What's important isn't the short meet...longer date, etc. (although I also preferred the short meet with a glass of wine). It is that a man is considerate of a woman's concerns. We want to feel safe and secure. Some men are fully aware of this. They are conscious of meeting us where we want...the type of meet we want..etc. They respect that we may want totext another message...give out a phone number or not.
An aware man does not push back. To be frank...he is ceding everything to us. 100 to 0. They 'get it'. They understand that this particular woman may have had a not so nice first meet a man in which she felt very uncomfortable.
After the initial meet then absolutely I'm willing to drive to wherever, whenever, etc. to meet him again. Show my thanks. Bake him a pie. I should be expected to and do compromise. But...not until we have met previously in person.
I am willing to compromise and do something that a woman may like better than I do. However I should be able to least tolerate that activity. I'm not doing something that I dislike.
As for the length of the first date / meeting, I don't have any time limits. Play it by ear and see how it goes.