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Joined: 11/12/2014
Msg: 46
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I am indeed trying but I want so desperately for someone to comfort me, it really does seem overwhelming. Everything about me feels wrong and ugly.

I can't thank you enough for your help.
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 47
need help with attraction issue
Posted: 11/23/2014 8:02:51 PM
the guy keeps contacting you because he may be quite like you and that you are being elusive now fuels his interest.
I don't know why you would want to keep in touch and why don't you just block him?? He wont die if you do and he will just move on. If you are afraid you willl come off looking callous, so what?? He is a stranger really but not in you mind, which is the problem. Remember he is only a figure in cyberspace. He could be writing from gaol, be a naughty schoolboy, anyone.
Joined: 11/12/2014
Msg: 48
need help with attraction issue
Posted: 11/24/2014 1:16:32 AM
You must have skipped directly to the end. Reading about someone else's problem has got to be boring for you. He has already been blocked and has moved on, I stated that a couple of days ago.

I try to always remember there are real people in cyberspace, with real feelings, "On the Internet, nobody knows you're a dog" notwithstanding. I only forget when they p!ss me off.
Joined: 11/12/2014
Msg: 49
need help with attraction issue
Posted: 11/24/2014 6:46:42 AM
I have just finished the recommended video and came back to make a comment. In doing so I read my above post in reference to Petula's comment. It 'reads' beetchy to me and I am sorry. My feathers are ruffled and when they are I think I lash out at the least (Imagined) provocation.

That video from the Seattle guys? Holy freaking crap! A lot of things in my life are starting to make sense on so many levels. Behaviors I have had that I could never understand. I highly recommend to anyone reading along in this thread (that may be having the same problems as I) that you check out the things Flaneur001 has suggested. I especially loved the 'Tough or Bluff' segment at the end. I have always found listening to smart cultured guys having conversations just delightful, I can hold my own in conversations with such guys ONLY if I am not romantically attracted to them. And I see another video in the youtube list by the same Seattle people entitled "Flirting", got it cued up already. What I thought was flirting may not have been and may offer more clues I can learn from.

I am going to stop watching this thread for replies now, I have a lot to work on and I want to get busy.
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