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 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 26
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obviously you have nothing better to do than write goofy questions.....ha
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
Msg: 27
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Posted: 10/8/2014 8:25:28 AM
" That would mean every man or woman who watches porn is bisexual or gay, also."-Bebedeleau

Funny thing is, everyone has a price. It might not be money, but it is still there.
 fuglygirl
Joined: 8/28/2014
Msg: 28
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Posted: 10/8/2014 9:27:28 AM
When I think about me I touch myself ;)
 Erin_Cat
Joined: 9/4/2014
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Posted: 10/14/2014 11:26:03 AM
No. Lol. Truth be told I really don't like sex. Yes my mind is elsewhere while doing it. I sometimes fantasize about other couples doing it even while I'm doing it. In a nutshell I am attracted to alpha males. When I fantasize sexually it is a third person perspective and I as a person am not even present.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 30
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Posted: 10/14/2014 12:18:41 PM

Yes my mind is elsewhere while doing it.


Have you told this to your sexual partner(s)?

You may discover a fantasy together.
 Erin_Cat
Joined: 9/4/2014
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Posted: 10/14/2014 3:08:15 PM
I'm celibate. I haven't had a sexual partner in a while. And a while means 2008.
 Consensuality
Joined: 7/26/2007
Msg: 32
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Posted: 10/14/2014 5:04:43 PM
Are you aroused at all by your fantasies? Are they more like entertaining scenarios than lustful desires? Are you attracted to women either in real life or in the fantasy? How do you describe an alpha guy and what do you find attractive about him? Are you sexually aroused by alphas or are you drawn to them in a non-sexual way?
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 10/14/2014 6:41:43 PM

Truth be told I really don't like sex. Yes my mind is elsewhere while doing it. I sometimes fantasize about other couples doing it even while I'm doing it. In a nutshell I am attracted to alpha males. When I fantasize sexually it is a third person perspective and I as a person am not even present.


I think I see a LOT of transference going on there, possibly in multiple directions.

"Don't like sex" is a very short phrase to use for a very complicated and involved reality. It's similar to saying "I don't like food," not in a silly way, but in a very real and complicated way.

Sex isn't a single thing, like a bottle of whiskey. It's multi-dimensional, involves everything from the core of your physical being, to your outlook on life, what you think about the human race, what you think about yourself. How your body works with itself, how well and freely you can physically move, how you deal with hard and soft sensations. The psychology of human contact, what it means to you to so much as touch another person or yourself. It's political, it's physiological, it's philosophical.

Saying you don't like it isn't like saying you don't like to jog because it hurts your feet, especially since you are doing it anyway. All sorts of possibilities involved with why you go for "alpha males" and then have sex you don't enjoy with them. I wont guess, I'll just say that if you put in the effort needed to answer why that is, you might also find out the real reason why you don't like sex (including the possibility that you actually do, but refuse to let yourself), but have it anyway, and why you can't fantasize yourself participating. Those things are all interwoven. No question.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 10/14/2014 8:43:39 PM
Interesting concept Igor, because I too never cared for sex either. After the last one, I lost all my confidence in that area, and do not want to go through anything like that again. There is not even a point anymore, there are so few opportunities for romance in my life and all of them seem to wind up with the woman running away crying.

Kind of makes a guy feel like he's lower than scum, ya know?
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 35
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Posted: 10/15/2014 8:29:12 AM

Sex isn't a single thing, like a bottle of whiskey. It's multi-dimensional, involves everything from the core of your physical being, to your outlook on life, what you think about the human race, what you think about yourself. How your body works with itself, how well and freely you can physically move, how you deal with hard and soft sensations. The psychology of human contact, what it means to you to so much as touch another person or yourself. It's political, it's physiological, it's philosophical.


Wow, dude, every now and then you pull an Igor, that is when you say those profound things that reverberate through our own concept of the human experience. Good stuff man.
 HUMHUMA
Joined: 1/14/2018
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Posted: 12/5/2018 4:33:29 AM
Everyone has fantasies and range from different degrees....not sure what your talking about because that's what they are fantasies....as long as they don't hurt anyone it's all good....I don't fantasize because I feel it's fruitless....and your talking stages like kissing....does that mean that's all you do during dating???...lol....
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
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Posted: 12/24/2018 6:56:59 AM
Some fantasies can become reality.

Other things should just remain fantasies.
 dondea
Joined: 12/10/2007
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Posted: 12/25/2018 11:56:50 AM
^^^^ So right hemingway234^^^^

In this stage in my life, fantasizing is the ONLY option in my life. If feel like or am considering cheating, I'm just like UBU the dog trying to catch a car. It stops and all I can do is sit, lol. I guess I'll keep on fantasizing. It's also safer that way!
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