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 Tiny_danc3r
Joined: 10/6/2014
Msg: 51
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Sure its immature, but I also know it can be better than sex.


Then you are doing it wrong and absoultely NO woman wants to feel like you'd rather be playing a game then being with her. I'm just saying... when your gaming life is bringing you more personal satisfaction that the real world that is not something the average girl wants to deal with. I'm not saying it to offend you... Just letting you know from a woman's perspective.
 Tiny_danc3r
Joined: 10/6/2014
Msg: 52
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 8:43:13 AM
Oh sweetie, you wouldn't know a quiet warrior if one threw you to the ground and bit you in the ass. You don't know me or anything about who or what I know regarding the military, but I will tell you this... I don't need to go to looking for the real deal, I grew up around them. I've talked with the recruiters regarding my options and my ASFAB scores are very high... I don't need a mentor, but if I did I'd just talk to my dad who's a CSM and spent the majority of career in the community. Or my uncles, brother, cousins, and I will tell you what they've advised me, you have two years left of school so you should be in an ROTC program. With the draw down commissions are harder to come by, you've not mentioned what your degree is in but if it's in the fitness field, you'll want to re-look at that. If I dissed the recruiters it's because it was what I was taught at my daddy's knee... believe NOTHING and get it ALL in writing... it's something anyone currently serving will tell you from first hand experience. True service is a calling... I've known those who have been called to serve and those who just put in their time. Most who are called don't talk much about the service or their plans, my personal experience.

I also find it amusing that your response disregarded my post, yet you eliminante the majority of it in your profile... So tell me I'm full of BS and then take my advice... whatever.
 Mark_It_Up
Joined: 3/15/2011
Msg: 53
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 9:00:44 AM
Many, many women have had at least one ex in the past, who has paid more attention to video games than them. In fact it's probably the main thing they remember about this ex. "He wouldn't even put down the controller when I was walking around in my underwear!" and in fact there's a good chance this is what caused the relationship to fail.

So as soon as you mention gaming or video games or anything in that vein - even if you justify it by explaining that you only play for 10 minutes per week - you're going to bring up all of those memories in her. That's definitely not a good thing.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 54
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 9:16:18 AM
^^^ but that could be said of other things- watching Sports on TV, playing hockey with the buddies
People need hobbies, outlets, ways to relax. Given how active the OP is I seriously doubt he falls asleep in the recliner playing til 3am each day:/
And Mark - maybe they looked bad in their undies!!!
 ThriceCircaTheBear
Joined: 7/24/2014
Msg: 55
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 10:37:03 AM
Lmao, you're personal experience has nothing to do with a majority and you aren't the only one with family. I get it, you know people, good for you. What suggestion did I apply, I literally changed nothing about mentioning the commission? If you're referring to the WW2 story being removed it was suggested almost like 10 post prior to you, and was a quote from the office i edited a lil bit to put a personal family touch on it, it wasn't hand written by me. Use a google search and you'll find it. It still has nothing to do with me or what I'm doing. You might want to post your unsolicited lifestyle advice on another forum, just saying. ROTC programs typically work like the Government pays for your school on the idea that you will serve them for the duration of your contract with them after. OCS is for civilians with outside degrees. My 2 Degrees are in Criminal Justice and Marketing Management. I have about 6 months left but my recruiter said it takes 6-12 months to get a ship date to Basic, hence the 12-18 month timeline. As far as you knowing "The Real Deal", how do your quiet professional relatives feel about that fact that your typing your mouth right now loudly mentioning their service? Do they tell you "If anyone mentions service put doubt in their heart, for America is built on the service on those who never talk, never question, never falter. Mention what we did though, because that's totally interesting to them. We fall from the womb and onto the basic training course. Life circumstances be damned, if you have ill relatives, prior obligations to school, money situations that need to be handled, screw that. You should join as an E1, doesn't matter the MOS, do no prior research on how physically fit you'll have to be to get through the grueling ordeal known as BUD/S. DON'T read anything about BUD/S though, because all those lying current and EX SEALs will tell you to do things like train for a year hard core, go for cold swims twice a week and 3 mile sand runs 3 times a week, not just blindly sign. Instead just tell people how you know it all" If you took the ASFAB and didn't enlist, do you even have personal experience or are you just repeating the words and thoughts of others?

Listen, everyone knows about recruiters, you're telling me something universally known to anyone with a modicum of intelligence. Recruiters, Car Salesman, what's the difference right? They have quotas to meet. Now that you mention that I might have to be sure the CONTRACT I'm signing is in WRITING to include all the things I want, which is literally Contract 101. If I didn't know that I deserve to get a shitty unwanted MOS.

True service being a "calling", sure show me the science behind your cthulu thought that some type of sound or something rings in someones ears and they go "Time to serve, let's drop my current life". I have 3 generations of American Sailors, Soliders, Air Men, and Marines in my family as well, even that dog tag I'm wearing in the picture was passed onto me by them. That's their fathers, my grandfathers dog tag from ww2. My Uncle is also a known "Hero" (I put hero in quotes because you shouldn't have had to die on 9/11 ,or after due to exposure to become a hero, all first responders deserve the same honor) from 9/11, though he died he is still honored often. None of them claim or claimed a calling, some went for work, others decided they were mad and wanted to fight, still others wanted to see the world and still some were just doing their jobs. You get my point? Not everyone is your dad or your brother or whoever else you want to throw out there, if they were the military would be much less diverse and much less capable. Anyway, thanks for the 0 contribution you've added to the actual purpose of this post.
 ThriceCircaTheBear
Joined: 7/24/2014
Msg: 56
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 10:43:08 AM
Also, because I didn't mention it, the only reason this topic EVER got brought up or elaborated on by me was because I had a line of it mentioned in my profile and people like you (Though really just you) decide to tell me their life story because that singular line of text somehow looks like "HEY GIRLS I'M TOTALLY A BADASS WHO'S GONNA BE DOING CRAZY SHIT IN THE MILITARY, I ALREADY WENT TWICE OVERSEAS AND NOW I'M LOOKING TO REJOIN, LOOK OUT CAUSE I MIGHT BE TOO BUSY BOMBING THE JAPS TO MESSAGE YOU BACK" even though it says "I'm in talks with a recruiter about becoming a commissioned officer, i just want to be upfront about this...bla bla bla". You see the difference right? One is showing off the other is giving a piece of valuable information to potential women about the future of our potential relationship and something it would have to face. Also, do you get off on letting people know recruiters are untrustworthy? It's like you're saying "You're lying but if you aren't lying you're still ****ed because you're recruiter is lying. Either way one of you is lying and your ****ed both ways". Great info.
 ThriceCircaTheBear
Joined: 7/24/2014
Msg: 57
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 10:54:16 AM
Yeah I can understand your point with that. I guess you could get negative feelings associated with gaming to spring up to certain girls on mentioning it, but I really mention it as a passing hobby along with football, playing cards, doing outdoors shit, etc. If the primary focus of the profile was my gaming infatuation I would understand but I feel like the brief mentioning should't warrant such negative attention. I've actually found that my messages are the most important thing, not my profile. It's all on how you open it. For instance yesterday I saw a girl talking on her profile about her mustang that she wants fixed up and I said something like "I'd love to help you with that mustang, i just gotta learn how to be a mechanic and buy the tools...I should probably have hands for this too right. Oh shit, how am I typing th--" and that got me into a really good 30 message conversation. She looked at my profile halfway into it and I asked why it took so long, she said "I like how you opened the conversation so much I figured whatever".
 Tiny_danc3r
Joined: 10/6/2014
Msg: 58
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 12:02:18 PM

You might want to post your unsolicited lifestyle advice on another forum, just saying.


See, that's the thing.. you DID ask for advice on your profile.. I told you how it sounded and it pissed you off... YOUR issue... not mine. You basically said I was full of crap and had no idea what I was talking about, which you can think, but when you say it, I'm going to come back with what I do know and it's a lot more than most people who've no experience with a military lifestyle. I know the sacrifice first hand...The worry, sleepless nights, missed celebrations etc, I also know the pride, dedication and sense of accomplishment.

I have looked at the military as a way to pay for medical school, but decided another 4 years of school, intern and residency was more than I wanted to commit to at this point in my life. I don't disrespect people who go in for a few years... it's admirable even if it's not a life long commitment, if you took it that way, it's on you. My family has a long history of service, 6 generations going all the way back to the civil war when the first enlisted as a drummer boy.... some went in, did their tour and returned home, others died in the service of their nation, but they all did it because they wanted to serve something greater... if that is you, great... Good on you, but until then, talk is cheap and cheaper still on a free dating site.

In closing you act like you are the only one to get a critical review on their profile... time to toughen up cupcake... this is a walk in the park compared to selection.
 ThriceCircaTheBear
Joined: 7/24/2014
Msg: 59
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 12:19:29 PM
The unsolicited lifestyle advice is exactly that. You telling me what I would have or should have done as far as enlisting/going for a commission. You also continuously comment on my personal intentions, which is not only not in my profile but is also really not up for discussion. If you can't see that that isn't PROFILE advice but LIFE advice, I really have nothing else to say. Drummer boy yourself to another place.
 ThriceCircaTheBear
Joined: 7/24/2014
Msg: 60
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 12:21:24 PM
"Enlisting and being commissioned are different things and make you look like a wanna be. If you were going to enlist, you'd likely already have done it." - You
 ThriceCircaTheBear
Joined: 7/24/2014
Msg: 61
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 12:22:05 PM
"you have two years left of school so you should be in an ROTC program." - You

Not to mention to my knowledge it's almost impossible to ROTC while in the middle of a degree. Typically ROTC slots are issued in the form of Scholarships to people right out of high school though you can apply for it in the middle of it if the school your attending has a ROTC battalion and you get a slot at LTC. Mine does not. Therefore it is not an option I have. While I could change schools I think that would hurt me financially as I have a scholarship to my current school. I'd also have to move...again. OCS is the much better option for me, provided there are available slots when I put in my Officer Billet package, which could very well not be available. In which case, I'd enlist and use my degrees to achieve a higher starting rating as an enlisted person - Typically Specialist (Army rank or equivalent, Navy it'd be Petty Officer)
 ThriceCircaTheBear
Joined: 7/24/2014
Msg: 62
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 12:24:43 PM
The initial part about removing it was advice, that's totally acceptable. The following history lesson on your family, the reasons why what I'm doing isn't the right or best course of action, the people you know and the information you know of but actually have no experience in, your ability to tell who "the real deal" is, all totally unrelated to the profile.
 ThriceCircaTheBear
Joined: 7/24/2014
Msg: 63
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 12:26:09 PM
Lastly, the only one "talking" about any of this is you. What I'm doing is responding. I've not heard the statement "response is cheap".
 tatersprout
Joined: 8/23/2013
Msg: 64
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 4:34:57 PM
And back to the profile review....


I also have a bunch of other certifications, mostly fitness industry related. I've been a personal trainer and mentor for several years now. I’ve worked as a P90X instructor for years but recently I've also started to teach other topics like self-defense, nutrition, corrective exercise, etc. I'm an active member of the “National Academy of Sports Medicine,” “National Council on Strength and Fitness,” and the “American Council on Exercise.” I'm pretty much Super Man on paper, though in real life I'm more like Wolverine ........except without the muscles, the adamantium skeleton with retractable claws, or the quick healing ability. I guess I'm more like a hairy guy who wears sleeveless undershirts.
I don't see how this adds to your write up.
If you were applying for a job in the fitness field, sure.
Dating profile, no.
Just comes off as bragging and very uninteresting.
It's been mentioned already to remove it.

Glad you took out the long story at the end that wasn't about you.

How about you focus on you in the present tense, not all the amazing things you may/may not do years from now.

Your prospects will already be limited stating that you plan on a military career in the future.
 Strawberry_Jello
Joined: 5/13/2014
Msg: 65
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Posted: 12/15/2014 4:44:44 PM
You have six photos, 5 are grim looking. Only #2 is acceptable. Use that for your main. Get more photos taken. Get rid of the other 5.
 ThriceCircaTheBear
Joined: 7/24/2014
Msg: 66
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 5:22:36 PM
Ok, I get what you're saying. The point of that was to pour it on strong and then end it with oh yah, none of that actually matters and I'm none of those things. Thought it was funny. I'll just take it out. As far as focusing on the present tense...is there anything that I have written about the future other than the very brief 1 line mentioning of the Navy thing? No right? If there is you'd have to point it out to me cause I'm not really sure what your referring too besides that.
 ThriceCircaTheBear
Joined: 7/24/2014
Msg: 67
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 5:23:42 PM
Aha, that's what I look like. My bad if it's grim. I can take 10000 photos not sure the face is gonna change.
 ThriceCircaTheBear
Joined: 7/24/2014
Msg: 68
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 5:24:35 PM
Is there a way to just close this thread? I think it lost it's purpose like...yesterday. Thanks to the original responder about the picture ideas, Vector for doing what I thought was a good and honest rewrite and everyone else who had little suggestions here and there. I'll get on new pictures when I have the opportunity. For the rest it seems like your focusing on one line of a 30 line profile and it's really not helping me make anything about this profile better. Also just putting it out there, if you have to pick between making a well written profile and a writing funny entertaining messages, messages trumps profile every time. If you're worried about having a word like "Gamer" ruin your image on this site, you probably have bigger problems than me. I'm having a good day. All in all I think we're done here. Thanks again all.
 Tiny_danc3r
Joined: 10/6/2014
Msg: 69
Profile Review
Posted: 12/15/2014 5:48:56 PM
So what I hear you saying is you want to talk about you... which is exactly the point of a profile. Try loosing the resume format, your fitness certifications aren't likely to get you a date, though your profile does try to inject humor, which is a good start, though not all girls are going to get the comic book references. You pictures need a major revamp, just one smiling photo will have women thinking you don't smile often and won't be fun to hang out with. Also be aware of what is in the background... one photo is particularly bad for that.
 Strawberry_Jello
Joined: 5/13/2014
Msg: 70
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Posted: 12/15/2014 8:31:49 PM
Aww, come on, smile, I know you can do it.


Aha, that's what I look like. My bad if it's grim. I can take 10000 photos not sure the face is gonna change.
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