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 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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showboatsupreme
Dude...try a weekend getaway sometime.

Dayum!


I agree, “weekend getaway” is a great aphrodisiac.

Someone here in the forums (halftimedad?) once said that calling a woman a “good sport” meant that she was up for a 3-some. I would stipulate the opposite of “good sport” would be a woman who, when invited for a weekend getaway, expects separate rooms!
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 2/10/2016 12:23:44 PM

Yeah, why bother dating women your own age? This is exactly why I set an age limit on my profile (+/- 7 years). I already have a dad, thanks.

Wow! You have a dad (or know of a dad) who had their kid when he was 9 years old? Man, kids are growing up these days fast! ;) But to be fair...

Although I posted a profile I am not really trying since this site will not allow me to contact women within my dating age range. Why bother?

There's a reason that the default limit (14 years?) is in place. I agree that shouldn't be a set-in-stone limit -- but there is a reason to have it as a Default setting for every profile. Girls get Bombarded by messages on here. Does an average Jane want an ego-boost? Go to an online matchmaking site (free one especially) -- and although annoyed with some of it after a while I'm sure, she'll still get a boost of being liked as if she was a Real Looker waltzing into a club. Age ranges vary from age group to age group. When you're 18, the age range is going to be much more narrow than at 38. But in a nutshell, the +/- 14 years is a good idea. Less than a decade and a half difference. Only thing I disagree with is it being non-changeable by the user.

If a very beautiful woman at 48 wants to set a guardrail to only allow guys from 24-35 to write her -- let her, IMO. Until they get rid of the "No Commitment" and "Hang Out" options in one's profile, they can't begin to make the argument it's for Romance-Only. :)
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 199
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Posted: 2/10/2016 1:20:50 PM
well, in a positive story...I haven't gotten laid, so I haven't caught AIDS and died. does that count?

"I already have a dad, thanks"

>>>yeah, but *drool* he can't be "your daddy" like I can *snicker* heh heh heh

and that's why I also agree to the age restriction. Napster was once cool. Creepster never will be.
 swampyswampy
Joined: 12/13/2015
Msg: 200
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Posted: 2/15/2016 8:20:33 AM
Its a woman's domain dating a woman only has to log on to get inundated with requests she can be choosy any woman who has been single a long time is probably too fussy
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 201
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Posted: 2/15/2016 8:31:56 AM
I've met people over the years but so far it hasn't lead to happily ever after
 crook_catcher
Joined: 1/27/2016
Msg: 202
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Posted: 2/15/2016 8:49:20 AM

It's a woman's domain dating a woman only has to log on to get inundated with requests she can be choosy any woman who has been single a long time is probably too fussy


Not necessarily true. Anyone resonably attractive whether male or female can expect some level of interest from similar age range users in my experience anyway. Doesn't mean they are someone you would be interested in dating but they're there.

Now if your talking about 40 year old guys not getting messages from 25 year old girls you're spot on. But rest assured those hot 25 year old girls are messaging the hot guys in their age range regardless of their in box volume.

I gather from all the threads about it that being in your 20's and 30's are not conducive to a positive experience for men in OLD. I would think a real time approach in social settings would be the way to go. ymmv
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 203
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Posted: 2/15/2016 9:24:52 AM
What's interesting to me, is up to about the age of 48 I received initial contacts from YOUNGER women on a regular basis ( no, I'm not saying I got a TON of msgs, just that the fact that they were younger than me was very common ) , but ever since then it has done an absolute reverse. I'm not exaggerating, I almost never receive initial contact msgs from women my own age even, they're all older now.

I wonder why that is ?

IMO most people's cut off age is late 40's .
IOW the only people willing to date people in their late 40's and older are people also above that age range.
 crook_catcher
Joined: 1/27/2016
Msg: 204
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Posted: 2/15/2016 9:37:21 AM

What's interesting to me, is up to about the age of 48 I received initial contacts from YOUNGER women on a regular basis, but ever since then it has done an absolute reverse. I'm not exaggerating, I almost never receive initial contact msgs from women my own age even, they're all older now.

I wonder why that is ?


I don't know. I originally signed up on here in late 2010 or early 2011 when they still had the chat feature and not quite 57 so I can't give any perspective on that. I do know that having my message parameters wide open for some forum members and when I don't have my profile hidden I get quite a few messages from older women. But that's neither here nor there I guess. Is what it is. I don't anticipate finding someone here especially in my area. If it happens it'll be irl. ymmv
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
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Posted: 2/15/2016 9:39:36 AM
" I don't anticipate finding someone here especially in my area. If it happens it'll be irl. "



I agree, I'm gonna have to stop procrastinating and start joining some meet up groups .

 cookymaker
Joined: 6/28/2014
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Posted: 2/15/2016 9:56:29 AM
I recently joined a meet up group that attends happy hour then dinner together at various restaurants.
I don't drink but neither do several others who attend these meetups. It's just a way to get together and meet people while trying out a new restaurant at the same time
I did noticed that many of these people seem to have known each other for a long time but nobody is dating each other..
Maybe at a certain age it becomes more about getting out there and socializing and not so much seeking "the one"

You know how it can go. Once you stop looking ....
Just like the candid pictures people take of us are usually the best - maybe just being ourselves in the real world will get the better results.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 2/15/2016 10:40:10 AM

cvookymaker
I recently joined a meet up group that attends happy hour then dinner together at various restaurants.
I don't drink but neither do several others who attend these meetups. It's just a way to get together and meet people while trying out a new restaurant at the same time
I did noticed that many of these people seem to have known each other for a long time but nobody is dating each other..
Maybe at a certain age it becomes more about getting out there and socializing and not so much seeking "the one"


I have found dating within Meetup groups to be somewhat like dating in the work place. People say that it’s a bad idea, they swear that they’re not doing it, but everyone can tell you stories about those who are doing it.

I will say that I do Meetup more for socializing than for dating, but when the right opportunity comes along, who am I to say no?
 cookymaker
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Posted: 2/15/2016 11:44:00 AM
Years ago, I dated someone in the work place. Yes, it can be a bad idea -especially after you breakup and see each other in the hallways all the time. Not good. I would guess it could be the same with meetup groups.

I actually joined just to have dinner with other people. I love trying different food but always hesitated going by myself
I usually end up chatting more with other women than men and that's fine with me. New friends. It is entertaining to watch some of the women determined to find a man. And vice versa. Hasn't changed much since high school, right down to the body language and exaggerated laughing at jokes
But it's all in fun, so why not . Beats sitting at home counting flowers on the wall, playing solitaire til dawn.........
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 2/15/2016 12:52:06 PM
I've had the same experience as butterchickenchuck has with most of the interested women being older than me since I turned 50 a year ago.

I think the perception is that when you cross into a new decade, you age 10 years when in reality it is only a year. Who knows?
 swampyswampy
Joined: 12/13/2015
Msg: 210
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Posted: 2/19/2016 8:10:29 AM
crook catcher its a womans domain because there are like 1o guys chasing every girl an average woman will probs receive a dozen messages every time she logs on
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
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Posted: 2/19/2016 8:51:16 AM

crook catcher its a womans domain because there are like 1o guys chasing every girl an average woman will probs receive a dozen messages every time she logs on


The ratio is never really quite that bad. In your age group, 3:1 would be at the top end, and 2:1 or 1.5:1 is more the norm.

I understand what Crookcatcher is saying. Nothing mysterious about the phenomena. In our age bracket, older women like to search for younger men, just as much as older men like to search for younger women. The woman I'm dating now never saw my profile - she never searched above her age. So for guys like me and Crookcatcher, we typically won't have as much luck with incoming mail. I've dated older but nothing stuck. The only real luck I've had has been with women I contacted initially.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 8/14/2015
Msg: 212
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Posted: 2/19/2016 9:16:09 AM

I think the perception is that when you cross into a new decade, you age 10 years when in reality it is only a year. Who knows?


Before the restriction came into play (and I had my profile set so forumites could message me) I used to get messages from guys
a lot younger than me.

Now the restriction is in...I'm old...and I get lots of messages from 70+ year olds. I find it depressing actually, because the 70+
year olds are SEVENTY PLUS and they look it...and according to their profiles act it. Wanting to go to flea markets and barn
dances.

I've NEVER gotten messages from guys my age.
 showboatsupreme
Joined: 1/25/2016
Msg: 213
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Posted: 2/19/2016 9:26:59 AM
Yeah, that age restriction thing svcks.

I've gotta wait til next year so I can message my favorite poster again, and even then there will only be a small window of opportunity to get my message through :(
 sactownromantic
Joined: 6/14/2015
Msg: 214
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Posted: 2/19/2016 10:16:37 AM
I've been on many dates over the years and even had a couple of relationships but nothing long-term. The problem isn't POF, it happens on all dating websites. People have the bar set too high on what they're looking for and if you don't measure up then there will be someone else that might.

As for the messaging restrictions: I think 14 years either way is fair, a 10 year difference in age is the max for me.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 215
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Posted: 2/19/2016 11:05:10 AM
As others have pointed out, what may seem like "success" to one, does not necessarily seem to be "success" to another.

Over a 3-4 year period on POF, as well as a few months here and there, on other OLD sites, I met approx 150 men.
No surprises, (such as we have read stories of, LOL), etc, such as one's marital status, physical appearance, that sort of thing.
If there was any thing "false" it was the true intent to meet, and /or date.
I learned to ignore the wannabe pen pals, the silly unwritten dating rules, (gag) and I learned to meet face to face sooner than later.
I dated several from 6 weeks to 7 months.
I met the man in my life from a different OLD site. A "Pay for" site geared to bikers.

I hang around here for the Forums.
LOL Yes, I have successfully posted and/or responded "..............on here."
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 2/19/2016 1:59:37 PM
It's just easier to not bother with dating at all. I can come and go as I please. I can do everything, or nothing.

.Ever have to eat a meal you hated, prepared by a girlfriend , but didn't want to hurt her feelings? Take her to a movie that you could easily sleep through? Sit and listen to a concert, done by an artist that you think is a moron? Go and visit her children (Or grandchildren) and they are about as interesting as a blank wall? Sleep with a woman at her place, only to find out her mattress was shot-twenty years ago, and she snored all night? Or calls you when your favorite Tv program is on?

You got a good thing going-Why louse it up, by dating?
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 2/19/2016 8:52:31 PM

browneyesboo
Before the restriction came into play (and I had my profile set so forumites could message me) I used to get messages from guys
a lot younger than me.

Now the restriction is in...I'm old...and I get lots of messages from 70+ year olds. I find it depressing actually, because the 70+
year olds are SEVENTY PLUS and they look it...and according to their profiles act it. Wanting to go to flea markets and barn
dances.

I've NEVER gotten messages from guys my age.


Now that's not true, I have definitely sent you messages before! (smile)

Of course, they weren't invites for a date, I mean, after all, we are about 2,000 miles apart. But they were messages, and we are of a very similar age. And if you were closer, I most definitely would have asked you for a date. And no, it would NOT have been to a "barn dance"!
 Chromis1
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Posted: 2/19/2016 9:40:17 PM

And if you were closer, I most definitely would have asked you for a date. And no, it would NOT have been to a "barn dance"!


Don't know how "barn dance" triggered this thought, but I think I'd like to make a date at one of those Pentecostal church services that do the snake handling thing. Could be a hoot. Back pew though, please.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 8/14/2015
Msg: 220
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Posted: 2/20/2016 9:56:18 AM
It's true. I have gotten some nice messages
from forum peoples, but not from men my
age not scary looking asking for a date.

Messages I send out are often met with "nice
hat".

I do better in person.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 2/20/2016 10:32:57 AM

I gather from all the threads about it that being in your 20's and 30's are not conducive to a positive experience for men in OLD.

Yeah, in my log-out-and-search-and-count experiments, there's a bigger women-to-men ratio in 20s VS 30s VS mid-upper 40s+.

The ratio is never really quite that bad. In your age group, 3:1 would be at the top end, and 2:1 or 1.5:1 is more the norm.

I agree it's not close to 10:1, but from my searches in the random mid-west OUTSIDE of my profile settings (avoid filtering) -- it only gets down to 1.5:1 once stepping over mid 40s, I think. It's usually around 2.5:1, from my scans. It's a more even ratio if you just count people who have had profiles, but just counting Online Today ratio gives one a good Active-Users ratio. I think more girls try it out and run, than guys. ;)

an average woman will probs receive a dozen messages every time she logs on

I don't know about past-middle-age for the average looking gal in her age demographic (I'm sure it's not scarce), but I do know average Janes will get the attention Lookers get walking into a bar, in the highest active user zone, yes. A good self-esteem boost for a single gal down on her luck in the dating scene.

For most users, yes, it's a big sausage fest.

25 mile radius in a midwest mid-sized city up in MI, age 28-30, Online Today -- logging out when hitting search, to get All non-filtered results (3:1) in high-user age group:
- Girls (up to 5'8", up to 'Average' body): 147
- Guys (up to 6'2", up to 'Average' body): 455
 BeyondtheMatrix
Joined: 2/11/2016
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Posted: 2/21/2016 2:40:19 PM

I've met people over the years but so far it hasn't lead [sic] to happily ever after. -- Butterchickenchuck


Going by the divorce rates around the place -- something like 72% in California alone -- marriage per se hasn't led to much 'happily ever after.'

Best wishes

- Peter
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