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 kj521
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 18
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"The upside is that it's not your job to please any of them"


It is if you're looking for a S & M relationship and she's the sub! ;)


Op......just post both pics and let your Dom decide how he prefers you. Good luck in your search!
 Ainen
Joined: 6/27/2013
Msg: 19
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Posted: 10/22/2014 5:07:07 AM
First piece of advice: post in the proper section. Site suggestions is not the best place for your thread about skin darkness/lightness.

Second, go with your natural skin.

The zillion dollar tanning industry is proof many people prefer to look darker.

Traditionally the man is expected to be darker than the woman. Women often want a man who is tall, DARK and handsome. Artwork throughout the ages shows the man as darker. This is probably because the man went outside and toiled in the sun all day while the woman stayed inside. In the cradle of civilization, women have covered themselves, protected from the sun's rays.

Light skin is favored in India, where the caste system is based on skin color (their white British masters are considered the ideal, then the upper caste is pale, with the darkest people "untouchable"). Upper caste Hindu women use bleaching to look as white as they can. Highly dysfunctional.

Pale men are often shunned and ignored. My Nordic ancestors evolved to blend in with the snow, less likely to be detected by saber toothed tigers and other predators. Nowadays, fair skin on men is a defense against female human predators as it seems to repel them.

Only a fool would say, "You are beautiful" to someone they've never met in real life. The men who message your profile with the darker skin obviously behave better by not saying such nonsense. They're less superficial, more interested in your eyes and your smile, while the ones who prefer the lighter skin photos have more hangups about superficial attributes. I'd say your darker profile is being treated better.

Extremely light skinned people are more likely to suffer from sunburn and skin cancer, while extremely dark skinned people are more likely to suffer from Vitamin D deficiency.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 20
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Posted: 10/22/2014 6:08:09 AM
I'm curious - were they white Men who responded more to the lighter skin profile?
Since you announce you are a Sub they prolly tell you what to do in a feeble attempt to come off as a Dom.
How many shades lighter did you go?
Chantelle Brown Young - I think she is past beautiful, so perhaps skin tone does comes into play.
 bluemoon24_7
Joined: 4/18/2014
Msg: 21
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Posted: 10/22/2014 7:05:46 AM
Okay, I'll state the obvious - it's nothing to do with skin colour as to "superficial" guys contacting you. You're 22 - guys flock to 22 year old old's. You're draped in a sexy pose - guys flock to that. Your screen name screams "come fvck me". You want to be someone's slave, again, screams "come fvck me". You're into the "scene" which screams "come fvck me". And somehow you're thinking guys are superficial based on your natural looks and your look with makeup? Really?

All the things I mentioned above have far more to do with your treatment online than does the shade of your skin. You are a beautiful young woman, go find a guy in real life. Go find a guy that fits you and wants to grow with you because you have yet to reach your full potential. Or walk your own path of growth and worry about a partner later, there is no rush. Learn, experience, taste life....grow.
 BLoNDeANGeL845
Joined: 6/10/2014
Msg: 22
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Posted: 10/22/2014 7:56:57 AM

Forgive me if my post upsets anyone who isn't superficial...

I performed a little project on Plenty of Fish and created 2 profiles...one profile had a picture of me with dark skin (my normal skin color), and another picture displayed me, with a lighter tone skin (achieved with the use of makeup).

I looked EXACTLY the same in both pictures, with the same exact profile description, except for the change in tone differences...

Does anyone think that this is superficial or am I just crazy?

I am far from ugly, so why am I being treated like this on an online dating site? Is it because light skin is favored over darker skin?

Please help...maybe give advice?


Sweetie, men r superficial, PERIOD! as far as skin tone, w/o seeing THE OTHER AD (which is BTW a POF violation of TOS) I cannot say why you get more responses on the other ad...

As far as your D/s lifestyle, if you are a submissive woman, why not put an ad on a site more geared towards that like Collar Me or Fet Life? POF is basically a vanilla site!
 Mark_It_Up
Joined: 3/15/2011
Msg: 23
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Posted: 10/23/2014 5:44:06 AM

created 2 profiles

I wouldn't recommend broadcasting your infringements of the POF rules, on the forums. Not a very smart thing to do.
 gcdeb
Joined: 4/25/2011
Msg: 24
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Posted: 10/24/2014 5:22:04 AM

and even their vaginas enhanced
I don't think so.
 Mark_It_Up
Joined: 3/15/2011
Msg: 25
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Posted: 10/24/2014 7:32:20 AM
Whats up gcdeb, never heard of a vajazzle? :)
 droopsie78
Joined: 3/12/2014
Msg: 26
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Posted: 10/24/2014 12:29:00 PM
so let's get this straight.. a woman makes a post about complaining and it doesn't get deleted?

talk about favoritism.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 27
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Posted: 10/24/2014 1:19:34 PM
I have alternate things for you to consider.

From what I have observed and deduced from studies, is that humans DO behave and react logically, however the logic that they follow is often not what they like to pretend it is, and very often not as neatly and dryly rational as we might think they ought to be. This is because even the most obvious people are much more complicated in many, especially subtle ways, than is commonly understood.

Anyway, that's an excessive build up to suggesting that many males might react to your made up face more positively, because of a vast sea of subconscious prompts they are getting.

A female face wearing make up, implies desire. Desire to socialize, to go out and interact with others, to be approached for company. It can imply greater friendliness to many, with or without a smile.

It can also trigger people to make assumptions of other kinds about you:

if your makeup job was especially careful and detailed, even professional, it can imply that you take care in how you do things; or that you can afford to have your makeup done professionally; or that you are a more serious person.

Depending on the background of the observer, it can trigger them to think that you have a different political or philosophical affiliation than the non-made-up you. I didn't see your other version, so I can't give you my own reactions. But I have witnessed that SOME males assume that a woman without makeup, might be caught up in a general sense of hostility towards males, and is going without make up as a protest of some sort.

Additional prompts: we are barraged with commercials and films and shows, where a made-up face is shown to be a signal for all sorts of positive things, especially where males are concerned. It's even possible that at least SOME males have been trained by accident, to assume that a non-made-up face indicates a lesbian. These are not purposeful choices of what to believe, that I'm talking about, they are ideas that are thrust at people through the mass media, and dumped into the back of everyone's minds.

Heck, if nothing else, your made-up face, might have struck the guys who were hot to trot to half-think something like "hey, this one's ready to go, right off the shelf. If I ask her out, we can start right in," whereas your other persona might have implied to them that they'd have to work for a while before you'd be ready to meet and so on. It's a bit like applying for a job, in that way. Prospective employers tend to hire someone who looks, at the moment of the job interview, as though they are ready to go to work right away.

Bottom line, there are lots of other reasons besides race, or skin color, for people to have different reactions to your experimental faces.
 gcdeb
Joined: 4/25/2011
Msg: 28
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Posted: 10/25/2014 1:03:04 AM

Whats up gcdeb, never heard of a vajazzle? :)
Well, actually, no, I haven't heard :) And I've also never heard of a vagina being surgically enhanced for cosmetic reasons. Labia? Yes. Vaginas? No.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 29
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Posted: 10/25/2014 1:19:15 PM
OPie, you've already wound down your choices by choosing (accepting, whatever) the slave/master dichotomy, I hardly think it's the tiniest bit relevant to worry about skin color. All races, black, white, yaller, brown, have their own preferences, and I don't think it's much gender related, either. I'm also pretty sure that what's been in our genes for hundreds of thousands of years doesn't qualify as "superficial". . . .
 4forumzgal
Joined: 10/12/2014
Msg: 30
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Posted: 10/25/2014 7:40:29 PM

I don't plan on meeting anyone using my current profile. I explain that to everyone who contacts me


.....so I don't understand what all the fuss is about.
 gcdeb
Joined: 4/25/2011
Msg: 31
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Posted: 10/26/2014 1:36:34 PM

^^^Well, now you have.
Nope, I haven't. I very carefully chose the words "cosmetic reasons" in my post. The person I quoted was referencing cosmetic surgeries that women have to improve their appearance.

women dress more to impress other women than they do to impress their man. Women get their breasts enhanced, lips enhanced, eye lids, under arms, ass, and even their vaginas enhanced. These are all superficial decisions made by the women who choose to have these surgeries
 droopsie78
Joined: 3/12/2014
Msg: 32
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Posted: 10/27/2014 1:46:23 PM
the title of this should be Superficial POF members!! urghh!!!

as both men and women on this fricken site are extremely Superficial.
 NaughtyChocolate
Joined: 10/5/2014
Msg: 33
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Posted: 10/27/2014 10:53:05 PM
Sorry that I'm not able to respond to all of your questions, but to those of you who think that I'm being deceptive. What do you think of this women in the video? She clearly looks different without her makeup, and many women like her wear makeup to enhance their features as well. Are they being deceptive too?

********WATCH**********
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XnGEHLszmvA
 4forumzgal
Joined: 10/12/2014
Msg: 34
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Posted: 10/28/2014 9:55:48 PM
And also, why is lighter skin more preferable than darker skin?



I didn't say that lighter is better. My experiment says that lighter is better



I performed a little project on Plenty of Fish and created 2 profiles...one profile had a picture of me with dark skin (my normal skin color), and another picture displayed me, with a lighter tone skin (achieved with the use of makeup).


I did not initially wear lighter makeup for my experiment.


This confuses me. You experimented with skin tones yet deny doing it?


I was frustrated with my lack of responses on my first profile (my darker skinned profile). I thought that I might have better luck with my pictures of me in makeup


This confuses me. Frustrated at lack of responses but.........


I don't plan on meeting anyone using my current profile. I explain that to everyone who contacts me.



women deceive men all the time when they wear makeup...is my case any different? I'm still me. I am not rearranging my features or anything...



She clearly looks different without her makeup, and many women like her wear makeup to enhance their features as well. Are they being deceptive too?


^^^Come on, girl. The above pertains to a PAID ADVERTISMENT MODEL. They're made up to look extra boring in their "before" photo using lights and bad hair etc to enhance what the advertised product allegedly does in their "after" photo.

Stop being a little princess.
 NaughtyChocolate
Joined: 10/5/2014
Msg: 35
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Posted: 10/29/2014 2:20:20 AM
To answer your questions 4ForumzGal, I went to Sephora, and a makeup artist that did my makeup used the wrong shade of foundation on me. I didn't realize until I got home and saw myself with better lighting.

I tell all the men that I talk to that I don't plan on meeting up but I would like to make an exception for one man.
I'm still human...it would be nice to have someone to talk to even though I don't plan on meeting.

Where did you see in the youtube link that, that woman is a paid model?
If she was being paid. I would think that she would use products from the same company. She is using many products of numerous brands.
 2whiteangoras
Joined: 8/6/2014
Msg: 36
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Posted: 11/3/2014 2:01:45 PM
bluemoon24_7 wrote:

Okay, I'll state the obvious - it's nothing to do with skin colour as to "superficial" guys contacting you. You're 22 - guys flock to 22 year old old's. You're draped in a sexy pose - guys flock to that. Your screen name screams "come fvck me". You want to be someone's slave, again, screams "come fvck me". You're into the "scene" which screams "come fvck me". And somehow you're thinking guys are superficial based on your natural looks and your look with makeup? Really?

All the things I mentioned above have far more to do with your treatment online than does the shade of your skin. You are a beautiful young woman, go find a guy in real life. Go find a guy that fits you and wants to grow with you because you have yet to reach your full potential. Or walk your own path of growth and worry about a partner later, there is no rush. Learn, experience, taste life....grow.


I couldn't have said it any better. Nice post.
 NaughtyChocolate
Joined: 10/5/2014
Msg: 37
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Posted: 11/4/2014 3:30:03 PM
That's good advice. I didn't see that post because I was afraid to read through the comments lol
 andieisme
Joined: 12/14/2009
Msg: 38
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Posted: 11/4/2014 10:53:56 PM
Ok, you seem very evasive and aggressive for someone supposedly looking for advice. There is a reason you reacted so negatively to the suggestions and advice thrown out (mainly by women) and are playing the wounded (ditzy) princess with the men. Do I really need to say what that reason is? Hopefully no.

Your experiment was not very realistic. First, if the same man viewed both profiles and realized it was the same person in both do you really think they would contact you? The letches might. A real man would walk away.

I'm also terribly confused by your switch from complaining that these men are superficial to complaining that women who wear make-up are the superficial ones. Make up your mind!

But also realize that you are doing the same thing as those you are complaining about. Don't want superficial men? Stop wearing make-up! Don't get your hair styled. Wear the frumpiest, plainest, most boring outfits you can find. Problem solved!
 HFX_RGB
Joined: 7/26/2014
Msg: 39
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Posted: 11/6/2014 9:23:14 AM

Sweetie, men r superficial, PERIOD!


So true, and to avoid the most superficial ones make sure you avoid the ones that lie about their age and wear wigs.
 2whiteangoras
Joined: 8/6/2014
Msg: 40
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Posted: 11/7/2014 3:52:35 PM
The double profile reminds me of "Catfish: The TV series"!
 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
Msg: 41
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Posted: 11/7/2014 6:29:04 PM
Superficial Men ? in the 7 or so years I have been around here I have yet to see a good explanation of why a Man or Woman for that matter should get involved with someone they have absolutely no physical interest in at all,none,zip,nada...is it like Cod Liver Oil ? extremely unpleasant but good for you ? is it like eating all your vegtables,drinking more water or getting that annual Rectal exam.......completely void of any passion or pleasure just good for you.
 usernonymous
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 11/10/2014 3:25:46 AM
Superficial? Yes. But out of the ordinary? No.

Your argument is your version of the argument that short guys give on not getting responses because women want guys over 6 feet tall. Or not getting a resposne because the people your are interested in dont date outside their race. Or people who post pictures when they were thinner dont get responses when they post pictures of their new, more rounded self.

It is what it is because people have preferences.
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