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 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
Msg: 473
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IMO the biggest reason why most serious large age difference relationships won't work out is the 2 people not having enough in common or having different long term goals. Not maturity.


BINGO! Do people realize that men (people) in their 20s get married, have babies, join the military and go to war? Obviously, there are PLENTY of people in that age group that are mature enough. Saying that young men are not "mature enough" and/or giving them a pass for bad behavior, such as lying in cheating, is totally missing the point. Age is not the issue, it's personality and character. Someone who habitually lies and cheats in his 20s is unlikely to change that pattern of behavior later in life. And yes, compatibility and seeing eye-to-eye is much, much more important than age.
 tangofish
Joined: 6/16/2015
Msg: 474
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older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/9/2015 10:21:33 PM

Do people realize that men (people) in their 20s get married, have babies, join the military and go to war?


And in that order too, because the only reason to join the military would be because you've already f***ked up that bad in your early 20s.
 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 475
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/9/2015 10:43:02 PM
"IME a man over 25 is a man, they have good jobs, their own place and are not looking for a mother figure (30-35 are best). It isn't a mom/son type thing. Its about experience. "


What is IME? I'm behind the times again..

Ya know what's interesting, is that I found many men over 50 to be "in need of taxis"...not just guys in their 20's! One of the biggest duds I found with dating was that so many of the guys were living hand to mouth like they were in college..some had no cars or were living at home with their parents or relying on checks from mom, or...room mating..at the age of 50 plus.

And yes, I know we are all at different point in our lives and what not. I'm just not into the sort of lifestyle I left behind in my early 20's to work at the studios and buy a home.

It's a turn off to have to be the cab or know that mom and dad are lurking in the next room, or some trollish room mate is wandering around in his socks. This just ain't what I'm looking for at this point in my life.

So I suppose, age is not purely the factor..you are right there, you can be doing well at 20 and not so well at 55. And these are not guys, BTW, who had huge, unforseen medical issues or anything like that that plummeted them into a cash strapped, dependent existence..some were in bad debt because of poor money management or chronic unemployment and in once case, alcoholism.
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
Msg: 476
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/9/2015 10:52:05 PM
And in that order too, because the only reason to join the military would be because you've already f***ked up that bad in your early 20s.

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So really, it's "safer" for a young man to date an older women, because generally they won't "trap" them with a pregnancy like younger women. Really, it's the younger women who are "selfish" - I'm referring to someone who called me "selfish" for "stealing" a young man's youth or some dramatic stuff like that. When really I'm not "stealing" anything - the knocked up younger women very well might though, namely child support.
 mike11092
Joined: 11/2/2015
Msg: 477
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/9/2015 10:52:53 PM

And in that order too, because the only reason to join the military would be because you've already f***ked up that bad in your early 20s.


.....not sure if serious....still deciding if I'm offended by this. There's also the possibility (as is the case with me)that 20 year old's still think they're going to change the world and can't do that in Kansas.


As to the topic of maturity...I mean, I have younger male friends that, at times, act more mature than I do.

When people talk about how "mature" I'm supposed to be at 30...a part of me (I imagine the young, immature part) cries a little. I mean, I handle my own issues and I have a job, but I should have a career, too? And a house? Should I drive a brand new Mercedes too? Vacation in the Bahamas?

Man, I'm just not living up to all these life metrics everyone keeps laying out for me.


Sounds like people are confusing "materialistic" for "mature".
 tangofish
Joined: 6/16/2015
Msg: 478
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Posted: 11/9/2015 11:01:04 PM
I was a grunt in the army, so I get to make jokes like that. Even this close to veterans day.

It's in the veterans regulation under AR-thatshitsucked-1
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 479
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/10/2015 4:47:24 AM

BINGO! Do people realize that men (people) in their 20s get married, have babies, join the military and go to war?


Nothing above is actually a true sign of "maturity". In fact, if you really think about it, it's a sign of not being very smart, or at least lacking the ability to think. There is a reason why the military aims for the young when asking members of our society to "join".
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 480
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/10/2015 5:09:07 AM
^^^^ Military should just sign up women. Women over 40. Like that joke. You know, we can hunt down men anywhere, survive on crackers, etc.
Maturity and age certainly don't go hand in hand. As if putting random stuff in a strangers grocery cart ever gets old :/
Whenever I read this title I imagine some older dude tied to a stake at the finish line, and a bunch of women racing down the track to get him.
Or we could arm wrestle
Dance off
 revoskeepnus
Joined: 8/4/2015
Msg: 481
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Posted: 11/10/2015 5:25:05 AM
Of course, the demographics of your area also comes into play with regards to the ratio. East KY has so many women, like... 3:1, Alaska it's just the opposite.

If you're desperate for a woman, go to an impoverished area... all the men left for work. If you're desperate for a man, go to a high employment area, as most men will be there.

Either way, I don't feel any less sexy than I did ten years ago... even though I'm fatter and have more kids.
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
Msg: 482
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/10/2015 6:40:22 AM

Probably an older woman fits in to this because (if like me) they have come out of a long relationship, they aren't really in a place to have a relationship whilst they get their heads and life back on track? So the experience can be ok for both IME. Though of course there is the porn/game element where older women are viewed as 'easier to get sex from' + 'more experienced and more willing to experience'.

Does that mean there are no feelings involved? I don't think so, I think that applies for both. I think its tricky for both but at some point reality takes over and.......well it is what it is, an experience. But I would hope it would be a pleasant one that both can remember as being good.


Totally agree. I've had just fun with young guys, never developed any feelings for them except friendship (with a little sex thrown in). I'm one of those weird women who can have sex without developing feelings. That's not how I fall in love. I fall in love when I have a real connection (emotional AND sexual) with someone - just one won't cut it. I've only met one man that I thought fit that bill, but of course, it wasn't real, he was just faking it. So I have no problem just being single, dating, meeting more people, but I'm not desperate to land husband number 2 by any stretch. Got this lovely message the other day from a guy on OK cupid, ranting that "if you don't raise your age limit, you'll be here forever". Some people don't get that I'd rather be single than settle for a dude I'm not into.

As far as military guys, I agree. I do happen to live right next to the biggest military post west of the Mississippi, so I've met lots of them, plus my ex husband spent 20 years in the military. It's hard to avoid them, but I try.
 SunshineGirl__
Joined: 10/7/2014
Msg: 483
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/10/2015 12:03:58 PM

And in that order too, because the only reason to join the military would be because you've already f***ked up that bad in your early 20s.



So really, it's "safer" for a young man to date an older women, because generally they won't "trap" them with a pregnancy like younger women. …….

When really I'm not "stealing" anything - the knocked up younger women very well might though, namely child support.


Wait….what??

So men in their 20s can’t be painted with the “broad brush” of immaturity and having mommy issues, but young women sure can be…..first they “trap” young men into marriage, then “steal” financial support from them for their children????

What a hypocrite.

I was in your corner until you came out with this bullsh!t.
 buttercup747
Joined: 10/26/2015
Msg: 484
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/10/2015 2:35:35 PM
Cool, so all the mothers on here who sent there young men off to basic training and then to war should thank the damn cougars like Karma for doing us all a favour and banging the boys in camp. Keep them away from the young trollups. Nice. So bang an old broad or a troop tramp as they are called. MILF sounded so much nicer. Troop tramp, helping with the war effort.

Leave the boys alone, they are still boys and you're just a quick fvck or diversion. Do you want some 45 year old guy banging your daughter??
 Meagan06825
Joined: 10/8/2015
Msg: 485
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/10/2015 3:04:57 PM

Totally agree. I've had just fun with young guys, never developed any feelings for them except friendship (with a little sex thrown in). I'm one of those weird women who can have sex without developing feelings. That's not how I fall in love. I fall in love when I have a real connection (emotional AND sexual) with someone - just one won't cut it. I've only met one man that I thought fit that bill, but of course, it wasn't real, he was just faking it. So I have no problem just being single, dating, meeting more people, but I'm not desperate to land husband number 2 by any stretch. Got this lovely message the other day from a guy on OK cupid, ranting that "if you don't raise your age limit, you'll be here forever". Some people don't get that I'd rather be single than settle for a dude I'm not into.

As far as military guys, I agree. I do happen to live right next to the biggest military post west of the Mississippi, so I've met lots of them, plus my ex husband spent 20 years in the military. It's hard to avoid them, but I try.

more power to you!


Leave the boys alone, they are still boys and you're just a quick fvck or diversion. Do you want some 45 year old guy banging your daughter??


That's really none of your business, 747. I see a very lovely, sensual woman saying it like it is. No need to tear her down or insult her.

Worry about what is going down (or not) in between your own sheets!
 buttercup747
Joined: 10/26/2015
Msg: 486
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/10/2015 4:00:20 PM
Yes, she's all sweet and swell until she's in the sheets with your son Meagan, and you're old enough to have a son she could bang. You want your son bringing home a troop tramp? And if she wants to brag about who she chases on here, she's going by to be fair game for comments and opinions from others

Edit to add - many, many men are ragged on in here for dating younger, wanting to date younger and heaven forbid he puts looking for younger on his profile. Karma gets a free ride, if it were an Edward or Joseph bragging about chasing and having sex with females young enough to be their daughters all the women on her would be jumping on him and calling him every name in the book.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 487
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Posted: 11/10/2015 4:12:24 PM
I think Karma likes to stir things up and bait the hook and plenty take it. lol! A woman of 45 is vilified for going out with a 30 year old guy but in reverse, the guy would be applauded and envied. Double standards. pfftt..... She doesn't adhere to them and neither do I. If she is fit and fab it is because she eats right and works out.
 Meagan06825
Joined: 10/8/2015
Msg: 488
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Posted: 11/10/2015 4:21:43 PM

comments and opinions


Comments and opinions, yes; name calling, shaming, baiting, no.

It makes you seem petty and jealous. Are you?

(Of course you will deny it!)
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 490
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/10/2015 5:07:30 PM
Buttercup747- Hold on now, that's out of line.
Karma and I go pretty far back on here.
We disagree sometimes, that's ok.
I do NOT think she is a slut/tramp.
I DO have a son who is 28.
He's a legal adult, able to make his own choices.
Would I want him to be involved with an older woman? Maybe not, but it isn't my choice.
Like I said, he's grown.
You took this too far.
Karma is NOT getting involved with boys, they're men, they are just younger than her.
Over all, she's a good person, she didn't deserve this. :(
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
Msg: 491
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/10/2015 6:29:51 PM

Cool, so all the mothers on here who sent there young men off to basic training and then to war should thank the damn cougars like Karma for doing us all a favour and banging the boys in camp. Keep them away from the young trollups. Nice. So bang an old broad or a troop tramp as they are called. MILF sounded so much nicer. Troop tramp, helping with the war effort.

Leave the boys alone, they are still boys and you're just a quick fvck or diversion. Do you want some 45 year old guy banging your daughter??


Wow, simmer down. My comment about the younger women was sarcasm, if you didn't catch that. It was in response to the implication that I was "baiting" young men as if they were helpless little puppies who were 'trapped" with me when they were better off with younger women their age. My (sarcastic) response to that was that at the very least, they could leave me without worrying about paying child support. If someone stereotypes older women, I can stereotype younger women. Geez.

And my daughter is 8 - so yeah, I would have a HUGE problem if a 45 year old or any man for that matter "banged" her.

And FYI - I don't "bang" indiscriminately - even the young guys have to pass my standards first.
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
Msg: 492
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/10/2015 6:30:16 PM
And thank you to the other ladies, who get me :-)
 mike11092
Joined: 11/2/2015
Msg: 493
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/10/2015 8:12:31 PM

Cool, so all the mothers on here who sent there young men off to basic training and then to war should thank the damn cougars like Karma for doing us all a favour and banging the boys in camp. Keep them away from the young trollups. Nice. So bang an old broad or a troop tramp as they are called. MILF sounded so much nicer. Troop tramp, helping with the war effort.

Leave the boys alone, they are still boys and you're just a quick fvck or diversion. Do you want some 45 year old guy banging your daughter??



So much for feminism......


it's okay that "the boys" do it, but reprehensible that a woman does it....

What's sick is that there's this huge outcry for women to be treated as equals, yet, when a woman posts "revealing" pics on her profile she is attacked by, oddly enough, other women.

I fail to find her pictures offensive. Further, attempts at shaming her for being proud of her body...that's just disgusting....

"Be proud of your body....unless you're body looks good, then you should hide it always."
 coffeetogo127
Joined: 5/16/2015
Msg: 494
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/10/2015 9:19:01 PM
Hey Karma, you look great, your pics look great and if you want to flaunt it you go right ahead!

I don't like to date guys much younger than me (10 years is about my limit) just because I have seldom met someone much younger that gets me- or we are just not in the same head space.

For sex, sure can be fine, and fun for a while- but I find as I get older I am just impatient with youth! Kind of takes the chemistry out of things.

I had a fairly serious short term relationship a few years back- he was about 12 years younger than me, and age wasn't really much of a factor- really- (maybe 20 years would have been a factor but we are middle aged one way or the other) but we were totally mismatched, and compatibility trumps chemistry every time. Sadly :(


Honestly, life is short and it's all we get. Do what you want with it, or don't, but stop all this fussing about what others do. I don't recall Karma asking for anyone's opinion.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 495
older women have more competition and fewer men to chose from???
Posted: 11/10/2015 10:11:57 PM
Nothing wrong for wanting sex be it men or women. There is no reason why older women shouldn't have sex for the joy of having sex.
Karma wants to date and enjoy life she knows what she is doing. Young men know what they are doing as well. My hat off for everyone as long as they don't all of a sudden start to blame others for there choices.
 bAc0nflav0redbac0n
Joined: 10/10/2015
Msg: 496
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Posted: 11/11/2015 2:20:54 AM
Karma,

You're fine. As Mike said (and I'm paraphrasing here)if you were a guy, you'd have been hailed as a stud.

The old bag is jealous of you. And the deleted old bag has a documented history of using various POF IDs, nuking after nuking, to come here to criticize women dramatically prettier and more active on the dating scene than her.
 MentalGiant58
Joined: 11/6/2015
Msg: 497
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Posted: 11/11/2015 3:33:55 AM
Have fun.

Get pissed off.

But please, no DSM-V classifications. No arm chair shrinks please.
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