude or bikini shots and the women obviously child-like, that would be an obvious red flag. If its just "duck face" close ups....the case could get argued either way. In the old days, older nobility taking younger wives was acceptable, heck, no one thought Princess Diana's wedding to an older Prince Charles was creepy, most thought it was highly romantic and watched it on TV.

Were I in the OP's shoes, yes, I would use it as a reason to look closer, see if there's any other examples where he crosses that line. It may be a sign of "something", or it may be just that he never got to date at that age, and the Internet allows him to pretend in his head, or....who knows. If the OP is creeped out by this one thing, she's welcome to her feelings and welcome to act upon them. There are, apparently, other women who wouldn't be so quick to dump him. Everyone is looking for different things in a relationship, let him go to someone who accepts him.
 Bebedeleau
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Posted: 7/9/2014 8:06:54 AM

My daughter shows me the "pervy old creepers" (her words) that try to follow her and her friends.


Yep, my daughter calls them "creepers" too. She hasn't mentioned any on instigram, but she'll say to me that "some creeper" was looking at her. Thank goodness she picks that up.

For all the older guys that think some teen girl is desirable, just try asking her if they think YOU are and watch the look of revulsion on their faces or the rounds of laughter you will get. They don't want you like you like to fantasize (eg., porn) that they might. For a relatively normal, healthy girl it's just "EW".

Daddy issues, molested, willing to trade sex for a daddy hugs? Yah, only if you want to be the predator who victimizes them over and over again.





About Tracy Lords (Nora), who appeared in her first porn at age 16 (not 15).


She was raped at the age of ten.[4] At 12, she fled from her abusive, alcoholic father to Lawndale, California, with her mother and three sisters. Her mother's new boyfriend, Roger, was a cocaine dealer who molested her.[5] In 1983, she began attending Redondo Union High School in Redondo Beach, California.

At age 15, Nora dropped out of high school and was living with her mother's ex-boyfriend, Roger. Posing as her stepfather, he helped her respond to classified ads requesting models. Using a false driver's license ID provided by Roger's girlfriend that stated she was 20 rather than 15,[6] she started in the porn industry.

So yeah ...

And Polanski? Nothing but rape:

Roman Polanski's rape victim describes sex attack in graphic detail for the first time
Samantha Geimer's tell-all book, The Girl, offers disturbing insight into assault
Describes feeling 'complete and utter emptiness' as he raped her
Details of how he plied her with champagne and sleeping pills before raping and sodomizing her in Jack Nicholson's jacuzzi

Speaking at an event last week to promote her book, Geimer asked for 'justice' for her rapist and urged that the judge who presided over the case be investigated to show that he acted improperly in seeking a longer prison term for Polanski, now 80, after the film-maker had served just 42 days in a state jail.






 RedrockJen
Joined: 3/27/2014
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Posted: 7/9/2014 8:54:13 AM
Looking at the images is one thing. We are inundated with images of beautiful young people everywhere we go. The problem is when he liked the images and started following these minors. That was crossing the line, imo. Because it is setting up a type of relationship. Connecting and interacting with a child in an inappropriate manner. Grown men should have no such type of interactions with 14 year old girls. Just as grown women should not be setting up cyber connections/relationships with young boys. What is next? Chatting? Emailing? Meeting? Look, but don't like.

As to the OP, I would NOT date a man that spends his free time scrolling through Instagram pics and liking them. I prefer men with more intellectual pursuits.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 45
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Posted: 7/9/2014 9:17:58 AM
I am not familiar with Instagram-so would he have to be doing a search-similar to googling-to find these girls? How did he find these girls, and did he specify an age range? And if he knows the OP can check to see what he's looking at, why would he take that chance to begin with?
 oceanstorms
Joined: 4/10/2014
Msg: 46
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Posted: 7/9/2014 9:43:51 AM
Just because in olden times child brides were part of our social fabric does not mean it would be/is acceptable in today’s world. My youngest daughter, I have three, recently turned 14. She is my height, 5’8”, with curves in all the right places and is a very beautiful GIRL. When I am out with her I want to hang a sign on her back that reads, “I’m 14 years old!” She is constantly ogled by men of all ages…which is in itself bad enough but lucky for me she does not have Instagram. I’m sure if the parents of those young girls on this fellow’s Instagram knew they were being followed by a mature man in his 30’s they would have something to say about it.
It’s certainly inappropriate weird behavior. But as others have alluded to it would seem as if the lines of acceptable/unacceptable behavior have been blurred. For example, a good friend of mine (she’s my age) recently answered her husband’s (of 21 years) phone to find he was “sexting” a female “friend” …with pictures and everything. She was devastated. His explanation? I’m not cheating because we are “only sexting” and he fully expected her to believe him. Crossed a line? I would SAY SO! But in his mind…no line was crossed!
What we appear to have now is a society where in the past religion set the behavioral boundaries. When I was growing up most people were members of some kind of faith based community where the boundaries of acceptable/unacceptable behavior were written in black and white. I think these days these people are a minority. So what takes the place of behavioral boundaries when religion is no longer there? Absolutely Nothing. It is left up to each individual to decide for themselves what is and what is not appropriate…if they even think about it at all. Consequently we see more and more diverse interpretations of old societal norms.
Last year in the community I was living in there was a huge RCMP (Canadian police) investigation into child pornography. The culprits? Teenage boys getting their underage girlfriends to text nude pictures of themselves to them. These pictures were then all shared amongst the boys. In Canada it IS against the law for underage children to post/view what the police called, “child pornography” and there were actual charges laid against some of the teenagers.
Just because the fellow the OP was posting about is open about his behavior does not mean it’s acceptable. It’s up to each of us to decide what behaviors are acceptable to US. If I decide it’s not acceptable end of story. Move on and consider it a lesson learned.
 cooldog65
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Posted: 7/9/2014 9:46:48 AM
I'm totally disgusted by any man looking at any female who is young enough to be his daughter with lust.


I've been to the strip club and they're 18 and older. What's the big deal?
 Coma_White
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Posted: 7/9/2014 10:44:19 AM

I've been to the strip club and they're 18 and older. What's the big deal?


We only have one strip club in town so you can literally get into a cab and say: "Take me to planet big titties!" and he or she will drive you there. The club is called Centerfolds though.
 BLoNDeANGeL845
Joined: 6/10/2014
Msg: 49
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Posted: 7/9/2014 11:01:08 AM
Roman Polanski got suckered by a mother-daughter tag team. I saw them on TV recently, interviewed, smirking & laughing. They went from being a broke welfare family to being wealthy landowners/homeowners in Hawaii on Roman's dime...The Mom pimped her daughter out & he was not the 1st...

Tracy was smart as a whip & nobody's fool.

These little girls playing grown-up- where are their Mom's? Who gives them the $$$, clothing, the makeup, the acoutrements, the phones, etc.?

Does Mommy think no one is gonna look? IMO many Mommies are pimps too!

The man in OP's story sounds like a dolt, but to paint him as a pedophile???

I would love to follow his account
since op did not tell us what SOME vs MANY means...
did he click like on 2 under 18 girls? & like on 107 18+ women?
or did he like 107 14 year olds + 3 18+ Russian women?

OMG what a sicko, a YOUNG man who likes looking at pretty young women...

I would never date anyone like him either...you know why? Cuz a young guy like that wouldn't WANT an old bag like me!
 LiliMarleen
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Posted: 7/9/2014 11:22:46 AM
OP, you know what to do.

I remember you from when you had your pictures up. You're a very pretty woman. Why waste your time on a man who spends all his on OTHER women. Find somebody who is crazy about you. The teenage thing is just an added concern.
 BLoNDeANGeL845
Joined: 6/10/2014
Msg: 52
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Posted: 7/9/2014 11:56:23 AM
DUMP HIM, BUT don't suggest he is a pedo- TY for the more accurate info...also understand a teen is 13-19...

Me at 19 was not me at 13 & I am sure most women can say the same.

Even at 15-16 some girls are very PRECOCIOUS
And their Mom/parents should monitor them as well as possible...

My 22 yr old niece doesn't look sexy.

I've seen 13-14 year olds look/act 25. I woudn't blame a man 4 looking at them.
 RedrockJen
Joined: 3/27/2014
Msg: 53
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Posted: 7/9/2014 9:43:02 PM

Well here's the information you want: He recently started following about 60 random women/girls... 17 accounts are from teenagers. But he mainly likes pictures of teenagers. For example yesterday he liked about every picture of one teenager on her account. Some pictures were posted months ago.


This is beyond disturbing.
 jpwrnglrwmn
Joined: 10/21/2013
Msg: 54
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Posted: 7/9/2014 10:39:28 PM
I don't use instagram or any social media (no twitter, facebook, etc),but this just sounds plain creepy. I mean, you guys have been together for 4-5 months,so I'm assuming you are exclusive? Yep, it sounds like he really has nothing better to do than look for random pictures of women. . . and added to that is that these girls are underage. Yech.. You deserve someone much better , one whose focus is on you and not random strangers.
 RedrockJen
Joined: 3/27/2014
Msg: 56
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Posted: 7/10/2014 8:11:50 AM
I'd put your profile back up. Get some great pics. Start fresh. Leave that loser behind. Regardless if they are minors or not, he is a scumbag for openly, conspicuously lusting over the images of a great number of women while in a committed relationship with you. Even if he were not a creep or a borderline pedophile, he's still been disrespectful to you. You deserve better.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 57
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Posted: 7/10/2014 8:38:06 AM

Not provocative, just an innocent looking girl, properly dressed, ... but with a duckface and big sad eyes... going for a fashion, model look or something. She looks around 15 years old.

I'm just answering questions now. For the record I'm done. Will meet him tomorrow. I'll keep you updated.


My question is: If he was liking and tagging pictures of 25-35 year old women on social media, are you OK with that?
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