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 RANDMAN2
Joined: 6/18/2013
Msg: 72
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Dee, most men that I know do know have a lessen desire of having sex when they are over 40. It is is something that I come across this message as I hear the same thing from my woman friends. I tell them the same as you. The products are expensive although if you really Love someone the money doesn't matter. Live for today to please your Women's desires. Don't just sleep with her and not discuss the issue . Also if you are on certain medications it will cause the same problem. I was in a head on collision in June of 2014. I am still on medication so my doctor gave me Cialis and it works for me as long as I am having a good day. I also believe I read there is now a generic for Viagra on the market currently. The producer of Viagra are fighting it fiercely. They said they don't believe it will be on the market very long. You know by the time a man is over 40 he should be able to discuss issues with a women as well as woman should be open with any issues they have. Just my thoughts.
 oneday57
Joined: 10/17/2015
Msg: 73
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 5/13/2016 4:57:18 AM
Without every ones MOODS sex would be good but as for performance that's different with men as with woman chemically......as for me I load giving woman good oral and have found many woman aren't versed in participating in sex. When I was married she was excellent...we just never became friends...the last relationship, she was a taker and thought all she had to do was lay there....did get oral ONCE but that pretty much ended the deal .....its two part from the physical to ALL....and maybe before life's done I might find her...guess time will tell...lol
 chinook1111
Joined: 4/1/2016
Msg: 74
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 5/13/2016 8:33:30 PM
You can still be good in your forties if fit.

Recovery from heavy exercise might start to be a problem in the late forties,it could actually drive test levels down.

The bike is not a good idea,pudendal nerve entrapment can occur,side effects could be numbness delaying orgasms and dry orgasms according to men's fitness.
 Dragracer428
Joined: 1/1/2012
Msg: 75
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 5/15/2016 10:45:25 AM


letitialegrande wrote
Some people that are not getting what they need sexually would be thinking about it constantly I guess. I doubt women your age are thinking of it as much as you apparently do. How would you know about that anyway? A lot of women in their fifties are over it and not interested and prefer to engage in other activities.


Interesting, I make the assumption any woman my age who is dating is interested in sex. Have not been proven wrong yet. In the 2 LTR's I have had I was the one having trouble matching the pace.
 Dragracer428
Joined: 1/1/2012
Msg: 76
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 5/15/2016 10:47:06 AM
^^^^^^^^ Will not let me edit but I will add

They were both older than me, just saying!!!!
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 77
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 5/17/2016 10:01:51 PM
I will let you know how my sex drive is in a few years after I turn 40. LOL.
 Inner_Gorilla
Joined: 12/3/2015
Msg: 78
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 5/18/2016 2:53:50 PM
Yeah, it goes down tremendously. Now I only want to have sex twice a day.
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
Msg: 79
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Posted: 5/18/2016 5:12:18 PM
letetialegrande:

A lot of women in their fifties are over it and not interested and prefer to engage in other activities.

Yeah. They're not much fun.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 80
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Posted: 5/20/2016 8:17:43 AM
"A lot of women in their fifties are over it and not interested and prefer to engage in other activities."





I find this both scary and sad.
As if sex between 2 people who care about eachother is some novelty you " get over "


I hope I NEVER get into a LTR with this type of woman !

IMO that type of woman is the type of woman who never enjoyed sex that much in the first place and had the attitude that sex is a " duty " or " necessary evil " done for the man.

( eye roll )
 Inner_Gorilla
Joined: 12/3/2015
Msg: 81
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 5/20/2016 8:22:34 AM

"A lot of women in their fifties are over it and not interested and prefer to engage in other activities."


Based on research that was posted in Psychology Today people (men and women) between their 40 and late 50s have the most often and best quality sex.
 chinook1111
Joined: 4/1/2016
Msg: 82
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Posted: 5/20/2016 8:29:40 AM
And that is why you take the research of educated idiots with a large dose of salt.


 Inner_Gorilla
Joined: 12/3/2015
Msg: 83
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 5/20/2016 12:43:46 PM

And that is why you take the research of educated idiots with a large dose of salt.


Are you kidding me? I've been having a bawl. Most of the women I've dated, their libidos exploded after 40. Also their attitudes about sex changed and were more willing to experiment and more willing to do it more often. To the tune of 7 times in 48 hours, or vary the locations, dress, levels of undress or approach.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 84
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 5/20/2016 2:18:26 PM
"A lot of women in their fifties are over it and not interested and prefer to engage in other activities."

>>>but if you check out a young hottie around them....suddenly they're upset you're bothering someone else.

:)
 chinook1111
Joined: 4/1/2016
Msg: 85
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 5/20/2016 5:44:58 PM
IG,My gf and I have a lot of sex,she has a hungry fish as she says.Some women do Rev up.But I see a lot of single women in their fifties with no man.
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 86
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 5/20/2016 7:55:45 PM
laika100- You are asking two different questions, you just don't realize it.
Age has nothing to do with cheating, being satisfied has something to do with it, just not what you think.
Cheater are selfish, period.
However they can manipulate the situation and get someone to take ownership of THEIR faults, they will.
THAT is the reality of cheating.
Now, second issue:
Sex drive of men over 40, (the topic):
It depends on the man.
Some will screw until they drop, even if they are 80 and they have a heart attack doing it.
Others barely have a sex drive at 16, when the wind would make most boys their age hard.
Some are in between (bless them).
You can't make that about YOU.
All you need to know is which type works for you and find THAT one.
It really is that simple.
 bigshrek
Joined: 11/15/2007
Msg: 87
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 6/12/2016 2:55:36 PM

Sex drive of men over 40, (the topic):
It depends on the man.
Some will screw until they drop, even if they are 80 and they have a heart attack doing it.
Others barely have a sex drive at 16, when the wind would make most boys their age hard.
Some are in between (bless them).
You can't make that about YOU.
All you need to know is which type works for you and find THAT one.
It really is that simple.[\quote]

Bingo.

I waited a very long time to get married because I didn't want to marry the wrong person...
after watching the "hell of divorce" hit some of my older relatives, didn't want to go thru that...
had several relationships that lasted several years, but none that I thought would be able to stick.
So finally finding what I thought was the right one, who could not only match me in the bedroom,
but also thought she was a great match on all levels...went for it!

Before we were married, asked her repeatedly if she would be able to handle my large appetite...
she said it wasn't a problem...and while we were dating and newlyweds, pretty darn good times.
Then after a miscarriage, and the expected work-thru-time, then a Twin pregnancy that did work,
and all the stuff that went along with it...then the post-partum mental issues...then pre-menopause...
So five years into it, she quit having ANY sex of any type...you can imagine how well that went over.
From 2-4 times a day, to NOTHING in a few years time...with me having a high drive.
Still amazed I didn't get a side gal. Definitely had reason enough.
But, vows & all...so then you have to go thru all the divorce crap that you didn't want to deal with in the first place...

What starts off well doesn't necessarily end well...people change, and not always for the best.
When you take sex out of a relationship, it leads to a lot of frustration that is insurmountable.
People NEED to be touched, to be held, to be loved...and banged until we're sore on occasion ;)
 Cowgirlwannabe1
Joined: 8/21/2015
Msg: 88
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 6/13/2016 8:22:48 AM
"A lot of women in their fifties are over it and not interested and prefer to engage in other activities."



oh goody...so much to look forward to then

like what...knitting?
 Inner_Gorilla
Joined: 12/3/2015
Msg: 89
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 6/13/2016 9:59:57 AM

IG,My gf and I have a lot of sex,she has a hungry fish as she says.


So do you go out of your way to satisfy and feed the fish? Do you make sure is happy. Do you initiate or the fish likes to initiate. Does the fish likes to be controlled or does it like to take control at times?
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 6/17/2016 8:12:16 AM
My sex drive seems to be just fine at this time. I prefer quality sex with one special lady versus mediocre sex with many.
 WhereforeAndWhyNot
Joined: 1/26/2016
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Posted: 6/21/2016 1:50:21 AM
40, hell… what about 55 and up? It really amazes me that I still get h0rny every day… I really thought all of that hormonal roller-coaster would be over, by this point in life.

But no—I’ve even seen some eeew-stories about how STD’s are now a real problem over in Sun-City and LeisureWorld, and other octogenarian retirement communities.

Not that I mind the sex drive, on certain (ahem) “social occasions”, but damn, most of the time it’s so freeking distracting.

I saw a quote once from Burroughs (or someone similar) who was asked that now he’s in his “later years”, how he felt about being free from the sex-drive. He said that it was like being unwillingly strapped on a wild stallion for most of his life, and finally being allowed to dismount.
 LTII
Joined: 8/16/2015
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Posted: 7/6/2016 10:10:37 PM
I'm 44 and still have as strong a sex drive as I did when I was 22. The only difference is that now, sometimes my back goes out. *shrug*
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 7/12/2016 6:30:26 PM

A lot of women in their fifties are over it and not interested and prefer to engage in other activities."


Over it?
Uhm....I'm far more over the "other activities" and prefer to just stay home and have sex!!
or if you insist on "other activities"....then it must be followed up by some great sex afterwards!

I agree....those that don't want sex in their 50's.....probably didn't want sex in their 40's either.
 IgottaName
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 94
Sex drive of men over 40
Posted: 7/12/2016 8:53:49 PM

Uhm....I'm far more over the "other activities" and prefer to just stay home and have sex!!
or if you insist on "other activities"....then it must be followed up by some great sex afterwards!

MsMicki, I have said before and I'll say it again. Marry me! LOL!
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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Posted: 7/13/2016 7:36:53 PM
Immature question really. Sex drive doesn't change anymore than a woman's does. Mines the same as it was in my teens. I think this false fact came from older women gossiping that their sex partners had a lower sex drive. The reason for this is just common sense really. Most of the time a 40-50 year old isn't going to be as sexually attractive as a 20-30 year old (with the odd exception). Since we are more discriminating as we get older, it only stands to reason it's harder to be interested or turned on if we aren't as excited by what we're looking at (of course a long term relationship with someone you're crazy about is the exception. I find looks don't matter in this case).
 HUMHUMA
Joined: 1/14/2018
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Posted: 7/6/2018 3:46:02 AM
I'm 61 and sex drives never changed....my problem is finding woman who at our age even know how to treat a guy and the time it takes to play...suck...and so-forth …….I'm a big foreplay person and when I start giving to a woman sexually by the time I massage...touch and do what I like she for lack of better terms is VERY primed and her orgasms are good and many....after all we aren't 21 any more and I think casual touches and good foreplay IS the ticket!lol
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